Do you want to know what to text a girl who stopped responding?
Just do the opposite of what I used to do:
I’m not proud of what I did. But heck, that’s what you do when you’re insecure. I had less self-confidence than a worm in a bird nest. And I had just gotten my first smartphone. That was a terrible combination.
To make it short:
I had no idea what to do and that’s why I blamed the ladies.
I tried so many different “rescue messages”. These are the messages you send when she doesn’t text back. You want to rescue the situation. But let’s face it. Most guys make it even worse.
I did it all the time, until I discovered…
Today I want to show you the techniques that make 90% of girls who stopped texting back respond within minutes.
What if She Hasn’t Responded to Your Text? The Rescue Message Rules
Oh man, I had to send so many rescue messages.
I’ve made every mistake in the book. Heck, once I even sent a dick pic to a girl who had put me in the friend zone. I hope she deleted it a long time ago.
So yeah, I struggled.
It took me a long time to learn the rules of rescue messaging. And it took me even longer to develop the patience to not bombard innocent girls with my anger, resentment and hostility. Nowadays, I love to send out rescue messages because I (almost) always get a response.
You will get the same results, at least if you follow these four simple rules…
1. Wait One Day and Send One Message
What to text a girl if she’s not responding?
Well, not something like this…
Admit it. You’ve done it before. Heck, we all have! I’ve done it a hundred times. You’re desperate and you don’t know what to do. Then send the first message. Now you’re hooked and you send another one.
Two minutes later you realize what you’ve done.
I’m sorry to say it, but this technique is even worse than sending an angry message. Okay, sending an angry message AND doing it over and over again is the worst option. But still, you don’t want to be the next guy who terrorizes her with his smartphone.
Here’s why the number one is so important:
That’s all you need to do and all you should do.
2. Don’t Complain or Whine
Yes, I’m a millennial, but even I realized that I’m not entitled to a reply.
Here’s what not to text a girl if she’s not responding:
There’s no logical reason to get angry at women for not responding to your texts. Complaining about how mean she is or whining about how unfair the world is won’t help.
Instead, listen to Yoda:
Imagine you’re texting with a girl and you don’t respond. You’re busy and you have a lot of work to do. You forget it. The next day you look at your phone and you see the following message…
“Why didn’t you reply, huh? I was waiting for you! That’s so rude!”
Do you still want to meet this girl?
Please don’t say “yes”. And no, I don’t care if she has the most amazing body on planet earth. Every man with standards would put this girl in the friend zone.
What? You wouldn’t?
Then you HAVE TO read my book Rise of the Phoenix.
3. Give Her the Feeling that You Don’t Care
Be indifferent to the outcome.
I know. That’s easier said than done. I mean, you are here because you want to know what to text a girl who stopped responding. It’s easier for you to snort a condom up your nose (don’t do that!) than to be indifferent to the outcome.
Here’s the good news:
You don’t have to be indifferent. You just have to make her believe it.
Give her the feeling that you don’t care about whether or not she replies and she will reply. Big surprise…women want you more when you don’t care about them. That’s the best way to make girls chase you.
Here are some qualities of a guy who doesn’t give a flying beep:
And don’t worry.
I’ll show you the exact messages you can send to make her believe that you’re worth chasing.
4. Make Her Want to Respond
She stopped responding to your texts.
Why on earth should this suddenly change?
Let’s say you asked her about her day and then, nothing, silence. You don’t even know if she’s still alive. Imagine you send her the same message again, this time as a rescue message.
What do you think will happen?
It’s the same message and the same emotion. She has no reason to respond because her emotional reaction to your message hasn’t changed. This is the key. Change her emotional reaction and her action will change.
Here’s what you want her to feel:
Trigger these emotions and she will respond faster than a bullet.
Here’s What to Text a Girl if She’s Not Responding
Now you know the rules.
It’s your choice. You can ignore these rules and continue to send angry messages to girls you’ll never hear from again. But hey, even Yoda agrees with me. And we all know that Yoda has texted more Jedi’s than anyone in the freaking galaxy.
But you want more than a few rules:
Am I right?
In case I am, you should continue reading…
1. Ask Her if She Has Been Abducted
That’s my favorite.
It’s so simple and yet, so effective. Every man who asks himself what to text a girl who is not responding has to memorize one word. The magic word is called abducted. Alternatively, you can use kidnapped…depending on the situation.
Here are some texts I like to send:
- “Have you been abducted by aliens? Tell me where they took you.”
- “I don’t trust your dog. I’m pretty sure he has kidnapped you. I’ll bring a bone.”
- “I know you’ve been kidnapped by a Colombian drug lord. Tell him that I have the money.”
There are several reasons why this type of message works:
Most girls read this message and don’t even realize that you only sent it because she didn’t reply. But once you say it, she’ll love it even more. Yep, aliens and drug lords are the perfect excuse to send her one last message.
2. Make Fun of Your Own Texting Mistake
Remember what I did wrong in the past?
Believe me. You are not the only guy who makes texting mistakes. We all make them. Heck, I sent texts that are the definition of embarrassment. I met girls who wanted to sleep with me and who changed their minds just because of my pathetic texts.
What if a woman stopped responding because of a texting mistake?
You have two options:
Option #1: Pretend as If it never happened.
Option #2: Turn your mistake into an advantage.
