Let’s get creepy baby!
In case you want to be the kind of guy who freaks out every woman (not in a positive way), I really hope there is a good reason why you want to learn how to be creepy. I hope that the reason why you want to be the creepy guy is because you want to test the boundaries of your comfort zone.
If you don’t care about getting laid and if you only want to test how far your ego allows you to go, you can be the creep that you want to be, when you interact with the next girl you approach. Test it out, play around with the concept of scaring women away by behaving like a total idiot and enjoy the boost of self-confidence that you get by surviving the big step out of your comfort zone.
Testing how far you can go by scaring girls away on purpose can be a fun exercise, but…
…learning how to be creepy won’t get you laid.
“Who wants to fuck in the cubicle?”
Unless you meet a woman who hasn’t been fucked in months and/or is pissed drunk, behaving like this won’t get you any pussy.
If you never want to experience a drop of pussy juice on your dick you should go ahead and creep out every girl you meet. If you, however, want to become successful with women, you should use the following advice to think about all the stuff that you should avoid. What you really want is to make a girl scream because of your thrusts and not because you scared the shit out of her.
Touching Her too Early is Kind of Creepy
When it comes to the art of touching girls there are basically two mistakes that you can make. You might belong to the group of guys who don’t touch women at all and who therefore land in the friend zone. Why do they land there? Because they are seen as nothing but asexual creatures that no woman wants to have inside her.
“Don’t you ever do that shit again. I jus pissed my pants!”
The other mistake that you can make is to touch a woman way too early and way to aggressively. That’s where the creep factor comes into play.
I guess you are already sick and tired of hearing me saying how important it is to touch women in order to build up sexual tension. There is no way around that if you want to get laid.
Unfortunately, there are some guys who take the concept of sexual escalation to an extreme level.
They think that just because they saw this one pick up artist on YouTube grabbing the ass of a girl after ten seconds, they can do it too in every interaction.
Don’t get me wrong. You can grab a girl’s ass after a few seconds, at least when some certain external conditions are given. You can do that with a woman who is in a playful mood, who is horny and whose biggest wish is to get laid.
However, you shouldn’t do this with a woman who just thought about her work before you approached her and who has currently problems with a working colleague who sexually harasses her.
Remember, touching women is great but before you start to get physical you have to think about whether or not she is comfortable enough to reach this level.
Touch Her Before She Sees You
Learning how to be creepy is pretty easy.
One of the best ways to be a guy who has more chances to make the acquaintance of Mr. Pepper Spray instead of Ms. Vagina is to touch a woman before she even sees you.
Even though I am a big fan of approaching women by letting them walk past you and then running after them to stop them, I have never said that you should grab her arm while you are still behind her. I have seen a few guys who do this and it freaks me out every time I see it.
Why the hell would you do that?
Please switch on your brain before you touch a woman. If you touch a woman from behind BEFORE she even sees who you are, you don’t have to wonder when she freaks out.
This is the most creepy thing you can do and thanks to the invention of pepper spray and high heels it is also quite dangerous
You could be a thief who wants to steal her handbag. You could be a rapist who wants to knock her down. You could be her husband who found out that she fucks his boss.
Don’t ever touch a woman before she sees who you are.
Wait until you have introduced yourself and you are on the safe side. As soon as she smiles at you after you told her that she is beautiful it is absolutely fine to start with subtle touching.
Physical Escalation without Sexual Attraction
Let’s say you have stopped a girl and she understood that you don’t want rape her, unless she wants it as part of a role play at a later point of time.
She is smiling and giggling. What do you do? You interpret her smile as a desire to sleep with you.
Wait a minute. Smiling and giggling means above all that she is happy that you approached her.
It doesn’t automatically mean that she wants to fuck you.
Before you start to grab her ass, you should definitely have a look at how she reacts to your words and actions.
Does she stand close to you? Does she back off when you come closer? Does she submissively look at the ground when you look her into the eyes or does she show no sign of sexual arousal at all?
These are all questions that you should ask yourself before you go all in.
If you want to learn how to be creepy you should ignore all this stuff and try to take her shirt of, even if she stands there with crossed arms and a suspicious face. There has to be some sexual attraction before you escalate physically. Everything else would be creepy.
How to Be Creepy with the Verbal Fuckfest
Your words are powerful. They definitely have the power to creep a woman out. Again, there are two types of guys when it comes to verbally expressing their sexual interest in a woman.
On the one hand, there is the shy and insecure guy who would never say anything sexually provocative in front of a woman while he hopes that he will eventually be uncaged from the friend zone. Sorry, but this day will never come if you behave like that.
