What happens if you don’t learn how to touch a girl?
Then you have the pleasure to spend all your life in the friend zone. It’s really comfortable there. You get told how nice you are and that you are a decent guy who every girl would be happy to have as a boyfriend. Unfortunately, you will never be the guy who every girl dreams of fucking.
He knows how to touch a girl. Do you also know it?
Not touching a woman or doing it wrong is the fastest way to make a girl lose interest in you.
If you meet a girl who you are attracted to it is impossible to end up in bed with her without touching her. No woman will kiss you before she isn’t comfortable with feeling your skin on her skin. The only women who have sex with a guy without kissing him first are hookers.
Unless you want to spend all your savings on prostitutes, learning how to touch a girl is absolutely essential if you want to sleep with beautiful women. A gentle touch is always the first step towards a passionate night.
That’s why I decided to write a step by step guide about touching women, which shows you everything you need to know from the moment you meet her till the moment you undress her (and beyond).
How to Touch a Girl: The Step By Step Guide
I came up with the idea to write this article when one of my readers asked me what he has to consider when it comes to getting physical with women. I promised him that I am soon going to write about this topic and here it is.
In the following lines you will find 17 steps that you absolutely have to follow if you want to get laid.
I am going to guide you through the complete seduction process and show you exactly when, why and how to touch a girl at which stage of the process.
Follow those 17 steps and I guarantee you that you will have a hard time landing in the friend zone, even if you try.
Step 1: The Seductive Handshake
The moment that gives you the first chance to touch the woman you have just approached is when you say “I am INSERT YOUR NAME HERE”. This is usually about ten seconds after you stopped her. Don’t just say your name without reaching out for her hand. Use this chance.
A hug might be too much at this stage but a soft but dominant handshake is definitely appropriate.
While you are taking her hand you look her deep into the eyes. Make her feel that you are attracted to her. Keep holding her hand for one or two seconds until you let go of it.
Just look at how Michael Valmont does it with Kezia (starting at 1:38):
The handshake is your first opportunity to project your sexual intent and to lead her. Even if the whole procedure only takes a couple of seconds, it can make all the difference.
By combining a soft handshake with a sexually aggressive eye contact and the intention to lead her, you show that it is impossible for her to put you in the friend zone.
Step 2: The Conversational Touch
You are in the middle of the conversation. You already found out that she is studying psychology and that her boobs bounce up and down whenever she laughs. While you were talking you already got a bit closer to her. Thanks to your handshake and your eye contact she knows why you approached her. There is no reason to keep a lot of distance.
At this stage it is crucial to be aware of every word she says.
As soon as she says something that is at least slightly inappropriate, funny or challenging you should use this fraction of a second to touch her.
Say something like “that’s cheeky”, “I see, you are pretty direct” or “wow, I didn’t expect that”. While you are saying it you can touch her arm or her shoulder. Make it appear as natural as possible. She shouldn’t even consciously realize that your hand was on her shoulder. Her unconscious mind will tell her soon enough that you are a potential sexual partner.
Step 3: Arm on Arm
Did she like your first physical attack?
Then it is time for the next one. It’s time to get her number and as you hopefully already know you don’t ask her for the digits, you simply assume that you get them.
“You seem like a great girl. I have to go now, but I would love to continue this conversation another day. Just type your number in my phone.”
While you say this you can already position yourself right next to her.
She won’t even realize that your arms are touching. The only thing she feels is a tingling in her belly.
Make sure that you stand really close while you take out your phone.
Standing close together is the most natural thing to do when you both stare at a small screen.
Step 4: Touch Her Hand When You Give Her Your Phone
She gives you the magic digits.
Use this moment to make her even more comfortable with feeling your skin.
While you are giving her your phone it is unavoidable that your hand touches her hand. You can even continue to gently rub your hand against hers while you are opening your address book to create a new contact.
A short look into her eyes while she tries to remember her number can make the situation even more intense. After she put in her number you give her a missed call and a high-five to reward her for remembering her number.
Step 5: The “Goodbye” Hug
After another minute of “it was really great to talk to you” and “I’ll call you” it is time to take her on an instant date or to say goodbye for the moment. In case you want to take her on an instant date you can jump directly to step 7. If you, however, decide to take her number and to meet her again in two days, it is time for the hug.
Not the handshake, the hug.
You already touched her and she knows (and wants) that you’ll end up in bed together. Don’t take a step backwards when you can take a step forward. A guy who knows how to touch a girl hugs her like her lover and not like her friend without benefits.
Come as close as you can and pull her towards you. Some shy women might say a sheepish “okaaay” before they start to giggle. Don’t worry. That’s not a bad sign.
The hug is your chance to let her know that you’ll kiss her the next time she meets you. If she picks up the phone the next day, you have already won.
