Do you want to know how to have great sex?
Are you ready to learn the secrets that turn every Mr. Ready-Set-Fire in Mr. Passionate lover?
Then you are ready to turn this face…
…into this face…
In case you think that the only thing you have to do in order to rock a woman’s vagina is to stick your penis inside her and to start fucking her as if there was no tomorrow, you should read this article very carefully.
Even though your penis is a very important instrument in order to achieve a state of sexual pleasure that knocks you and the girl you are with completely out, there are a lot of other aspects that have an influence on how you and your sexual partner perceive the experience.
I deliberately refer to you and the girl you are sleeping with because the only way to enjoy a sexual experience fully is to not only care about your pleasure but to also focus on her pleasure.
Before I address this and other aspects in detail, it is important that you understand that sex, at least when it should deserve to be called like that, doesn’t start with the actual intercourse.
The 7 Secrets on How to Have Great Sex
Some people say that good sex starts in the head, respectively with a blowjob, but I would go even one step back by saying that it all starts within you.
No, not within a woman. I really mean within you.
You can have the biggest penis in the world, which by the way isn’t really enviable if you still don’t know how to have great sex.
Unless you understand what is really means to have amazing sexual adventures and unless you are able to develop a healthy attitude towards sex and towards experiencing it, your forays into the female wonderland will remain average.
After you have done all the inner work that is necessary to allow yourself to experience incredible things in the bedroom, it is time to implement a few powerful habit shifts that will transform your present sex life into a firework of passion, love and sperm fountains.
Let’s first have a look at the things you have to change inside you before you can change her perception of what is possible during sex while you are inside her.
1. Stop Feeling Guilty
In case you really want to experience your sexuality on a whole new level you first have to free your mind from all the negative emotional clutter that is linked to the topic sex.
We live in a hyper-sexualized world in which every mainstream TV show (I love Game of Thrones), shows more boobs, asses and explicit sex scenes than any pornographic movie has shown a couple of decades ago.
I mean, just look at the following scenes. A couple of years that shit would have been banned (not that I am complaining):
The fact that we are surrounded by sex wherever we go and whatever electronic device we switch on, leads to even more confusion and fears. In today’s world it is normal for a young boy to have access to more hardcore pornography than he could possibly consume over a lifetime.
Do you really think a young man can develop a healthy attitude towards sex when the first sexual thing he sees is a gangbang in which women are punched in the face and covered in sperm?
I don’t think so.
This alone can be a reason why so many men develop a feeling of guilt when it comes to sex. At a young age they see all this crazy shit that no couple would ever do in their own bedroom. As a result of the images that are floating around in their heads, they think that the only way to learn how to have great sex is to put all this fucked up stuff into practice.
No wonder that they develop a feeling of sexual guilt.
Deep down they know that the stuff they watch can’t be pleasurable, at least not for the woman who participates. Unfortunately, that’s the only way they learned how to make sex.
Who wouldn’t feel guilty when his conditioned perceptions contradict with his inner attitude of what’s wrong and what’s right?
On top of that we are exposed to feministic paroles wherever we look. On the one hand a young man sees porn movies in which young girls are raped by a few guys and on the other hand a stupid viral video that made the person who filmed it (and the actress who pretended to be offended) a lot of money tells him that wishing her a good day is the same as harassing her:
Thanks to our world of contrasting opinions, a whole generation of men feels guilty about what they see, what they want and what they feel in terms of sex.
The only way to learn how to have great sex is to break through this feeling of guilt and to become independent from the opinion of the media, TV shows, frustrated feminists and the porn industry.
Think about what you would really like to experience with a girl and think about all the things that you could do in order to satisfy her in a way that makes her feel special. Free yourself from the guilt that so many people have in regards to sexuality and start to see sex as something beautiful that involves so much more than the things you are forced to see on a regular basis.
2. Overcome your Fears
After you have overcome your feelings of guilt it is time to face another obstacle that lies on your way of experiencing incredible sexual pleasure. I think there is not another topic in the world that involves so many unspoken and hidden fears as this topic. It should be obvious that teaching how to have great sex to somebody who is afraid of experiencing sexuality is quite a difficult endeavor.
I would even go so far and say that it is impossible for you to enjoy your sex life to the fullest, unless you overcome all your fears that are linked to it.
Every time I talk with someone about sexual fears, they only mention the fears that women have.
