Okay, this is one of the weirdest things I ever did…and it includes two hot Laos bar girls.
Nope, not what you’re thinking, you dirty bastard!
I didn’t have sex with them. I didn’t even touch them. And I’m still together with my girlfriend…at least until I hit publish.
Last week I had to make a visa run. It sucks but I thought I might be able to make use of the otherwise wasted time.
I was right.
Right after arriving in Vientiane (Viang Chan), the capital of Laos, I went to the city center (which is not that hard to find) to talk to girls. My goal was to find a beautiful woman who could teach me about the Laotian dating culture and the hopes, dreams, and preferences of the local women.
Unfortunately, nobody spoke English. I guess I should have set up a date with a sexy Laos girl on the largest Asian dating site before I arrived. Now it was too late.
I was about to give up when I noticed a shady-looking bar with bright neon signs.
I went in, sat down and I didn’t have to wait long until three beautiful and one not so beautiful Laos bar girls sat next to me. One of them spoke no English. Two of them spoke a little.
I ended up talking with them until a drunk Australian dude barfined the one on my left. And I learned more about the true nature of Laotian women and about what they are looking for than I could have imagined…
My Observation: Laotian Girls are More Sabai Sabai than Thai Girls
In this article I’m going to share 9 dreams, insights, opinions (or however you want to call it) that the average Laos girl has.
But first, let me tell you something about the women in Laos…
The girls in Vientiane are so much more relaxed than the girls in Bangkok. They are the definition of sabai sabai, even though they are not Thai. Okay, they have the same facial features and the same skin tone as Thai girls from Isaan. But they are different, very different.
- They are extremely shy.
- They are so friendly.
- They are really bad at English.
9 Dreams of Two Laotian Women I Met in Vientiane
That’s why I had to talk to two bar girls to get the information that I’m about to share with you…which was actually quite fun.
The only thing that’s not so fun is Vientiane, at least not if you’re into chaos, parties, and clubs. I enjoyed the peace, the quietness, and the fact that there weren’t thousands of suicidal motorbike drivers that tried to kill me.
Besides the two bar girls I talked to, I didn’t see any women with tattoos and short pants that revealed their ass cheeks. Most of the girls in Laos are wearing traditional Laotian costumes.
P.S. I interviewed bar girls but I asked them questions about dating normal girls.
Have a look at what they had to say…
1. Laos Girls Dream of Being Beautiful Brides
I know that this sounds stupid, considering the fact that I interviewed bar girls, but hear me out…
Even the Laos girls who work in the bars dream about marriage. One girl told me that she still believes that, one day, she will find her foreign prince who makes her his bride. The other girl showed her agreement with a bright smile.
No matter if they work in a bar, in a hotel, or in a convenient store, they all have the same dream.
2. Beautiful Laotian Women Do Not Want Rich Chinese Husbands
“But…” one of them said.
“We do not want a Chinese husband!”
When I asked them why, they told me all kinds of horror stories about some of their friends who had been abused by their Chinese husbands. Later I did some research. Apparently, this is a huge problem among Laotian mail order brides.
This article from the China Morning Post writes it as if the girls scam their husbands, but I found dozens of resources that write about the physical, sexual, and emotional abuse of Laotian and Cambodian women who married Chinese men.
I don’t say that all Chinese men are bad, but I do say that you’ll have a hard time to convince her that you’re a kind and gentle guy…at least if you’re Chinese.
3. Hot Laos Girls Dream about Marrying a Western Man
It only takes about one hour from Vientiane to Udon Thani, one of the largest cities in the Isaan region of Thailand.
The girls look similar and they have the same dream:
Marrying a Western man!
Why do you think so many Isaan girls do everything to date a Farang?
They believe in the tales...
- They believe that foreigners can support them and their children.
- They believe that foreigners treat them better than the local guys.
- They believe that foreigners are more loyal.
The women in Laos believe in the same tales and they believe in them even stronger. The way one of the two bar girls described her future foreign husband reminded me of Disney’s Cinderella.
I didn’t want to shatter her dreams…
4. Women from Laos Want a Better Life for Themselves (and for Their Children)
Is it really so hard to understand why these two girls ended up working in a bar?
It’s not that they decided to have some fun after graduating from law school. They had no other choice. However, that doesn’t mean that they don’t have dreams for the future and for the future of their children.
