Do you want to know how to get out of a toxic relationship?
I am well aware of the fact that some of my readers, who search for information about seducing, dating and fucking women, are actually in relationships. I know that some of you guys have girlfriends and maybe even wives who shouldn’t find out that you spend every night reading about all the things that you want to do, once you got rid of her.
In fact, the reason why I decided to write this article is because I got an e-mail today from one of my readers from Italy, who told me that he likes my writing (thanks for that) and that he would love to put all the advice into practice, if he wouldn’t be in a relationship (sorry for that).
I then told him that I am also in a relationship, but that my girlfriend allows me to sleep with other women whenever I want. He then told me that his girlfriend would kill him if he would do that and that he is anything but happy about his situation.
When I then asked him why he is unhappy in his relationship, he wrote me a long list of negative characteristics and behavior patterns that his girlfriend has. After I had read this quite shocking list, I gave him the only advice that my conscience allowed me to give him.
I told him that he has to get out of this relationship as fast as he can. The only answer I got from him was:
“You are probably right. It’s just not that easy. I don’t know how I can get out of this.”
To be honest, it is easy.
If a guy tells me that I am probably right, I already know that what he really wants to say is that he knows that I am right, but that he is too scared to admit it. When he then tells me that it is not as easy as I think I just want to scream “bullshit!” before I wake him up from the illusion he calls his life.
If you want to know how to get out of a toxic relationship you just have to think about your current situation, check off a few boxes and once you checked off all the reasons why you have to break up with her, you just follow a few simple steps to get your life back.
How to Get Out of a Toxic Relationship: Stop Lying to Yourself
Are you ready to check off some boxes and to follow a few simple steps to finally get out of your toxic relationship? Great but before you do that you have to stop lying to yourself.
Do you really think I believe you when you say that it is not that easy?
You know that it is easy, I know that it is easy and even your psychologically sick girlfriend knows that it is easy. So don’t be so fucking melodramatic and act like one of those desperate main characters in Hollywood movies who lie awake every night, because they are too afraid of making a decision.
You don’t need to stay awake all night and you also don’t need to dwell on the feeling of being hopeless and desperate for too long. Stop lying to yourself by saying that you can’t change anything about your situation.
Talking yourself into believing that you can’t change anything about your situation is not even the biggest lie you can tell yourself. Let’s have a look at some other ridiculous things that you might tell yourself, just to avoid facing reality.
If she is a toxic person, you have to get out of this relationship…now!
We Have Good Times
“Well, you know, we not only have bad times, we also have some good times.”
I know, I know. There are times when she doesn’t scream at you like a complete maniac. There are times when you are not trapped in endless arguments. There are times when you don’t think about killing yourself if you have to spend another minute with her. And there are probably also times when she allows you to put your penis inside her vagaga.
These are all signs for a terribly happy relationship that guarantees a fulfilled life until the day you bite the dust!
Stop lying to yourself. A relationship that has some good moments and that is not always bad is not the same as a happy, fulfilling and supportive relationship that exponentially increases your happiness level. Just because 10 days out of 365 are great doesn’t mean that your relationship is great.
If your relationship doesn’t at least consist of 300 amazing days a year, you should run as fast as you can. You might not believe it right now but there are thousands of women out there with whom you can have those 300 days of happiness.
Don’t make the mistake and stay in your shitty relationship, just because you don’t want to accept the fact that it won’t get any better.
It Will Get Better
“My relationship is really bad right now but I am sure that once the dust settles everything will be better.”
You can wait as long as you want but the chance that you will bite in the dust because you see suicide as your only way out is higher than the chance that the dust settles. You might stop arguing for a couple of days and you might even have sex again after you slept on the couch for two weeks but it is only a matter of time until it gets bad again.
How many bad days have you had with her and how many times have you told yourself that it will get better and that this will never happen again?
I know it from my own past relationship and I told myself at least a hundred times that everything will get better, before I finally had the balls to walk away.
Stop telling yourself that everything will get better and start to learn how to get out of a toxic relationship. Yes, it will get better but only if you have the courage to do what you want to do since days, weeks or even months.
I Won’t Ever Find a Girlfriend Again
When I think back to the time when I was about to break up with my ex-girlfriend I remember that I had one big fear. I was convinced that once I broke up with her, I would end up miserable and lonely. I was pretty sure that I would never get another girlfriend again.
Somehow I was right. For the man who I was back then it would have been impossible to attract an emotionally healthy, supportive and caring girlfriend. In case you are such a man right now you have to realize that just because you suck with women today, doesn’t mean that you can’t be a successful seducer tomorrow.
I made the decision to not only leave my old girlfriend behind but also to leave my old life behind.
I was determined to study the art of seduction and to learn how to seduce women and I really hope that you have the same determination.
If you are willing to put in the work and to do whatever it takes to become successful with women, you will be able to attract way more and way better women in your life than you could have ever imagined.
