Have you ever been in a situation in which you couldn’t think of any topics to talk about with the girl who was sitting in front of you?
Before I learned the key principles of communicating with women I had countless dates that were nothing but staring contests until I desperately tried to impress her with some irrelevant stuff that neither her nor I actually cared about.
When I think back to all the dating failures I only had, because I was unable to find the right topics to talk about, I somehow feel sorry for the girls who had to sit next to me for hours while they pretended to be interested in a conversation that doesn’t even deserve to be called a conversation.
Do you want to know what I did about my situation?
I buried my head in the sand and promised to never go on another date again.
No…of course I didn’t do that.
Even after the tenth failed date without sex and sometimes even without a kiss I refused to give up.
I continued to fail until I finally figured out that I should stop talking about Putin, ISIS and cancer…
All those failed dates motivated me even more to find out what it is that distinguishes a boring conversation with a girl from a conversation that leads to an exciting interaction, a connection and eventually to passionate sex.
I already knew how I had to start a conversation with women, but I had absolutely no idea what topics to talk about with a girl who I was on a date with. I then turned the conversations I had with women into field studies and I tested every possible topic. Through trial and error I found out which topics arouse women and which turn them off. What I also found out is that there is a five step process that works all the time, when you want to find the best topic.
How to Find the Best Topics to Talk About With a Girl
Don’t worry, I will later provide you with a list of tons of topics that you can use when you are on a date with a woman. In addition to that, I will share a few topics with you that you should avoid at all cost, even if you are on a date with a fanatic chick that shoots movies (this sentence will make sense later).
Knowing the topics that make her heart warm and her cave is great but do you know what’s even better?
To know exactly which steps you have to follow in order to find out about the topics that she wants to talk about with you.
Step 1: Let Her Do the Talking
Even though a lot of guys try to impress the women they are dating with all kinds of things, that they don’t really want to hear, the truth is that women don’t want men who are constantly talking. On the one hand, it is far more attractive to be together with a guy who reveals a little bit about himself, while maintaining the image of a mysterious gentleman. The other reason why women don’t want you to talk all the time is because they absolutely love to talk about themselves.
“And then I graduated from college, and then I got this job, and then I got fired for banging my boss…”
When a woman sits next to a man who encourages her to tell him her whole life story she will do it.
The only problem is that a lot of women are afraid of scaring you away by talking too much. We all have seen the annoying chatterboxes in movies. She doesn’t want to appear like one of them. That’s why it is so important to tell her directly that you want to find out more about her and that you want her to talk.
The huge benefit of this approach is that you will have more potential conversation topics by listening to her for ten minutes than other guys by studying whole books.
“I really want to know what kind of person you are. Tell me a little bit about yourself.”
Even if you ask her to tell you a little bit about herself, she will probably tell you a lot. Some women use their monologues to tell you exactly what they like and dislike. Others need a helping hand to reveal those things.
Step 2: Find Out What She Likes
How do you find out what a girl likes?
Use the information she gives you and ask her deeper questions according to that topic.
Let’s say she tells you that she loves to have fun, but that she is also a very caring person. I think I don’t have to tell you that this information is extremely superficial. A girl who wants to have fun can have this feeling during a party or while she is feeding her hamster Freddy.
“This woman lets me starve whenever she goes to her gangbang parties!”
You want more details and the best way to get those details is by asking the right questions:
“What are the things that you like to do for fun?”
“Is fun for you more about excitement or about contentment?”
“Is there someone in your life who you take care of right now?”
“What does it mean for you to be caring?”
The answers to those questions will reveal what she likes and why she likes it.
Congratulations, now you know how to find topics to talk about with girls. All you have to do now is to make sure that you won’t mess it up.
Step 3: Represent Your Opinion
How do you mess up a conversation, even if you talk about the topic that interests her?
By being a little boy who doesn’t have the courage to represent his own opinion.
Just because you found out that riding horses is her biggest passion, doesn’t mean that you should lie in her face and tell her that you love horses, even though you only love them in the form of salami.
Talking about a topic she likes is great, but don’t become one of those pathetic friend-zoned wimps who lie in a girl’s face, while they desperately hope she will let her pants drop. Women want to ge seduced by interesting guys who have the balls to say what they think, not by guys who pretend to like something, just because they want to lick her.
You don’t have to say that you hate horses, unless you really do, which would be pretty weird. Just tell her that you have never sat on a horse, but that you can imagine why she likes it (feeling of freedom, adventure etc.).
Step 4: Add Your Own Experiences
If you have the same interests and passions, it is pretty easy to add your own experiences. Just tell her about your last horse riding tournament and she’ll want you.
Share your experiences and your bone fractures with her
What do you do when horses are less important to you than a sack of rice in China?
You should still add your own experiences, even if they are just indirectly related to horse riding. You could talk about the activities that make you feel alive and free. You could talk about your experiences with animals (non-sexual of course). You could talk about the things that you love to do in nature.
The possibilities are endless.
Just make sure that you throw in a few own experiences that show her that you are an interesting guy who understands what she feels. A woman who has the feeling that you get her and that you are on the same level, will easily trust you and connect with you.
Once you showed her that you are an amazing guy, who she can relate to and who she can connect with, even though you have never been near a horse, it is time to lead over to another topic that eventually makes her fall for you.
Step 5: Lead Over to Related Topics
Finding another related topic that you can talk about in order to trigger similar or even stronger positive feelings in her is not that hard. You can even change the topics every couple of minutes. This keeps the interaction fun and alive.