They name the fact that they are afraid that the guy they sleep with lives by the kiss and tell rule and that somebody calls them as a slut. In addition to that, quite a few people told me that they are convinced that girls have a lot more fears in terms of sexuality than men. According to the majority of people women are more insecure about their body and about how much their partner is attracted to them on a physical level.
This might be true, but what most people forget is that men also have a lot of fears in terms of sexuality.
The only difference is that women are much more comfortable with talking about them.
Even though the fears might be different, they are still present and hinder them from experiencing truly great sex.
What are the main reasons for sexual fears in men?
Sorry, but the porn movies will be a constant companion throughout this article. I see myself forced to mention them again.
In my opinion the biggest sexual fears that men have are performance anxiety and the fear that their penis is too small.
Please correct me if I am wrong but the fact that men are conditioned by pornography that a girl can only reach an orgasm with a guy who has at least a 20 cm cudgel and that every guy must have the ability to get an erection before the girl takes off her bra doesn’t help to reduce those fears.
In case you have the fears that I just mentioned it is absolutely essential that you overcome them. Free yourself from the belief that you have to be an all-time ready porn start with a monster dick. Knowing how to use an average dick is ten times better than having a huge baloney without the necessary sensitivity to satisfy a woman.
3. Share your Sexual Desires
Any feelings of guilt and anxiety left? No?
Then it is time to continue with the dirty talk. Okay, it hasn’t to be dirty but if you want to learn how to have great sex you also have to learn to communicate your sexual desires to the girl you want to sleep with. Talking about your sexual desires is absolutely necessary to put them into practice.
Or do you want to try out anal sex for the first time by ramming your dick inside her butthole without any forewarning?
I mean, you can do that but then please don’t wonder when the experience is anything but great for both of you because you ripped of your foreskin and she has to wear diapers for the next couple of weeks.
In order to avoid such disappointing sexual experiences you should start to share your desires, fantasies and preferences with every girl you sleep with, no matter if you are together with her since decades or if you only had sex once.
Make sure that the girls in your life know what you like and that you know what they like.
Sharing your desires with a girl is the only way to make sure that she knows what you like (unless she has telepathic powers). She can then put this knowledge into practice and do all the things with you that make you explode like a vulcan. Learning how to communicate your deepest sexual desires is an important step towards experiencing amazing sex.
4. Limit Your Porn Consumption
My beloved porn, here we go again.
One thing that you should take really serious when you want to learn how to have great sex is your porn consumption. Depending on how much of this crap you consume per week or even per day, you will have a lot of wrong ideas, beliefs and presumptions about the female sexuality that are not quite accurate.
Please don’t get me wrong. Porn by itself is NOT a bad thing. There are many porn movies that can help you to overcome insecurities or knowledge gaps that you have in terms of sexuality. In addition to that, there are quite a few porn movies that are suitable for watching them together with your partner. They can not only jazz up your sex life but they can also give you a lot of insights in terms of new positions and new ways of living out your sexuality.
The only problem is that 99% of porn that is consumed is the complete opposite of that.
Most porn movies are hardcore porn movies in which one or a few guys fuck a girl in every imaginable hole while she has to pretend that she likes it by screaming in a way that no normal girl would ever scream.
Most hardcore porn movies solely focus on the pleasure of the man. The director didn’t give a shit about whether the actress screams because she feels lust or because she is in pain. Due to my love for women and my desire to help you to improve your life, I can’t say that I am happy about the fact that millions of those movies get produced every year.
I strongly believe that you as a man will only experience great sex when the woman you are sleeping with has an amazing time.
I just want to warn you that learning how to have great sex will be very difficult when you’ve only learned how to have shitty, fake and egoistic sex by watching hardcore pornography that is anything but helpful for your development as a lover.
5. Avoid One-Night Stands
Do you know how many men I have met who were extremely proud of the fact that they have one one-night stand after another?
I stopped counting.
Do you know how many girls I have met who told me that the one-night stands they had were memorable experiences?
I have not met one girl who told me that.
Let’s be honest: one-night stands are usually pretty shitty.
A typical one-night stand starts with you getting to know a girl in a bar or a club and taking her home without knowing anything about her and especially without knowing anything about her sexual preferences. You are undressing each other nervously.
