Dating Thai girls is dangerous and it can change your life forever.
In the following paragraphs I am going to cover everything about the beautiful women that live in the Land of Smiles. I am going to talk about the traps, stereotypes and the biggest mistakes foreigners can make, the bulletproof way to find the right girl, the dating culture and so much more.
I am really passionate about this article and I invested a lot of time in it. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it.
- But why am I so passionate about the girls from this South East Asian country?
- What is it about this country and about its women that motivates me to inspire you to pack your suitcase and book a flight?
Even though I am 100% German I have Thailand in my DNA
My grandparents spend ten years of their life in this country and my father spent his childhood in Bangkok and Chiang Mai.
The first time I traveled to Thailand felt exciting and new, but the moment I stepped out of the airplane I knew that I was home. It might sound weird but I feel more at home when I am in Bangkok than when I am in the town I was born and raised.
I have lost track of how many times I traveled to this country, how many beautiful women I met and how many unforgettable moments I experienced. All I can remember is that this country allowed me to meet the most wonderful woman I have ever met.
Yes, I love my Thai girlfriend. She is smart, educated and from a wealthy family, but what’s even more important is that she is everything I ever wanted in a woman.
I hope that I can inspire and motivate you with this article to visit this wonderful country, to immerse into the local dating culture, to connect with amazingly beautiful Thai girls and to maybe find a woman who is just half as amazing as my incredible girlfriend.
But be careful to not end up in the arms of the wrong girl…
3 Popular Thai "Girl" Dating Traps
Yes, I am a big fan of the women in this beautiful South East Asian country, but that doesn’t mean that I see things through rose-colored glasses.
Despite all the wonderful Asian women I have met from Bangkok to Chiang Mai, I know that not every smile is real.
Dating in Thailand has its traps and if you are not careful you will fall in one. And if you are naive and dazzled enough you might not be able to get out of it.
1. The Ladyboy Trap
What’s the most painful trap you can possibly fall into in Thailand?
Waking up next to a woman who is not a woman is definitely the worst case scenario.
If you ask me, waking up next to a woman with a thick sausage between her/his legs is a good reason for an intense therapeutic session.
I honestly thank god, Buddha and every force in the universe that I never made this terrible experience. Thanks to the wisdom of a 79 year-old friend of my grandmother who lives in Thailand since the early 1960s I learned very soon that I have to be careful.
“Be careful of the most beautiful women. They are men”
Those were her exact words and I am very thankful for her advice.
The uncomfortable truth is that a lot of professional models and even some actresses in Thailand are ladyboys. Sometimes you see it, but sometimes you don’t. In case you are one of the guys who claim that “every idiot can spot a ladyboy”, you should have a look at this resource.
Be careful to not leave this beautiful country with a terrifying memory that haunts you for the rest of your life.
You don't want to be that guy.
2. The Semi Professional Trap
Another popular trap that newly arrived male tourists fall in are the semi pro girls. No, I am not talking about bar girls. The dangerous thing about the semi pros is that they have the same intention as bar girls. They just hide it behind the mask of a loving and caring girlfriend.
These girls tend to come from the poor Isan region and work in low-paid jobs in Bangkok. They don’t make their money in bars, but it is obvious that the 7.000 Baht ($190) she earns every month don’t pay for her new IPhone and designer clothes.
You can find a lot of semi pros in nightclubs that are mainly visited by foreigners, such as the Insanity club in Bangkok and you can find hordes of them in the bars and clubs around Khaosan Road.
Their intention is pretty obvious:
They go to the places that are packed with foreigners in the hope to find a sponsor.
Dating those girls can lead to a lot of disappointment. In the beginning they make you believe that they love you. After one week they ask for taxi money. After two weeks they coincidentally see a new smartphone that they want to have. They usually give you a lot of red flags that I am going to share with you later on in this article.
3. The Thai Bar Girl Dating Trap
I am not proud to say this but the majority of Western men who have Thai wives or girlfriends ended up in a relationship with a former bar girl. I estimate that at least 80% of Caucasian/Thai relationships are between naïve men and former prostitutes who won the jackpot.
I know how hard the temptation can be
- I know how hard the temptation can be
I don’t say that all men who date those girls dug their own grave. Some of them are really happy with their decision.
Nevertheless, I have to warn you about dating a Thai bar girl.
I have met quite a few frustrated guys whose Thai wife treats them badly. I have also met a homeless man near Silom Street in Bangkok who told me that he had built a house for his bar girl wife before she kicked him out of that house.
You can call them bar girls, but when it really comes down to it they are just prostitutes and dating a Thai prostitute is never a good idea. It shouldn’t come to a surprise that prostitutes want money. You really have to understand that those girls are trained by their families since they were children that one day they will marry a “rich” foreigner.
For them it’s not about love, it’s about survival.
4 Reasons Why Most Foreigners Date Thai Bar Girls
Thai bar girls come from poor families, most of them are illiterates, their life goal is to find a foreigner who is dumb enough to support them and a lot of them continue to earn their money by spreading their legs once they are in a so-called relationship.
And yet, thousands of Western men fall for them.
It’s really fascinating.
Thousands of men come to a country that is full of beautiful, educated and genuine girls (I’ll later show you how to spot them) and they have nothing better to do than to end up with street hookers and pole dancers.
The question is: Why?
1. They Don’t Know it Any Better
Finding a Thai woman is easy, but finding the right woman is a lot harder. And some men just don’t know it any better.
Sounds dumb, but it is actually true. You won’t believe how many men I have met with their girlfriends who didn’t even know that their Thai girlfriends were prostitutes. Those retards translated “I work in a bar” into “I work behind a bar”.
Welcome to la la land, the country in which naïve Western men are dumb enough to believe that the expression “bar girl” actually means “girl who is working in a bar”.
Wake up!
Bar girl = working girl
And no, there is no exception to this rule, no matter how many times she tells you that she doesn’t sleep with customers. They is something that is called a “bar fine” and old dudes don’t pay it to take her to McDonalds.
2. They Think Dating a Thai Bar Girl Is Normal
Thank you television!
You are not only the number one reason why our society is declining to hordes of mindless sheep, you also made dating Thai bar girls a normal thing.
Thanks to countless documentaries about Thailand that only show Pattaya, no sorry, that only show the Walking Street in Pattaya and maybe Nana Plaza or Soi Cowboy in Bangkok, thousands of men believe in the following equation:
Bar girl = Thai girl
That’s generalization on a whole new level.
The math is simple. If you believe that all sexy Thai girls are bar girls, you consider dating a bar girl as the most normal thing in the world.
Well, it’s not.
3. They Want Some Fun With a Thai Bar Girl
Maybe you are not naïve enough to believe her when she says “I just dance” and maybe you don’t haven’t seen any documentaries about Thailand
Then you probably spend your time with bar girls.
I don’t judge you for your decision. You are a free man and you can do with your money whatever you want. As long as you treat her good and don’t spread some nasty stuff, there is nothing wrong in helping poor girls to earn more than the average Thai employee.
4. They Believe Her When She Says “I Love You”
Love is the most wonderful feeling on earth.
The simple words “I love you” can make your heart thump and your life worth living. However, if those powerful words come out of the mouth of the wrong woman, they can lead to a lot of drama, resentment and shattered dreams. This is especially true when you are a man who hasn’t had any “luck” with girls back home.
Seriously, don’t go to Thailand before you have at least basic seduction skills.
If you ignore this advice you might end up like the poor guys who invest all their money in a house for their bar girl girlfriend who says “I love you” whenever she needs money. I promise you that she won’t hear “I love you” when she kicks you out.
- This is no joke. This is the cold hard reality.
Always remember: Loving a Thai woman can be the most beautiful thing on eart, but falling in love with the wrong Thai girl can destroy you.
Why You Want to Date One of These 3 Thai Women
Now that you know which girls you should avoid, it is time to have a look at the types of beautiful Thai women that make wonderful lovers, partners and wives.
Not all girls in the Land of Smiles are money-hungry hookers who have a skype account full of sponsors.
Thanks to my big social circle (I actually know more people in Thailand than in Germany) and my obsession to find out more about the local dating culture, I met a lot of sexy Thai girls who are definitely girlfriend material.
Some of them were my lovers, some of them have become close friends and one of them is the girl on my side. All of them can be put in one of the following three categories.