Women love to switch between topics and it is your job to provide them with wood to let the fire of your conversation burn stronger.
Okay, you shouldn’t go that far to let the fire burn stronger
Always remember that you are the leader and that it is your duty to lead the conversation in the way you want it to go. Leading over to the next topic is easy-peasy. Let’s go back to our horse example. You found out that she loves to ride horses, because it gives her the feeling of freedom and because she loves to take care of animals.
This information alone allows me to spontaneously think about the following topics you could talk about:
– What it means to take care of an animal.
– Her experiences with other animals.
– Why taking care of other beings is fulfilling.
– Other activities that provide her with a feeling of freedom and adventure. For example traveling and sports.
– If she is always an adventure seeker or if she also has a calm and relaxed side.
Again, the possibilities are endless. You can repeat this five step process until you both sound like Darth Vader and need a glass of water to relax your vocal chords. The best would be to repeat it until she looks you in the eyes while she licks her lips. You know what that means.
Topics to Talk About With a Girl: Evergreen Topics
Getting to know her and finding out as much as possible by following the steps I just discussed is definitely the best way to find topics to talk about with a girl you are on a date with. Nevertheless, it is always good to have a few topics in the back of your mind that you can use, because you know that they will transform a potential train wreck into an amazing date.
If you are like me and you are totally into shy and reserved girls, you will experience it quite a few times that the woman who sits next to you isn’t the most talkative person in the world. I have been on dates with girls who hesitated to tell me what they like and what they don’t like, because they were afraid to say something wrong.
Even though I think that this is very cute, it isn’t helpful when it comes to finding the right topics to talk about. In those situations it is extremely powerful to know the 14 evergreen topics to talk about with a girl that make her spread her legs for you.
1. Her Passion
When I think about topics to talk about with a girl, the first thing that comes to my mind is her passion. I know that the word passion is nowadays used within every second sentence, but it is still one of the best topics you can possibly talk about.
It is ridiculous when a girl tells you that her biggest passion is eating ice cream (I had that pleasure), but when a woman tells you that her biggest passion is to help people to become healthy by fulfilling her duties as a nurse, you should definitely talk about that with her.
She might just be the woman you are going to marry…
In case she works as an accountant in a big company her passion is most likely not related to her job. If she works in this nine to five hamster wheel for over ten years, she has probably already forgotten that something like passion exists.
Help her to connect with her passionate side.
Whenever we human beings talk about our passions in life, we get energetic, excited and we release a lot of endorphins. She will then link all those positive emotions to you.
2. The Importance of Family
One of the reasons why I prefer foreign women is because those girls tend to identify themselves a lot more with traditional family values. I love my family and the last thing I want is to date a girl with some severe father issues who freaks out whenever her parents visit her. This is especially important when you are on a date with a girl who was born and raised in a very traditional culture that places a lot of importance on family. You won’t believe how many times this topic has saved me when I was on a date with a girl in Thailand.
In case you also don’t want to end up with such a chick, you should better find out more about the relationship with her parents.
The best way to do that is by talking about family values and the importance of family.
This is one of the topics to talk about with a girl that shows you straight away, if you want to see her again or not. In case you found out that she loves her family and that she has a healthy relationship with her father, you can connect even more with her, by letting her know how important family is to you.
3. The Craziest Thing She Has Ever Done
Do you want to find out if you are dating a party killer or a girl who is ready to have some fun with you?
Then ask her about the craziest thing she has ever done. Tell her that you won’t judge her for anything and that she can be completely honest with you.
I have never done anything crazy!
In case she is a bit shy you can start and tell her one of your crazy experiences. If you can’t think of any crazy experience, you should book a flight to a country of your choice and start to live your life.
Once she revealed the craziest thing she has ever done to you, you can start to play a game by telling each other all the crazy things that you have ever done.
The one who has experienced more crazy stuff wins and gets a kiss.
The best thing about this game is that every story she shares with you reveals new potential topics to talk about with her.
4. The Meaning of Life
Are you into philosophical and spiritual women?
Then find out if she is one by talking about the meaning of life.
I know it sounds cheesy but I had very positive experiences whenever I chose this topic. All you have to do to get laid after you talked about the meaning of life is to cheat a little bit.
Don’t just tell her that you think we are here for a purpose. Let her know that you are convinced that we are here to enjoy our lives, to live out our desires and to live every day as if it was our last. Believe me, this YOLO propaganda has a magical effect on a woman’s willingness to jump in bed with you.
5. Love
Love is one of the topics to talk about with a girl that you should only use if you are interested in a relationship.
Talking about love for hours, just to throw her out of your apartment after you had sex is not very gentleman-like.
If you, however, want to make a woman fall in love with you, talking about love is definitely not the wrong thing to do. Every human being wants to feel loved and being loved is one of the most beautiful feelings that you can experience, no matter if you are a strong alpha male or a petite girl.
By talking about love with you, she will intuitively start to feel those positive emotions, while her subconscious mind tries to connect them with you.
Winning!
6. Travel Adventures
Traveling definitely belongs to the evergreen topics to talk about with a girl. As far as I can remember I have only been on a date with one girl who actually told me that she hates to travel and that she can’t understand why people want to see other countries. I never called her again.
Unless you date such a pain in the arse, you can’t make anything wrong by talking about traveling.
You just don’t want to know exactly what she did to get from A to B
People from all over the world link traveling to freedom, excitement and adventure. Having those feelings on a first date is a good start for a happy relationship.