Step 6: The “Hello Again” Hug
It’s Saturday. You called her on Friday, she picked up the phone and she said “yes” when you asked her if she wants to meet you for a coffee.
What do you do when you see her again?
She is all dressed up, waiting for her knight in shining armor. The biggest mistake you can make is to go back to stage number one and to shake her hand.
There is a reason why she spent hours in front of the mirror and it has nothing to do with her desire to talk about football and politics.
When a girl goes on a date with a guy she already 60% sure that she is going to sleep with him.
Don’t even think about shaking her hand…
Give her the feeling that you want the same.
Hug her, give her a kiss on the cheek and tell her that she smells really good. Her knees and her vagina will begin to shake.
Step 7: Sit In a Way that Allows You to Touch Her
After you hugged her you take her hand, you lead her inside the café and you sit opposite to her. Wait a minute. Something’s wrong…
Don’t EVER sit opposite to a girl you are on a date with!
I don’t care if all the other customers look at you with shocked faces, because moving the chairs along the floor makes a horrible scratch sound. Do it anyway. Sit as close as you can and while you are sitting down it is no crime when your leg is touching hers.
Step 8: Play with Her Things
Let’s jump straight into the conversation. You are talking about traveling, about her favorite book and about her biggest passion. You really enjoy the conversation but you can’t let your eyes off two things. No you pervert, I am not talking about her boobs.
I am talking about her wristband and her ring.
Maybe she even has a nice pair of earrings or an interesting necklace. All those little things are reasons to touch her. They all tell a different story.
I understand the power of playing with accessories, Richard La Ruina understands it and you should understand it too:
Take her hand and ask her if her wristband has a special meaning, or lay your hand on her finger and ask her about the meaning of it. Just don’t strangle her with her necklace and don’t rip her earrings out.
The simple question “what’s the meaning of that?” should be in the verbal repertoire of every Global Seducer.
Step 9: Gently Touch Her Leg
After she told you how her mother gave her this wristband as a present after she finished high school, you can continue your conversation. The deeper the topics get that you talk about the more comfortable and safe she will feel in your presence.
The weird thing she is feeling is called an emotional connection.
One benefit of an emotional connection is that her heart tells her brain that you are a great guy and that she doesn’t have to worry about anything in case she would decide to do some naughty stuff with you.
She wants you to come closer. Do as she pleases and move your ass a bit to the right and let your leg touch hers. Continue your conversation as if nothing has changed. If she pulls her leg away you try it again after ten minutes. If she stays in this position you can be sure that her leg is not the only part of her body that’s craving for your touch.
Step 10: Emotional Hand Holding
Your legs are still touching while you continue your conversation. The more you talk with her the more she opens up and the more she allows herself to talk about deep and emotional topics with you.
Make the first move by starting to talk about a topic that is quite emotional for you. After you told her about the great relationship you had with your grandmother she will also talk about some deep stuff.
Get some tissues. It’s getting emotional!
Take her hand and hold it while you are sharing your deepest feelings.
I know it’s kind of sneaky, but this moment is perfect to connect with her on a really deep level.
Step 11: Put Your Arm around Her
What if she looks at you as if you gave her four liters of love philter?
Then you can increase the intensity a bit and put your arm around her. I know what you are thinking.
“Yeah, it’s finally time for the CINEMA MOVE!”
Well, yawning and stretching like a complete weirdo is neither necessary nor advisable.
Let’s say you sit on the left and she sits on the right. All you have to do now is to take your right arm and put it behind her back until you come out on the other side. Then you take her right hand and caress it gently.
Do this while you are talking and she will be in seventh heaven.
Step 12: Walk Hand in Hand
It’s time to go. You have spent the last two hours talking about fun, exciting, interesting and deep topics. It’s time to go, but it’s definitely not time for her to go home. She was comfortable sitting close to you and holding your hand while you had your arm behind her back. The only place she wants to go to is your bedroom.
Once you leave the café you can either walk two meters away from her while risking that the sexual energy fades away, or you can take her hand and softly caress it while you are walking.
Just have a look at her face. It screams “rawr!”
I hope you know what you have to do.
Step 13: Go For the Kiss
Wait a moment.
Haven’t you forgotten something?
Isn’t there some tiny thing that you should do before you can take her directly to your apartment and rip her clothes off?
You totally forgot to kiss her!
Remember how I said at the beginning that the only girls who will sleep with you without getting kissed first are prostitutes? I simply assume that the girl you are dating isn’t one. That’s why you should kiss her BEFORE you arrive at your apartment.
If you are worried about how you can possibly do this you should have a look at this article.
…10 minutes later…
Just don’t try it while you are walking.
If she wears high heels this could lead to a night in the hospital instead of a night of passion.
