Dating Thai girls is dangerous and it can change your life forever.
In the following paragraphs I am going to cover everything about the beautiful women that live in the Land of Smiles. I am going to talk about the traps, stereotypes and the biggest mistakes foreigners can make, the bulletproof way to find the right girl, the dating culture and so much more.
I am really passionate about this article and I invested a lot of time in it. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it.
- But why am I so passionate about the girls from this South East Asian country?
- What is it about this country and about its women that motivates me to inspire you to pack your suitcase and book a flight?
Even though I am 100% German I have Thailand in my DNA
My grandparents spend ten years of their life in this country and my father spent his childhood in Bangkok and Chiang Mai.
The first time I traveled to Thailand felt exciting and new, but the moment I stepped out of the airplane I knew that I was home. It might sound weird but I feel more at home when I am in Bangkok than when I am in the town I was born and raised.
I have lost track of how many times I traveled to this country, how many beautiful women I met and how many unforgettable moments I experienced. All I can remember is that this country allowed me to meet the most wonderful woman I have ever met.
Yes, I love my Thai girlfriend. She is smart, educated and from a wealthy family, but what’s even more important is that she is everything I ever wanted in a woman.
I hope that I can inspire and motivate you with this article to visit this wonderful country, to immerse into the local dating culture, to connect with amazingly beautiful Thai girls and to maybe find a woman who is just half as amazing as my incredible girlfriend.
But be careful to not end up in the arms of the wrong girl…
3 Popular Thai "Girl" Dating Traps
Yes, I am a big fan of the women in this beautiful South East Asian country, but that doesn’t mean that I see things through rose-colored glasses.
Despite all the wonderful Asian women I have met from Bangkok to Chiang Mai, I know that not every smile is real.
Dating in Thailand has its traps and if you are not careful you will fall in one. And if you are naive and dazzled enough you might not be able to get out of it.
1. The Ladyboy Trap
What’s the most painful trap you can possibly fall into in Thailand?
Waking up next to a woman who is not a woman is definitely the worst case scenario.
If you ask me, waking up next to a woman with a thick sausage between her/his legs is a good reason for an intense therapeutic session.
I honestly thank god, Buddha and every force in the universe that I never made this terrible experience. Thanks to the wisdom of a 79 year-old friend of my grandmother who lives in Thailand since the early 1960s I learned very soon that I have to be careful.
“Be careful of the most beautiful women. They are men”
Those were her exact words and I am very thankful for her advice.
The uncomfortable truth is that a lot of professional models and even some actresses in Thailand are ladyboys. Sometimes you see it, but sometimes you don’t. In case you are one of the guys who claim that “every idiot can spot a ladyboy”, you should have a look at this resource.
Be careful to not leave this beautiful country with a terrifying memory that haunts you for the rest of your life.
You don't want to be that guy.
2. The Semi Professional Trap
Another popular trap that newly arrived male tourists fall in are the semi pro girls. No, I am not talking about bar girls. The dangerous thing about the semi pros is that they have the same intention as bar girls. They just hide it behind the mask of a loving and caring girlfriend.
These girls tend to come from the poor Isan region and work in low-paid jobs in Bangkok. They don’t make their money in bars, but it is obvious that the 7.000 Baht ($190) she earns every month don’t pay for her new IPhone and designer clothes.
You can find a lot of semi pros in nightclubs that are mainly visited by foreigners, such as the Insanity club in Bangkok and you can find hordes of them in the bars and clubs around Khaosan Road.
Their intention is pretty obvious:
They go to the places that are packed with foreigners in the hope to find a sponsor.
Dating those girls can lead to a lot of disappointment. In the beginning they make you believe that they love you. After one week they ask for taxi money. After two weeks they coincidentally see a new smartphone that they want to have. They usually give you a lot of red flags that I am going to share with you later on in this article.
3. The Thai Bar Girl Dating Trap
I am not proud to say this but the majority of Western men who have Thai wives or girlfriends ended up in a relationship with a former bar girl. I estimate that at least 80% of Caucasian/Thai relationships are between naïve men and former prostitutes who won the jackpot.
- I know how hard the temptation can be
I don’t say that all men who date those girls dug their own grave. Some of them are really happy with their decision.
Nevertheless, I have to warn you about dating a Thai bar girl.
I have met quite a few frustrated guys whose Thai wife treats them badly. I have also met a homeless man near Silom Street in Bangkok who told me that he had built a house for his bar girl wife before she kicked him out of that house.
You can call them bar girls, but when it really comes down to it they are just prostitutes and dating a Thai prostitute is never a good idea. It shouldn’t come to a surprise that prostitutes want money. You really have to understand that those girls are trained by their families since they were children that one day they will marry a “rich” foreigner.