1. Family-Oriented Low Class Girl
Yes, there are some low class girls who see you as a walking ATM. That’s the harsh reality. However that doesn’t mean that all low class girls are heartless women who want to get spoilt.
Just because this is her house doesn't mean that she is a bad person
Some of those girls are genuine, have strong family values and are willing to support the man who takes care of them. Of course they are looking for a man who earns at least an English Teacher Salary (about $800), but this has nothing to do with gold-digging.
Such a girl looks for a man who is financially well off, because she knows that it is absolutely impossible to raise a family with her salary. But that doesn’t mean that she can’t be a supportive girlfriend and an excellent mother.
If you can speak basic Thai and you want to get married to a traditional Thai girl, dating a family-oriented low class girl can be a good choice.
2. Educated Middle Class College Girl
In case you are like me and you are not a big fan of supporting your girlfriend financially, the educated middle class college girls are the ones you should focus on. My girlfriend falls into this category.
Finding a Thai woman who falls into this category is not that hard, especially when you are looking for her in Bangkok.
They usually come from a good family, are well-educated and open to date foreigners. They are intelligent enough to distinguish between creepy sex tourists and adventurous and interesting Global Seducers like you and me.
Thai ladies combine the best of both worlds.
They come from middle class families who raised them with traditional values. At the same time they don’t expect you to pay for everything, because they and their families are financially independent.
Being together with such a girl is the same as being together with a Western girl. The only difference is that binge drinking and complaining are not her biggest hobbies.
3. High Society Thai Girl
The high class girls are Bangkok’s richest, most diverse inhabitants.
There are basically three types of high class girls:
- You might just look into the eyes of a girl who is ten times as rich as you
- The ones whose life consists of parties, alcohol and drugs
- The ones who found meaning beyond daddy’s credit card
- The ones who made it from the bottom
If I were you I would stay away from category one. Those girls are nothing but drama, drama and drama.
I have dated one of those girls and besides partying on the weekend, uploading photos on Instagram and destroying their body with drugs that are bought with daddy’s credit card, there is nothing interesting about them.
When you are dating Thai girls in Bangkok you will meet a lot of these girls.
High class girls in category two are different. A lot of them are ex party girls who realized that drinking and taking drugs doesn’t lead to fulfillment. They usually spend their time doing yoga and working as designers or models. They can be excellent girlfriends.
The third category of high class girls consists of working professionals who grew up poor and climbed the ladder of success. One of my best friends falls in this category. She works 60-80 hours a week as a CEO assistant, has to cancel every date and hasn’t had a boyfriend in years. Dating professional Thai women can be extremely fulfilling. Approach her and she will be all over you.
5 Qualities of Good Thai Girls You Can't Resist
No matter if you end up with a low class girl, a middle class girl or a high society girl, she should be an awesome person, great lover and wonderful girlfriend.
I mean, it would be stupid to date outside the Western hemisphere, just to end up with a manly dragon who disrespects everything and everyone. I am sure you could have that back home.
A man who decides to pursue hot Thai women is a man who is looking for certain qualities in a partner.
1. Meeting a Thai Woman with a Beautiful Body is Easy
When I walked through Bangkok for the very first time I asked myself one question over and over again:
“Where are all the whales?”
Then I went to Khaosan Road and ta-da….
I found them.
You won’t fully realize the obesity epidemic in the West until you travel to Thailand for the very first time. The direct comparison is like a slap in the face. The painful realization that you used to date girls who weight twice as much as your new Thai girlfriend will be a huge wake-up call.
Consider this image as your wake-up call...
You can call me a superficial man, but I am just saying what everyone thinks.
I never met a man who prefers an overweight and manly “woman” over a thin and feminine woman with a heartwarming smile.
2. Only Date Thai Women with a Nurturing Side
If you would ask me about the one thing that I appreciate the most about my girlfriend, I would say that it is her nurturing and supportive attitude.
When I am stressed, she is there for me. When I am hungry, she cooks for me. When I need someone to talk to she listens and supports me 100%. She is simply amazing.
For me she is the epitome of traditional femininity.
Who wouldn’t want to date such a girl?
3. Meeting a Thai Woman with Strong Family Values is Even Easier
Her family values define how she treats you (nurturing and supportive), but also how she sees you.
While many Western girls tend to see their boyfriends as temporary sexual partners they date in a serially monogamous way, your Thai girlfriend sees you as a life partner and as a part of her family.
Do you see the difference when it comes to valuing you?
When you meet the right Thai girl you are more than just her boyfriend and she lets you feel this with her behavior, her words and with the way she looks at you.
4. The Respectful Behavior of Thai Women
Please raise your hand if you have ever seen a Western girl publicly degrading her boyfriend. In case you didn’t raise your hand you have probably never been to the USA, England, Germany or any other Western country.
Where I come from making fun of men is a national sport and whenever a woman embarrasses her boyfriend, she gets encouraged by the “you go girl!” laughter.
This is considered normal.
But should it be normal?
I don’t think so and I haven’t met one single Thai girl from the three above mentioned categories who considered it to be normal.
There is a reason why I have met so many teachers in Thailand who wouldn’t even come back if someone put a gun to their head. The kids are raised to respect other people and the girls are raised to respect men. Respect is also important in the Thai dating culture.
Yes, this simple word that the West has forgotten about still has a meaning in Thailand.
5. Why You Should Look for a Thai Woman With a Healthy Submissiveness
One amazing quality of sexy Thai girls is their healthy submissiveness.
Now that I just said that I can already hear the angry screams of feminists and social justice warriors:
“That’s discriminating. He just wants a submissive sex doll and not a woman!”
Wrong!
I want a woman and not a man.
I am not talking about submissiveness in the sense of a slave. I am talking about submissiveness in the sense of a woman who is happy to be a woman. I am talking about a feminine woman who craves a masculine man who leads her.
That’s the healthy female submissiveness that nurtures a relationship and that allows fulfillment for both partners.
Lonely and frustrated Western girls forgot this. Traditional Thai girls know this. And I know you want a beautiful girlfriend who loves and respects you.
How to Find a Nice Thai Girl
I warned you about the Thai babes you have to avoid and I made your mouth watering by talking about all the positive qualities your future girlfriend will have.
You are ready to approach and seduce the most beautiful and feminine women in this exotic country.
But wait a moment.
How do you know that the next girl you approach is girlfriend material?
Well, you can take this test and have a look at the following signs that show you whether or not you fell in the bar girl or semi pro trap.
Find Thai Women Who Speak English
Her level of English can reveal a lot about her family background. If you are on a date with a high society girl or a middle class girl, a basic conversation shouldn’t be a problem, especially when she studies at an international university.
Just have a look at the English level of most bar girls and you’ll get what I mean:
- "Hey handsome, where you go?"
- "You cannot!"
- "You funny man!"
I think that says it all.
Find the Right Thai Girl With Racism (Sad but True)
I hate to say it but Thailand is a racist country, which is also why white guys have a slight dating advantage over black guys.
White skin is considered beautiful and many high society girls are half Chinese and have a lighter skin tone, while the girls from the poor Isan region or the Southern part of Thailand have a darker skin.
In addition to that, they spend a lot of their money on whitening crème and umbrellas to protect their skin from sunlight.
Tip from my light-skinned Thai girlfriend: Even though white skin is considered beautiful in Thailand many exceptionally beautiful Thai girls with light skin don't believe that Western men are attracted to them. Thanks to all the foreigners who date dark-skinned bar girls from Isaan, Thai people believe that Western men are only attracted to dark-skinned women.
This is true.
When I walk hand in hand with my girlfriend we get stared at as if we were aliens. Believe it or not, but some of the most beautiful women in the Land of Smiles believe that they could never get a Western boyfriend or husband. Talk to them and you will see.
Find a Thai Girl Who Doesn't Speak Like a Chipmunk
Educated people use other communication patterns than uneducated people. This is a universal law.
In Germany uneducated people tend to say “weißt du” (you know) and “alter” (dude) at the beginning of every sentence.
In the USA uneducated people end every sentence with “though” and “you know what I’m sayin’?”
And guess what? Uneducated women in Thailand use different language patterns than educated women. The tricky thing is that you need to speak basic Thai to hear the difference.
In case you don’t speak a word of Thai, an extremely nasal voice and long-drawn-out words are red flags.
Good Thai Girls Don’t Dress to Undress
Despite the stereotype that all Thai women are bar girls, Thailand is a very traditional country. Just try to enter a Buddhist temple with a shirt that doesn’t cover up your shoulders and you’ll know what I am talking about.