You are hoping that your dick is big enough for her and she hopes that her breasts are big enough for you. You pray to god that you are able to get an erection. You are pretty nervous and the only thing you can think of is your erection and her boobies. In the meantime she worries more and more if you like her body. The fear that she might smell a little bit because she was dancing all night makes her even more uncomfortable.
You have sex in the standard missionary position. You just don’t know what she’s comfortable with. Due to the fact that you sleep with her for the first time you reach your orgasm faster than usual (which is pretty normal if you have sex with a girl for the first time). Nevertheless, you feel bad for covering her in your sperm five minutes after you opened your apartment door.
Now, please tell me if having one-night stands is a good idea if you want to become a great lover?
The obvious answer is “no”.
Sex between two people gets better and better with every time they sleep with each other, at least to a certain amount. A one-night stand can simply not provide you with enough time to find out what a woman likes and what she doesn’t like.
If you want to learn how to have great sex you have to be willing to sleep with the same girl for at least a few times.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t say you have to become monogamous. However, both of you will only feel fully comfortable before, during and after intercourse, if you are already a winning team in bed. This takes more time than one night.
6. Put Her Pleasure First
I know how amazing it feels to put your penis inside a woman’s vagina and to experience a warm and thrilling feeling whenever you thrust in her. However, there is a way to make this whole experience even better.
Instead of only focusing on your pleasure you should primarily focus on satisfying the girl you are sleeping with. Of course your pleasure is also important but if she doesn’t feel the same amount of arousal and excitement your sex life won’t be as good as it could be.
Sex is an experience that you have with another person and not one that you have in another person.
It is a two way street. Sex is giving and taking and if you are only taking, you will never be able to give, especially when you plan to give her multiple orgasms.
I already told you that communicating your sexual desires is absolutely crucial when you want to learn how to have great sex. That’s why I assume you already know what she likes and what she doesn’t like. All you have to do in order to give her groundbreaking orgasms is to put this knowledge into practice and to make her scream your name in a volume that motivates the neighbors to call the police.
You will be amazed at how willing she is to do the things that you like and to make you come in a way you never came before. Make an effort to focus on the desires of your sexual partner. Eventually, this will motivate her to focus on yours.
7. Be a Creative Lover
I am very sorry that I have to tell you this but you won’t have an amazing time in the bedroom by only fucking her in the missionary position. In order to learn how to have great sex you also have to learn to become creative and to put this creativity into practice.
Like I said before, you don’t have to be a porn star and you certainly don’t need a 20 cm dong in order to give a woman the pleasure she is craving for.
All you need is a little bit of creativity and the willingness to try out some stuff that has the potential to spice up your sex life.
There are more ways of having great sex than the standard missionary position or doggy style. A good start for become a creative person in the bedroom is to read about Kama Sutra in order to get some inspiration. Of course you don’t have to try out every single position, but you can definitely try out a few. Others should definitely be treated with caution, unless you want to end up in a wheelchair.
Again, ask your partner what she likes and apply some creativity to it. Vary the way of having oral sex. Instead of licking her after she gave you a blowjob you could combine both acts and try the 69 position. Change positions during intercourse. You don’t have to stay on top all the time.
Let her do some work by riding you in the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl position. Believe me; she will enjoy this type of work. Applying a little bit of creativity in the bedroom can be the one factor that distinguishes people who know how to have great sex from those who don’t.
Summed Up Wisdom
In order to have a naughty experience that deserves the word great you have to do more than to stick your penis inside a girl and to hope for the best. First of all, you should stop feeling guilty about sex. It is important that you replace all the negative and shameful feelings that you have towards the most beautiful thing on earth with positive feelings.
For a lot of men not only the feeling of guilt but also the fear of underperforming is a big obstacle on their way towards having incredible sexual experiences. Overcoming your sexual fears is essential if you want to learn how to have great sex. Don’t keep your sexual desires a secret. Share them with your partner, so that she can meet your needs. Even though there are some porn movies out there that are healthy for your sex life, the majority is pure poison. Don’t get poisoned.
For some people one-night stands might be a great thing to brag about but they won’t help you to reach a point at which you can call yourself an experienced lover. It is simply not enough time to become a winning team in bed. Even though your pleasure is important you should put her pleasure first. This will motivate her to fulfill all your fantasies. Applying a little bit of creativity and knowing that the missionary position is just one of many positions is also essential if you want to know how to have great sex.