For them it’s not about love, it’s about survival.
4 Reasons Why Most Foreigners Date Thai Bar Girls
Thai bar girls come from poor families, most of them are illiterates, their life goal is to find a foreigner who is dumb enough to support them and a lot of them continue to earn their money by spreading their legs once they are in a so-called relationship.
And yet, thousands of Western men fall for them.
It’s really fascinating.
Thousands of men come to a country that is full of beautiful, educated and genuine girls (I’ll later show you how to spot them) and they have nothing better to do than to end up with street hookers and pole dancers.
The question is: Why?
1. They Don’t Know it Any Better
Finding a Thai woman is easy, but finding the right woman is a lot harder. And some men just don’t know it any better.
Sounds dumb, but it is actually true. You won’t believe how many men I have met with their girlfriends who didn’t even know that their Thai girlfriends were prostitutes. Those retards translated “I work in a bar” into “I work behind a bar”.
Welcome to la la land, the country in which naïve Western men are dumb enough to believe that the expression “bar girl” actually means “girl who is working in a bar”.
Bar girl = working girl
And no, there is no exception to this rule, no matter how many times she tells you that she doesn’t sleep with customers. They is something that is called a “bar fine” and old dudes don’t pay it to take her to McDonalds.
2. They Think Dating a Thai Bar Girl Is Normal
Thank you television!
You are not only the number one reason why our society is declining to hordes of mindless sheep, you also made dating Thai bar girls a normal thing.
Thanks to countless documentaries about Thailand that only show Pattaya, no sorry, that only show the Walking Street in Pattaya and maybe Nana Plaza or Soi Cowboy in Bangkok, thousands of men believe in the following equation:
Bar girl = Thai girl
That’s generalization on a whole new level.
The math is simple. If you believe that all sexy Thai girls are bar girls, you consider dating a bar girl as the most normal thing in the world.
Well, it’s not.
3. They Want Some Fun With a Thai Bar Girl
Maybe you are not naïve enough to believe her when she says “I just dance” and maybe you don’t haven’t seen any documentaries about Thailand
Then you probably spend your time with bar girls.
I don’t judge you for your decision. You are a free man and you can do with your money whatever you want. As long as you treat her good and don’t spread some nasty stuff, there is nothing wrong in helping poor girls to earn more than the average Thai employee.
4. They Believe Her When She Says “I Love You”
Love is the most wonderful feeling on earth.
The simple words “I love you” can make your heart thump and your life worth living. However, if those powerful words come out of the mouth of the wrong woman, they can lead to a lot of drama, resentment and shattered dreams. This is especially true when you are a man who hasn’t had any “luck” with girls back home.
Seriously, don’t go to Thailand before you have at least basic seduction skills.
If you ignore this advice you might end up like the poor guys who invest all their money in a house for their bar girl girlfriend who says “I love you” whenever she needs money. I promise you that she won’t hear “I love you” when she kicks you out.
- This is no joke. This is the cold hard reality.
Always remember: Loving a Thai woman can be the most beautiful thing on eart, but falling in love with the wrong Thai girl can destroy you.
Why You Want to Date One of These 3 Thai Women
Now that you know which girls you should avoid, it is time to have a look at the types of beautiful Thai women that make wonderful lovers, partners and wives.
Not all girls in the Land of Smiles are money-hungry hookers who have a skype account full of sponsors.
Thanks to my big social circle (I actually know more people in Thailand than in Germany) and my obsession to find out more about the local dating culture, I met a lot of sexy Thai girls who are definitely girlfriend material.
Some of them were my lovers, some of them have become close friends and one of them is the girl on my side. All of them can be put in one of the following three categories.
1. Family-Oriented Low Class Girl
Yes, there are some low class girls who see you as a walking ATM. That’s the harsh reality. However that doesn’t mean that all low class girls are heartless women who want to get spoilt.
Some of those girls are genuine, have strong family values and are willing to support the man who takes care of them. Of course they are looking for a man who earns at least an English Teacher Salary (about $800), but this has nothing to do with gold-digging.
Such a girl looks for a man who is financially well off, because she knows that it is absolutely impossible to raise a family with her salary. But that doesn’t mean that she can’t be a supportive girlfriend and an excellent mother.
If you can speak basic Thai and you want to get married to a traditional Thai girl, dating a family-oriented low class girl can be a good choice.
2. Educated Middle Class College Girl
In case you are like me and you are not a big fan of supporting your girlfriend financially, the educated middle class college girls are the ones you should focus on. My girlfriend falls into this category.