7. Craziest Sexual Experience
Instead of asking her about her craziest experiences outside the bedroom, you can also ask her about her craziest experiences inside the bedroom. Of course the chances that she will tell you the truth are higher when you already have a sexual connection and when you have at least touched some parts of her body. However, I also met girls who shared their whole sex life with me right after they told me their name.
In case you have never talked about some really naughty stuff on a first date, you will be amazed at how open most girls are.
Sexual experiences belong to the topics to talk about with a girl that are perfect when you want to increase the sexual tension. Talking about sex makes her think about sex and thinking about sex makes her want to have sex. She can be lucky that you are there to fulfil her needs.
8. Her Dreams
Everybody has a dream. Every human being on this messed up planet wants to do at least one special thing before he or she kicks the bucket. A dream is not the same as your passion. Your passion is something that you want to do on a regular basis, but your dream is a certain moment in your life that you want to celebrate and that makes you feel in love with the world, whenever you think or talk about it.
That’s exactly the feeling that you want to trigger in her.
Ask her about her dreams and once she has shared them with you, make sure that she also gets to know yours. Talking about such intimate things like dreams can help you to connect with a woman within seconds.
9. The Art of Seduction
“What if I accidentally reveal that my lifelong dream is to become a successful Global Seducer?”
If you are scared that a woman finds out about your dream of becoming a man who is successful with women and if you constantly worry that she might check your browser history and finds out about a site called globalseducer.com, you definitely have the wrong mindset.
I can totally imagine that…
Telling a woman that you are studying the art of seduction can lead you straight inside her .
Seriously, the vast majority of girls who I have told that my vision is to help men to live the life of their dreams by seducing the women of their dreams were really excited and interested in this topic.
When a woman sits next to a man who is interested in the art of seduction, she is instinctively attracted to him. Women want to date sexually experienced guys, or at least guys who have the potential to become experienced.
While you are scared that she thinks you are a jerk, she fantasizes about how you put all your sexual skills that you have learned along your journey into practice while you are lying on top of her.
10. Her Biggest Secret
Everybody has something that they don’t want other people to find out.
What if you would ask a woman about her little something when you are meeting her for the first time?
She might not want to reveal it but if she does, she will instantly feel connected to you.
Her biggest secret is one of the topics to talk about with a girl that have the power to make her open up within seconds.
Once she has told you her biggest secret, the barriers to tell you everything else you want to know are pretty low.
How do you address this delicate topic? Simply ask her. Again, women are a lot more open that you might think.
11. Her Hobbies
Other great topics to talk about with a girl are all the different hobbies she has. Knowing about a woman’s hobbies not only reveals who she is and if she has an interesting life. It also gives you the chance to find out if you are a good match for each other.
In case you are a sports freak who goes to the gym three times a week you probably don’t want to date a girl who gets a heart attack after two sit ups.
Find out what she does and decide whether or not you want to do it with her.
12. Movies
Talking about your favorite movies is more than just fun.
Her taste of movies reveals a lot about her personality.
If I were you I would stay away from girls who list the sickest horror movies when you ask them about their favorite movies. Those chicks aren’t emotionally healthy.
“Oh my God, the way he cut her head off was really awesome…I wish I could do the same one day, hihi”
Besides sifting out the rotten apples, her taste of movies gives you quite a few hints about how you should seduce her and how fast you can go. If she loves Nymphomaniac, you can escalate a lot faster than if she talks about romantic comedy movies with illusionary love stories.
13. Music
Music works in the same way as movies. A girl who listens to emo and death metal has more psychological issues than a girl who listens to Pharrell William’s “Happy”.
Find out what music she listens to and you will not only know if you can enjoy the same songs, but also if she is a person who is generally good for you.
14. Her Favorite Celebrity
I absolutely hate gossiping and I don’t give a beep about whether or not Kim Kardashian is in. Nevertheless, I can’t deny the fact that letting her talk about her favorite celebrity is a good way to find out more about her personality.
A girl who regards Miley Cyrus as her idol will probably be a lot more sexually open than a girl who looks up to a Christian singer who sings about staying a virgin until you get married. In this case you should think twice before you end up doing something that you will regret.
15. Childhood Memories
Do you want another topic to talk about with women that trigger positive emotions in her and create a feeling of trust and connection?
Then talk about your and her childhood memories.
Okay, if she had a really bad childhood and got abused by her father you should switch the topic as fast as you can, but the majority of women, at least the ones that I dated, had a good childhood.
By talking with you about her childhood she will feel safe and secure, just like when she was a child and mommy gave her a glass of milk before she went to bed. Now it is your job to give her your milk before she goes to bed.
You make me feel so safe and secure
16. What She Likes in Bed
Speaking of pumping your sperm in her body…
Why don’t you ask her what she likes in bed?
I don’t want to say it a third time but women are usually willing to tell you a lot, when you just ask them the right way. Tell her that you are aware of the fact that this is a delicate topic, but that you are really interested in what women like and what they dislike in the bedroom.
The thought alone of ending up in bed with a man who is interested in finding out what women want in bed will make her ready.
In case she has the slightest interest in you, she will tell you everything you want to know.
Topics Not to Talk About With a Girl: The Taboo Topics
Now you know all the topics to talk about with a girl that will get you in her mind, heart.
However, even if you talk about all the stuff that I have just mentioned, you can still mess everything up by choosing the wrong topic.
No matter if you have talked about her passion, her dreams and her favorite movies…
…it was all for nothing if you decide to introduce one of the following topics.
1. Religion
Religion does definitely not belong to the topics to talk about with a girl.
Do yourself a favor and avoid this topic at all cost.