On the other hand, there is the guy who is extremely frustrated and who gets angry every time he thinks about why he is still not banging the girls he wants to bang so bad. This happens to read on a dating website that you have to show your sexual interest to a woman.
Of course this is a good advice that has the power to finally change his life.
Unfortunately, he is anything but calibrated and interprets sexual escalation the completely wrong way. He might even forget that he is a guy and not a girl (even though girls can be creepy too), which leads to a lot of creepy moments without underwear:
If you want to learn how to be creepy you just have to be this guy and do the following things.
Talk Like a Rapist
Expressing your sexual intent is good. Communicating to a woman that you want to have sex with her is extremely attractive. However, there is the right way and the right time to do that.
If you approach a woman on the street with “hey, I just saw you and your ass looks so delicious, I just want to slide my tongue up and down your booty and fuck you all night long”, she might freak out.
You can say shit like that in certain situations, for example when you are in a swinger club, when you are hitting on a drunk party girl in a club or when you already went to First Base. However, if you say shit like that before she even knows your name you will most likely get rejected.
The more time you spend with her, the more you will become aware of how her mood changes.
The more sexually aroused she gets, the more she’ll be ready for kinky words.
Just don’t talk to her like a rapist before she knows that you are a normal guy who wants to learn how to be creepy.
Life is not a porn movie.
The Wrong Way to Talk Dirty
Do you want to know how to be creepy in the bedroom?
Let’s say you avoided being too creepy during your first date. As a result of that she is more than ready to come back to your place and to suck your dick until dawn.
One of the most powerful techniques to turn on women and to make them wetter than the Pacific Ocean is by talking dirty to them. Unfortunately, this is one of the techniques that most guys do completely wrong.
If you want to learn how to be creepy you just have to learn what dirty talk is NOT. Despite the fact that most guys think this way, dirty talk has nothing to do with using X-rated language and words that would be censored in every TV show.
“FUCK, PUSSY, WHORE, SLUT!!! How am I doing so far?”
The wrong dirty talk is especially dangerous when you sleep with a girl for the first time.
She is a bit nervous and she is still not 100% convinced that you aren’t a complete maniac. When you then start to call her a worthless whore who needs to be fucked like a slave right after you put your penis inside her for the first time, she might regret that choice. You can do stuff like that later on (if she’s cool with it) but not the first time she takes her clothes off in front of you.
The best way to talk dirty to a girl without being creepy is by using completely normal words in a seductive way. Whispering “good girl” in her ear can be way more effective than using all the X-rated words you can think of.
The Creepy “I Love You Forever”
Do you know what you have to do when you want to freak out a girl on the first date? If this is your goal you should behave exactly like Hollywood wants you to behave. Besides the extreme form of modern feminism I just know one source that is responsible for more pain amongst men.
The source of the devil is called romantic comedy movies.
Seriously, those shitty movies are one of the top reasons why so many guys end up masturbating in front of their laptops instead of having sex. Every time I watch a trailer of the typical Ben Stiller and Owen Wilson movies I have to control myself that I don’t throw the TV out of the window or light up the screen in the cinema.
One of the most harmful concepts that those movies portray is the concept of a never-ending love that only happened because destiny wanted it. The only thing that destiny really wants is that you don’t learn how to be creepy and that you don’t behave like Ben Stiller.
Don’t Propose on the First Date
The number one dating mistake that a lot of insecure guys love to do is to get overly attached to a girl before they even have any physical contact with her. I know that you think she is beautiful and I also know that you are happy as fuck that such an amazing chick is interested in you.
However…
Please don’t confuse this feeling of excitement, validation and horniness with love!
Even if the date went brilliant, the chance that you stay together with her for the rest of your life is extremely low. That’s why there is absolutely no need to propose on the first date, or to tell her that you are in love with her, after you found out her second name.
“Sarah, we know each other for more than twenty minutes and we both like cheescake. Will you marry me?”
If you are a guy who has done shit like that in the past you already know that this leads to the famous “okaaay” response that women only give you if they are creeped out, but they don’t want to show it. Why don’t they want to show it? Because they know that every guy who behaves like this is extremely insecure and could break down in tears if he would hear the truth.
In case you have told a woman that you love her after the first date you have to promise me that you never do that again.
Is She Really the One?
In the same way that you shouldn’t tell a woman that you love her, after you spent less than 10 hours with her, you also shouldn’t tell her that she is the one for you.
“Wait a minute. Isn’t telling a woman that I love her and telling her that she is the one for me the same thing?”
Hell no.
