Are there any benefits of sexual abstinence?
Well, I have to admit that it is not a question that I ask myself every day, but for whatever reason I just thought back to the time when I experimented with the concept of sexual abstinence.
Okay, I want to be honest with you. I never really experimented with it, at least not on purpose.
Let’s say that there was a time when I saw myself forced to go without sex.
As you probably know there was a time before I seduced women all over the world and before I shared my experiences with you on this website.
It was a little bit over two years ago when I broke up with my ex-girlfriend and after I broke up with her there was suddenly no sex anymore. Not knowing if you will ever feel the warm and wet inside of a woman again, after you slept with the same girl for nearly four years can be quite scary. After I broke up with my girlfriend and before I managed to sleep with the first girl after sashthe bootcamp with Sasha Daygame I had an involuntary dry spell that nearly killed me.
In case you haven’t had sex in years you probably think that I am crazy, but those two months were the most terrible months of my life. Okay, the times when I had my heart surgeries were a little bit worse, but the pain was quite similar.
During that time I ultimately realized that I am a sex addict.
In order to quiet my brain I invested a lot of time googling the benefits of sexual abstinence. I found all this religious bullshit and this so called advice that condemned sex as something evil that should only happen once every month with the woman you are married to.
I couldn’t find anything non-religious that actually explained the advantages and disadvantages of sexual abstinence.
Maybe you are also forced to stay sexually abstinent. That’s why I decided to write an article that shows you the benefits and the disadvantages of being sexually abstinent.
I hope that I can make you think about sexual abstinence without mentioning god, hell and the holy Zeus and I also hope even more that you’ll realize that it is the biggest crap in the world.
Benefits of Sexual Abstinence
Let’s have a look at what I have experienced, or let’s better say what I have NOT experienced during my “I am too stupid to get laid” phase. I would love to share hundreds of benefits of sexual abstinence with you, but when I am really honest I can only think of two.
Despite the following two benefits those two months were nothing but a succession of shit.
1. You Won’t Become a Daddy
The good news is that you won’t become a daddy if you don’t have sex. Surprise, surprise!
No sex = none of your sperm inside of a woman
Maybe you are not so afraid of becoming a father as I am, but for me this was quite a relief. When I was together with my ex-girlfriend I remember a few moments where I thought that my life was over. One day she had to puke after she took the pill. Another day she had menstruation problems. Another day the condom broke while she stopped using the pill because of the puking incident.
This constant fear of fucking up my life was suddenly gone. Somehow I really liked that. If you are also afraid of having to pay for the rest of your life for an orgasm that lasted a couple of seconds, being abstinent is a good idea.
The only problem is that you are less happy without sex than you would be with sex AND with a monthly bill for child support.
2. You Won’t Catch Any STD’s
Another benefit of sexual abstinence is the fact that you don’t have to worry about STD’s. If you are in a relationship with a girl who doesn’t fuck the whole football team whenever you are at work, you don’t have to worry about STD’s. If you, however, have varying sexual partners from all over the world, the chances of catching an STD are a bit higher, at least when you are not careful.
I never worried about catching STD’s when I was together with my girlfriend, because she never cheated on me, but since I started to travel the world in search of sexual adventures, I honestly have to admit that I sometimes think “what if…”
That’s also a reason why I will never understand those guys who write articles about how to raw dog every girl. I personally believe that this is a dangerous advice to give. The good thing is that you don’t have to worry about using a condom or not, when you don’t have anyone who wants to have your penis inside her.
Even though this can save you from a lot of sleepless nights and sweaty blankets, the fact that you haven’t had sex for a couple of weeks or months might also prevent you from falling asleep.
Disadvantages of Sexual Abstinence
Now you know the benefits of sexual abstinence. You might think that there are more benefits like the additional time you have that you would otherwise spend inside of a woman, but in my experience the mood swings and the frustration make it impossible to use this time in a productive way.
What I am going to share with you now are ten reasons why I think that being sexually abstinent is the most ridiculous and stupidest thing you can possibly do. Seriously, if you are in the same situation as I was a couple of years ago you should do something about it.
In my experience there are only disadvantages and when I think back to my emotional and psychological condition during my sexless time I don’t see a happy and content guy. All I see is a guy on the verge of a mental breakdown.
I openly admit that the fact that I suffered so much is closely related to my sex addiction. I don’t deny that. No matter if you made the same experiences as I made, or if you used a phase of abstinence as an opportunity to grow as a person:
Let me know in the comments below and tell me how you dealt with it.