Unless you are 100% sure that you both have the same religion and both have the exact same beliefs, it will only lead to discussions that nobody can win.
“Let’s talk about what we can do to free you from the devil…mwhahahaha”
Every discussion about religion is completely senseless, because you always talk about concepts that only exist in your mind and that can’t be proven. Arguing about who has the cooler imaginable friend is not a good start for a relationship.
2. Your Car, Your House, Your Boat
Trying to impress a woman with material possessions or job titles is a tactic that a lot of guys use. The problem is that it doesn’t work unless you are dating a gold digger. A man who tries to impress women shows nothing but his insecurity.
If you think that you don’t deserve the woman you are with, without talking about your red Porsche, you should work on your self-confidence before you think about topics to talk about with a girl.
3. Politics
The only thing that might be dumber than taking about religion is talking about politics with her. Politics is one of those topics that make it impossible to trigger any of those positive feelings that you need in order to seduce her.
Donald Trump’s hair are real you stupid cow!!!
Even if you have the exact same opinion on the political situation, you will still end up talking about negative all the time.
This topic kills sexual attraction faster than if you would on the table.
4. Ex-Girlfriends
It is nice that you think about your ex-girlfriend from time to time but the last thing the girl you are dating wants to hear is how you broke up with the girl you met in the exact same restaurant about one year ago.
The worst thing you can do is to badmouth your ex-girlfriend and tell her what kind of woman she is.
A lot of guys do this and the only thing they communicate by doing it is that they are incapable of having a relationship. She will instinctively be afraid that you are going to do the same with her one day.
5. Weird Sexual Fetishes
Asking a girl about her sexual fantasies is great. Asking her about her craziest sexual experience can also be quite enlightening. Talking about your weirdest sexual fetishes on the first date can be a little bit too much.
In case you have any sexual fetish that would shock her if you would confront her with it, you should better keep them to yourself until she had sex with you.
Bon appetite!
How would you feel if you could get her in bed WITHOUT using a single compliment?
You just have to crack the code of the female mind…
Summed Up Wisdom
What are some great topics to talk about with a girl? Well, there are quite a few evergreen topics but the best way to find them is by letting her do the talking and by finding out what she likes. If you then have the balls to represent your opinion and add your own experiences, she is yours. After a while you can simply lead over to one of the following topics:
Talk about her hobbies, her passion, the meaning of life, her dreams, her favorite music, movies and celebrities. After that you are ready for the intimate stuff, such as childhood memories and the sex positions she loves he most.
As long as you don’t try to impress her and as long as you avoid delicate topics that only lead to negative energy, such as politics, religion, your ex-girlfriend and sexual fetishes that belong in the zoo, you are good to go.
That’s polite.
Lol fuck off Angela.
Thanks a lot.
I will write more articles for divorced guys in the future.
These are great ideas and your writing is humorous. You make it sound so easy and flowing…couldn’t resist. As a recent divorcee (2 years), I am getting over being dumped by someone who I don’t think was ever into me….we tolerated rather than celebrated each other. This time around I want to learn as much as I can about someone I’m interested in, without appearing to be a reporter writing a story (I can see the pencil wedged above my ear). I also have published poetry and would like to use this at some point in a new relationship. Is that too wussy to talk about if someone asks me to reveal something fun about myself? “I plan to write some poems to you soon, so please be open and very descriptive.” Hope I can get some women talking about themselves with good questions. This will be fun.
Hey Nathan,
I appreciate it 😉
I don’t agree caus God is real do you have faith in you friends you should in God I’m not judgingits just both Jesus and me love you bro wouldidnt want you to go to hell
Now you have to share your passions and hobbies with her and find similarities.
Greetings Sebastian
Okay so there is this girl I am after so now I have all the above (I know her hobbies,passion,the movies she likes)
So now what can I do to like really get through to her? A friend of mine told me to “take it slow with her”
Hey Jay,
you maintain a conversation by switching between these topics. I have a lot of articles and more coming 😉
Wow thank you, I love to read your article. I’m trying to date someone new, how do I maintain a conversation and what are some of the ways to get her interested? Please let me know. Do you have any other articles?
Thanks David!
Each point was interesting
Nice one buddy
Huh?
I personally visited this site because I’m interested in what guys think (think they know) we like! I’m not sure who the author has had contact with in the past, but the majority of women go out to have a good time. Not to find someone to sleep with. If you want a sexual relationship, meet a girl(using some of the techniques stated here), ask her on a date(multiple), and let your friendship grow from there. I find men who are just flat out nice(not pushy) the most attractive. Please don’t go out looking for shallow women who need to maintain physical relationships(those are the only ones who’ll have sex with you ofter one night).
I tall my girlfriend to my ex girlfriend..
What can i do now….plzz help me bro…
True
Hey Chu,
thanks a lot buddy!
Thank you Sebastian,
I absolutely like what you share in your post. The ideas are very useful.
Let me share a little about myself. I used to use some great ideas, not of all but enough to get the girl I wanted.
At first, The guys should prepare themselves for a self-confident appearance (It’s mean by the way you show your posture, what you wear, good smell, approach to the girl with humor …)
Then guys only aplly more of the great ideas of this great article to finish process and win with girls
And the guys that turn into “yes yes” puppies are the ones who dry up vaginas and go home alone every night.
So I am really good at getting girls or women to like me but moving on to the next level is where I get stuck,
Yep, it’s definitely a common issue. I’m here to help 🙂
I would say my issue with conversation is I feel I am primarily only able to have friendly regular platonic conversation, I suck at flirting, teasing and making the conversation sexual, but I hear that’s a common issue for many guys, would you say that’s true? that it’s common for a lot of guys to such at flirting and teasing?