We both know that option #1 doesn’t work. You messed up and she knows it. Pretending as if nothing happened makes it only worse. Instead, you should accept your mistake, move on, and make the best out of it.
Here are some texts that do exactly that:
- “I can’t believe I tortured you with such a boring conversation. Let’s change that with a smiley.”
- “Usually I’m funnier than Jim Carrey, but I had a really bad day. My dog pooped in my lunchbox.”
- “Sorry for the 2343 texts I sent you. My Parkinson’s made me do it. Now I’m healed.”
Make fun of your own mistakes and she’ll forgive you…and respond.
3. Send Her a Funny Gif or Meme
Here’s what to text a girl who stopped responding:
Okay, that’s not entirely true. You don’t send her nothing. You just don’t send her written words. Thanks to the internet we have people who snort condoms and eat tide pots…but enough with the negativity.
The internet gave us memes and Gifs.
You don’t always have to text her something to rescue the situation. A funny meme or a stupid Gif can be better than the most sophisticated message. The good news is that you can choose from thousands of different memes and Gifs.
How about this one?
I get it. You don’t like this one. It’s too politically incorrect. Mhh…then let’s find one that’s more inappropriate. Oh yeah, you will love this one…
There are dozens of websites where you can find the right meme or Gif. Use the power of memes and she’ll respond. But I have to warn you. She might respond with a meme or a Gif too.
4. Send Her a Voice Message
Voice messages are awesome.
You can send them on WhatsApp, Facebook and LINE.
I’m sure you can send voice messages on any other messenger app in the history of messenger apps. And believe me, they can be very effective. In fact, whenever I text with a girl, I send more voice mails than regular messages.
Here’s why I love to send them:
It’s hard to express emotions via written words. Yes, you can use smileys, but it’s easier to talk in a funny or sarcastic way than to write in a funny and sarcastic way. I mean, I try it in every article and you haven’t chuckled once (really?!).
Send one of the following voice messages and she will reply:
- “If you don’t reply within the next five minutes your phone will run away from you.”
- “You can’t deny your feelings when you hear the sound of my voice.”
- “You have to respond to this sexy voice. Right? Right?!”
Speak and you shall receive a reply.
5. Show Her What She’s Missing Out On
I mentioned FOMO before.
Yes, I’m talking about the fear of missing out. Women have this fear even more than men. And thanks to the fact that most girls are addicted to social media, most women feel this fear 24/7.
Play with her fear.
Give her the feeling that she’s missing out on something and she’ll respond. Most girls don’t text back because they assume you’re boring. Let’s face it. She would text back if she knew that you’re an adventurous guy.
Why don’t you show her how adventurous you are?
Here’s what to text a girl who hasn’t responded:
- “I’m camping with friends and I just thought how much fun we would have if you were here now.”
- “I just booked a flight to Brazil. Have you ever been there? I’m so excited!”
- “I think about going to a concert of Artist X but I don’t think you like him.”
You already know that she loves Artist X…
Here’s What NOT to Text a Girl if She’s Not Responding
Let me end this article by sharing three no-goes with you.
While writing down all the rules you should follow and messages you should send, I remembered some of my worst texting mistakes. In fact, I remembered the exact day they happened. God, that feels so terrible.
I have to share them with you.
I don’t want to do this because I love to humiliate myself. Nope, I have another goal in mind. I want to make sure that you never, ever, ever send one of the following three texts. I’ve done it and it backfired every single time.
Here are three texts to avoid with a girl who stopped responding...
1. Don’t Send a Serious LOL Message
The serious message with a funny ending…
Here’s how it goes:
It doesn’t work. It has never worked and it will never work.
Ending the message with LOL, ROFL, or a stupid smiley doesn’t make it funny. If you complain that she didn’t text back and you put LOL at the end, you still complain. Nothing has changed. She knows it and you know it too.
Smileys don’t cover the truth.
2. Don’t Excuse Yourself for Being Drunk
Allow me to introduce the “sorry, I was drunk” message.
The drama in three acts:
I did this so many times with so many girls. Ladies, in case any of you reads this article: I’m deeply sorry for being such a dumb idiot. Do yourself a favor and don’t do what I did. I complained, confessed my love, and cursed pretending I was drunk.
Here’s the truth:
If she doesn’t want you sober, she for sure doesn’t want you drunk and rude.
3. Don’t Blame Your Friend for It
I hate to admit it but I also did that.
I still remember the day. I was in high school and I was totally in love with this girl. Okay, I wasn’t really in love with her. Let’s say I was so desperate for female validation that I decided to put this average-looking girl on a pedestal.
Yep, there was a time when I was a pathetic loser.
Here’s what my old loser self-did:
Do you want to avoid embarrassing yourself like I did?
Then follow the advice I shared with you today and discover how to make girls text you, chase you, and approach you.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know what to text a girl who stopped responding? Then you have to learn the rules. Make her laugh and or give her the feeling that she’s missing out on something amazing. Give her a reason to respond.
I love to use aliens as an excuse, but you can also use Colombian drug lords. If that doesn’t work, you can send her a funny meme or a Gif. And never underestimate the power of a voice message…unless you sound like a chipmunk.
Please don’t do what I did. You don’t have to embarrass yourself with false blames. She knows that you were sober and she also knows that your friends didn’t steal your phone.