1. You Develop Social Anxiety
The first thing that I realized after about three weeks of my dry spell was that I became socially awkward in situations that I was usually confident in. Whenever I was in a situation in which I had to talk to a beautiful woman, I behaved as if I would have Down’s syndrome.
I was together with a woman for nearly four years with whom I talked to every day and suddenly I wasn’t able to talk to the beautiful cashier in the supermarket. It was really weird. All I did was to stare at her lips and her tits. Whenever she looked into my eyes I immediately looked away.
Whenever I talked with a woman I felt like a ten year old boy who just got caught staring at a playboy magazine.
I basically saw women as tits and asses that somehow managed to walk, which made it impossible for me to focus on a conversation with them. Let me know if you had the same experience or if I have some serious psychological issues…
2. You Are Prone to Porn Addiction
I might be the only guy on this planet who develops social anxiety when he doesn’t get laid on a regular basis, but I am 100% sure that I am not the only guy who develops a porn addiction when he doesn’t get enough real sex.
You can find out everything you need to know about porn addiction on MrMindBlowing.com.
Even though I think that the whole hype of “porn destroys your life” that is all over the internet nowadays is a little bit too exaggerated, I do believe that most porn movies do more harm than good. When I was a teenager I was addicted to porn. When I met my girlfriend and had sex on a regular basis, my porn addiction became less and less each day.
However, since I had NO sex and NO women in my life I had a relapse that was anything but healthy. I wasted at least one hour every day with my dick in my hand and I know a lot of other guys who did the same after a breakup.
Seeing no chance to experience the real thing makes it tempting to settle for the illusion.
I was lucky that Sasha Daygame told me to stop watching porn, which I eventually did. Today it is me who can hopefully motivate you to stop ejaculating in tissues and to start learning everything you need to know to ejaculate on the beautiful tits of a lovely woman.
3. You Have Time But No Concentration
I already said that you might think that the time saving that you have is an actual benefit. As an experienced lover you might save half an hour every day, but the five minutes that you save as an unexperienced lover are not even worth mentioning.
The only problem is that you might have more time, but you won’t be able to make use of the additional time. You will think about sex from the moment you wake up until the moment you try to sleep after masturbating two times in a row. Thinking about when you will get laid again and how it will feel from dusk till dawn can drive you out of your mind. You won’t be able to concentrate on anything.
Do you want to use the time that others spend in a woman for something productive?
You’ll have an attention span that is far worse than that of a goldfish.
While you stare at a blank sheet that has the potential to become a life-changing article you just see asses and tits in your mind’s eye. Sorry, I am talking about me again.
4. You Become More Aggressive
I don’t know why but during that time I became more irritable and aggressive with every day that passed. I really had a hard time focusing on not punching anyone’s teeth out, which is definitely not a benefit of sexual abstinence.
Everyone who knows me can testify that I am a peace-loving human being and that I have never hurt anyone through physical violence, but during those two months I can remember at least one moment in which I was actively looking for trouble.
I have never done this before and until this day I have never done it again. I have also never had another dry spell of more than two months.
In case you are ready for a little no sex experiment I want to warn you. Try to control your emotions and get someone to fuck if you are afraid that you will transform into the Hulk.
5. You Get Depressed
I am a really happy person. I usually smile all day and I can’t even remember the last time I had a really bad day.
However, during that time the happy person I usually am changed into a depressed piece of shit.
Back then I was still living with my parents and they got really worried. When I told them the reason for my mood swings they just looked at me and shook their heads.
It is actually scientifically proven that sex has a big influence on our happiness level and when we don’t get it we become depressed and unhappy. Elliot Rodger was certainly not the happiest man on the planet.
6. You Get the Feeling that You Have Alzheimer’s
One really scary thing that you might notice when you decide or get forced to have a dry spell is that you forget everything. At one point I was honestly worried that I have Alzheimer’s.
I forgot lectures, I forgot meetings and sometimes I even forgot to eat. The only thing that I didn’t forget was the fact that I had a penis. I thought about sex every minute and every second of the day. As a result of that I completely forgot about the life I was living.
Thinking that you have Alzheimer’s is definitely not a benefit of sexual abstinence but it is something that you can actually experience.
Don’t freak out when your memory gets worse. It’s just a withdrawal syndrome.