Telling her that she is the one is ten creepiness levels above the three famous words. The line “I know that you are the one” is a really great thing to say, at least if you are an actor who gets paid millions of dollars to say it without any grammatical mistakes.
Don’t ever say that line if you don’t get at least a million bucks for it.
What do you communicate to a woman if you tell her that she is the one? If you say it early in the relationship (if you can even call it a relationship) you only communicate to her that you say this to every girl, because you want to keep her. You basically say to her that you think that you will never get another woman because you want to stay together with her until the end of days.
If you do this, you know how to be creepy. Saying “I love you” has no start and end time but telling a girl that she is “the one” implicates that she has to spend the rest of your life with you if she decides to date you, which she doesn’t want if you are a guy who is so insecure that he has to tell her that she is the one.
There is a Time for “I Love You”
Before I share everything you need to know in order to be a complete creep in a relationship, I want to make one thing clear. Telling a girl that you love her is not a creepy thing to do. It only gets creepy if you do it too soon.
Let’s say you meet a girl who is really amazing, you have great sex and you fall for her. Once you are together with her for three months you finally tell her that you love her. That’s absolutely okay.
However, if you tell a girl that you love her after spending a couple of days, or even worse, a couple of hours with her, you don’t have to learn how to be creepy because you already know it.
There is the right time for telling a girl that you love her.
But it is certainly not on the first date.
How to be Creepy in the Relationship
In case you think that you can only fuck everything up during the dating phase I have to disappoint you.
You can still be a total creep once you are in a relationship with a girl.
And you thought that “the creepy boyfriend” is just an illusion
Maybe you put in the effort to hide your true nature during the dating process and you ended up in a relationship. Do you want to know how to get rid of her? Learn how to be creepy and she will be gone within a few days.
In my experience, the main goal of guys who are in happy relationships is to keep their girlfriend, but if you are in a destructive relationship and you want to get rid of the crazy bitch who took your virginity a long time ago, then go ahead and learn how to be creepy.
Jealousy is not the Same as Love
If you are really in love with someone you have to be jealous, right? Wrong!
Even though the majority of people think that being jealous is a sign of love, the truth is that being jealous is nothing but a sign of insecurity. By being a jealous guy you are communicating that you are afraid to lose her to some other guy.
Would a self-confident man who knows that he deserves amazing women in his life behave like that?
No, he wouldn’t.
If you are afraid of losing a girl to another man you are showing her that you think that other men deserve her more than you do.
Otherwise you wouldn’t be afraid to lose her.
Do you want to know how to be creepy? All you have to do is to openly show your jealousy. Let her know that you are an insecure wimp. Confront her with false accusations, make a scene in front of her friends and creep her out with style.
The Crazy Control Freak
Another behavior that is great if you want to learn how to be creepy is to become a crazy control freak. This is closely related to jealousy but takes the creepiness to the next level.
“I haven’t found anything in thrity years of marriage, but today I am going to reveal the lies of that bitch!!!”
Before you think about controlling your girlfriend’s phone and asking her where she has been whenever she comes home a few minutes later, I want to tell you one thing:
As soon as you start to control a woman you will lose control over her.
By trying to control her you will freak her out. Thereby, you give her all the reasons to do those things that you wanted to avoid by starting to control her.
Please do yourself a favor and don’t become one of those weird and scary control freaks. Instead of trying to control her you should learn to become self-confident enough to give her every freedom she wants. If you do this, she won’t even think about doing the things that you want to prevent.
How would you feel if no woman ever saw you as a creep?
Don’t be like Bob and she won’t spit you out!
Summed Up Wisdom
How to be creepy? One of the best ways to be the creep who freaks out a woman is by touching her too early at places that you only see when you get down and dirty. Don’t grab her ass before she even sees you and don’t escalate physically before you can confidently assume that she is sexually attracted to you.
Believe it or not, but talking like a rapist is not the most attractive thing to do. Use your words wisely and don’t freak her out with X-rated language before she is comfortable around you. If you end up in bed with her you should remember that dirty talk is more than using explicit language.
It is never too late to learn how to be creepy, even if you are already in a relationship. The best way to freak out your girlfriend is by being jealous and by trying to control her. If you try to control a girl, you will lose control.
Forest, it depends how much work you want to do and what your threshold for pain is. Dating is not like work or college where the harder you work the better you do. It is an insane world where nothing makes sense. Thugs , gang embers and paroled felons have all the women they want while decent.guys with good jobs can’t get a date (these guys end up going to escorts). If you want to deal with the insanity, go ahead. Asian women are much nicer than white American women, you might want to try meeting one of them.