When You Should Get Out of Your Toxic Relationship
Did you stop lying to yourself and are you determined to do everything in your power to become a successful seducer, once you broke up with your terrible girlfriend? Awesome, but before you are telling her that you decided to continue to live your life without her, you should first check off a few boxes that will reveal if breaking up with her is the right thing to do.
The last thing that I want is that learning how to get out of a toxic relationship motivates you to break up with a girl who is absolutely perfect for you.
Just because you had your first verbal fight yesterday doesn’t mean that you have to break up with her today. Just because she didn’t want to have sex with you for one night because she had her period, doesn’t mean that you have to end the relationship. Remember the 300 day rule I talked about earlier. Relationships are never the way they are portrayed in TV commercials.
Having an argument and different opinions from time to time is absolutely normal. Being tired from work and not in the mood to go through the whole Kama Sutra can also happen sometimes.
I just don’t want that you make any rash decisions that you will regret. That’s why I ask you to think about the following questions very carefully. Don’t lie to yourself and don’t whitewash your situation. Being brutally honest will prevent you from wasting your life with the wrong woman.
Is She The Girl of Your Dreams?
Have you read the article I wrote about finding your dream girl? In case you have absolutely no idea how your perfect girlfriend should be, this article will give you a few ideas. Nevertheless, I am pretty sure that I know at least vaguely how you imagine your dream girl.
In case you are like 99% of men on this planet, you are dreaming of a supportive, caring, beautiful, loyal, sexy, seductive, open-minded, loving and respectful girlfriend.
Please let me know in the comments below if I am right. In case I am completely wrong, we have to talk.
Is your current girlfriend your dream girl?
Can you imagine any other women you would rather be in a relationship with?
In case you can at least think of one woman who you would rather want to spend your time in and outside the bedroom with, you have to learn how to get out of a toxic relationship. If the woman you are together with is not your dream girl, you should dump her.
In case you have read about the ten commandments of the global seducer, you know that you should only settle once you have found the woman of your dreams.
Can You Imagine a Future With Her?
You don’t have to imagine kids, a white picket fence and a house with an insane mortgage when you think about the future with your girlfriend.
All you should ask yourself is if the thought of still being together with her in five years makes you smile or scream.
During the time I broke up with my ex-girlfriend I asked myself this question over and over again and whenever I thought about being in this relationship in five years, I had a queasy feeling in my stomach. My stomach and my heart knew the answer long before my brain accepted it.
Ask yourself this question and your brain will have it a lot easier to accept that learning how to get out of a toxic relationship is the best thing you can do at the moment. If your gut tells you that you won’t have a happy future with your girlfriend, you should accept the uncomfortable truth that saying goodbye is better than staying unhappy.
Do You Love Her?
Do you really love your girlfriend? Before you say “yes, of course” you should think about whether the feelings you have for her are rather based on dependency and the fear of loss than on love. Just because you want to throw up by thinking about how some other guy fucks your girlfriend doesn’t mean that you are in love with her.
Those thoughts only say that you your ego couldn’t deal with the fact that somebody else has fun with a woman who once belonged to you. Real love has nothing to do with the drama, jealousy and the possessive mentality that is often mistakenly sold as a feeling of love.
Do you smile when you wake up next to her?
Do you want to hug and cuddle her whenever you see her?
Do you want to cry whenever she says that she loves you?
In case you start to get angry when you even look in her face and if you only want to cry because you can’t tell her that you love her without feeling like a phony liar, you should learn how to get out of a toxic relationship and go on the run.
How to Get Out of Your Toxic Relationship: The Step By Step Guide
Have you stopped lying to yourself?
Did you come to the realization that it is better for you to end this relationship before you are tempted to end your life?
Then it is time to have a look at the individual steps that you need to follow in order to get out of a toxic relationship. Getting rid of a poisonous girlfriend is not as hard as you might think.
Once you have internalized all the 5 steps that I am going to share with you right now I never want to hear the excuse “it’s not that easy” again.
Yes, I am also talking to you my Italian friend 😉
1. Confront Her with Your Misery
What’s the best way to seduce a woman? Honesty!
What’s the best way to break up with a woman? Honesty!
Even though the sentence “honey, we have to talk” is used in nearly every movie, you can still use it to confront your girlfriend with the uncomfortable truth. Sit down with her and tell her exactly what you think and feel.
Let her know that you are frustrated and if you decide to be really honest you can even tell her that you already read an article about how to get out of a toxic relationship, because you have the feeling that your relationship is indeed toxic.
Don’t beat around the bush. Tell her exactly why you are unhappy and list all the negative things that she does. Unless your girlfriend is a really nasty bitch, she will take it to heart and think about what you said.
Now it is on her if she wants to change anything about the situation or not.
2. Wait For a Change (but Not too Long)
Now it is time to wait. I told you at the beginning of this article that the day when her behavior finally changes will probably never come. Nevertheless, I still hope for you that I am wrong.
Maybe she realizes what she did wrong and admits her mistakes.