Finding a Thai woman who falls into this category is not that hard, especially when you are looking for her in Bangkok.
They usually come from a good family, are well-educated and open to date foreigners. They are intelligent enough to distinguish between creepy sex tourists and adventurous and interesting Global Seducers like you and me.
Thai ladies combine the best of both worlds.
They come from middle class families who raised them with traditional values. At the same time they don’t expect you to pay for everything, because they and their families are financially independent.
Being together with such a girl is the same as being together with a Western girl. The only difference is that binge drinking and complaining are not her biggest hobbies.
3. High Society Thai Girl
The high class girls are Bangkok’s richest, most diverse inhabitants.
There are basically three types of high class girls:
- You might just look into the eyes of a girl who is ten times as rich as you
- The ones whose life consists of parties, alcohol and drugs
- The ones who found meaning beyond daddy’s credit card
- The ones who made it from the bottom
If I were you I would stay away from category one. Those girls are nothing but drama, drama and drama.
I have dated one of those girls and besides partying on the weekend, uploading photos on Instagram and destroying their body with drugs that are bought with daddy’s credit card, there is nothing interesting about them.
When you are dating Thai girls in Bangkok you will meet a lot of these girls.
High class girls in category two are different. A lot of them are ex party girls who realized that drinking and taking drugs doesn’t lead to fulfillment. They usually spend their time doing yoga and working as designers or models. They can be excellent girlfriends.
The third category of high class girls consists of working professionals who grew up poor and climbed the ladder of success. One of my best friends falls in this category. She works 60-80 hours a week as a CEO assistant, has to cancel every date and hasn’t had a boyfriend in years. Dating professional Thai women can be extremely fulfilling. Approach her and she will be all over you.
5 Qualities of Good Thai Girls You Can't Resist
No matter if you end up with a low class girl, a middle class girl or a high society girl, she should be an awesome person, great lover and wonderful girlfriend.
I mean, it would be stupid to date outside the Western hemisphere, just to end up with a manly dragon who disrespects everything and everyone. I am sure you could have that back home.
A man who decides to pursue hot Thai women is a man who is looking for certain qualities in a partner.
1. Meeting a Thai Woman with a Beautiful Body is Easy
When I walked through Bangkok for the very first time I asked myself one question over and over again:
“Where are all the whales?”
Then I went to Khaosan Road and ta-da….
I found them.
You won’t fully realize the obesity epidemic in the West until you travel to Thailand for the very first time. The direct comparison is like a slap in the face. The painful realization that you used to date girls who weight twice as much as your new Thai girlfriend will be a huge wake-up call.
You can call me a superficial man, but I am just saying what everyone thinks.
I never met a man who prefers an overweight and manly “woman” over a thin and feminine woman with a heartwarming smile.
2. Only Date Thai Women with a Nurturing Side
If you would ask me about the one thing that I appreciate the most about my girlfriend, I would say that it is her nurturing and supportive attitude.
When I am stressed, she is there for me. When I am hungry, she cooks for me. When I need someone to talk to she listens and supports me 100%. She is simply amazing.
For me she is the epitome of traditional femininity.
Who wouldn’t want to date such a girl?
3. Meeting a Thai Woman with Strong Family Values is Even Easier
Her family values define how she treats you (nurturing and supportive), but also how she sees you.
While many Western girls tend to see their boyfriends as temporary sexual partners they date in a serially monogamous way, your Thai girlfriend sees you as a life partner and as a part of her family.
Do you see the difference when it comes to valuing you?
When you meet the right Thai girl you are more than just her boyfriend and she lets you feel this with her behavior, her words and with the way she looks at you.
4. The Respectful Behavior of Thai Women
Please raise your hand if you have ever seen a Western girl publicly degrading her boyfriend. In case you didn’t raise your hand you have probably never been to the USA, England, Germany or any other Western country.
Where I come from making fun of men is a national sport and whenever a woman embarrasses her boyfriend, she gets encouraged by the “you go girl!” laughter.
This is considered normal.
But should it be normal?
I don’t think so and I haven’t met one single Thai girl from the three above mentioned categories who considered it to be normal.
There is a reason why I have met so many teachers in Thailand who wouldn’t even come back if someone put a gun to their head. The kids are raised to respect other people and the girls are raised to respect men. Respect is also important in the Thai dating culture.
Yes, this simple word that the West has forgotten about still has a meaning in Thailand.
5. Why You Should Look for a Thai Woman With a Healthy Submissiveness
One amazing quality of sexy Thai girls is their healthy submissiveness.