While you see many tattooed bar girls with belly tops and shorts that barely cover her butt cheeks, middle and high class girls dress a bit more conservatively.
If my girlfriend would walk around like that, her family would freak out.
Good Thai girls might dress to impress, but they never dress to undress.
Where to Meet Beautiful Thai Girls
Where do you meet hot Thai girls?
No, I am not talking about bar girls. If you want to spend your hard-earned money on hookers, you can close this article right now, because the following advice won’t be of interest to you.
If you, however, fantasize about meeting, attracting and dating incredibly beautiful, feminine and fun Thai girls, you must stick around.
How to Meet Thai Girls During the Day
Thailand is a day game paradise.
Yes, some Thai babes won’t speak very good English, but I can’t think of any other major city in Asia that offers such an abundance of beautiful, nice and friendly women who are extremely receptive to foreigners.
Some good day game spots are:
- Bangkok: Siam Paragon, Central World, Lumphini Park, Khao San Road
- Chiang Mai: Promenada Resort Mall
- Pattaya: the beach, Central Festival
- Phuket: Beach Road/Thaweewong, The Garden Phuket Luxury Mall
Just open her with “excuse me, do you speak English?” and enjoy looking at a smiling and giggling girl.
Just remember how to greet a Thai woman properly. You don't just shake her hand as you would do with a Western woman. The only way to greet a Thai woman properly is by doing the way. Yep, that's how it's done...
The Beauty of Dating Thai University Students
In case you want to date Thai university students, you should have a look at this article and you should thank God for making you a man.
You are in paradise.
Bangkok has dozens of colleges that are packed with beautiful and intelligent university students who are ready to meet you.
Her are a few colleges where you can find hundreds of beautiful women:
- Chulalonkorn University
- Thammasat University
- Bangkok University
- University of the Thai Chamber of Commerce
In case you are not an exchange student and you still want to meet sexy young Thai girls, you can hunt in a 200 meter radius around the college.
If you are younger you can also approach girls on campus, but if you are a bit older you might get into trouble with the security.
How to Meet a Normal Thai Girl At Night
You are into night game?
Then read this article to learn how to pick up girls in clubs and be careful that you don’t end up in bed with a girl who expects you to pay or a “girl” with a dong.
The best clubs for night game in Thailand are:
- Bangkok: Ku De Ta Club, Levels Club, Route 66
- Chiang Mai: Infinity, Mandalay, Warm Up Café
- Pattaya: Flexx Club, Insomnia, The Pier Pattaya
- Phuket: Seduction Nightclub, White Room Nightclub, New Tiger Disco
Enjoy your time and be a bit suspicious when a girl approaches you. She might want you to pay for her company.
How to Meet Thai Girls Online
Bangkok is a day game paradise, has dozens of colleges with beautiful college girls and more clubs than you could possibly visit.
Nevertheless, the Thai dating culture (more on that later) makes it sometimes a bit difficult to connect in a fast and direct way.
The solution to this problem is called…
Online Dating in Thailand!
I have met dozens of amazing girls online. Heck, if I hadn’t signed up at Thai Cupid, I wouldn’t have met the woman of my dreams.
There are hundreds of dating sites for men all over the world who look for sexy Thai girls, but there is just one that I can truly recommend:
Thai Cupid!
It is the best Thai girl dating site and offers an abundance of beautiful women, an excellent service and you can join for free.
There are so many beautiful Thai women who are looking for a date with a Farang.
What are you waiting for?
Click here to find out how YOU can meet hundreds of beautiful Thai girls online RIGHT NOW!
How to Ask a Thai Girl on a Date
You know where to meet women in Thailand, but do you also know how to attract them?
You might believe that “Thai girls are easy” because one of your buddies who had sex with a few random bar girls said so. Think again.
Why should a beautiful, intelligent and financially independent woman settle for a man who has nothing to offer?
It doesn’t work like that.
If you want to date the most beautiful and most amazing girls in this country, you have to set yourself apart from THIS:
Stand Out From the Crowd
The first rule of attracting the top 10% of women in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Phuket and even Pattaya is to be different.
Please don’t fulfill the stereotype of the terribly overweight sweaty foreigner in a tank top, Bermuda shorts, sandals and white socks.
Those girls have already met enough of those creeps.
As a man who wants to attract an amazing Thai lover or girlfriend, you know that you have to stand out from the crowd. In other words, forget about being a tourist and begin to behave like a citizen.
Trade your tank top for a nice shirt. Trade your Bermuda shorts for a pair of jeans. Trade your sandals and white socks for a pair of sneakers.
Now you look like a man who belongs in a big capital city like Bangkok.
The Thai Dating Culture is Different
You often hear me talking about being sexual, straightforward and direct.
This is good advice for nearly every part of the world, but it can backfire in the Land of Smiles.
Thailand’s collectivistic culture doesn’t necessarily value outspokenness. The positive side of this is a high level of respect. The negative side is a mental overload when faced with straightforward behavior.
You can approach her with a direct compliment, but you need to give her a bit of time and a lot of space.
How to Talk to Thai Girls
Did I mention that the women in Thailand are very shy in public?
Did I also mention that they sometimes freeze when they talk to a foreigner?
In some way talking to German girls is the same as talking to Thai girls. They are not used to talking to strangers and you are the one who has to initiate and maintain the conversation.
Don’t be confused when the only answer you get is “thank you”, “hi hi hi” and “khop khun ka”.
Speak a Few Basic Words in Thai
Not walking around like a creepy sex tourist helps a lot, but the ultimate weapon to attract a beautiful girl in Bangkok is to speak a few basic words in Thai.
Nope, you don’t have to sign up for a language course, even though I highly recommend Thaipod 101. I use it myself and I make steady progress 😉
All you need to sweep her off her feet is Sebastian’s Basic Vocabulary for your Thai dating success:
- Sawadee Krap – Hello
- Bpen yang –rai bang – How Are you?
- Yin-dii thii daai ruh jak – nice to meet you
- khun suay maak – you are very beautiful
- phom rak khun – I love you
Most foreigners don’t speak any Thai at all. Therefore, a few basic expressions are enough to make her smile.
Red Flag Thai Dating Behavior
Now that you know how to attract women in Thailand, you are ready for the next phase. You are ready for your first date with a beautiful Thai girl.
You approached her, she smiled. You texted her, she replied. You are excited to meet her and then THIS happens…
The Infamous Double Date
When it comes to dating women in Thailand, there are three major red flags you should look out for. The first one is the infamous Thai double date.
Nope, she doesn’t bring another couple. She brings her friend, or her cousin, or her friend and her cousin, or her five friends and six cousins.
I once met a guy who told me that he has been on a date with a girl who brought her whole family.
It must have been a wonderful date
- It must have been a wonderful date
She might do it because she is scared to meet you alone, but she might also do it because she, her friends and her family hope to get an all-inclusive menu. Be careful who you end up paying for.
Your Thai Woman Asks for Money aka Window Shopping
Taking a foreigner to the mall is the most common first date move of the semi pros. What appears to be a normal date is actually window shopping at its finest.
It usually goes like this:
She meets you at a café. You talk for twenty minutes (you talk and she plays with her phone). After twenty minutes you ask her what she wants to do and she says “go to the mall”. You go to the mall. As soon as you are in the mall she takes your hand, leads you in one shop after another and looks at you like a cute little puppy whenever she sees something she likes.
Don’t fall for this trick.
Your Thai Woman Asks for Money aka The Sick Buffalo Lie
“My grandmother is sick”
“My buffalo has diarrhea”
I once met a girl who tried to tell me that all her 9 siblings have cancer.
Don’t believe a word she says when she throws the sick buffalo lie at you.
I actually met a really, really dumb Farang who opens his wallet whenever a girl tells him about her sick “INSERT ANY HUMAN OR ANIMAL”.
This captain save a hoe was dumb enough to believe that giving money to the family of your girlfriend is a part of the Thai culture.
Here’s what my girlfriend said:
8 Final Thai Girl Dating Tips
Now that I have shared everything about meeting and attracting hot Thai girls that I learned during my dozens of trips to the Land of Smiles, I want to close this article with some final dating and seduction tips.
The following 8 Thai dating and seduction tips are the cherry of the cake. If you follow them, your dates will be awesome, your relationships will be happy and you won’t die a horrible death.