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Hey Shubham,
thanks for the feedback!
Amazing Article! 🙂
I have also written an article on how to win a girl’s heart or impress her –
Might be helpful to someone!
What?
hey; have been encouraged by your lession but sebastian i would like you on how to get over this high school that has messed up with my cardiac system
Thanks a lot Sebastian
Hey Buddy,
just ask her out. Do it. That’s really the only thing I can tell you. And use the topics that I listed in this article.
Hey Sebastian Harris
Great article. I need advice on this matter.
I really like this girl who is 21 (I’m 18), first met her at school this year and I started chatting with her on WhatsApp about a week ago. I really wanna date her but I’m not sure if its too soon or I’m taking to long to ask her out and since she’s older than me (I’m not sure if she knows) I probably need topics that would keep her interested in me. And how can I tell if she’s into me or she sees me as a kid?
Hey Byron,
I hope it saved your life 😉
Thanks a lot Sebastian, this is lifesaving
Just be a frnd as long uh can bcse she is feeling uncomfprtable bcse she might doesnt knw uh much open up with her and one day uh be too close to each other
I think she will busy ,After few days, once again ask
God well, I went on a date with a girl, (im 23 shes 18). Bought up exes, and also i told her i was bisexual. I dont know why I did both these things, we had a really good time still, however I really am always terrfied of getting friend zoned by girls. I messaged her after the date, not the other way round and it stopped fairly quickly. So i’ve left it a day, she has liked one of my posts on instagram so there might still be a chance. Unless shes just friendzoning me then i’m screwed.
Hey Lino,
Ask her out. It can be that simple.
Thanks Sebastian
But there is this girl in my college, she we’ve been chatting but we never talk long, at times she pushes away and at times she comes close what should I do.
Hey Kenny,
the distance might be a problem. You can’t go on a coffee date when you live on different continents.
She did not give any reason.
However, this are a few reasons I may think of:
1. I’m a stranger whom lives continents away. (Don’t mind relocating)
2. She’s northern European and I am Asian.
Interesting that you mention that. I just recently discovered my religious side. I’m going to write about this in the future. But I still believe that mentioning religion on the first date can backfire.
Hey Kenny,
I can’t give you any advice without knowing why she thought that she must decline. Did she mention a reason?
Hey Sebastian. Thanks for your guide but I will need your help on one matter.
I followed your guide on messaging a stranger (female) on facebook complimenting her and she replied thanking me. I proceed with your tips on this page asking more about her but she did not reply. So I followed up asking her for a coffee date. If I don’t hear from her, I would not message her again. She apologized to me and says she THINKS she MUST decline. Wishing me a good weekend.
I have no idea if she is interested in me or not. May I have your opinion?
So I guess you are an atheist or agnostic.
“because you always talk about concepts that only exist in your mind and that can’t be proven.”
Yes it can be proven and there are many proofs for those who are openminded about them.
Its a matter of choice.
The article is quite well all in all…but with girls or women whose religion is an important value I believe to be a great asset towards achieving your goal.
Hey Kyle,
thanks a lot for your encouraging words. Yep, many guys turn to “yes yes” puppies when they are next to a beautiful woman.
Loved that you dropped the steps before the list. Kind of felt like I was getting two posts worth of information in one.
I really think Step 3: Represent Your Own Opinion is the single biggest fail for most guys. Bending to match her likes and dislikes is instant friend zone banishment.
Great stuff!
P.S. Loved the picture captions.
Hey Javier,
thanks a lot for sharing your story. I would love to hear what others have to say about this.
I dont know how complicated my story will be. im pretty good with the ladies but i find my self always talking nonces to them and it kinda works. ive gotten girls through social media like that but back to my story. ive meet this girl back 3 – 4 months ago at a baseball game we hit it off real good made her laugh no doubt and even got a kiss the 1st time i meet her, we had a lot of similarities thats why i think we clicked. second date was one of them most awkward dates ive been at i couldnt be myself like the first time like if i lost my words didnt know what to talk about i was supper bummed out. didnt talk to her for 2 – 3 months but i had her on social media so of course i always commented send funny memes out there and made her laugh. my social media has been pretty good, interesting and yes she has asked a try to say a little but im big people person and i like to talk to a say a little. 3rd date was ice skating recently i told her i was just a basic dude big dreams, kid at heart. so we hit it off again amazing time she had because she told me that her self. that same night she text me thank you she had a great time etc. etc. etc. we kiss that night again. im a huge niner fan and i did mention that i really wanted to go so the end of the night i asked again are you in or out? YES! she was in. next day she text me i will love her. me with a sarcastic mind i was going to say “chill your not that serious” but before i had the chance she sends me a screen shot of front row tickets to the game! im beyond WOW! like i really think im going to fall in love with her! i havent had a girl actually do this for me. so im praising her on how amazing she is for the next couple days until the game and still after. with in this the text she puts Merry Xmas. Dam i mest up i didnt get her anything and she says its okay. she went over the top with this gift ill like to say. the game was amazing we won we hold hands kissed like if she was my girl everything. she slept over my house, perfect right? okay we sleep together next day i take her home she gets ready and she comes with me to spend more time. why would i say no she hot so definitely. that night was pretty cool but ended kinda early she went with her friends for a gift exchange. no i didnt go or invited which is koo she needs her space and i was dead tired also. i wake up super early for work so im pooped! from that night sunday – tuesday we dont really text at all so i text her “made reservation on thursday what time works for you. we agreed 8. perfect. at this point i want to WOW her just like she did to me. i buy her a gift tiffany bracelet with elephant pendent. yeah over the top right. dinner was at one of the top restaurants in LA 71above. not cheap at all for an average joe. thursday comes im feeling more nervous that