Now that I just said that I can already hear the angry screams of feminists and social justice warriors:
“That’s discriminating. He just wants a submissive sex doll and not a woman!”
I want a woman and not a man.
I am not talking about submissiveness in the sense of a slave. I am talking about submissiveness in the sense of a woman who is happy to be a woman. I am talking about a feminine woman who craves a masculine man who leads her.
That’s the healthy female submissiveness that nurtures a relationship and that allows fulfillment for both partners.
Lonely and frustrated Western girls forgot this. Traditional Thai girls know this. And I know you want a beautiful girlfriend who loves and respects you.
How to Find a Nice Thai Girl
I warned you about the Thai babes you have to avoid and I made your mouth watering by talking about all the positive qualities your future girlfriend will have.
You are ready to approach and seduce the most beautiful and feminine women in this exotic country.
But wait a moment.
How do you know that the next girl you approach is girlfriend material?
Well, you can take this test and have a look at the following signs that show you whether or not you fell in the bar girl or semi pro trap.
Find Thai Women Who Speak English
Her level of English can reveal a lot about her family background. If you are on a date with a high society girl or a middle class girl, a basic conversation shouldn’t be a problem, especially when she studies at an international university.
Just have a look at the English level of most bar girls and you’ll get what I mean:
- "Hey handsome, where you go?"
- "You cannot!"
- "You funny man!"
I think that says it all.
Find the Right Thai Girl With Racism (Sad but True)
I hate to say it but Thailand is a racist country, which is also why white guys have a slight dating advantage over black guys.
White skin is considered beautiful and many high society girls are half Chinese and have a lighter skin tone, while the girls from the poor Isan region or the Southern part of Thailand have a darker skin.
In addition to that, they spend a lot of their money on whitening crème and umbrellas to protect their skin from sunlight.
Tip from my light-skinned Thai girlfriend: Even though white skin is considered beautiful in Thailand many exceptionally beautiful Thai girls with light skin don't believe that Western men are attracted to them. Thanks to all the foreigners who date dark-skinned bar girls from Isaan, Thai people believe that Western men are only attracted to dark-skinned women.
This is true.
When I walk hand in hand with my girlfriend we get stared at as if we were aliens. Believe it or not, but some of the most beautiful women in the Land of Smiles believe that they could never get a Western boyfriend or husband. Talk to them and you will see.
Find a Thai Girl Who Doesn't Speak Like a Chipmunk
Educated people use other communication patterns than uneducated people. This is a universal law.
In Germany uneducated people tend to say “weißt du” (you know) and “alter” (dude) at the beginning of every sentence.
In the USA uneducated people end every sentence with “though” and “you know what I’m sayin’?”
And guess what? Uneducated women in Thailand use different language patterns than educated women. The tricky thing is that you need to speak basic Thai to hear the difference.
In case you don’t speak a word of Thai, an extremely nasal voice and long-drawn-out words are red flags.
Good Thai Girls Don’t Dress to Undress
Despite the stereotype that all Thai women are bar girls, Thailand is a very traditional country. Just try to enter a Buddhist temple with a shirt that doesn’t cover up your shoulders and you’ll know what I am talking about.
While you see many tattooed bar girls with belly tops and shorts that barely cover her butt cheeks, middle and high class girls dress a bit more conservatively.
If my girlfriend would walk around like that, her family would freak out.
Good Thai girls might dress to impress, but they never dress to undress.
Where to Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Where do you meet hot Thai girls?
No, I am not talking about bar girls. If you want to spend your hard-earned money on hookers, you can close this article right now, because the following advice won’t be of interest to you.
If you, however, fantasize about meeting, attracting and dating incredibly beautiful, feminine and fun Thai girls, you must stick around.
How to Meet Thai Girls During the Day
Thailand is a day game paradise.
Yes, some Thai babes won’t speak very good English, but I can’t think of any other major city in Asia that offers such an abundance of beautiful, nice and friendly women who are extremely receptive to foreigners.
Some good day game spots are:
- Bangkok: Siam Paragon, Central World, Lumphini Park, Khao San Road
- Chiang Mai: Promenada Resort Mall
- Pattaya: the beach, Central Festival
- Phuket: Beach Road/Thaweewong, The Garden Phuket Luxury Mall
Just open her with “excuse me, do you speak English?” and enjoy looking at a smiling and giggling girl.
Just remember how to greet a Thai woman properly. You don't just shake her hand as you would do with a Western woman. The only way to greet a Thai woman properly is by doing the way. Yep, that's how it's done...
The Beauty of Dating Thai University Students
In case you want to date Thai university students, you should have a look at this article and you should thank God for making you a man.
