How to succeed with women? It takes more to get good with something than by simply learning a few basics and hoping for the best. The same is true for your dating and sex life. Learning to approach women the right way is a necessary step in the process of every seduction and without being able to do that, you won’t ever have the chance to become a successful seducer.
Unfortunately, most guys think that all they have to do is to learn how to give a woman a direct compliment by learning a few helpful lines and success in form of beautiful women that fly directly to their bedroom will follow automatically.
Please don’t be that kind of guy. Don’t be a guy who thinks that learning how to approach women is the ultimate question on how to succeed with women. Don’t be a guy who regards seducing women as a simple action that is followed by an even simpler result. Most guys get sucked into the marketing lies of certain pick up companies (I don’t say any names) who claim that saying the right pick up line is a guaranteed way to sex. You have to realize that the following equation simply doesn’t work:
Learning a great pick up line + Saying it to a girl = Sex
In order to learn how to succeed with women you have to stop regarding pick up and seduction as an action-result pattern. You have to start regarding it as a process that contains by far more than internalizing some lines and practicing running up to girls for six months before you get any results.
If you want to know how to succeed with women there is no way around looking at seduction as the holistic concept that it is. Even though approaching is an important component of the verbal way of succeeding with women, there are other aspects in your life that you have to work on if you truly want to be a great seducer.
A man who wants to know how to succeed with women has to work on his mental state, his emotions, his communication skills and his ability to touch women. The combination of those four aspects will make you truly successful with women.
How to Succeed with Women: The Mental Way
Are you mentally strong? You can test this very easily. All you have to do is to observe your reaction the next time you approach a girl and she rejects you. You either walk away from her feeling like a dog that got slapped on the snout because you think that there must be something wrong with you because she rejected you, or you feel like a hero because you did your job by approaching that beautiful girl and you don’t take her rejection personal.
If you feel like a dog that got hit on the snout and you are about to cry every time a woman rejects you, you definitely have to work on your mental strength. Without developing a strong inner game you will never have the chance to work on your outer game.
Every time you try to motivate yourself to go out in the wilderness and to hunt some women you’ll back down and puss out. That’s why your inner game is the first thing we have to look at if you want to know how to succeed with women.
Change Your Belief System
All women are evil little girls who just want to reject you.
Well, if you really think that this is true you should better work on your beliefs. Your belief system has the power to make or break your future success with women. You either believe that you have what it takes to learn how to succeed with women or you believe that it is impossible for you to ever experience a fulfilling sexual relationship with a woman. You either believe that women are amazing human beings whose energy is invigorating or you believe that women are evil.
Whatever you believe becomes your reality. In other words, if you believe that you have what it takes to succeed with women and you also believe that it is invigorating to have women in your life, you will be ten times more motivated to pursue all the necessary action steps that improve your seduction skills.
In case you have very negative beliefs towards women you first have to realize that your beliefs are not you. They are nothing but an accumulation of past experiences, conditioned dogmas and the simplification of negative opinions. In the same way that you acquired all those negative beliefs over your lifetime you are able to rethink them and to replace them with beliefs that actually help you to become good with girls.
Develop a Strong Core Self-Confidence
You can and should work on your core self-confidence before you go out in the land of women.
Have a look at this powerful hypnosis technique that helped me to become so confident that I was actually scared of myself.
This will make it a lot easier for you to confidently approach and seduce women, which will by implication help you to develop situational self-confidence.
This core self-confidence contains the aspects self-acceptance, self-worth and self-perception. If you don’t learn to accept yourself, if you think that every beautiful woman has more value than you and if you think that you are an ugly man who doesn’t deserve women in his life, you’ll have a hard time to learn how to succeed with women.
Before you later work on your emotional issues you have to work on those three aspects on a logical mental level. Write down all your positive characteristics and learn to accept yourself. Even if accepting your current situation might be painful, it is better than lying to yourself and pretending to be an amazing pick up artist when you are in reality too afraid to talk to women.
Realize that every human being has the same value and that a good body is no complimentary ticket to a higher value. The process of changing your self-perception from a needy loser to an adventurous seducer might require some thinking efforts. Be willing to use the brain that Mother Nature gave you and become self-confident by mentally adjusting your self-acceptance, your self-worth and your self-perception.
Learn the Art of Seduction
I hope you already know that the biggest category on this website is called the art of seduction. Under this category you find countless of articles that discuss countless topics that are directly related to seducing women. Have a look at all of them and study the art of seduction.
I provide you for free with the best tips and advice that I can but maybe you want more. That’s absolutely okay. Get yourself some books, courses and seminars.
I am not even angry at you if you buy the products of another guy, as far as his stuff is in alignment with my principles and it helps you. Do what you have to do in order to get the maximum of information that is out there.
Once you have acquired all the information that you possibly need to learn how to succeed with women I want you to not only study it, I want you to fully immerse in the material.
The decision to dedicate your life to master the art of seduction allows you to fully understand its basic principles and its advanced secrets.
I promise you that it will be way easier for you to put all this into practice once you’ve understood the science of seducing women on a theoretical level. You will go infield knowing what to do, how to respond and what to expect.