Step 14: Lead Her Physically
Once you are in your apartment you can either continue to make out with her right after you open the door, or you can take her hand and lead her directly into the bedroom. There is no right or wrong. Both ways lead to success.
Just remember that leading her to the bedroom really means physically leading her. Don’t come up with the idea to walk towards your bedroom while you expect her to follow and don’t even think about asking her if she wants to come with you.
Take her hand, start walking and take her to your bedroom. Do it the good old cavemen way.
Step 15: Undress Her With Passion
Once you are in your bedroom it is time to undress her. It is your decision if you want to do it slow or fast. As long as you do it with passion she will enjoy every second of it.
What exactly do I mean when I say you should undress her with passion?
Well, there are two types of guys in this world.
On the one hand, there are the ones who learned how to touch a girl. They know that caressing and kissing her is a vital part of the undressing process. On the other hand, there are the ones who try to undress her as fast as they can without enjoying the process. Here are a few quick tips to make the process even more enjoyable for her.
Women want to be desired, but they don’t want to get the feeling that you can’t wait until you finally see a naked woman for the very first time. Make sure that she enjoys the undressing process. A little kiss here and a naughty compliment there can make all the difference.
Step 16: Touch Her Whole Body
As a guy who wants to know how to touch a girl you have to accept the shocking truth that women consist of more than a pair of tits, an ass and a vagina. In order to make a woman feel special, desired and beautiful, you have to take care of her whole body.
Kissing her lips and grabbing her ass is great, but if you also kiss her belly, bite her neck and gently scratch her back you drive her even more insane.
Show her that you are into every part of her body and she will do whatever you want her to do.
These primal attraction triggers help you with that.
Summed Up Wisdom
Are you ready to learn how to touch a woman? Then you should be willing to get physical within the first few seconds by shaking her hand in a soft and dominant way. After you have done that, there are a lot of moments in which you can touch her.
Touch her shoulder during the conversation and make sure that you are touching her arm and her hand while you are taking her number. Whenever you hug a girl you should make sure that your sexual intent is clear. If you then sit very close to her during your date, she will know that you are not a good candidate for the friend zone.
Guys who know how to touch a girl use every ring and every bracelet for their benefit. After you played with her things (not her boobs), you can touch her leg and put your arm around her. Holding her hand is always good when you discuss emotional topics. On the way back to your apartment you hold her hand and you go for the kiss. Once you are in your apartment you lead her directly to your bedroom, before you undress her with passion, kiss her whole body and carefully insert your penis inside her.
Hey, I was just wondering how do you caress your girlfriend’s breasts in public under her clothes???
You put your hand under her shirt…but only if she wants it 😉
Hi,
I’m a 32-year-old with autism, and I work to apply approaches like this at every golden opportunity, despite it not being really easy as I tend to get challenged over it very quickly. And just think, for the same cues I pick up from normal society. The irony is uncanny.
I, this is my first tine visiting
ur site n already loving it…. Ur tips are really cool. Love to chat with u
Thanks Tom!
I want sex and I love dick
That’s a word.
what if a girl give some excuses to kiss her or hug her
Then she’s not ready yet
Hello there I have my very first girlfriend I’m new to this whole thing. I followed your step by step guide. I was doing so well at all of this. I was really winning her over. But then I got to step seventeen and I failed miserably. I do not have a penis what should I gently put in to her as I’m a bit stuck
I hope you are a lesbian and not a man without a penis 😀 How about a strap on? Just a suggestion
Hello Sebastian!
This might be off topic a bit but I have read your article and maybe you might have some advice for me.
My husband and I have been married for 17 years and our sex life is almost non existent now.
The main problem is that when he does initiates sex, each and everytime he goes right for my boobs or my vagina.
It was OK at the beginning when newly weds and had sex all the time. But there is a lot more to my body than just my boobs and vagina. I’ve talked to him about it but it hasn’t made a difference. He has absolutely no romance in his body at all.
I’ve tried to turn him on but he gets squeamish when I try to touch his body or kiss it. In order to get him going I always have to manually manipulation his penis. Which again, I’m tired of doing that because that’s the only way I can get him aroused.
How do I get my husband to understand that his idea of foreplay, touching my boobs and vagina ONLY is more annoying now and that I don’t really want him to touch me at all. Much less my boobs and vagina.
I want romance! I want flowers- especially wildflowers he picked from the side of the road are even more special cause I know he was thinking of me while pulling over multiple times to pick me the right flowers. I want him to notice and possibly compliments on my body and the way I dress and my looks. I want him to be proud to call me and his wife especially when I’m meeting some of his co-workers and friends for the very first time. I work hard to keep my figure, the way I dress and my looks looking decent – all for him.
Back to the topic at hand, I have told him that I would surgery since it’s been so long since my last surgery. I’d appreciate a bit more romance from him and his reply is that he didn’t have any romance in him. I gave him simple suggestions to help him and it went in one ear and out the other.