1. Buy Condoms Before You Come To Thailand
While I wrote this article my girlfriend encouraged me to mention one very important tip:
Buy condoms before you come to Thailand!
I once had the pleasure to have sex with a Thai condom that was advertised as a maximum size condom. To be honest, this disaster doesn’t even deserve to be described as having sex.
It took me more than a minute to put it on and I had to remove it after another minute, because I was afraid that my friend would shuffle off this mortal coil.
2. Get a Line ID ASAP
I am pretty sure that you have WhatsApp and I am also sure that none of the girls you approach have ever heard of it.
In Thailand nobody uses WhatsApp. Everyone uses LINE. It’s basically the Asian version of WhatsApp with a lot of ridiculous smileys that girls love to send whenever they don’t understand your English gibberish.
Get a LINE ID before you approach the first girl. There’s really no way around it.
3. Eat on Your First Date with a Thai Girl
Whenever you ask yourself how to make a Thai girl happy, you just need to to think about one simple word: Food.
Thai people absolutely love to eat and they love it even more when they do it with other people. Instead of taking her to a café or a bar, you should rather take her to a nice restaurant or one of many street stands.
- A bowl of noodles can lead to a night of passion
A bowl of noodles can lead to a night of passion
In most Western countries going to a restaurant on the first date is seen as trying too hard. In Thailand it is seen as two people who share a meal.
And don’t be afraid of a high bill. Even if she fails the money test, you won’t have to pay more than $5.
4. Make the Money Test
What’s the money test?
The money test is the easiest way to find out if a girl went on a date with you or with your wallet.
You simply tell her upfront that you want her to pay for her stuff because you only want to spend time with girls who are into you.
If she is an educated and financially independent girl, she will understand it. If she makes a scene, you know what you are dealing with.
5. Physical Intimacy in the Thai Dating Culture
Subtle touches on a date are totally fine, but only if nobody sees it.
Thai people are very conservative when it comes to showing affection in public. While it is okay to hold hands when you are in a relationship with her, too much physical contact in public will make her extremely uncomfortable.
You wouldn’t be the first guy who gets a rejection because he was too pushy.
6. Kiss Her at Your Place
There is only one thing that is even worse than touching a Thai girl in public and that’s kissing her in public. It doesn't matter how much you are in love with a Thai woman. You need to wait until you are in a private environment.
Kissing is totally fine. Just not in public.
It gives me the creeps whenever I have to watch such a drama in four acts.
- Act 1: The overly enthusiastic Farang tries to kiss his Thai date or girlfriend
- Act 2: Her face turns into a red balloon that screams “that’s so embarrassing!”
- Act 3: He wonders why she acts coy and tries it again
- Act 4: She gives in and promises herself to break up with this idiot
Respect the local dating customs and you will succeed.
7. Sex With a Thai Girl on the First Date is Possible (So Is the Virgin Shock)
If you are dating a bar girl I can promise that you will get laid on the first date, but it probably has a price. If you are dating a girl from one of the three categories I introduced to you in this article, sex on the first date is possible, but not guaranteed.
Don’t be surprised when you go on a date with a 21 year old girl and she tells you that she is a virgin when you are already half naked. You are not in New York City where you won’t find a female virgin who is older than 16.
Some good girls are so good that they won’t have sex with you.
Be creative. There are other pleasurable things you can do.
8. Dating Sexy Thai Girls Is All about Sanuk
Speaking of pleasure…
An important aspect of the Thai culture is “sanuk”.
Directly translated this word means “fun”, but as Roy Cavanagh says it means more than just fun. It’s a cultural concept that says that you should derive satisfaction and pleasure from everything you do.
As long as you combine the advice, cultural insights and little ticks that I shared with you in this article with sanuk, you will have the time of your life in the country that allowed me to meet the woman of my dreams.
How to Make a Thai Girl Love You
Imagine you meet a beautiful Thai woman…
She loves to eat with you and to laugh with you. But it gets even better. She doesn’t have a sick water buffalo and the last time she visited her grandmother that old lady didn’t need money.
She has a job and no, it’s not in a bar.
She works long hours, but she’s not one of these girls who need a sponsor. In fact, her pride forbids her to take your money. She passed the money test and even though she doesn’t want to kiss you in public, she loves to kiss you whenever she sits next to you on the sofa or cuddles with you in your bed.
She is quite inexperienced, but the more time you spend together, the more you find out what she likes, what she doesn’t like and, how she imagines her future.
She sounds just like my Thai girlfriend, but she’s not. She’s yours. At least, you want her to be yours. You are in a love with a Thai woman and now you want to know if she also loves you.
How to Tell if a Thai Girl Likes You
How do you know if she really likes you?
How can you be sure that she wants to be your girlfriend?
Well, you already know that the public display of affection is frowned upon in Thailand. But did I also tell you that Thai people in general don’t like to show affection? My girlfriend can’t even remember if her parents ever said “I love you” to each other.
Even though we talk a about everything in our relationship, it’s still hard for her to talk about her feelings. Of course, this doesn’t apply to bar girls. A bar girl will say “I love you” before she asks for your name.
But when the woman of your dreams is a high society girl or an educated college girl, talking about her emotions is not her biggest strength.
So, how do you tell if a Thai girl likes you?
She does it anyway.
And I don’t mean that she says “I love you na kaaaa” while she plays with her smartphone. Some girls do that, but not the ones you want to keep. No, a Thai girl who is girlfriend material will do something else.
When she is in bed with you and feels the urge to talk about her feelings, she will say “I love you” with a shivering voice and a scared facial expression.
Why scared?
Because talking about her feelings is extremely uncomfortable for her. But when she really likes you, she does it anyway.
Can a Thai woman love a Farang?
My Thai girlfriend comes from a wealthy family. She never asked me for money. She has absolutely no reason to lie to me when she says that she loves me. In fact, she had tears in her eyes when she said it the first time.
Can a Thai woman love a Farang?
Of course she can
The answer is yes.
You are two human beings. In the same way as a white woman can love a black man or a black woman can love a white man, a Thai can love a Farang. Love doesn’t know race.
But I know why you are asking yourself this question.
You’ve read all the horror stories of Thai women who lied to their husbands. Heck, I even told you about the most popular scam, the “I kick you out of your own house” scam. And yes, this can happen to you when you choose the wrong woman.
What if you choose the right woman?
The right woman, by definition, is someone who really loves you and who wants to be with you. She wants to be with you because of the way you are and not because of the house you built for her in the Isan.
Choose wisely before you fall in love with a Thai woman.
The Truth about Living with a Thai Woman
In exactly two months I will move to Bangkok, but I’ve lived together with my Thai girlfriend many, many times. Sometimes I visited her for four weeks, sometimes for three months. Whenever I was in Thailand, she was with me.
When it comes to living with a Thai woman, I have a lot of experience.
And in my experience, there’s nothing more beautiful thank living together with a Thai girl. I’m serious. It’s awesome.
I mean, just imagine you wake up next to a woman who is so beautiful that words can’t describe it. Now imagine that this woman snuggles up to you when she wakes up and kisses you while you hold her.
She cooks the most delicious meals for you. She takes care of you like no woman has ever before. And if you are really lucky she gives you amazing back massages.
I’m not that lucky. I don’t feel anything when my girlfriend tries to massage me, but maybe your future girlfriend has stronger hands.
That’s the truth about living with a Thai woman, at least from my perspective.
What Are Thai Girlfriends Like?
Not all women are the same and my girlfriend is certainly different than most women in Thailand. I always joke that she’s half German and half Thai. She’s perfect for me.
But there are certain things that all Thai girls have in common:
So, what are Thai girlfriends like?
- She wants to have fun and she wants to be entertained. Prepare yourself for a lot of sanuk.
- She loves everything that’s sweet. It still amazes me how these women can eat so much sweet stuff and still be so thin.
- She loves Korean Pop Music. And she has a crush on at least one of the boy band members.
- Even though expressing her feelings is not her biggest strength, she loves all kinds of romantic movies and TV shows.
- She can cook. Thai women really know how to cook. Yummy!
- She will never understand Western feminists. Whenever you try to explain it to her, she’ll just nod with her head.
- She takes care of her body and is very conscious about her weight.
- She treats you like a king, at least when you treat her like your queen.
That’s how Thai girlfriends are really like.