You are in paradise.
Bangkok has dozens of colleges that are packed with beautiful and intelligent university students who are ready to meet you.
Her are a few colleges where you can find hundreds of beautiful women:
- Chulalonkorn University
- Thammasat University
- Bangkok University
- University of the Thai Chamber of Commerce
In case you are not an exchange student and you still want to meet sexy young Thai girls, you can hunt in a 200 meter radius around the college.
If you are younger you can also approach girls on campus, but if you are a bit older you might get into trouble with the security.
How to Meet a Normal Thai Girl At Night
You are into night game?
Then read this article to learn how to pick up girls in clubs and be careful that you don’t end up in bed with a girl who expects you to pay or a “girl” with a dong.
The best clubs for night game in Thailand are:
Enjoy your time and be a bit suspicious when a girl approaches you. She might want you to pay for her company.
How to Meet Thai Girls Online
Bangkok is a day game paradise, has dozens of colleges with beautiful college girls and more clubs than you could possibly visit.
Nevertheless, the Thai dating culture (more on that later) makes it sometimes a bit difficult to connect in a fast and direct way.
The solution to this problem is called…
Online Dating in Thailand!
I have met dozens of amazing girls online. Heck, if I hadn’t signed up at Thai Cupid, I wouldn’t have met the woman of my dreams.
There are hundreds of dating sites for men all over the world who look for sexy Thai girls, but there is just one that I can truly recommend:
It is the best Thai girl dating site and offers an abundance of beautiful women, an excellent service and you can join for free.
There are so many beautiful Thai women who are looking for a date with a Farang.
What are you waiting for?
How to Ask a Thai Girl on a Date
You know where to meet women in Thailand, but do you also know how to attract them?
You might believe that “Thai girls are easy” because one of your buddies who had sex with a few random bar girls said so. Think again.
Why should a beautiful, intelligent and financially independent woman settle for a man who has nothing to offer?
It doesn’t work like that.
If you want to date the most beautiful and most amazing girls in this country, you have to set yourself apart from THIS:
Stand Out From the Crowd
The first rule of attracting the top 10% of women in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Phuket and even Pattaya is to be different.
Please don’t fulfill the stereotype of the terribly overweight sweaty foreigner in a tank top, Bermuda shorts, sandals and white socks.
Those girls have already met enough of those creeps.
As a man who wants to attract an amazing Thai lover or girlfriend, you know that you have to stand out from the crowd. In other words, forget about being a tourist and begin to behave like a citizen.
Trade your tank top for a nice shirt. Trade your Bermuda shorts for a pair of jeans. Trade your sandals and white socks for a pair of sneakers.
Now you look like a man who belongs in a big capital city like Bangkok.
The Thai Dating Culture is Different
You often hear me talking about being sexual, straightforward and direct.
This is good advice for nearly every part of the world, but it can backfire in the Land of Smiles.
Thailand’s collectivistic culture doesn’t necessarily value outspokenness. The positive side of this is a high level of respect. The negative side is a mental overload when faced with straightforward behavior.
You can approach her with a direct compliment, but you need to give her a bit of time and a lot of space.
How to Talk to Thai Girls
Did I mention that the women in Thailand are very shy in public?
Did I also mention that they sometimes freeze when they talk to a foreigner?
In some way talking to German girls is the same as talking to Thai girls. They are not used to talking to strangers and you are the one who has to initiate and maintain the conversation.
Don’t be confused when the only answer you get is “thank you”, “hi hi hi” and “khop khun ka”.
Speak a Few Basic Words in Thai
Not walking around like a creepy sex tourist helps a lot, but the ultimate weapon to attract a beautiful girl in Bangkok is to speak a few basic words in Thai.
Nope, you don’t have to sign up for a language course, even though I highly recommend Thaipod 101. I use it myself and I make steady progress 😉
All you need to sweep her off her feet is Sebastian’s Basic Vocabulary for your Thai dating success:
- Sawadee Krap – Hello
- Bpen yang –rai bang – How Are you?
- Yin-dii thii daai ruh jak – nice to meet you
- khun suay maak – you are very beautiful
- phom rak khun – I love you
Most foreigners don’t speak any Thai at all. Therefore, a few basic expressions are enough to make her smile.
Red Flag Thai Dating Behavior
Now that you know how to attract women in Thailand, you are ready for the next phase. You are ready for your first date with a beautiful Thai girl.
You approached her, she smiled. You texted her, she replied. You are excited to meet her and then THIS happens…
The Infamous Double Date
When it comes to dating women in Thailand, there are three major red flags you should look out for. The first one is the infamous Thai double date.