A man who hasn’t read anything about the art of seduction won’t even know what to say to girls when he first approaches them.
How to Succeed with Women: The Emotional Way
In case you are a logical thinking computer nerd, now is the time to start worrying. Until now everything was great for you. I focused on your mental skills and showed you logical action steps that you should take if you want to learn how to succeed with women.
And it is true, knocking your mental world into shape is an important aspect of becoming good with the ladies but it is by far not all you have to do. Your thoughts are important but there are also those terrible and annoying things called emotions.
I know, for us men it is by far more pleasurable to work on our mental issues than on our emotional issues but the uncomfortable truth is that you won’t ever learn how to succeed with women if you carry a lot of emotional baggage with you.
Overcome your Fears
Fears are emotions and if you want to get successful with the ladies there is absolutely no way around overcoming you fears. Becoming fearless is not easy and it definitely requires some work and some determination. In order to have the ability to attract the women into your life that you truly want you have to overcome your social anxiety and your approach anxiety.
A man who get laid left and right doesn’t care about what other people think of him and whether or not other people judge him for his lifestyle. A man who has more women in his life than he can possibly lick has no anxiety when he walks up to a woman to introduce himself. The only emotions he feels when he approaches a girl are excitement and curiosity.
By becoming that fearless man you embark on a journey that will sooner or later provide you with an abundance of women. I can give you all the information you need to overcome your anxieties but you are the one who has to put my advice into practice. What are you waiting for?
Heal your Sexual Guilt
What is the best way to make a woman fall in love with you and thereby to succeed with them? Nope, flowers and chocolate boxes won’t help you to make a woman fall in love with you. Sex is way more powerful than every confession of love, at least when the sex is good.
In the same way that a woman can only have fun when she is completely comfortable and relaxed, a man can only perform in bed when he is completely comfortable in bed. Any form of nervousness and sexual anxiety can lead to problems like premature e or erectile dysfunction.
In order to become this comfortable and relaxed lover you have to overcome all the sexual guilt that you might walk around with. A man who feels no sexual guilt and who regards sex as the most normal and natural thing in life, has the ability to become a great lover. Being a great lover will inevitably teach you how to succeed with women.
Face your Emotions
Besides fear there can be tons of other emotions that come up as soon as you are about to approach a hot girl. You might feel nervous and insecure before you finally command all the courage and approach the hot blond girl with the sexy mini skirt. You might even feel bad after you walk away from a woman who just rejected you.
No matter what you feel, allow your feelings to become present. Facing your emotions can be quite painful but in a long-term perspective it is a way better tactic than most guys do when they are faced with their emotions for the first time.
Most guys try to ignore their emotions, push them aside and pretend to be emotionless alphas who don’t care if they get rejected and who don’t feel anything while walking up to a girl.
You can use this method as much as you want but if you feel like hanging yourself after every rejection and if your hands shiver while walking up to a girl you will never belief the crap you are telling yourself.
If you, on the other hand, pursue a path of self-analysis that allows you to face and to release your negative emotions, you have the chance to learn how to succeed with women, by becoming an emotional strong and healthy man who attracts women effortlessly.
How to Succeed with Women: The Verbal Way
The first thing that you normally do when you meet a woman for the first time is to talk to her. You don’t simply walk up to a woman and grab her buttwithout even introducing yourself before, unless you are in a strip club.
In order to learn how to succeed with women you have to learn how to touch women in a way that is arousing and sexually stimulating for them, but before you place your hand on a girl you should seduce her with your words.
Even though the approach is the first stage of the actual seduction process and therefore the first time you verbally seduce women, it is by far not the only time of the interaction in which you need to use the right words to succeed with women.
When you want to know how to succeed with women you have to learn how to approach a girl. I said in the beginning of this article that most men make the mistake that they solely focus on the approach and even though you shouldn’t do that, you shouldn’t neglect this aspect either.
Approaching a girl the right way is an art that is pretty simple to learn in theory but that requires a lot of tactfulness when you put your knowledge into practice. I already wrote articles about how to approach women and about the perfect approach to use when you want to learn how to succeed with women.
Unless you understand the subtleties that distinguish a good approach from a bad one, you’ll probably never get the chance from any girl to push the interaction further. A guy who is unable to approach a woman in a direct, honest and self-confident way gets rejected and gets therefore blown out before he can show off his verbal seduction skills.
Connect with Women
The communication style that men and women usually use has nothing in common. If you listen to a conversation between two men you hear a lot of facts, numbers and short but unambiguous sentences. If you, however, listen to a conversation between two women you hear long and descriptive sentences, emotional topics and changes of subject that make absolutely no sense.
Men talk in facts and women talk in emotions. If you are gay and you want to seduce men, then you can probably use the manly way to talk to them but if you are interested in dating and seducing beautiful women, you should work on your conversation skills.
In order to learn how to succeed with women you have to learn how to connect with a woman on an emotional level. Therefore, you need to talk in emotions and about topics that trigger positive emotions in her.