i have ever been stomach going crazy! ugh i hate that. finally time of the hour she shows up i get a hug no kiss. we walking no hands. something is off my first thought. its okay. we in the elevator semi quite. we start with the bar just couple drinks nothing crazy. the view espectacular! normal conversations nothing to big then i give her the bracelet and she seem like she loved it. okay koo we about to leave i take the bill of course. walking down same low physical action still no kiss. sucks im getting bummed. we get a ride to my car i open her door. she in start to act funny we get very serious in the car. touch topics that she didnt fell comfortable to talk about, the hatred she had with her father. i understood but i didnt know why? i left it alone. with in the car she starts to mention she is not looking for a relationship, ofcourse i go with the same topic by saying me either im just seeing how it goes. in addition she says that she cant say this will lead to something or this wont lead to something everything is a possibility. but we can go from here. so i kinda have hope right? its time to drop her off. we arrive at her door step she give me a hug and begins to excuse herself. i pointed out that i get no good night kiss. she reaches back in and give me one but not what i expect. i told her that wasnt even a kiss. she looks and says “really” continues to say ill text you. i didnt hear much from her for couple days. new year comes nothing. the next day she responds with a short Happy New Year. i do the same keeping it short. that day i didnt have service all day so i couldnt text or call her throughout the day and i think that bugged her i got 2 messages and couldnt respond until the following day. i believe i messaged her 3 times in different social medias for the reason being both had different topics. nothing. i cant stop thinking of her, again bummed. i call her couple days later and she quickly answers we talk breefly but then she needs to go and says she will reach out by text. nothing. this is where not im completely lost. i tell my brothers girlfriend to do some digging. to my surprise she been having an ex boy friend in which share a dog for the past 3 years they still celebrate its birthday. yes a dogs birthday and by the looks of it they keep contact. they dont follow or tag each other on social networks but have the same emotions towards the dog. at the same time she always wears this necklace that on what they told me he gave to her. im lost i wouldnt know what to expect now. i would like to leave it alone but it continues to bug me more and more on why wouldnt she say anything.
Hey Brian,
this article will help you to start a conversation: https://www.globalseducer.com/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-a-girl/
She might ignores your texts because she wants to play hard to get. Wait and if nothing happens, talk to her in person. That’s always better.
Hi,
I do have this girl but the problem is I really don’t know how to start conversation and she’s a kind of silent girl, So am afraid to start a conversation that might piss her off with like I have always done with the other girls, she accept me to take her for an out but I dont want to lose her. What do I do??
Another question is, how can I make her not to ignore my texts and if she does, should I ignore that question I asked??
Hey Anderson,
just ask her out. Then you wil know the answer.
hi again,
it’s been a month, more or less since i started the conversation.
it’s going pretty well, the only problem i got is,,
when i gave her a suggestion or a help,
she ended up using the phrase “Thanks Bro” and such.
what i’m asking is, are we in a friendzone situation?
i’m confused whether i should ask her out or not.
and, what does the words okay, i see, means? should i back off or what?
thanks a ton..your tips really helps
It’s all in the article.
i am realy a shy nature i want to talk from girls but i am not able to find the right track can u help me plzzzz……
Hey Jim,
you are the proof that you are never too old for this. Thank you so much for your inspiring comment.
Hey Anderson,
I have another article that shows you how to start a conversation with women. You can check it out here: https://www.globalseducer.com/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-a-girl/
hi,
there’s a girl i like, and we’re in the same class.
we usually chats about group tasks through a messanger, sometimes it leads to another topic.
but that’s it, no more conversation besides that group tasks.
is it a sign that she isn’t interested in me?
how should i open up a conversation with her?
and how do i develop the conversation to not bore her, and to keep the conversation going?
btw im not a good talker.
nice tips anyway, really appreciate it
One of the best ways to become better at having interesting conversations with women is to watch comedy shows. As long as what you say is funny, she will love it.
English isn’t my mother tongue either 😉
Thanks man for your advices, I have a problem with my relationships, when I start at frist I have something to talk but gradually i become run out of words which is a big problem, I’m not good opener so everytime she sends me a msgs or a picture i just tell her my comment or my suggestion and then nothing, I can’t develop it in a good way, what is your suggestion.?
Also I sometimes need to show a sense of humor to make her laugh, but there is no many topics
As you can see, I’m not a pro in English, excuse me for my ignorance, but I have to chat with her in English always which is not my mother tongue
Thankd in advance
I’m looking forward to having yoir suggestions
be honest about what you feel for her. Share your emotions.
I don’t know how to express my feelings at times to ladies ?
Hey Alex,
if you have only such a short time window, you should confess that you like her. Connecting with her in such a short period of time will be hard, but you should definitely let her know how you feel. Please don’t make the mistake and move to a country because of a woman without knowing if she wants to be with you.
Hello,
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I have read a lot about relationships with a girl, however I did not find a tip that could help me. The thing is that the girl I really like have moved several years ago to another country. I will go on vacation to that country and I want to meet her. Unfortunately I will have only 2-3 days in the city that she lives in. How would you suggest me to get her attraction? I suppose it should not be a date, but what should I do, Take her to some cafe and talk for the beginning, but what then? DO i confess that I like her? Do I call her on a date the day after? P.S. I am planning to moving to the country that she lives in now. Not because of her, well not only because of her. Should I tell her that or will she freak out? Please help me
Hey Darrel,
the post provides you with everything you need.
