I first wanted to ask you if you are one of the guys who want to know how to avoid the friend zone. Then I realized how fucking stupid this question is.
Every heterosexual man (don’t know if gay people have friend zones) on earth wants to know how to avoid the friend zone.
In case you are already shivering and sweating by thinking about the one zone that is more dangerous than any other war zone, I want to shock you even more by asking you the following question:
What do you feel when a woman puts you in the friend zone?
Do you feel angry about being put in the one zone that no man wants to be in or do you feel regret about having wasted countless hours of talking to her for nothing? When I remember all the situations in which a woman castrated me with the words “you are such a nice guy, but…” I remember anger, regret and disappointment.
I felt angry at her for being so mean and at the same time I regretted the time and sometimes even the money I spent on girls who never even thought about letting me near their pussy.
If I only knew what I know now.
Back then I was angry at every woman who did this to me and who rejected me in the nicest and at the same time most cruel way a woman can possibly reject a man. But did I have any legitimate reason to be angry at those girls?
The only person I should have been angry at was me.
The cruel, mean and terrible woman who puts you in the friend zone is nothing but an illusion. She simply doesn’t exist.
This is nothing else than an excuse that men all over the world use in order to make women responsible for their own stupidity.
Do you want to know the truth?
You put yourself in the friend zone!
Yes, you alone are responsible for landing in the friend zone and NOT in her panties. It is your behavior, your way of communicating and your way of acting around her that left her no other choice than thinking “he and the guy I fuck could play football together”.
After the shocking news that you are responsible for your own misery, it’s time for some good news:
Even though you have the ability to put yourself in the friend zone, you also have the ability to avoid this dreaded zone completely.
Let me share some tips and tricks with you on how to avoid the friend zone that will help you to successfully seduce the next girl you approach by showing her that you are her lover and not her friend.
How to Avoid the Friend Zone: Be Direct with Her
One of the most important things you have to do in order to avoid the friend zone is to be direct as soon as you said “hi”. Let’s assume you see a sexy girl walking past you and all you can think of is how amazing she looks and that you would love to get to know her.
What most guys do in such a situation is to come up with a lot of bullshit, in other words, with indirect openers. They ask her for directions, for female opinions for the birthday present for their imaginary little sister and they might even tell her that it is really fascinating how crowded the city is today.
If you approach a girl this way and you still wonder why she puts you in the friend zone, you are either insane or Mystery’s little brother.
If you want to show her that you are a lover instead of a friend, you have to act like one.
Or have you ever seen a James Bond movie in which Bond goes up to a girl and asks her if he should rather buy the yellow or the red princess set for his little sister?
No and if James doesn’t do that you shouldn’t do it either.
Approach the next beautiful girl you see with a direct compliment and direct eye contact that says “I want to bang the shit out of you”. The last thing she assumes is that you came up to her because you were looking for a new best friend. If you think that she looks amazing, tell her that she looks amazing and if you want to take her on a date, tell her that you want to take her on a date.
Be honest, be direct, be a real seducer.
Communicate Yourself Out of the Friend Zone
Being direct with a woman is the best way to communicate to her straight from the beginning of your interaction that you are interested in more than a friendship. However, saying direct stuff is not enough. Being what you are saying is the icing on the cake. A friend can be nice, polite and hide the fact that he has a penis.
A man who wants to seduce her has to communicate that he is sexually interested in her.
If you want that women see you as a guy they want to have sex with, you have to show them that you are a guy who is okay with his sexuality and who is self-confident enough to express his sexual desires.
The ability and the courage to express your sexuality communicates that you are also confident in being sexual on a physical level. There is really nothing that turns women more on than a man who seems to have the qualities of an amazing lover.
There are several ways to communicate your sexual interest. You can do this on a verbal level by using words that can be understood in a sexual way or by explicitly addressing topics that are related to sex. If you want some inspiration you can read this article.
Of course there are also non-verbal ways to communicate your sexual interest to a woman. I already revealed one of those non-verbal signs. Yep, it’s the eye contact.
What other things besides staring at her like a sex addict on withdrawal can you do?
You can let your body language speak and show her that you are a confident guy. As soon as you get the feeling that she is comfortable around you, you can start to touch her in a subtle way, to show her that you are not afraid of being sexual. No matter if you chose the verbal or the non-verbal way, communicating your sexual interest is absolutely necessary to avoid the friend zone.