I’m at the point that I don’t even want to have sex anymore with him.
Any suggestions you may have would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for your time and any info you’re able to help me with.
Cindy
Hey Cindy,
my first advice would be to talk about everything, but you’ve already done that. It’s good to expect some romance from a man, especially in the bedroom. But please don’t confuse the Disney kind of romance for real passion and affection. Forget about the flowers. Most men are actually scared of doing things like this because a lot of women will think that it’s needy. However, don’t forget about your desire to be desired. Why don’t you show him my article and tell him exactly what you told me? Let him learn how to touch a girl from another man. Maybe it’s awkward for him when you, as a woman, tell him how it’s done.
hey sabastian, i realy enjoyed your write up…… I have a similar case regarding this and i wil need ur quick maximum help. pls nd pls…
sure, shoot me an email and I’ll help you.
Well I first want to say amazing article. I am your big gist fan.
Hey Tanya,
thanks a lot. Glad to hear that from a woman.
Hi! This is my first comment here so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and tell you I genuinely enjoy reading through your posts. Thanks a lot!
Thanks a lot Marshall!
I am just wondering…. What if the girl avoids you afterwards… I did this and was treated to 3 weeks of avoidance before she talked to me again…
Hey Blake,
What do you mean with “I did this”? You touched her and she avoided you afterward?
how can I get to kiss this african girl I met on the first date. I tried to touch and kiss her but she refuses although I’ve tried all these steps but all to no avail.
Hey Charles,
shoot me an email and I am going to help you in detail.
I’d love to see more talk of consent and detection of reciprocity in future articles! You hit on a lot of good ideas and I, as a woman, would love to be included as an important part of the process. I think consistent reminders would be good for future readers 🙂
Hey Vivian,
shoot me an email with the ideas you have in mind.
All the intel I needed is right here. One question though. If you pick up women on the street with the intent to add them to your harem, how long does this interaction have to last? Also, I’m already 28. Will this approach work for a 28, 29, 30 year old man to pick up beautiful girls of 20, 21, 22 years? Or will they be put off by the age difference? God, I hope not. By the way, should I even mention age at the first pick up?
The last guy I coached was 38 and he got the number of a 22 year old beauty, so yes it will work. Sometimes you have a connection after 20 seconds, sometimes it takes 20 minutes, you can’t really say that. I think you don’t have to mention your age. I just have to do it because some girls think I am not 18 😀
Global Seducer – A blog where you can get each and every information regarding sex and sex partners. Thank you guys for giving us so much information. I am just loving it.
thanks
In the US, people hug when they meet, but as you are German (and i’m french), isn’t it awkward to hug a woman at the beginning of a date ? And what about with Asians ? when they meet, they don’t even touch each other, they do a little sign with the hand…
I always hug a woman at the beginning of a date. No matter if I am in the USA, Germany or Asia.
No matter where you are ,if her eyes and vibe say hug me then you hug her.
yes now that’s what i’m doing, it’s funny how something which seemed acward to me some month ago now seems perfecly normal just because i started to do it, just take action and the fear collapse
I am proud that you took action. I hope your comment inspires others to do the same.
I’m not sure that the fact she lets you touching her leg is necessary the proof that she wants to have sex with you, i have not been abble to go anywhere with a coworker (we studies in the same university) who accepted that our legs was totaly glued during 2 hours while we were at the university cafeteria.
In my experience women are only confident to sit so close with a guy when they are attracted to him. If she sits with you like that for two hours there is DEFINITELY some attraction (even if she might suppress it because you are coworkers).
Ok so i must have destroyed this attraction because now she shows absolutely no interest. She is always with her women friends and never takes a minute to come and talk, i was the only one “chasing” her.
But i also Wonder if Asian women are educated to avoid to be rude with men, so they will never be honest and give signs that they aren’t attracted.
It really depends on the Asian woman. If she comes from a very traditional background it can be quite tricky to find out if she is attracted to you.
Thanks !
What do you mean by traditional ? Catholic for example ?
So a girl who had that kind of education would be more likely to not let the guy know that she isn’t attracted, and to always show kindness ?
Also i ask to you because i know that you have traveled in a part of asia, but maybe in that in fact cultures and habits are very different between asian countries.
with traditional I mean “traditional values”, such as being reserved and having strong family values. Such girls tend to be less straightforward than girls who have been raised in a more open way (like Western women – Asian women).
Ha okay so you meant that this kind of woman won’t indicate that she is interested in an open way. In this case she wasn’t even talking to me, i was chasing her, so even if she was reserved (while very nice) i don’t think it’s possible that she was interested.
Anyway that’s one more example of the advantage of being direct, you figureout quickly if you have a chance.
yep, being direct saves you a lot of time.