Hi,Myself Darrel.I am facing a big problem.I dont know how to talk with a girl and i feel shy.so will you please help me to solve..
Hey Nathan,
then you do the talking.
What if she is not a talker
Hey Armstrong,
I hope you won’t lose the next one.
Hey thanks bro, I’ll really try this topics and see how it will work, because I’ve really lost a lot of girls just because of poor conversation
Hey you super hot girl,
I am glad that I could turn your boring work day into a fun experience with milk on your keyboard 😉
P.S. Your “super hot girl” statement deserves a proof.
I was sitting at work trying to pretend I was working, and I read what the hampster said and I laughed so hard milk came out my nose. It’s cool though only like 15 people saw it…ps. I’m a super hot girl..not crazy, and I love horror movies…it’s fun to snuggle on a guy, then he feels all manly etc…
Hey Alex,
just use the stuff that I shared in this article.
I really like this one girl that im talking too like alot and i talk too her in class and everything but sometimes dont know what to say and when we text she sometimes takes forever too respond i really need help on what to do here cause it has me bugged out
Hey MJ,
I am glad that you appreciate my advice.
Bro, thank you for this shit. I can start a convo with a woman but unless the girl really shows interest in me I sometimes have NO CLUE what to fucking say. I can tell you’re a guy who has experience and not a lame PUA so I value what you’re saying. Thanks man!!!
She is hooking you brother I know it
I know it be careful do some research first
Your Australian Brother
Bewaare
Hey Hriday,
you should talk to her in person and not only over whatsapp. To give you detailed advice, I need more information. Feel free to shoot me an email.
I like a girl,she is gorgeous ,she has a bf but her relation is not good now,I like her,I told her ,she use to text me in WhatsApp oftenly,I use to flirt a bit n she enjoys,she response mostly but once in month she ignores,how can I get her,I use to tell her I like u mostly and she never ignored but also never showed interest,what should I do to get her or I should leave her hope please help me,mail me solution please
I like a girl,she is gorgeous ,she has a bf but her relation is not good now,I like her,I told her ,she use to text me in WhatsApp oftenly,I use to flirt a bit n she enjoys,she response mostly but once in month she ignores,how can I get her,I use to tell her I like u mostly and she never ignored but also never showed interest,what should I do to get her or I should leave her hope please help me
yep, it’s possible
Hey James,
the most romantic topics are linked to her passions and dreams.
Hye I am James
I am in far relationship on fb
She is from India and I am from an Australia .
Tell me some romantic topic which can be discuss with her
i think you should no one is perfect she will still want to once you prove to her you love her still
If you really like her, you shoule get her back.
Hey nice article
I cant say i am a womaniser. !of course i am not but girls are always fighting over me. Some of which i dont even talk to them. Some say mr charmer, some say mr nice
But almost half of them say sweet talker.
Whenever i am talking to a girl, they end up starring at me but with a smile on their faces later a laughter.
My girlfriend always accuse me of getting cosy with other girls and she even become jealousy saying am flirting with them but its jus that i like talking to girls and knowing everything abt their world. And it became a prob btwn me and my girl.
Like now almost 75% of my whatsapp chats are girls only.
Sad!!! i lost my girl becoz of dat.
Shld i ask her back
You are welcome
thanks brother…
Depends if there is a real reason for her psychological issues (for example childhood traumata or an accident) or if she has the generation y syndrome (cry-baby blues).
Hey Adan,
don’t say anything before you kiss her, just go for the kiss.
Lol in the music part it talks about psychological issues….what if you know she has psychological issues?
Hey Andy,
I guess my conversation topics will help. If you need more help you can email me any time.
so i talk to this girl but sometimes its fun but other times its just dead ..I don’t wanna bore her lol,I know the little stuff she likes and her secrets that we talked about but I have trouble getting in conversations with her like after a bit it dies cuz we have nothing to talk about..help me out here
Hey Buddy,
I am sorry to say this but you need to get over her. It might be painful, but it’S the only thing you can do. Continuing to pursue her when she is pbviously not interested will lead to nothing.
Hey please help me through this. I like a girl and its been 3 years.we hardly talk to each other.but I never stoped loving her. After 2 and a half years we met and we had a photo as someone told her I had crush on her just to take a photo with her.that night she asked me everything and I told her that I had a crush on you . And she was like not now na chill.and after that we chatted for 1 month and every conversation and the way she’s talking to me gave me hopes.we both feel shy when we meet to talk and it ends just for a minute conversation.one day I proposed her through whatsapp. She told I can’t see you more than a friend. Now sometimes she’s ignoring my messages.not interested talking to me.but I can’t let her go.she’s giving replys but I don’t have even a topic to start.I want to start all over again plz help me through this.
Hey Frank,
thanks buddy. I am glad I could help.
Hey Adan,
calm down buddy. The more you stress, the higher the chances you mess something up. I just assume that she is your age, so she is probably nervous too…maybe even more nervous than you. Don’t think about anything to talk and try to enjoy your time with her. For more questions you can email me.
Sebastian you really changed me,,I sucked when it came to conversations buh now I feel like a guru.Thanks love you bro
Hey Rizz,
now that you are together you can be mysterious with your actions. Surprise her, take her on adventures and let her feel the excitement she wants to feel. Sometimes a spontaeous trip can be all that is needed.