Nope, she doesn’t bring another couple. She brings her friend, or her cousin, or her friend and her cousin, or her five friends and six cousins.
I once met a guy who told me that he has been on a date with a girl who brought her whole family.
- It must have been a wonderful date
She might do it because she is scared to meet you alone, but she might also do it because she, her friends and her family hope to get an all-inclusive menu. Be careful who you end up paying for.
Your Thai Woman Asks for Money aka Window Shopping
Taking a foreigner to the mall is the most common first date move of the semi pros. What appears to be a normal date is actually window shopping at its finest.
It usually goes like this:
She meets you at a café. You talk for twenty minutes (you talk and she plays with her phone). After twenty minutes you ask her what she wants to do and she says “go to the mall”. You go to the mall. As soon as you are in the mall she takes your hand, leads you in one shop after another and looks at you like a cute little puppy whenever she sees something she likes.
Don’t fall for this trick.
Your Thai Woman Asks for Money aka The Sick Buffalo Lie
“My grandmother is sick”
“My buffalo has diarrhea”
I once met a girl who tried to tell me that all her 9 siblings have cancer.
Don’t believe a word she says when she throws the sick buffalo lie at you.
I actually met a really, really dumb Farang who opens his wallet whenever a girl tells him about her sick “INSERT ANY HUMAN OR ANIMAL”.
This captain save a hoe was dumb enough to believe that giving money to the family of your girlfriend is a part of the Thai culture.
Here’s what my girlfriend said:
8 Final Thai Girl Dating Tips
Now that I have shared everything about meeting and attracting hot Thai girls that I learned during my dozens of trips to the Land of Smiles, I want to close this article with some final dating and seduction tips.
The following 8 Thai dating and seduction tips are the cherry of the cake. If you follow them, your dates will be awesome, your relationships will be happy and you won’t die a horrible death.
1. Buy Condoms Before You Come To Thailand
While I wrote this article my girlfriend encouraged me to mention one very important tip:
Buy condoms before you come to Thailand!
I once had the pleasure to have sex with a Thai condom that was advertised as a maximum size condom. To be honest, this disaster doesn’t even deserve to be described as having sex.
It took me more than a minute to put it on and I had to remove it after another minute, because I was afraid that my friend would shuffle off this mortal coil.
2. Get a Line ID ASAP
I am pretty sure that you have WhatsApp and I am also sure that none of the girls you approach have ever heard of it.
In Thailand nobody uses WhatsApp. Everyone uses LINE. It’s basically the Asian version of WhatsApp with a lot of ridiculous smileys that girls love to send whenever they don’t understand your English gibberish.
Get a LINE ID before you approach the first girl. There’s really no way around it.
3. Eat on Your First Date with a Thai Girl
Whenever you ask yourself how to make a Thai girl happy, you just need to to think about one simple word: Food.
Thai people absolutely love to eat and they love it even more when they do it with other people. Instead of taking her to a café or a bar, you should rather take her to a nice restaurant or one of many street stands.
- A bowl of noodles can lead to a night of passion
In most Western countries going to a restaurant on the first date is seen as trying too hard. In Thailand it is seen as two people who share a meal.
And don’t be afraid of a high bill. Even if she fails the money test, you won’t have to pay more than $5.
4. Make the Money Test
What’s the money test?
The money test is the easiest way to find out if a girl went on a date with you or with your wallet.
You simply tell her upfront that you want her to pay for her stuff because you only want to spend time with girls who are into you.
If she is an educated and financially independent girl, she will understand it. If she makes a scene, you know what you are dealing with.
5. Physical Intimacy in the Thai Dating Culture
Subtle touches on a date are totally fine, but only if nobody sees it.
Thai people are very conservative when it comes to showing affection in public. While it is okay to hold hands when you are in a relationship with her, too much physical contact in public will make her extremely uncomfortable.
You wouldn’t be the first guy who gets a rejection because he was too pushy.
6. Kiss Her at Your Place
There is only one thing that is even worse than touching a Thai girl in public and that’s kissing her in public. It doesn't matter how much you are in love with a Thai woman. You need to wait until you are in a private environment.
It gives me the creeps whenever I have to watch such a drama in four acts.
- Act 1: The overly enthusiastic Farang tries to kiss his Thai date or girlfriend
- Act 2: Her face turns into a red balloon that screams “that’s so embarrassing!”
- Act 3: He wonders why she acts coy and tries it again
- Act 4: She gives in and promises herself to break up with this idiot
Respect the local dating customs and you will succeed.