Giving up is not an option!
Yes i also gave up, i no longer even try, i don’t have the time anyway, but it’s very painfull to see all those happy couple in the city of love (i’m in Paris) arround me while i’m still alone, i just keep learning seduction on a theorical level because i find it interesting.
I asked her out. Cricket. What hurt me the most, it’s that she doesn’t even want to be friend, or pretend to be. Currently she is in another continent, i won’t see her anymore, but i want to know how things are going for her, what are her projects, so i asked her, she didn’t even answer…and i don’t bombard her with text, it was the first time since one or two months…
Hey Forest,
I worked in R&D programs for many years. We did not have unlimited resources to pour into a particualr technology. After a few years and a certain amonut of money the concept was abandoned. I feel the same way about pursuing women. I have known guys who gave up in their 20’s, most guys throw in the towel at age 30.
In the movie “Taxi Driver” Robert DiNiro summed it up perfectly. He said “Women are cold and distant. They are like a union.” I think Scorsese is a genius because he basically described how women are to many guys. If you reflect quietly on those words and how you have been treated I think you will find that it’s true. So once again reflect on those words…Cold and distant…like a union….I think the cold hard truth will sink in. I learned this about women at the age of 16…and I see that I was right. Don’t be a glutton for punishment. Women love Bad Boys. Let them have the Bad Boys.
“And you can absolutely be a good guy AND being attractive by displaying confidence, an adventurous spirit and other good qualities of so called “bad guys”. You will be even more attractive than them”
That’s a lot of work.. By the way, confidence only matters if the woman is already attracted to you. If she is not attracted to you (and she makes that decision in 30 seconds) all the confidence in the world is meaningless. All this BS about confidence is a woman’s excuse for rejecting a man. She rejects because she is not attracted to him. Remember guys–it’s Look, Money, Status. But rather than say that she is not attracted to him she says “he lacks confidence.” putting the blame back on the man. So the poor guy pays thousands to some dating coach to gain “confidence”. After a number of rejections he has no reason to have any confidence.
I have always said that if a guy is not naturally successful with women, stop wasting your time and money pursuing them. Bad Boys don’t pursue women–women pursue them. Put your efforts into your education or career where you will see a return.
I hate to see guys try so hard only to have a woman laugh in their face as she rides off with a Bad Boy on his Harley. Stop pandering to a group of people (women) who treat you like garbage. That’s right guys–they are laughing at you. I’m sorry to break the news to you. You want to take that treatment, that’s your choice.
Forest, don’t sell yourself short. Gorgeous women fall for guys who have served hard time, don’t have a dime and will probably end up in jail again. Charles Manson is 80 and a very pretty 26 year old wants to marry him. Who knows what women want.
Go ahead and ask her out. Even if she says no it won’t cost you a dime.
Yeah, you are right. I had pretty good success without being an asshole. Asian women do NOT seem to have any use for Bad Boys and thugs..which is good.
Hey Bill,
thanks for your detailed comment. I still believe that you can be a decent human being and get amazing women.
” Many women use the term “Creepy” and “Nice Guy” to describe any guy they are not attracted to who expresses an interest in them. ”
I think you made a point Bill. However don’t confound “nice” with “borring and having money”.
And you can absolutely be a good guy AND being attractive by displaying confidence, an adventurous spirit and other good qualities of so called “bad guys”. You will be even more attractive than them.
PS : i’m a total looser with women because of the fact that i’m bad looking and have a hard time to socialise in general, so don’t presume that i’m a bad guy defending his team.
I think it comes down to the 80/20 rule. Women only find 20% of the men attractive. The other 80% they really don’t want. The guys in the 80% can:
1. Make massive efforts to meet women’s changing demands and maybe enjoy some success or experience no improvement
2. Decide it’s not worth the trouble and drop out. Based on the plunging marriage and rate the Sexodus I think many guys are taking this route.
Good luck Mr. Gump. When I lived in Los Angeles I had a secure well paying job and my own home in a nice safe area. I could get a date. Paroled felons and drug delaers were drowning in women. When I saw that I could not compete with a paroled felon I gave up.
Sebastain,
I am married so it’s moot. I read your article. I would say that it looks like a lot of work. Bad Boys do it effortlessly For a regular guy it would be at least a half time job.
It depends on the guy. If he wants to take it on, fine. If I were single my attitude would be “let them have the Bad Boys” . Besides, women deserve the genuine article, not an imitation. By the way, multiple women will share a Bad Boy and be happy doing it. I saw it when I lived in California. One Bad Boy I knew was having sex with 3 attractive women. They all knew each other and did not care. They would rather share a man they considered desirable than have one all to themselves.