How to Make a Thai Girl Happy in a Relationship
Here are the simple two things you need to do to make a Thai girl happy:
1. Be yourself
2. Respect the Thai culture
Unfortunately, most Western men are very good at being themselves, but absolutely terrible when it comes to number two. The men who combine these two aspects are the ones with happy girlfriends and wives.
There’s a reason why she dates you and not a Thai guy. She wants to be with you because you are different and because a relationship with you gives her the freedom that a relationship with a local guy wouldn’t give her.
Believe it or not, but Thai men can be control freaks. They want to control what their girlfriend wears, what she says and how she behaves. Simple things, such as touching your head, can be an unforgivable mistake.
She likes that you are different.
However, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t certain cultural rules that you should follow. You just have to look at all the hot Thai girls who are together with Farangs who are extremely loud, who try to kiss them in public, and who talk disrespectfully about the Thai culture or the Buddhist religion.
Look into the eyes of these girls and you’ll see a very unhappy woman.
As long as you are yourself, treat her good, and respect the Thai culture, she will be happy. Oh, and take off your shoes before you enter the house.
How to Marry a Thai Woman and Live With Her in Thailand
“Will you marry a Thai woman?”
Since I announced that I have a Thai girlfriend, three guys already asked me when I will get married. I mean, I can understand that you want to go to my wedding (we would have a great time), but I have to disappoint you.
Let me first move to Bangkok and then we’ll see.
Honestly, I can't wait.
What if you are looking for a Thai woman to marry?
You’ve just read this article. You know more about finding, attracting and dating Thai women than 99% of guys out there.
What if you want to know how being married to a Thai woman really is?
I just told you everything about your future girlfriend and about how it will be to live with her. This won’t change when you put a ring on her finger.
But what if you want to marry a Thai woman and live with her in Thailand?
Well, I’m not an expert on that but I did my research.
Here’s the best Thai marriage guide I could find. And in case you are married to a Thai mail order bride, I would appreciate it if you shared your experience with your bride in the comments below.
The Future of the White Man Thai Woman Relationship
Things are changing and they are changing pretty fast.
Two decades ago Farangs had an extremely bad reputation. The majority of the white men who came to Thailand were sex tourists. The rest were pioneers like my grandfather who brought Western technology to Asia.
Back then most Thai people believed in the following equation:
White people = sex tourists
Thanks to the rise of the internet more and more Western men had the chance to meet Thai women far away from the bar scene. Online dating sites and marriage agencies helped Farangs like you and me to meet beautiful Thai women with normal jobs and sincere hearts.
People began to look differently at white man Thai woman relationships.
Thanks to the digital nomad movement and the growing number of expats, the perception of white men in Thailand continued to change.
Today we are so far that the parents of a 23 year-old Thai woman allow a German expat to move together with their daughter.
As a man who dreams about having a Thai girlfriend or wife, this is the best time to be alive.
Meet your Thai girlfriend today!
Summed Up Wisdom
In case you travel to Thailand for the very first time you should be careful. Don’t fall for the ladyboy trap, the semi pro trap and the bar girl trap. You are a Global Seducer, which means that not knowing any better or saying that “it is normal” are not an excuse to end up with the wrong girls, unless you want to end up with bar girls, in which case you are wrong on this site.
The Thai girls a confident and life-affirming seducer should look for are good girls from the low, middle and high class. They are beautiful, nurturing and they are proud of their femininity. They are easily to detect by observing their English language abilities, the color of their skin, the way they talk and the way they dress. You can meet those girls in the daytime, in clubs, in colleges or on Thai Cupid.
As long as you stand out from the crowd and speak a few basic words in Thai you are good to go. Just make sure that you don’t fall for the buffalo lie and that you don’t end up supporting her whole social circle. If you adhere to a few simple Thai dating rules and follow the sanuk mentality, you will have the time of your life in Thailand.
You can do what you want.
But why buy when you can rent? Easy enough in the land of smiles!
Hey Josh,
you definitely have a chance.
Hey Sebastian ! I loved the article. It’s nice to see a respectful article, one that treats Thai women the way any woman should be treated as opposed to some of the other things you might find on the internet.
Could I get some advice ? Also thank you for being so attentive to your comments section, the dialogue is appreciated.
This is my situation. I am going to Thailand for 3-4 weeks. I have was in culinary school for a few months but quit, am 28yrs old from the united states. I’m worth about 30,000.00 per year working.
It would be nice to have a beautiful women to explore Thailand with. A sincere relationship with the intention of marriage would be incredible, but difficult.
* It would take 2yrs to get skill set as English teacher * I can only work in America * I live 9,000 miles away. *Could do 3 weeks ( of Thailand ) per 3 months ( of USA ) at the cost of not learning a trade or perusing a career.
I have started using Thai friendly ( not Thai cupid, do you know something I don’t ? 🙂
I have started speaking with a Thai women on Thai friendly. We LINE video chatted today, and I learned something.
* she has traveled internationally *masters degree * Her sense of English grammar, vocabulary, understanding of the language, are maby better than my own. I get the feeling I’m dealing with a VERY educated, 28yr old woman.
I’m very well liked, conversational, kinda funny, enthusiastic encouraging and happy at work. …with her I was near dead silent, I asked a few basic questions ( was near midnight in Thailand)
I’m Basically I’m being ”one upped” in education, maby even in knowledge of my own language, and possibly even economically.
I’m finding myself checking choice of words, and speed \ clarity of my speech. I’m not a ”dude lets get wasted bang some hot Thai women” type of English.
So when the truth is out, and all the cards are on the table, Do you think I have a chance, in this kind of environment ?
I find myself speaking slowly and clearly and choosing my words to be understood, and to impress upon her an education, I don’t have. My only experience with Thai people speaking English is very simple English skills ( hoping I don’t insult her ) I have who I am as a unique person, and not much else to impress her, with as a general rule may be an asset. If some of the more unfortunate | retarded stories are to be believed about these kind off relationships.
Last question : it was in comments before also. I am a sincere semi devout christian. I cannot participate in religious rites at temple, or offer food to a Buddha or shrine. If asked.. I’ll question the offensiveness of pointing with a food, touching a persons head, and maby Buddhism. not to impose my own views, but to gain an understanding of theirs. I get the sense this type actions, even if done with gentle kindness, might be a bit much for some Thai people, if not outright offensive. I also have tried sex, and a weekend girlfriend relationship and liked it. so… yah, and advice on this regarding Thai women and Thai culture in general would be appreciated… tread carefully ? shut up and play along ? stand on your values, and never get a date ?
This is myself and my situation. Any thoughts that might be to my benefit or someone else reading this would be appreciated.
Bonus Info.. in 2005, four international exchange students from wealthy families, attending prestigious universities came to a small town in Georgia, to work entry level at a McDonalds ( only God knows how that ever happened ) one of them I was good friends with, I will probably stay with him.
Hey Mark,
If you don’t give her money and tell her that you won’t do it in the future and she stays, she’s in it for you. Why don’t you simply ask her if she’d live with you outside of Thailand?
Hey Sebastian.
Great article, thanks for it.
I wanted to ask you something.
I met a girl, 8 years younger, in her last year of studies.
She’s amazing. Kinda, funny, talented, speak English pretty well.
But she also is from rather a poor family. Her mother left her when she was very young and she was raised by her dad and grandparents.
At the start, she asked me few times for money for support, but I refused cuz of my money situation plus I felt a bit uncomfortable. But later on, I bought her few things because I wanted to. Since that she never again asked me for any money, even tho I see she doesn’t have much.
So my question is. I really like her, and I feel like we have a genuine connection. We call few times a week, talk daily.
Is it possible, that she really just like me for who I am and doesn’t want money? Or can it be just a game?
And second question is – if I would like to marry her, what are the chances, for her to coming to live with me outside Thailand?
Cheers and thx for your opinion 🙂
Hey Ben,
Thai women are different than Western women. They are not afraid of commitment. They want to commit. And a lot of girls over 30 have a hard time finding a guy. You’re a good catch.
thai women commit faster than Western women in General. Friends with benefits relationships are not socially acceptable.
Make sure that she’s a good girl. That’s the only advice I can give you.