7. Sex With a Thai Girl on the First Date is Possible (So Is the Virgin Shock)
If you are dating a bar girl I can promise that you will get laid on the first date, but it probably has a price. If you are dating a girl from one of the three categories I introduced to you in this article, sex on the first date is possible, but not guaranteed.
Don’t be surprised when you go on a date with a 21 year old girl and she tells you that she is a virgin when you are already half naked. You are not in New York City where you won’t find a female virgin who is older than 16.
Some good girls are so good that they won’t have sex with you.
Be creative. There are other pleasurable things you can do.
8. Dating Sexy Thai Girls Is All about Sanuk
Speaking of pleasure…
An important aspect of the Thai culture is “sanuk”.
Directly translated this word means “fun”, but as Roy Cavanagh says it means more than just fun. It’s a cultural concept that says that you should derive satisfaction and pleasure from everything you do.
As long as you combine the advice, cultural insights and little ticks that I shared with you in this article with sanuk, you will have the time of your life in the country that allowed me to meet the woman of my dreams.
How to Make a Thai Girl Love You
Imagine you meet a beautiful Thai woman…
She loves to eat with you and to laugh with you. But it gets even better. She doesn’t have a sick water buffalo and the last time she visited her grandmother that old lady didn’t need money.
She has a job and no, it’s not in a bar.
She works long hours, but she’s not one of these girls who need a sponsor. In fact, her pride forbids her to take your money. She passed the money test and even though she doesn’t want to kiss you in public, she loves to kiss you whenever she sits next to you on the sofa or cuddles with you in your bed.
She is quite inexperienced, but the more time you spend together, the more you find out what she likes, what she doesn’t like and, how she imagines her future.
She sounds just like my Thai girlfriend, but she’s not. She’s yours. At least, you want her to be yours. You are in a love with a Thai woman and now you want to know if she also loves you.
How to Tell if a Thai Girl Likes You
How do you know if she really likes you?
How can you be sure that she wants to be your girlfriend?
Well, you already know that the public display of affection is frowned upon in Thailand. But did I also tell you that Thai people in general don’t like to show affection? My girlfriend can’t even remember if her parents ever said “I love you” to each other.
Even though we talk a about everything in our relationship, it’s still hard for her to talk about her feelings. Of course, this doesn’t apply to bar girls. A bar girl will say “I love you” before she asks for your name.
But when the woman of your dreams is a high society girl or an educated college girl, talking about her emotions is not her biggest strength.
So, how do you tell if a Thai girl likes you?
She does it anyway.
And I don’t mean that she says “I love you na kaaaa” while she plays with her smartphone. Some girls do that, but not the ones you want to keep. No, a Thai girl who is girlfriend material will do something else.
When she is in bed with you and feels the urge to talk about her feelings, she will say “I love you” with a shivering voice and a scared facial expression.
Because talking about her feelings is extremely uncomfortable for her. But when she really likes you, she does it anyway.
Can a Thai woman love a Farang?
My Thai girlfriend comes from a wealthy family. She never asked me for money. She has absolutely no reason to lie to me when she says that she loves me. In fact, she had tears in her eyes when she said it the first time.
Can a Thai woman love a Farang?
The answer is yes.
You are two human beings. In the same way as a white woman can love a black man or a black woman can love a white man, a Thai can love a Farang. Love doesn’t know race.
But I know why you are asking yourself this question.
You’ve read all the horror stories of Thai women who lied to their husbands. Heck, I even told you about the most popular scam, the “I kick you out of your own house” scam. And yes, this can happen to you when you choose the wrong woman.
What if you choose the right woman?
The right woman, by definition, is someone who really loves you and who wants to be with you. She wants to be with you because of the way you are and not because of the house you built for her in the Isan.
Choose wisely before you fall in love with a Thai woman.
The Truth about Living with a Thai Woman
In exactly two months I will move to Bangkok, but I’ve lived together with my Thai girlfriend many, many times. Sometimes I visited her for four weeks, sometimes for three months. Whenever I was in Thailand, she was with me.
When it comes to living with a Thai woman, I have a lot of experience.
And in my experience, there’s nothing more beautiful thank living together with a Thai girl. I’m serious. It’s awesome.
I mean, just imagine you wake up next to a woman who is so beautiful that words can’t describe it. Now imagine that this woman snuggles up to you when she wakes up and kisses you while you hold her.
She cooks the most delicious meals for you. She takes care of you like no woman has ever before. And if you are really lucky she gives you amazing back massages.
I’m not that lucky. I don’t feel anything when my girlfriend tries to massage me, but maybe your future girlfriend has stronger hands.