7. You Can Jerk Off All the Time without Feeling a Relief
I think it is pretty obvious that this whole no sex thing can make you incredibly horny. You think about sex all the time and you see every girl as tits and ass on bones. Sounds brutal, but that’s how it is.
Why don’t you just jerk off? Wouldn’t that solve all your problems? Unfortunately, the human brain is smarter than you might think.
Our brain knows exactly when we have sex in a woman and when we have it with our right hand.
I tried the jerking off method and it didn’t work. I sometimes jerked off two times before I went to bed and I still didn’t feel any relief. Let me know in the comments below if you have a different experience.
8. You Dream About Sex Every Night
Isn’t dreaming about sex a benefit of sexual abstinence?
Well, in case you are having one naughty dream a week that doesn’t disturb your sleep, you probably enjoy it, but if you have the craziest and weirdest sex dreams every night, you won’t enjoy it anymore.
You wake up with a boner that feels as if it would explode every second.
You wake up in the middle of the night and you feel as if your sexual fantasies kill your slow-wave sleep phases. Every morning you wake up feeling like a mashed potato, while you painfully realize that all the beautiful experiences you had were just dreams and that your life is nothing but a nightmare.
9. Fun Activities Aren’t Fun Anymore
By now you must already have the feeling that I am a psychological wreck, which I obviously am when I don’t get enough sex. However, I can even top up the ante.
Before I stopped having sex from one day to another I loved to travel and I loved to write. As you can imagine I still love those two things more than anything else. Back then I lost my interest in my two favorite hobbies.
My brain was so focused on touching a delicious pair of tits, that I couldn’t feel any excitement or pleasure pursuing my two biggest passions. That was the moment when I decided that I have to do everything in my power to get laid again.
10. You Don’t Feel Like a Real Man
Do you want to know the worst thing about being sexually abstinent?
You won’t feel like a real man.
When you go without sex for a certain period of time you will realize how much we men need women and how important it is for us to have sex with beautiful women.
It makes us not only feel alive, content and fulfilled, it also gives us the feeling to be men. You can deny this fact as much as you want, but the truth is that you will never feel like a real man if you don’t have the prospect of sex.
Should You Be Sexually Abstinent?
Now you know all the disadvantages and the two benefits of sexual abstinence. There are probably two questions that you ask yourself right now:
- Should I be sexually abstinent?
Answer: Not if you can avoid it.
- What can I do if I see myself forced to stay sexually abstinent?
Answer: Read my book and enjoy the sex!
Summed Up Wisdom
What are the benefits of sexual abstinence? Well, the only benefits I can think of are that you don’t run the risk of impregnating some chick who you don’t want to start a family with and not having to worry about catching STD’s. Besides that there are not many benefits of sexual abstinence, but there are a lot of disadvantages.
If you are as fucked up as I am you might develop social anxiety whenever you talk to women. What is more likely is that you become addicted to porn to compensate the real thing. You can also become aggressive and depressed. It is very likely that you can’t concentrate on the simplest tasks, because you are constantly thinking about sex. Forgetting things is normal in this situation and even though you dream about sex every night you won’t be able to satisfy your desire by jerking off multiple times a day. Suddenly all the fun activities you are usually excited about aren’t that fun anymore and you get the feeling that you are not even a real man.
If I were you I wouldn’t be sexually abstinent, at least not when you can avoid it. In case you have the feeling that you can’t avoid it, you have to read more of my stuff.
Sebastian Harris says
interesting comment. Any thoughts on that?
Sex addiction is not real!!! It’s a social construct of reality – it was an idea created by men. Sex is a natural process necessary for our reproduction and survival of the species. It is our animal nature. Those that are hypersexual are simply the sexual elite. Men with small penises, ugly guys, fat guys use sex addiction to control women from being promiscuous and from hung studs monopolizing the population of potential mate for reproductive purposes. The big cock men would impregnate hundreds of women, but other men could not accept this so they created things like clothes, religion, government, money, jobs, laws, etc
The psychological community finally did the right thing and honest thing by taking sex addiction out of the DSM V and forever eradicating this farce that is sex addiction. People are now free to live without false label and behave sexually how they feel they should. Love live sexual freedom!!!
Sebastian Harris says
Accepting your current situation is the first step towards healing
Yeah, this is me. You just nailed it right there. It’s so awful to realize that you’re this guy. It takes serious courage and self-reflection to finally admit this to myself. Fuck…
Sebastian Harris says
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