Hi Sebastian, just read your Vietnamese article, but my question is fitting this post better: Regarding the dating game advise you give there I assume it’s very similar in Thailand. I see though that you warn against a ‘long distance relationship with Thai women’, and you say you had one yourself. Well, any wisdom on that you might want to share, things you suggest to do and not to do when you do end up dating a Thai woman long-distance? I just met my most beautiful woman in Chiang Mai, we spent 10 days together, but it looks like we will have a long distance relationship for 1 or 2 years before we can see much more of each other than the occasional visit. Would be really great to hear what you suggest. Thanks ! 🙂
What about all the other Falang though that actually live in Thailand? And we are not getting married either as far as I know 🙂
Why do Thai women commit so quickly so much into us (white) guys? (seems they do)
And also: Do you have any tips on maintaining a long distance relationship with a Thai woman, and how realistic that is (from a Thai experience perspective). Thanks again! 🙂
Hi (thought I had sent this before but must have got lost)
I have a very positive story (so far) to add to the list some others have here: Very beautiful, 15 year younger Thai woman, economically independent, does not want to live in my country, etc etc, ,- i.e. no red flags I can see. I am also in my early 50th.
What I really do not fully understand is why she is into me. Nothing to do with low self esteem. I know what I like about myself, and if I was with a girl in my home country I would not have any doubts like this.
Just, and this seems common, – she was so quickly so much into me, and is seemingly so committed, – without us knowing that much about each other. Partly due to the lack of time, partly due to language barriers.
So this made me all a bit sceptical if I am missing something. Sometimes it has a too good to be true quality. But I can’t see what and it is not a unique story when i read here and elsehwere. What is your take on this? If it is true, why are Thai women so much into us (white men)?
Also, – do you have any article on maintaining a long distance relationship with Thai women? Thanks a lot for your input 🙂
Huh?
Hey Ben,
it’s hard for Thai women over 30 to find a guy for a serious relationship. Most local men would never marry a woman older than 30 while Western girls believe that their prince charming comes when they are 40. Thai girls are just more realistic.
Interesting article. Like some commenters before I am also in my 50s and just had my first Thai woman experience. A lot of what you are saying resonates, – and I think I am lucky to have met a woman who is not after my money and genuinely likes me. She is superattractive, 16 years younger, running her own business, wants to live in Thailand, not in my country, – all good flags….
And yet, what I don’t quite get is why would she want to be with me, and why is she so clear about it? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have any ‘I don’t deserve this” believes going on too much.
But what I consider my positive traits is not really something she would know much about, largely due to language barriers (that we will improve). When I ask her (and this is not in a needy way, just really to understand where she stands), she says genuine things, but not much in depth and not much to “explain’ for me why she would go with a guy 16 years older, with a few complications such as that the relationship would initially be largely long distance, who does not speak her language yet very well and all that. It’s not my money, – so what is it?
Why I am writing this here is because if it was not for the fact that my story is not ‘unique’ in Thailand, then I would doubt it much more. But there are many older guys having “good stories”, i just do not fully understand what is sooo attractive for a young Thai woman in an older European guy if it is not the money.
You know the country much better, do you have any insights? Thanks 🙂
You can only hope
Thai Cupid is the solution for meeting Thai women.
Hey Matt,
we’re already in contact 😉
Hey James,
you can find a lot of Russian tourist girls in Pattaya. I’ve written articles about all these girls.
Hello
Do you have any ideas how to pick up and seduce Japanese , Korean, western and eastern European girls in Thailand specially in Bangkok? Where to find them? Actually Most of them are traveling in groups so How to seduce them?
Hi Sebastian, excellent article thank you! I’m
relocating from Singapore to Bangkok next month and was wondering if your girlfriend has a single sister or good friend to be introduced too! Happy to meet you for a drink so you can pre-qualify!
Cheers,
thanks……i always am. Most girls just bolt whenever celibacy is put on the table. I tried christiancupid before but, for my age i was seeing mothers and no one less than 30 years of age, i’m under 23. Do you recommend any Christian dating sites which are Nigerian IP and registration friendly? Thanks
Hey Paul,
be honest about the role religion plays in your life.
Hey Sebastian, really love your reviews. You’re intelligent which is great and fun for your readers. I being Nigerian met a Thai woman of Thai/Filipino descent on a group chat. She seems nice. However, i am Christian and I won’t trade it for anything not even a very steamy session with my woman before marriage. I want to know if you recommend continuing with her, we’ve not got to the aspect of religion, but, we will eventually and i don’t know how a person who asked me if all Black guys have big d’s on the first chat will feel about celibacy before marriage. Any advice?
Good advice!
put zippers on your pockets 😉
avoid saying Khao San Road or Asok or Nana . The first one is Backpacker area (= you are short here, not worth starting a relationship) , the other two are sextourist areas or bargirls , hookers, no real Thai woman with who you want a long relationship wants to go there. I would take any Hotel which is near BTS line , the farer away the cheaper .
Hey Devin,
thanks for sharing your feedback. I hope the article helped you.
Wow, what a great article…thanks for sharing and good timing for me to read this. I’m writing because of a recent experience I had. About me, I’ve been to Bangkok about 15 times over the last several years. I’ve done the bars, massage places, and all the places you go to meet for just some temporary fun…not looking for long-term relationship.
On one visit just a few weeks ago, I was with a massage girl that just seemed different. She’s been married twice, once to Thai man and had two children (now ages 17 and 18) who she divorced because he “was butterfly”. And, the second to an Australian man for 5 years who she divorced because he was treating her very poorly. We proceeded to spend a lot of time together at my hotel and doing lunches and dinners for about 5 days. I’m 54 (look younger than my age), very attractive and in great shape, energetic, and very educated, and I have found this girl tugging on my heart strings. I did give her money for the times she spent with me in the hotel though. I’m back in my home country and we continue communicating via Line and do the occasional video call and she seems like she genuinely misses me and wants to continue to get to know me better and can see herself in a relationship in the future with the right man (which seems to be me at the moment). So, I just need a reality check for someone to tell me to RUN as quickly as possible.
I keep trying to think of the time when she wanted to go to the mall for lunch where we ate sushi at a nice restaurant and then she wanted to go shopping. Well, to my surprise (or really not a surprise given what I’ve seen, read, and heard about Thai girls), she spent an hour in a cosmetics shop looking at expensive perfumes and other cosmetics and we go to the counter and she steps aside and says “you pay”. Well, I did and felt like an idiot for doing so. I don’t want to be “that” guy that thinks she’s the exception for these types of girls. So, provide me with a reality check and let me know if I should continue to bother communicating with this girl or cut it off as soon as possible…which I’m certainly willing to do so.
Hey Dave,
don’t go to Kaosan road. Too many backpackers. You don’t want to go there. Look into the Silom and Sala Daeng area. You can reach Siam easy via Skytrain. You need your own place. Most girls live with their families.
Thanks!
Very much impressive blog keep the good work up. I found this very informative. It helps me a lot. Love to wait for your next post.
Hi dude.
You said Siam paragon is a good place to meet regular Thai girls. So while traveling to Bangkok, getting a hotel room in siam area is the best option? Do you recommend any other areas like sukhumvit or khason road to get a hotel room?
If I pull a regular Thai girl to my room should I make aware the reception? Is it possible to hook up with the girl in her place?
Hey Dave,
make clear that you are the lover and not the provider.
Hi Sebastian. Have recently met a thai women in England who has been here for 10 yrs and has divorced from her english husband. She has UK passport. She seems very genuine, own house, car, etc but she pretty much jumped onto my arm as soon as i met her off tinder and says she hasn’t looked at another man since. It’s just a weekend thing at the moment. How do i know if i am being taken for a ride?
Hey John,
of course, your values can adapt and change when you live in another culture. Unfortunately, some guys still think of their foreign brides as property and don’t treat them well. I hope I can inspire many guys to take the opposite path and to treat these women with love and respect. Just be careful that you don’t become a sponsor of a woman who uses you to finance her family back home. As long as it’s clear that you are her boyfriend and not her sponsor, you can give it a shot.
Hi Sebastian,
Really enjoyed reading this page. I’m wondering how Thai girls might change after they’ve lived in another country for a while. I’ve recently become closer to a girl who has lived in the UK for 10 years (was married to an English guy, but separated 12 months ago). In that 12 months she went home for a while and then came back to the UK saying she didn’t feel much at home in Thailand any more. Btw I’ve known her for 4 years because she worked 6 days a week in my local sandwich shop and I go there almost every lunchtime.