In case she finally wakes up and starts to do all the things that she never did before, you can wait a few more days before you decide whether or not you want to say goodbye to her. I have seen a lot of guys who came out of destructive relationships and even though a long-lasting change is highly unlikely, it is not impossible.
What if she doesn’t change or what if the change only lasts for a couple of days until she falls back into old habits? Then you should put your knowledge about how to get out of a toxic relationship into practice.
3. Study the Art of Seduction
While you are waiting for her to change, you shouldn’t just waste your time doing nothing. Use this time to prepare yourself for the worst case scenario. One of the best ways you can possibly use the time before a break up is by studying the art of seduction.
I don’t say that you should cheat on her.
All I say is that you can use your time to learn how to seduce women in theory, so that you can put your knowledge into practice as soon as you are a free man.
When you are prepared to go hunting again, you minimize the risk that you stay together with her just because you are afraid that you will never have another woman in bed.
4. Break Up With Her
What if she hasn’t changed? What if she only pretended to care about what you said to her, without changing anything about her bad behavior? Well, then it is time to say goodbye. Tell her that the last conversation you had was the final warning and that you decided that it is better if you go separate ways.
At this stage it is extremely important that you don’t cave in. She might cry, she might scream at you and she might even beg you to give her another chance. In this situation a lot of men make at least one of two crucial mistakes.
Don’t even think about trying it again. She had her chance and in case you will give in now she knows that you will also give in when it happens again, and again and again. What’s the second mistake you have to avoid?
I don’t care if she is naked or if she walks around in the sexiest lingerie she has.
You can do everything but don’t have sex with her!
I promise you that the sex will be fueled with desire, passion and a bunch of other emotions that will make it impossible for you to break up with her.
If you faint in this moment, all you learned about how to get out of a toxic relationship was for nothing and you will stay in the same shitty relationship for another year or decade.
5. Become a Successful Seducer
You just broke up with her. You are confused and you are still scared that you will never get a girl like her, even if she was the most terrible girlfriend in the world. The worst thing you could possibly do now is to not get your ass back on the dating market.
Don’t even think about listening to love songs while you melancholically stare out of the window like a suicidal prisoner. You are finally free and it is time to put all the things you learned on a theoretical level into practice.
Read a few articles, write down your goals and put everything you read about seducing women into practice. Approach women, get some phone numbers, go on a few dates and get a girlfriend who deserves you.
Summed Up Wisdom
How to get out of a toxic relationship? Stop lying to yourself. Don’t think that everything will become better just because you want it to become better and don’t think that it is okay to have 300 bad days a year and just a few good ones. The fear that you will never get a girlfriend again is completely reasonless, especially because you are one of my readers.
If the girl you in a relationship with is not the girl of your dreams, if you don’t want to imagine a future with her and if you don’t love her, you should immediately learn how to get out of a toxic relationship.
Confront her with your thoughts and feelings. Now she knows what you think and you can give her a couple of days to see if the relationship with you is still important to her. Prepare yourself for the worst case scenario by studying the art of seduction. In case everything stays as bad as it was before you talked to her, it is time to say goodbye. Break up with her, get a girlfriend who actually deserves you and don’t look back.
im still with her, shes only nice to me when wanting favours from me and thats the best i see from her , any other time shes complaining, negative and arguing / controlling, telling me what to do, i hate it, she does one small task like feed the cat then she will complain all day about it, i told her i dont expect you to do it nor do i want you to, whereas she wants me to do things which she says and she expects me to do it and when i dont she shows more anger, shes living in my house and im not sure how to get her to leave, when i say to leave she starts making me feel shitty by saying things like, i can never forgive someone who kicks me out of their house, etc etc. she is very dramatic and makes me feel like shit, she wants me to drive her everywhere she needs to go and gets anyry if i say no, i feel heartbroken and controlled like i dont even have the right to say no, i have to do what she says in the way that she wants otherwise deal with the consequences, shes not loving or caring about me, i feel lik im just doing favours and being used , this is my first relationship so i dont know any better, but i want someone where i also matter and someone to understand how i feel too. It’s difficult to live with someone loud and negative and complaining from morning to night, it rubs off and makes you negative too, i went holidays for a month alone and i felt so good and free and living life on my own terms, how can i get rid of her without feeling like shit.
Sebastian Harris says
Yous should run and you should run fast.
I gotta stop going back for the sex which is amazing – my GF lies on a daily basis and has alcohol issues – appreciated the article
Sebastian Harris says
I know so many married men who try to numb themselves with porn. You have to get out of there.
No, my WIFE is not my dream girl, and even though I expressed reservations going in, I went through with it. She is not a bad person, but she is overly dramatic, not in the least bit feminine, incapable of making a meaningful effort, and generally not someone I am in the least bit attracted to. I figured porn use would dull me to this, but I’ve given that up and realise that I want a woman who wants to be a woman, and wants me to be a man.
Thank you. You’ve given me much to think about.