It is time to learn how to attract women with body language. In my last article I have told you how to decode the posture, the expressions and the movements of women, in order to find out if the girl you are staring at thinks about getting rid of you or getting on top of you.
Knowing when a woman is interested to you is definitely a key skill that every successful seducer must have, but knowing whether or not she is interested in you is not enough to get her in bed.
In order to touch her, kiss her and bang her, you need to have the skill to attract her into your life.
She might be initially attracted to you and she might even be interested in going on a date with you, but you won’t be able to lead her through the seduction process, unless you learn to use your body in a way that makes her go crazy.
Even though a woman might be single and horny, you can still fuck everything up by communicating insecurity and nervousness through your body.
In order to have the seduction success that you want to have, you need the ability to display self-confidence and the determination to seduce her within the first minutes of the interaction.
You already did a great job on the verbal level by approaching her with a direct compliment. Now it is time to do the same through your non-verbal communication.
What You Should Know About Body Language and Attraction
Before I am going to share the main aspects of male body language with you, that will get her naked faster than any magical pick-up line, I want to talk about two things that you have to know about the correlation between attraction and body language.
Whenever I discuss this topic with a group of guys, there are usually one or two men in the group who either neglect the importance of body language in the seduction process, or who completely misunderstand the concept of attracting women through the movements of their body. When I then tell them how important it is to stand and to move in a certain way and that you don’t have to look like Hulk Hogan in his best times, I sometimes look in puzzled faces.
Let’s have a look at what most men either forget or misinterpret when it comes to the role of body language in the art of seduction.
Non-Verbal Communication is Absolutely Essential
Why is learning how to attract women with body language such an essential skill? Does it really matter if you stand there like a rock or like a weak little flower as long as you say the right things; respectively use the right pick-up lines?
In case you have read a few of my articles you already know that I am not a big fan of pick-up lines, even though it can be funny to use cheesy pick-up lines when you are quite experienced and calibrated. I also believe that the popularity of pick-up lines is one major reason why non-verbal aspects, such as your posture or even your facial expression, are neglected by a lot of guys.
From its early days on the pick-up and seduction community focused a lot on saying the right things. Soon there were different schools who either preached an indirect opener or a direct opener. Some of them specialized on situational openers, others on memorized routines that promised to bring all the seduction success you ever wanted if you only follow the right steps.
There was also a focus on non-verbal seduction, but in comparison to the pseudo-scientific studies and equations that were designed to transform a simple approach into a scientific research paper, the non-verbal aspects were pushed in the background., which was a mistake.
The pick-up community behaved as if the verbal communication with all the perfect lines and logic sentence structures would be responsible for 90% of what we communicate. The truth, however, is that the actual words we say of your communication is only responsible for about 10% of what we communicate. Thereby, it is claimed that the body language alone is responsible for about 55% of the communication.
Please don’t make the same mistake as some aspiring pick up artists and neglect the importance of your body language. The ability to communicate on a non-verbal level is absolutely crucial for your success with women.
I hope you see the difference that your body language can make:
Forget About Being Alpha and Start Being a Man
Now that you won’t make the mistake to neglect the importance of learning how to attract women with body language, I want to make sure that you don’t become another one of those guys who completely misunderstand the concept of using your body as a weapon of mass seduction.
I think that the manoshpere has a great purpose. I strongly believe that there are many benefits in a community that has the purpose to share valuable knowledge from men for men. Even though I think the overall idea is great, I don’t agree with everything that is written on popular manosphere blogs.
Besides regarding women as the natural enemy, I can spontaneously think of another concept that I regard as dangerous.
In my opinion the whole concept of being alpha has shifted too much from being an internal state, towards being an external display of qualities.
Having certain qualities and desperately trying to convince women that you have them are two totally different things. Mr. Lion here knows what I am talking about. His body language is totally relaxed. Yet, he still knows that he has certain qualities.
It is true that being an alpha male will attract women into your life, but only if this feeling of confidence and self-worth comes from within you.
Whenever you try to display something without feeling it, you run the risk of appearing inauthentic. That’s why the following aspects of male body language require you also to develop internally, in order to feel confident with displaying a confident body language.
Pretending to be the most dangerous alpha man on the planet while walking around as if you shat your pants and had razor blades under your armpits is not what learning how to attract women with body language is all about. Don’t exaggerate it and focus on becoming a man, instead of pretending to be the ultra-alpha.
How to Attract Women With Body Language: The Posture
Showing a self-confident posture that women are attracted to isn’t the same as walking around like the lovechild of Arnold Schwarzenegger and one of those Jersey Shore morons whose names I couldn’t even remember if I would want to.
I already said that appearing alpha as fuck should not be your main goal. If you are a professional bodybuilder and you can’t walk in any other way than holding your arms away from your body, you can of course walk like that.
If you, however, have never attempted to kill yourself with a steroid overdose, you should stop walking around as if you would take steroids for every breakfast. There is a fine line between showing that you are a confident man and showing that you are a pathetic loser who wants to be seen as an alpha man.
Even though it is easy to cross the line that separates appearing confident and appearing desperate, there are some universal things that you can do in regards to your posture that will make you become more attractive to women.