I think that if being a decent human being is not enough then so be it. If women don’t want you then you can go their own way. By the way, your personality is set at a very young age. It is hard if not impossible to change. I think trying to change to please women is what drove George Sodini over the edge. If he had accepted that women don’t want certain guys, if he had been been briefed on the 80/20 rule he would have accepted reality and gone on with his life and proably found peace. He kept trying to please women and finally snapped and couldn’t do it. Enough said.
I strongly believe that you can get girls if you are a good guy. I am also not a bad person. All you need to do is to apply some of the valuable qualities of a bad boy. Then you can sty the polite gentleman that you want to be.
ok thanks !
You don’t have to become a bad person in order to attract women. Nevertheless, I can’t doubt the fact that there are bad boy characteristics that women are attracted to. If you are a nice guy and you start to implement the positive bad boy characteristics in your life, you are extremely attractive to women. You might want to read this article: https://www.globalseducer.com/10-eye-opening-reasons-why-women-like-bad-boys/
That’s Why I do what I do. I want to prevent more guys from quitting the dating game and missing out on the most beautiful thing that this world has to offer.
In my experience it’s a positive sign. It’s only a negative sign if she looks up (thereby she says “leave me alone”). Yes, in my opinion being direct combines expressing sexual interest verbally and physcially, even if it’s before the kiss close.
” Does she submissively look at the ground when you look her into the eyes ” So you say that’s a positive signe ? because another coach says that if she can’t stand your eye contact she is not confortable with you…so that would be a negative signe.
And if i understand what you say, you think that it may be efficiant to express sexual desire verbally even before the kiss close ? (not too early of course, but it’s part of the game)
Because i have read that the best way is to use only non verbal communication to communicate that desire..
I gave up on women at age 30. I had been dumped by the girl I wanted to marry. She dumper me for some blue collar guy who quickly dumped her. So I couldn’t compete with a guy who made half what I did. But is gets worse. A male friend of mine was married to a Public Defender. We were discussing the dating situation for single people. I told her that I could not compete with the Bad Guys. She totally agreed. She defended really bad guys . She was amzed at the beautiful women who came to see her clients. . Many of these guys had already served time and were headed back to jail again.
I had a secure well paying job and my own home in a nice safe area. I couldn’t get a date. Ex-cons had all the women they wanted. When I saw that I could not compete with a paroled felon, I said “Its all over”. There was no point in approaching women again. When you are lower than a paroled felon you are clearly (at least in the eys of women) the least desirable man on earth. It is not worth dedicating on second to pursuit of women.
By the way, when I gave up on women I experienced a wonderful feeling of peace. You don’t have to exude confidence and you don’t have to worry about what women think of you. Before I gave up on women it used to bother me when I saw a pretty girl with a thug. After I gave up, I didn’t care. It was great.
i eventually met my wife, more or less through a fluke and it has worked out well. But I can see why so many guys have simply dropped out of dating. As I said, when a guy who has done everything society told him to do and he can’t compete with a paroled felon, there’s is no point in expending any effort.
I’m married now. this was a long time ago. I told my wife that if I were a widower I would not marry again however, I confess a weakness for the seductive Asian woman, who I find hard to resist.
Regarding white American women dating them is complicated and best left to the Bad Boys who are really good at it. Women love them and Bad Boys handle women with such ease. I am not a Bad Boy and would just crash and burn. Besides white women and Bad Boys are a perfect match-why interfere with that? Just Google “women love assholes” or “women love jerks” and you will get millions of hits. Wome will freely admit their powerful attraction to Bad Boys.
it’s great that you focused on your studies, but at some point you should go out in the land of women again 😉
Sebastian,
Many women use the term “Creepy” and “Nice Guy” to describe any guy they are not attracted to who expresses an interest in them.
There are millions of guys who have good jobs and are decent people who cannot get a date. This is why the escort business is booming. These guys can afford to pay $300 or more per hour on a regular basis so they are not poorly paid; The simple fact is that women don’t want them and it’s not their fault. These escorts pull in $250,000- $300,000 per year catering to affluent men who are dateless. The fact is that a handful of men do very well with women while many (perhaps the majority) come up empty through no fault of their own. Maybe it’s natural selection-jerks get the women, good guys go to escorts.
Good post. If you don’t want to date you don’t need to be creepy–just don’t approach women. Problem solved.
I was polite (non creepy) but was rejected early in High School and college. I just went back to my studies.
Problem solved. no further rejection, no misery, peace and quiet.