They both want children. But they first need a husband.
There are not many bars in Vientiane, but the girls who work in them are REALLY poor. If I were you, I would join this Asian dating site instead of looking for a Laotian girlfriend in one of the bars.
The last time I checked, I could find more than 780 female members from Laos.
5. The Women of Laos Dream of a Vientiane full of Farangs
“There are not enough foreigners in Vientiane!” one of them complained.
Besides stoned hippies and hairy hippie girls, I didn’t see a lot of foreigners. One of the girls had the same experience. She told me that she had worked in a bar in Bangkok before and the number of Thai/Farang couples she saw every day blew her mind.
There is no dating scene in Laos.
It’s hard for bar girls to find a decent foreigner and it’s even harder for normal girls because they neither meet nor talk to one.
“If there were more foreigners here, we wouldn’t have to work in a bar…” the younger one said.
6. Laotian Women Have a Forbidden Dream
There might be a logical explanation for the Farang deficit in Vientiane.
I’m not 100% sure if it’s true, but here’s an excerpt of the special travel circumstances in Laos:
“Relationship with Lao Citizens: Lao law prohibits sexual contact between foreign citizens and Lao nationals except when the two parties have been married in accordance with Lao Family Law.”
Here’s another one:
“Foreigners are not permitted to invite Lao nationals of the opposite sex to their hotel rooms; police may raid hotel rooms without notice or consent.”
Seriously, how many guys who travel to Laos KNOW that and WHY can the two girls I interviewed work as bar girls?
Of course, neither of the two knew about this law. But I did my research. And even though I know that this is an extremely traditional country, I had no idea that it is illegal to have sex with foreigners.
The question is: Has this law ever been enforced?
I mean, in Thailand prostitution is forbidden by law and…well…you know. All I know is that it's safer to get a fiance visa for her before you get in trouble.
7. Lao Women Don’t Want to Be Brides of their Customers
I hope you are not one of their customers.
In case you are, it will be damn hard for you to find a good Laotian girlfriend or wife. Some bar girls might want to marry you, but only the ones who are really desperate.
Let me tell you a secret…
Laos bar girls hate their job. They are disgusted by their work. Deep down they want to find a guy who doesn’t play games with them and who they don’t have to play games with. They are sick and tired of the games.
If you’re looking for a girl whose down to you know what, you’ll have more fun (without paying for it) in the Marina night club in Vientiane.
These girls are looking for fun. For a bar girl a guy who is looking for fun is just another number who orders a beer in a bar. For a traditional Laotian woman he doesn’t even exist.
8. A lot of Laos Women Dream of Dating You (They Just Don’t Know Where to Find You)
“I can continue to dream, right?”
That was her answer when I asked her if she still wants to meet a foreign man. Then I showed her something. I showed her the dashboard of my AsianDating account.
I thought that she has seen it before. Heck, I was sure that she’s a member.
The were both shocked and surprised.
“I can meet foreign men? Here?”
Then I showed her the profiles of all the Laotian women who had already joined the site and chatted with Western men. My search showed 783 female members from Laos.
She couldn’t believe her eyes.
“How can I sign up?” she asked me.
I showed her, step by step.
9. These Two Laos Girls Have the Dream that their Dreams Come True
These two bar girls reminded me of the average female X Factor candidate.
Deep down they know that it will never happen but they continue to believe. They continue to dream about being the beautiful bride of a foreign man. I’m just afraid that this day will never come.
They have worked as bar girls for too long.
There are thousands of beautiful Laos girls who have the same dream and who haven’t sold their body to the highest bidder. These girls still have a chance. Their dream might come true.
And who knows, maybe you are the foreign prince for one of them…
Summed Up Wisdom
What would you do if you had to travel to Laos because of a visa run?
I interviewed two bar girls about the local dating culture and the hopes and dreams of Laotian women.
One thing I learned is that they all have the same dream, no matter if they work in a bar or in a hotel. They want the tales about the handsome, rich and kind Western gentlemen to be true. However, they don’t want to marry their customers and men who abuse them.
Their biggest dream is an endless supply of foreign men in their capital city. Unfortunately, they often don’t know how to meet Western men. That’s why I showed them the profiles of Laotian women on the world’s largest Asian dating site. Needless to say, they continue dreaming.