What most men do during an interaction with a woman is comparable to a job interview. They ask her where she is from, what she does and where she lives. That’s boring and she has heard it a thousand times before.
What do you think happens when suddenly a man (you) steps into her life and asks her about her passion, about the things that she loves to do and if she follows her dreams or if she puts them aside like the majority of people out there?
She instantly feels that you have a genuine interest in her and somehow she feels a strange feeling of connection that she never felt with any other guy.
One way of sexual escalation happens on the physical level but there is also a verbal way of sexually escalating with a girl. After you have connected with her on an emotional level it is time to let the cat out of the bag and to make clear that you are interested in bedroom fun until she has cramps in the vagina.
A man who learned how to succeed with women knows that simply telling a girl that he want her not can be too much after only ten minutes of interacting with her. You want to show her that you are sexually interested in her but you don’t want to scare her away.
Escalate smoothly, use ambiguous words that could be understood sexually, flirt with her, communicate your sexual interest in a playful way and lead her on a conversation path that becomes more and more intense. By escalating verbally she gets used to a sexual energy between you and her. Now she is ready to get seduced by your touch.
How to Succeed with Women: The Physical Way
If there is a verbal way that allows you to successfully seduce women there is also a non-verbal way to successfully seduce women. After you have sexually aroused women through your words it is time to stop the talking and to walk the walk.
It is finally time for physical escalation!
Wait a minute. If you only talked with a woman without having touched her it would be a bad idea to grab her butt and to kiss her straight away. She will interpret the transition from a sexual conversation into butt grabbing and kissing as too fast, her defense mechanism will come into play and she’ll probably block you completely from taking the interaction to the next level.
Because that’s the last reaction that you want her to show, you should make her comfortable with your touch before you go all in. The best way to do that is by building up the sexual tension step by step.
Every man who comes into contact with the seduction community learns at some point that it is important to touch women. Unfortunately, most guys have absolutely no clue how to apply this in a practical context. This leads to uncomfortable interactions and to rejections that are completely unnecessary.
Learning how to touch women is an important part of learning how to succeed with women. The most important thing that you have to understand is that not every touch is the same. You can touch a girl at the same spot in an arousing way and in a creepy way.
When you start to touch a woman in an interaction you should do it in a way that feels completely natural. All you have to do is to include subtle touches in the interaction process by connecting it to your communication patterns.
Do you want a few examples?
Lay your hand on her back while you show her something. Touch her arm when you stand next to her. Touch her hands when you give her your phone to type her number in. Give her a high five when she said something funny. There are a million ways to touch a girl properly and all those ways teach you how to succeed with women.
If you really want to know how to succeed with women you have to learn how to sexually escalate. This includes learning how to kiss a girl and how to initiate sex. It is your job as a man to lead her through the seduction process and this responsibility doesn’t end when it comes to the naughty part of this process.
In fact, this is the time where you have to lead the most. When you have a girl next to you who is comfortable with getting touched by you, the only thing you can probably think of is what you have to do to get her into bed. The thoughts that wander through her mind are quite different.
Even if the only thing she wants to do is to feel your dick inside her p, she has to fight with doubts and the fear of being a slut when she sleeps with you.
That’s why the majority of women wait for you to lead them directly to your bedroom. If you sexually escalate on her she can say afterwards that it just happened and that it wasn’t planned at all.
A man who knows how to succeed with women knows that girls need some help in order to decide that having sex with him is the only right choice to make.
Have Sex with Women
It is a simple but for most guys a very frightening truth that you won’t learn how to succeed with women if you don’t learn to please a woman in the bedroom. Women want to be with men who know what they do with a woman’s body and who understand the principle of putting her pleasure first.
A man who has learned how to succeed with women has also learned how to please women the right way, how to lick girls and how to give them multiple fun. A man who is truly successful with women knows how to have great sex and how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom.
I am sorry to say this but it is impossible to keep a woman for more than one or two nights in your life if you really suck in bed. The best way to make a woman addicted to you is by giving her the best sexual experience she ever had.
Don’t you agree that knowing how to get a hot blonde girl in your bed would change your life?
Summed Up Wisdom
When you want to know how to succeed with women you have to start regarding seduction as a holistic process. Before you go out in the field to approach your first girl you have to be mentally ready for all the reactions and rejections that you’ll inevitably experience along the way.
You have to change your beliefs in a positive way and you should have strong core self-confidence. In addition to that, you should fully immerse into the theories of the art of seduction. We men tend to ignore our emotions but if you really want to learn how to succeed with women you have to overcome your fears, heal your sexual guilt and face your emotions.
Now you have a strong inner game and you are ready to put your knowledge into practice. Before you grab and touch a girl you have to use your words to seduce her. After you have approached a woman you have to connect with her on an emotional level. The trust she builds through this feeling of connection allows you to verbally escalate on her by communicating your sexual interest.
After you seduced her on a verbal level, you have to proceed to the physical part of the seduction. A man who knows how to succeed with women knows how to touch girls and how to initiate sex. Of course you should also know what to do in the bedroom. Only a man who knows how to please a woman can be truly successful with women.