Straighten Your Back and Shoulders
If you have the same posture as Quasimodo you will have a heart time getting your dick wet. A man who has a very round back and who walks as if he would carry bags that are full of stones doesn’t look very attractive.
On the one hand, you automatically look smaller than you are when you walk in a way that puts your head on the same height as your knees. Even though a lot of man have the misbelief that they won’t be able to attract women when they don’t have a certain height, being small is actually not the problem.
Being 1.70 meters instead of 1.80 isn’t a real disadvantage when it comes to attracting women.
As long as you are confident with your 1.70 meters 99% of women won’t give a shit about your height. Your height only becomes a problem when you make yourself smaller than you are. You do exactly that when you walk around with a round back.
Thereby, you communicate that you don’t want to be seen. Even if you aren’t thinking it on a conscious level, you communicate to women that you are not confident showing yourself to others and to her.
A real leader would never want to communicate that to women. A real leader shows his confidence and his self-love by walking in a way that everyone can see him. If you want to learn how to attract women with body language you have to become confident with the thought of being seen by women.
Straighten your back and your shoulder and show the women around you that you are confident in your own skin. Showing yourself to the world in your full height will attract more women into your life than you might think.
Your Arms are Relaxed
Okay, now you know that you should straighten your back, but what do you do with the two long things that hang down your shoulders? In case you are still extremely nervous when you talk to women you probably aren’t aware of all the things that you do with your arms when you interact with a hot lady.
When I just started out with approaching women I was extremely nervous whenever I talked to women. I was aware of the fact that I was sweating and that my knees were shaking, but I wasn’t aware of all the things I did with my arms and hands.
I nervously moved my arms from side to side, I moved my hands in an out of my pockets and sometimes I nearly destroyed the zipper on my jacket, because my fingers became the catalyst for my nervousness. Somehow I had to release this negative energy.
In case you just had an aha-moment and realized that you are behaving like that all the time, you should focus on relaxing your arms and hands instead of nervously fumbling around with them.
Moving your arms and hands in an unnatural way communicates that talking to her is an uncomfortable experience for you.
Even if you have a straight back, you won’t convince her that you are a confident seducer, when your zipper falls down after two minutes of talking to her. Try to become aware of your arms and hands when you talk to women. The more aware you are of your extremities, the more you’ll be able to control them.
Manspreading at its Best
Do you have a straight back? Good. Do you have your arms and hands under control? Awesome! What about your legs? I don’t want to overwhelm you, but standing like a tree isn’t enough if your roots aren’t on solid ground.
Have you ever noticed that women, who haven’t forgotten how to be women and men, who haven’t forgotten how to be real men, stand in a completely different way? A woman who is attracted to you crosses her legs, while she makes sure that you notice her hips. Have you ever seen a man standing like that?
The only guys who stand like that are homosexuals and men who are so politically correct that they deny their own balls. Yes, that’s how powerful the conditioning of our broken society is.
A man, who knows how it feels to have sex with hot women without paying for it, knows how to stand like a man.
If you really want to learn how to attract women with body language you have to learn to spread your legs. No, you shouldn’t spread your legs like a horny girl who waits for a dick.
You should spread your legs while you are standing like a tree on the ground. Make sure that your balls have some room to breathe.
While you are standing you should do exactly what our feminist inquisition hatefully described as manspreading.
If you follow the rules of manspreading while you are standing, the ladies will love you, even if the New York Subway and leading feminists say the opposite.
How to Attract Women With Body Language: Your Face
Even if biology has never been your favorite subject in school, you now know that you have a back, arms and legs. Is there another part of your body that has the power to attract women? Okay, your dick is one of those parts, but I assume that you don’t pull it out whenever you approach a woman. If you do, I raise my hat to you.
However, there is another part of your body that has not only the power to satisfy a woman sexually, but also to fascinate her through your non-verbal communication.
I am talking about your face or Hackfresse, how we call it in Germany.
By only using your face to stare at sexy asses, to eat junk foot and to lick delicious pussies, you don’t fulfill its full potential. Your face is made for attracting girls, at least when you don’t stare at them like a degenerated rapist.
Stop Being so Damn Serious
Even though there have been scientific studies that claim that women get hornier when they see a guy who doesn’t smile than when they look at a guy who smiles like a clown on cocaine, I now give you the advice to smile when you approach a woman.
If you are in a situation in which communicating your sexual interest is socially accepted, you can of course skip the smiling. For example, if you are in a club and you already looked each other in the eyes, you can express your dominant male energy without smiling.
However, if you approach a woman on the street you will have a lot more success when you smile at her before you tell her how hot she is. A man who walks up to a woman on the street without smiling can easily send the wrong signals.
She doesn’t know that you are an interesting man who wants to make her day. All she sees is a serious looking guy who either walks towards her or runs after her. You could be a dangerous rapist, a thief or a confused psycho who starts to rub his dick up and down her leg. Who knows?
By smiling at her you signalize that you come in peace and that there is nothing to worry about. A smile leads to a smile and that can easily lead to “faster, faster, oh my gooood!”