Now, although I don’t know for sure, my guess is she was a bar girl originally and that’s how she met her husband. But since being in the UK, she’s always worked a normal job and she is very hardworking – like I say 6 days a week 10 hours a day. I’ve seen her in that sandwich shop on her knees scrubbing floors etc so shes not afraid of working that’s for sure.
Anyway since being back in the UK this time she’s now working in a Thai massage place. I was a bit disappointed when she told me actually because even though it’s a mostly legitimate place, I know they are never 100% just massage and a couple of online reviews I found confirm that happy endings are on offer occasionally. There are a few girls who work in there and my friend says she runs the place on behalf of the real boss who owns about 5 other shops (but i know she’s keeping the whole truth from me). One review i found mentioned her by name. Interestingly though, that review said the massage was rubbish (I know she’s not trained or experienced at massage) and the happy ending failed because she was so disinterested. His review also said she wouldn’t let him touch her in any way which wierdly does make me think ‘well done to her’. She has quite a strong personality and I don’t doubt she’s able to say no to something she doesn’t want.
Also, I know she’s been supporting family back in Thailand recently by sending money for her Nephew’s hospital bills (seen his pics in hospital, nearly lost his foot). I’m a long term friend with her on FB too so I know quite a bit about her family.
So to sum up – My impression of her so far is that she tried to be a good wife for 10 years and he treated her like rubbish. In the end she just couldn’t do it any more so she left him. In the few months that followed she went a bit crazy with her new found freedom – had a few one night stands, drank a bit too much etc, but she has settled down a bit now (she’s been totally open and frank to me about all this).
My plan is to be a good friend to her, let her trust me some more, open up a bit more etc and just see what happens. I know there are quite a few red flags here so I’m not going into this blind. I’m hoping she’ll move on from the massage place to something normal, for me that’s the sign that shes only doing it for short term money.
As for our friendship, I’ve always had bit of a soft spot for her (and she knows), and recently we’ve been out a couple of times as friends (just to a movie, quick meal etc). She invited me first and was happy to pay for herself. i invited her the second time and now she’s just asked if we’d like to go out new years eve.
So what do you think? Is she torn between needing to earn money and wanting to be normal, falling back to old tricks for the short term hoping she can get out later? Is it worth a month or two of my time to find out?
Hey Michael,
it seems like we’re quite similar. Let me know if you ever want to hang out in Bangkok. All the best for you and your future wife!
Heya Sebastian,
This is truly a wonderful article.. tons of insightful stuff here.. I have been living in Thailand for close to 2
years now and have a wonderful Thai gf.. We will marry in 2018.. I have been working as an English Teacher at a small private school in Bangkok.. The first time I visited Thailand I felt like I was coming home.. The US was just layover for me for many years.. until I found my home.. haha..
Hey Jack,
thanks. I’m glad to hear that!
Yes, it’s true that a lot of Thai girls prefer white guys, but not all. Maybe she’s really into black guys. Don’t overthink it. Just go to the date and behave completely normal. And let me know if you want a coaching in Bangkok 😉
Hey!
Thanks for your in-depth post on this, it certainly is the only guide I need!
I got a question I need urgent help with.
Basically, I’ve been in Bangkok for a month now and starting to grasp the way of life here (prob. not even close). I’m a black (brown skinned really) guy from UK and realised I don’t get treated the same as white people (don’t worry i’m used to it). Anyhow, recently I bumped into this Thai girl where I work and realised she was overly friendly with me than others have been. So, long story short: we hit it on, small talked every time we run into each other, I took her Line and now I closed a date the same day (with your help “THUMBS UP”).
She’s educated and well traveled from what I know so far. To be honest, I can’t figure out why she doesn’t choose a white guy over me (not complaining tho)
My question is, what should I expect and have you got any tips for someone in my shoes?
Hey Meer,
thank you for your comment.
1) They definitely prefer Western guys (sorry, but I don’t want to lie).
2) I would stay longer
3) It depends on the girls you want to meet. I would avoid nightclubs if you’re looking for a girlfriend.
4) Try it and you will see 😉
5) See point #1
I hope that help!
Thankyou for this great article sebastian,
There are some things I wanna know before I make a move (wanting to marry a thai girl ;_;)
1) just wanted to ask that do thai women prefer only western guys or a guy like me form pakistan has the same chances like the westerner does?
2) I don’t plan to move to thailand, but I might visit to find someone here in december, probably a 2 week trip, is that much time enough to find a decent girl? Or how much time is needed?
3) not a sex tourist, currently in bangkok right nkw but will leave In 2 days and so far I’ve had 2 encounters with these 2 perfect thai girls (didn’t seemd like prostitutes to me), met them in a nightclub, had a wonderful time, did some things( you know what ;-)) but didn’t get any contact information. Just needed to knwo that it’s alright if I fool around the nightclubs or should I try the day game the next time I’m here?
4) I am a decent looking guy ( atleast back home I am) so not sure if I can find someone over here in bangkok in just a span of 2 days, and even if I do what are the chances that the next tike I return here (hopefully in december) things will be working fine between us!!
5) finally I have been approaching college or normal job girls here in bangkok and most of them don’t even reply and ignore and just walk off, don’t even hear what I am talking about, yes they are shy but it’s really hard to deal with that kind of rejections, if you have any tips for me to up the game can you please share it would be a very great help!!!
Keep up the good work thoo, all the best for you and your girlfriend and your futures XD
Hey Andre,
you don’t have to move to Thailand. Most men take their wives to their home countries. Teaching English is one of the only Jobs that foreigners can have in Thailand.
Thank you for the great article. Just a few questions…
I am wondering what the job opportunities are in Bangkok for foreigners who speak little or no Thai.
If I want to marry a Thai girl, do I really have to move to Bangkok?
Hey Adrian,
Be careful. The age gap is really extreme. I mean, I’m not a saint, but don’t you think that it’s a little bit too much? It would be for me.
Hey Kev,
thank you so much for sharing your experience, but not all Thai people are the same. And my girlfriend never asked me for money. I don’t know where I will be in my 50s, but I will accept the challenge to proce you wrong 😉
Hey Jay,
that sounds awesome. It seems like you have found a great girl. I wish you all the best.
Wow…you have an awesome chest of knowledge here. I started of by finding a way to score my Thai GF and ended up sepending a couple of hours reading all your experiences.
I am a 46 year old “Indian” Singaporean guy in an awesome relationship with a “fair skinned” girl from Isaan. Would you believe that!!! Its been 2 years now and it just gets better each time. I probably know everyone in her family and she is always by my side reassuring me when things get awkawrd. She does not live in Bangkok and is still studying. No money demands as the family has a shop of their own. I do splurge sometimes….but it is because I want to.
Anyways….keep up the awesome work!!
Ineresting to read another guys perseption of thai girls, as i have been married to thai women in the past and been going there 20 years many times each year i can honestly say that my experienced is vast. I have driven almost every corner of thailand and obsviouly all the north east areas (eesan to new guys)
so here my take on it. the author thinks because he has groups of thai friends and his grandparens etc lived there he is somewhat different than other farang but he is not. he is just a a time in his life where he has a potentional use to thai girls. the truh is a first timer can make a group of higher class of thai friends just as i could, he reason being we are potential in their eyes. truhfully he will end up back in germany in his late 50,s with nothing but memories. you cannot change thousands of years of culture and thinking and this is the real fact of it. for every hopeful opinion and experience he has there are 1000 bad experiences of men commiting suicide and hundreds of thousands of men that have lost everything because hey thought they were better than the last farang or that they though they undersand thai more. I am fluent in tthai, have been there almos 50 times, had a eesan wife, everyday i talk many of them online and listen all their stories and so on. so please le me give you some real advise. never think that a hai girl can love a farang in the way she can love her own family because it has never happened and never will happen. farang have our uses and its all about money, we are a status because the culture is about status. i could explain in depth but it isnt worth it because there is always some farang who hinks he knows more than the millions of farang before him or he is better in someway. i will guarentee you for every one of hese men there is 100 men who have lost heir livelihoods houses pensions etc. in thailand nothing is free, thats a fact. young men searching fun are the winners as they take thaialnd for what it is, a funtime. when you guys realise this then you have a small chance of survival. guys like me are oo old to wase our time searhing love in thailand because thailand is not the land of smiles its the land of lies. check out stickman bangkok and open your eyes. you will all end up pennyless and broken if you think otherwise. play the game., let the girls think they are winning the game, get in there and get out. enjoy guys!! ill be back here june for my quarterly sports holiday, free sex included
Hi,Thanks for a great article, any tips and advise is very helpful!