That’s the truth about living with a Thai woman, at least from my perspective.
What Are Thai Girlfriends Like?
Not all women are the same and my girlfriend is certainly different than most women in Thailand. I always joke that she’s half German and half Thai. She’s perfect for me.
But there are certain things that all Thai girls have in common:
So, what are Thai girlfriends like?
- She wants to have fun and she wants to be entertained. Prepare yourself for a lot of sanuk.
- She loves everything that’s sweet. It still amazes me how these women can eat so much sweet stuff and still be so thin.
- She loves Korean Pop Music. And she has a crush on at least one of the boy band members.
- Even though expressing her feelings is not her biggest strength, she loves all kinds of romantic movies and TV shows.
- She can cook. Thai women really know how to cook. Yummy!
- She will never understand Western feminists. Whenever you try to explain it to her, she’ll just nod with her head.
- She takes care of her body and is very conscious about her weight.
- She treats you like a king, at least when you treat her like your queen.
That’s how Thai girlfriends are really like.
How to Make a Thai Girl Happy in a Relationship
Here are the simple two things you need to do to make a Thai girl happy:
1. Be yourself
2. Respect the Thai culture
Unfortunately, most Western men are very good at being themselves, but absolutely terrible when it comes to number two. The men who combine these two aspects are the ones with happy girlfriends and wives.
There’s a reason why she dates you and not a Thai guy. She wants to be with you because you are different and because a relationship with you gives her the freedom that a relationship with a local guy wouldn’t give her.
Believe it or not, but Thai men can be control freaks. They want to control what their girlfriend wears, what she says and how she behaves. Simple things, such as touching your head, can be an unforgivable mistake.
She likes that you are different.
However, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t certain cultural rules that you should follow. You just have to look at all the hot Thai girls who are together with Farangs who are extremely loud, who try to kiss them in public, and who talk disrespectfully about the Thai culture or the Buddhist religion.
Look into the eyes of these girls and you’ll see a very unhappy woman.
As long as you are yourself, treat her good, and respect the Thai culture, she will be happy. Oh, and take off your shoes before you enter the house.
How to Marry a Thai Woman and Live With Her in Thailand
“Will you marry a Thai woman?”
Since I announced that I have a Thai girlfriend, three guys already asked me when I will get married. I mean, I can understand that you want to go to my wedding (we would have a great time), but I have to disappoint you.
Let me first move to Bangkok and then we’ll see.
What if you are looking for a Thai woman to marry?
You’ve just read this article. You know more about finding, attracting and dating Thai women than 99% of guys out there.
What if you want to know how being married to a Thai woman really is?
I just told you everything about your future girlfriend and about how it will be to live with her. This won’t change when you put a ring on her finger.
But what if you want to marry a Thai woman and live with her in Thailand?
Well, I’m not an expert on that but I did my research.
The Future of the White Man Thai Woman Relationship
Things are changing and they are changing pretty fast.
Two decades ago Farangs had an extremely bad reputation. The majority of the white men who came to Thailand were sex tourists. The rest were pioneers like my grandfather who brought Western technology to Asia.
Back then most Thai people believed in the following equation:
White people = sex tourists
Thanks to the rise of the internet more and more Western men had the chance to meet Thai women far away from the bar scene. Online dating sites and marriage agencies helped Farangs like you and me to meet beautiful Thai women with normal jobs and sincere hearts.
People began to look differently at white man Thai woman relationships.
Thanks to the digital nomad movement and the growing number of expats, the perception of white men in Thailand continued to change.
Today we are so far that the parents of a 23 year-old Thai woman allow a German expat to move together with their daughter.
As a man who dreams about having a Thai girlfriend or wife, this is the best time to be alive.
Summed Up Wisdom
In case you travel to Thailand for the very first time you should be careful. Don’t fall for the ladyboy trap, the semi pro trap and the bar girl trap. You are a Global Seducer, which means that not knowing any better or saying that “it is normal” are not an excuse to end up with the wrong girls, unless you want to end up with bar girls, in which case you are wrong on this site.
The Thai girls a confident and life-affirming seducer should look for are good girls from the low, middle and high class. They are beautiful, nurturing and they are proud of their femininity. They are easily to detect by observing their English language abilities, the color of their skin, the way they talk and the way they dress. You can meet those girls in the daytime, in clubs, in colleges or on Thai Cupid.
As long as you stand out from the crowd and speak a few basic words in Thai you are good to go. Just make sure that you don’t fall for the buffalo lie and that you don’t end up supporting her whole social circle. If you adhere to a few simple Thai dating rules and follow the sanuk mentality, you will have the time of your life in Thailand.