The Mysterious Gentleman
How to attract women with body language without smiling? What if you are in situations in which you don’t scare the shit out of her if you wouldn’t smile? Maybe you are in a bar and you see a beautiful woman sitting all alone. The moment she is looking at you, you stare in her eyes with such a strong intent that she gets already wet by simply staring back.
In this situation you would destroy the passionate and mysterious energy if you would suddenly smile at her.
Dominate her with your eyes and enjoy it whenever she looks down, because she can’t hold the pressure. Let her giggle, let her blush and let her become the shy little girl you want her to be. Stay in the role of the mysterious gentleman and force her to fully experience her submissive female energy.
Fuck Her With Your Eyes
Even if you ignore all the ways of attracting girls with body language that I have and will be sharing with you, you can still rescue the interaction if you communicate your sexual intent through your eyes. The way you look into the eyes of a smoking hot Hungarian girl should be different than the way you look at your mother.
What’s the best way to end up in bed with a woman?
Let her know that you want to see her naked.
Win the staring contest and arouse her with a seductive smile, while you stare at her as if you would look into her soul. Think about how you want to fuck her while you are looking her into the eyes. She will feel what you feel and your thoughts will become her thoughts.
Remember that you can just look in one of her eyes at a time. Switch from left to right and once she looks at you like a puppy that waits for a reward, you can close the triangle by staring at her lips. If she licks or bites her lips when you do that, she is begging for the kiss.
How to Attract Women With Body Language: Your Hands
I already mentioned your hands when I told you to relax those long things that hang down your shoulders. However, destroying the zipper of your jacket is not the only thing you can do with your hands. Your hands come into play whenever you say “hello” and “goodbye” aka “thanks for your number and the sex we are going to have in two days”.
Besides talking like a robot who doesn’t know how to move his arms, there is another mistake that some guys make. Especially in the Western world we men are conditioned to keep a certain distance to each other. Whereas it might be normal for a girl in Greece to hug someone she just met, it’s not that common in Germany.
I don’t want to discuss whether this is good or bad. All I want to say is that you are completely fucked if you don’t change your way of communicating with your hands, once your are interacting with a hot girl who you want to undress in a couple of hours.
The Handshake of a Seducer
The biggest mistake you can make within the first seconds of an interaction with a woman is that you shake her hand as if she would be a 60 year old businessman. Shaking hands with a woman who you want to end up dating, is not the same as shaking hands with your boss who you want to bootlick.
The handshake of a seducer is not strong and competitive like the handshake between men who pretend to like or respect each other.
When you introduce yourself to a woman you are attracted to, you should shake her hand as if you were the knight in shining armor she always dreamed of.
Take her hand with a soft touch, hold it for a couple of seconds while you tell her your name and let her hand go while you are sliding her hand out of yours. When you shake her hand like this, she knows that you don’t want to discuss a business deal with her.
Hug Her Like You are Her Lover
Shaking a girl’s hand when you are meeting her for the first time is absolutely fine. At this point a hug would probably overwhelm her. What if you talked to her for five minutes and you want to say goodbye after she gave you her number?
Don’t dare to shake her hand!
She is a woman and you are a man. By giving you her number she clearly showed that she is interested in going on a date with you and in doing a lot of naughty stuff with you afterwards. Don’t even think about shaking her hand.
Always go for the hug!
A man who knows how to attract women with body language knows that the hug after an interaction is the best chance to start the sexual escalation process.
What if she doesn’t want to get hugged?
After you’ve read my bestselling book, she wants more than a hug.
Summed Up Wisdom
If you want to learn how to attract women with body language, you have to understand the importance of non-verbal communication in the seduction process. Once you have realized that arousing girls with your body language is extremely important, you should forget about portraying the image of the indestructible alpha and start behaving like a real man.
Make sure that your back is straight, that your arms are relaxed and that the distance between your legs fulfills the criteria of manspreading. Give your balls some room to breathe. In some social situations being too serious won’t work in your favor. Smile at the girl you approach on the street and be the mysterious gentleman when you look at a woman in a bar with dimmed light.
As a real seducer who wants to learn how to attract women with body language, you have to understand that shaking hands with a woman is not the same as shaking hands with a business partner. The moment you say goodbye to her you would be stupid if you would shake her hand, even though a gentle hug can introduce the sexual escalation process.
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks for sharing!
Expansive body language is for one’s psychogy. Under business circumstances I make sure I sit with my legs crossed knee on top of knee and very often when I meet women for the first time. Low value inferior status construction workers believe open body langauge is “always” for the go. There is time and a place for everything and elegance is often higher in attractiveness than horny side dude bud Trust me Id know. King knows everything. “open proud and grounded” is for sub communication amateurs.
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks a lot!
Your articles are very informative and yet funny and I think that’s what makes it real and stand out!
Keep up the unique work. It does makes lots of sense
Sebastian Harris says
Noble Danser says
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Sebastian Harris says
That’s a bit simply said, but somehow true.
Jarrett Deshay says
Start dating and get laid.
Sebastian Harris says
some women totally like the hand kiss.
What, instead of a hug, you give her a hand kiss? Or is that too corny?