Some girls are more open to sexual questions than others. In case she is uncomfortable, you will see it and you can adjust your questions. I would try it. You might be suprised 😉
Hey Sebastian, your points are really great, and something my girl actually is a lot comparable with.
The thing is, I want to know about the mysterious gentleman you talked about. I was that way with her when we first spoke, and she shown a lot of interest when I did and after all the things I’ve did to get her, I’ve finally gotten her in love just like me.
However, after a few months by now, I can’t be as mysterious as I was then, because we’ve been talking about each other a lot, and she knows me very well now. I want to be just as mysterious to her as I was before, so she can be just as interested in me again.
Another thing, about those Sexual questions, wouldn’t that be too personal of freaky to ask her out of nowhere? My girl here had said that she has no real life experience with this, and I don’t want to sound weird or awkward asking her that. Would she still be open with her bedroom thoughts?
I just want her to be mine only, and don’t look like something that’s boring or gets her feeling like being away from me. Thanks again for the great article.
Hey Angleon,
Thank you sire. You are awesome for putting my advice into practice.
You sir…are aweeesome, i’ll try every word you said ( except the sexual stuff for some religon reasons )
And i wanna tell you my experience after i’m done…btw, this page was bookmarked saved, it’s my guide now
Hey Donald,
glad to hear that.
I am satisfied cos i nw have a lot to ask my girlfriend n make her do the talking
Hey George,
I am glad I could help! 😉
yooh dawg thanks man i was a dude carrying the pain of being left but no more….. you’ve really helped me…..
Thanks for your feedback!
After reading these points I’m wondering how i would truthfully answer when the questions are turned on to myself. Never really thought about these points or i have but id like to put it on paper and re-evaluate myself. These would of come in handy few months ago . Thanks
thanks!
nice one dawg!
Hey Akash,
glad to hear that.
Hey Brenson,
just remember that it can lead to a lot of conflict.
wow..this very important to all the hyena styled guys.its very helpful to me but again I gradually oppose the religion point.I think the basis of trust from a girl comes from what seems so ovious in trust with u.for instance religion…a common belief brings simililarity on which is the hunt of every heart to a serious relationship so religion is worthwhile to discussion.
I’m specially thankful to you because know i know how to satisfy a girl so she can choose u as a bf or life partner
thanks man!
That was a great Article. Never thought this is that much articulated. Thanks man. Good job !!
Hey Bright,
thanks a lot!
Nice tips
Hey Riju,
I am glad that it helps you.
Hai…This was really helpful fo me…
usually I won’t get topic…This helpd me a lot…thanks to u
that’s kind of weird 😛
my girlfriend always want to do the talking and if I want to listen to her she won’t talk
“topics” are everywhere arround you, just observe
I am glad I could help
Thanks guys, I really enjoy reading this article sometimes I do run out of things to talk about with my girlfriend with these tips I now have more than enough to talk about.
then switch the topics
When ever i say what i know to a woman when i should say more thing to her i can’t find a topic to keep the conversation going
if you say so.
God is not an imaginary friend. He’s real!
…with you
So i asked this girl and she said to sleep…
Hey Moh,
The fact that you are very good at talking about scientific stuff is completely normal for an intelligent guy who struggles with women. I had the same problem. It is definitely worthwhile to look out for a girl who is also into that stuff (my girlfriend is into NASA and reads Steven Hawking books), BUT it is not the right way to START a conversation. A good way to become more playful is to watch stand up comdey. It can really help a lot. Another way is to practice in front of the mirror or with a good friend. Even though the transition from “logical speaking” to “emotional speaking” is not that easy, I am proud of you for thinking about giving it a shot.
btw the girl started the chat mentioned on my comment!
i’m 22 i’m good looking but i suck at talking to people! my problem is i can’t talk about trivial or personal stuff i’m very bad at small talk,but i’m very good at scientific or deep conversations about a specific topic, most people don’t like to talk about those stuff though 🙁 what should i do? i can’t just open up with “whats your biggest dream” i actually came here to find out how to ask those questions! the actual phrases you know :p
whenever girls talk to me they get bored at the end 😀 this last time i first asked the girl what is she studying and hoped she is going to talk about herself but she kept giving me short answers and it never happened and i ran out of topic then she said it was nice talking to me :p (we were chatting) i couldn’t bring up topics like “what you wanna do with your life” etc…
i should have made these mistakes when i was a teenager and learned from them by now! i never thought about having a girlfriend until recently! i always avoided talking to girls! and it’s very overwhelming for me now to suddenly change the way i have been living all my life.
Ok not during the date
I agree with you that seduction is about polarisation and I also support it if you want to talk about politics with a girl once you know her better. However, I don’t recommend it on the first or second date. I can only tell you from my own experiences that whenever I addressed a political topic, the mood became tense and the playful sexual energy way gone. Once you are about to enter a relationship with a girl you can discuss those topic but on the first or second date you run the risk of destroying the sexual and flirty energy. Try it out and let me know if you have other results.
I disagree about politics and religion.
Being a man is also about standing for something, not being a dumb zombie only interested about sport results.
Of course if you talk about religion, the thing is to be very tolerant and try to understand the other, not imposing your view.
Also if you talk about politics, it can create a lot of polarisation, but seduction is all about polarisation, isn’t it ?
For example i’m libertarian. So of course if i talk about my preference for a free and decentralised society based on voluntary cooperation as opposed to central planning, that’s not going to please the girl if she is communist or fascist, but i don’t want jealous control freaks dumb unproductive people in my life anyway, but in the same time that’s going to attract in my life the kind of people that i want.