Avoid the Friend Zone With Your Opinion
Do you know the number one behavior that will lead you directly into the friend zone and that also prevents you from ever getting out of there?
Let me give you a hint by showing you some sentences that make sure that you’ll never get laid…ever:
“Yes, you are absolutely right!”
“I like that too!”
“I just thought about the same!”
If you are really honest to yourself, you’ll admit that it is impossible to always have the same opinion as the girl you are dating. You will never be able to agree on everything a girl says without acting against your values.
Did you really think the exact same thing when she suggested to watch that stupid romantic comedy movie that already causes you to have stomach cramps before you even watch the trailer?
In case you think about leaving the friend zone in the next 10-15 years you should finally develop your own opinion on things.
Maybe you already have your own opinion, but you miss out on one important aspect:
You also have to communicate this opinion to her.
Don’t be such a coward and pretend to always agree with her!
Yes, it is comfortable to agree with her on everything and it spares you a lot of additional words that might tire your tongue, but by always having the same opinion as the girl you want to have naked in your bed, you are nothing but nice…and we all know to what being nice leads.
If you, however, think that it is more important to make her panties wet instead of being nice by agreeing on every damn thing she says, you should start to have your own opinion on things.
It is extremely arousing for a woman to interact with a guy who shows that he is not afraid of having his own opinion, even if that opinion might offend her. The ability to represent your own opinion is a sign of self-confidence and inner strength. Those characteristics force every woman to rethink her decision to put you in the friend zone.
How to Avoid the Friend Zone: Don’t Live for Her
I think you already know that women are attracted to men who are quite successful. In case you think that the reason for this is because all women are gold diggers I have to disappoint you. If you really believe that, I see myself forced to change your opinion of women to the better. The majority of women are attracted to successful men because their success communicates something very important.
A successful man is very busy, has his own life and lives a life with a purpose that goes beyond pleasing the girl he’s with.
That’s exactly what women want. No woman wants to be the most important aspect of a man’s life and because you’ve been conditioned to believe the opposite, I want to repeat that again:
No woman wants you to regard her as the most important component of your life (even if she says so)!
I know that countless movies, novels, commercials and popular magazines try to convince you from the opposite by repeating the famous line “I can’t live without you” over and over again. However, if you really can’t live without her you have to learn to live without her. Sooner or later she’ll run away from you.
If you don’t believe me, think about which one of the following guys will land in the friend zone:
Guy #1 thinks he can’t live without the girl he went on two dates with. He constantly texts her and asks if she has time. He does this every day. The only thing he wants to do is to hang out with her 24/7.
Guy #2 has a job that is very important to him. He also wants to start his own business on the side. He met a girl last week and went on two dates with her. He thinks texting is a waste of time. That’s why he only calls her once a week. She desperately waits for his calls.
Now, who do you think gets laid and who has to listen to stories about another guy who never texts back but who is so good in bed?
A lot of guys who are in the friend zone do everything for a girl, just to convince her that they are worth dating. It never works. If you type the term “friend zone” into Google and look at some pictures you can even see guys who function as human bridges for some spoilt girls:
Don’t make her the center of your life. Communicate clearly that you have your own life, your career, your social circle and your hobbies. No girl will put a guy who is that independent and that interesting in the friend zone…as long as he doesn’t hide the fact that he is into her boobies and not into her qualities as a chess player.
How would you feel if you were her “bridge”…until the end of your life?
Summed Up Wisdom
Now you know how to avoid the friend zone and what you have to do to never land in it…ever again. In order to avoid this terrible zone you shouldn’t beat around the bush. Be direct with the woman you want to do all the naughty stuff with that friends don’t do. Communicate on a verbal and on a non-verbal level that you are sexually interested in her.
Once she knows that you are interested in her there are still a lot of ways to fuck it up and to stay her good friend till the end of your days. One mistake a lot of guys make is that they try to please a girl by pretending to have the same opinion on everything and by agreeing on everything. In case you have done this in the past: stop it!
By not always agreeing with everything she says you show her that you are self-confident and fearless enough to stand by your own opinion. Such a confident and fearless man is attractive for every woman.
When you want to know how to avoid the friend zone you should not only think about having your own opinion, but also about having your own life. No matter what movies, songs or commercials try to tell you, no woman wants to be the center of your life. As soon as you think you can’t live without her you have to live without her. Or you have to spend the rest of your life as her good friend.