I’m 70 year old (but young looking) Male and I have met this 18 yo girl fromThailand.
She is not a beauty queen but appears quite genuine, She is still at School.
She is crazy about me and has introduced me to her parents already online!
They seem to approve of me.
We message and Video call most days.
She wants me to visit her ASAP of which I am considering.
This is like a dream come true I guess but I wonder where it will end as I am already married and she knows about my unhappy marriage!
Maybe in a month I will visit Thailand to meet her and the family!
I will advise you in the future of the outcome.
Thanks Adrian
Hey Carlos,
thanks a lot. I’m in a relationship with a Thai woman who taught me a lot about the local dating culture.
Simply wish to say your article is as astonishing. The clearness in your
post is simply cool and i could assume you are an expert on this
subject.
Hey Jake,
thank you so much for sharing your experience with ThaiFriendly. As you can read in my ThaiFriendly review I also had an overwhelming experience on this site. And thanks for your encouraging words. I’m glad to hear that there are more guys who take the honest and authentic path…and of course I’m happy to hear that my article is helpful 😉
Hi Sebastian,
Great article, thank you. I was lucky enough to have the Global Seducer attitudes even before I started to research Thai culture. My first visit to Thailand will be next month (May 2017).
Among the first articles that I read for research, told me that a Thai girlfriend (for my trip only) was going to be way better than a string of bar girls. I am not a one-night-stand kind of guy, so that sounded way better to me than bar girls. More than sex, I was also looking for some help (interpreter) and someone to actually enjoy my holiday with (I am travelling alone). I said that in return, I would be kind, respectful and show her a fun vacation too.
So, I wrote a kind and thoughtful profile and posted it on-line. I tried both Thai Friendly and Seeking Arrangement (as I viewed this as an arrangement of sorts).
In my profile, I was honest that I was only seeking a woman to join me on my holiday (about three weeks) and not for love. But I also promised to be kind, respectful and that we would have lots of fun (sanuk fun, not just sex fun). I also mentioned wanting to go to Phuket and another island exploring on the trip. The emphasis on the trip was to have fun, explore new places and to learn Thai culture. I am a fairly attractive, mature (50 something), Canadian. I posted many pictures on my profile.
The response was overwhelming.
That was about two weeks ago. Within days I had met a young woman, aged 26, that lives in Bangkok. She says that she works for a large banking company, but is taking her vacation to come on the trip with me. Since then, we have been (via email) discussing our trip and the things that we might do. During these conversations, I have noticed many of the points that you have mentioned.
1) She does not assume that I am made of money. When we discuss plans, she always suggests the cheaper alternative to transportation/accommodations. When I respond with a more expensive but faster/better/expensive alternative, she is happy and thankful. I initially confirmed that I will pay for everything. After that, there has been no mention of money.
2) We don’t talk about sex. I was trying to assure her that I am also interested in many aspects of the Thai culture and the beauty of the country. I was gently saying that yes, I found her to very sexy, but that I wanted more from a vacation than sex. I said that I also want to learn, explore and enjoy. She has been clear that we will be fine ‘romantically.’ One of the things that she said to me was ‘if you are a good person, don’t worry about it.’ She has also suggested that she takes me to the red-light districts (in a curious way, not a jealous way). I read that to mean; We are both adults, we both understand that adults are sexual beings, sex can be sanuk just like scuba-diving can be sanuk.
3) She has been clear that she is happy to help plan the vacation, but the decisions are mine to make. She seems truly thankful when I make the decisions.
4) Her on-line profile was not built for sex. She specifically states that she is looking for fun dates with a kind and respectful man. Her on-line profile pictures are the classic Asian-cute with a warm smile (there is only a hint of being sexy in that cute Asian way).
5) Before we go Phuket, or another island, she will be coming to stay at my hotel in Bangkok with me for a couple of days. She will show me around Bangkok while staying with me. That will give both an idea of if we want to continue with our further plans. This was her suggestion, and it is a good one. When I offer to go on a couple of dates before she joins me, she preferred to join me right away. Notice that we were talking about her joining me, not ‘sleeping with me’ or ‘having sex with me.’ Sometimes, it’s all in how you phrase things.
She strikes me as a hard working young woman that really just wants some vacation time. As long as I am respectful and fun, the rest will follow. While the vacation has not happened yet, the article that you have written seems to show exactly what I am experiencing.
I believe that her wanting to ‘join me in my hotel right away’ and ‘wanting to be with me to see the red-light districts’ is partly a defense mechanism for her. She wants to keep an eye on me to keep bar girls away (in case I meet another girl). If that is the case, I am ok with that.
At this point, I believe that the Global Seducer presents a very different attitude than the bar-girl sex-tourist type. I also believe that, for those that approach the situation with honesty, kindness and respect, the rewards are HUGE. But, at least in my case, I mean what I am saying. Yes, sex rocks. Yes, she is hot as hell. But, she is also a hard working woman that just wants to travel a bit, laugh a bit and enjoy life on her vacation. She is happy to provide lots of affection to a kind man that shows her the same amount of affection (and respect).
From all indications, we will both find what we are looking for though honesty and respect. We have both stated what we want, and we have both agreed with what we will give in return. It’s perfect.
Your article seems to describe this situation perfectly.
Jake
Gentlemen, this article works.
Hey Kim,
thanks for sharing your insights!
This is a nicely balanced article Sebastian, well written and insightful. Dating in Thailand is NOT a straightforward affair and can be a minefield to the ignorant or un-informed. The problem is that men can be taken for everything that they have and are sometimes left penniless and heartbroken. In my experience finding true love in Thailand is much harder than it might at first appear and men looking for love need to be aware of the scams and tricks that might be used by ruthless girls that promise one thing but deliver another.
Hey Dan,
I am glad to hear that. I actually offer a Bootcamp in Bangkok at the beginning of March. Shoot me an email if you are interested 😉
Omg. Thank you very much. It was a great incentives to move to Thailand.
But my game in Singapore ain’t that great and David Tian course is way overpriced.
Do you have a bootcamp in Thailand. Maybe I can visit and invest.
Hey Rocco,
thanks a lot for your feedback. I really appreciate that you took the time to share your insights with us. I haven’t met Steve, but maybe that will change one day. We should definitely meet in Bangkok some day.
I never said that marriage is for losers.
Hey Rust,
I actually try to avoid them. There are in fact a lot of beautiful Muslim women, but the problems that you can get with their family and their religion is not worth the hassle. If she is open-minded and not very religious you can go for it, otherwise I wouldn’t recommend it.
I notice that you talk a lot about either Asian women or Eastern European women. I wonder, do you have any experience with Middle Eastern/Muslim women? Here in Belgium we have a lot of really hot Moroccan girls. The problem is the conservative religious doctrine. I’m a pretty hardline atheist, so I’m always afraid to approach them. Do you have any experience or advise that you can share about them? Or should I avoid them as the plague and see their religion as a red flag? Not to mention their hotheaded male family members. Lol!
Hey Andi,
thanks for mentioning the “suay” trap. I actually fell into it quite a few times. And thanks for sharing a few red flags that I haven’t thought of 😉
don’t worry, you will be fine.
It wasn’t the puropose but the part “Their English Ability” made me realise that i also need to work on my English abilities before to get in Asia 🙁
Hi Sebastian,
thank you for this really great article. Very nice! I always like to read your new posts
and i really like your site..
In your article i figure out one point that is really important to know. The word Suay is a big trap in the thai language too because speaking in the false tone can be a worst thing in the first date. So i think it is important for the readers to know that this word have two different meanings. For the meaning beautiful it have to be spoken as a question word.
Suay? = beautiful
Suay = terrible / bad
From my own experience there are still more traps you can fall in with some asian girls. So i want to share my experience too:
1. The “I want move to another country girl”
It is a big red flag for me if a girl speaks many times about move to my home country.
From my experience the good thai girls do not want to move. They are happy to live in Thailand and they are proud to live in this country.
2. The “I want marry soon girl”
Also a big red flag if the girl speaks about marry in the first days.
3. The “i want a farang baby girl”
Girls who do not like that you use a condom and expect you to have sex without.
4. The “i want that you visit my family girl”
It is normal that a girl want that after a time. But not after a a few days. It can end up in a very expensive meal and shopping tour for the whoole family.
Best regards from the cold Germany
Andi