I just came back from a five-day trip to Ho Chi Minh City and I’m glad that I went because seeing all these sexy Vietnamese girls blew me away.
But you already know that.
You have already read in my Vietnam Cupid review that I planned to visit my friend Thomas in his new home AND that the ladies I chatted with on this dating site are the most beautiful women in South East Asia.
What I haven’t told you yet is that I met Thomas, his Vietnamese girlfriend, a bunch of her friends, and her family.
We had a lot of fun, enjoyed the local food at the Royal Saigon restaurant and talked for hours and hours.
What did we talk about?
Come on. You know me.
Of course, we talked about the local women, the dating culture and what it’s really like to be in a relationship with a Vietnamese girl. Thomas’s girlfriend Phuong was more than happy to share all the dirty little secrets that 99% of Western men will never know.
I listened, I made notes, and she told me everything about…
- The true nature of Vietnamese women.
- The pitfalls of the local dating culture.
- What it takes to get married to a woman from this country.
- Why she will most likely never ever cheat on my friend (let’s hope for the best).
When I had a look at my notes, I realized that I couldn’t find a single reason not to date Vietnamese girls. Phuong smiled and I decided to write down the following 44 reasons…
1-10 Answer the Question “What Are Vietnamese Women Like?”
As you can see in the table of contents above, I divided this article into six categories.
The reason why I did this is pretty simple. If I hadn’t done it, the table of contents would be longer than Mr. Biggz schlong.
But don’t worry. The categories actually make sense.
So without further ado, let’s start with the reasons why you will love these girls…
1. Vietnamese Women Can Provide for Themselves
Who wants to date a girl who needs you to breathe, eat, and shit?
I don’t.
The good news is that Vietnamese women want you, but they don’t need you.
They are hard-working and they can provide for themselves. I guess it’s because their mothers and grandmothers have experienced what it means to be on their own during the Vietnam War. They have passed those values on to their daughters.
In case you have dated women from other parts of Asia, you know that self-reliant women are rarer than diamonds.
2. Sexy Vietnamese Women Don’t Dink and Smoke
While I visited my friend in Ho Chi Minh City, I met seven hot Vietnamese girls. None of them drinks alcohol and when I asked them if they have ever smoked a cigarette, they shook their heads and looked at me like this…
It must be a pain in the ass for these girls to make out with a local guy. I mean, 50% of the Vietnamese men smoke whereas only 5% of the women have ever touched a cigarette.
What about drinking?
The local guys are known for drinking too much and for getting a bit too aggressive when they are drunk. I’m sure that there are some binge-drinking girls, but the ones I met don’t touch alcohol.
3. Hot Vietnamese Girls Care More about their Family than About Themselves
In Vietnam it’s all about the family and as her boyfriend, and especially as her husband, you are part of her family.
- She will cook for you.
- She will take care of you when you are sick.
- She will take care of your family.
The only downside is that the mother of your Vietnamese girlfriend might call her two or three times a day. Okay, forget about the might. She will.
4. Pretty Vietnamese Women are Pretty Submissive
There’s one thing you need to know about the Vietnamese culture and I bet my ass that you like it.
Women are supposed to be submissive.
Hey, don’t shoot the messenger. I didn’t make this shit up. But I like it and I know that you like it too. And no, expecting a woman to be submissive has nothing to do with being a chauvinistic asshole. It has everything to do with wanting a fulfilling relationship with a woman who embraces her feminine side.
5. Vietnamese Women Have Amazing Physical Features
Give me and H. Give me an O. Give me a T.
That’s what the girls in Vietnam are. They are hot, insanely hot. There’s no doubt that they are the most beautiful women in South East Asia. I have to admit that, even though I’m in a relationship with a Thai woman.
Heck, even my girlfriend says that they are the crème de la crème of South East Asia.
God....their bodies.
If you like slim, light-skinned Asian women with beautiful faces, you will love Vietnam. If I wasn’t in a relationship with my dream girl, I would have hit on 8 out of 10 women in Ho Chi Minh City.
6. Even Thick Vietnamese Girls Have a Slim Waist
I don’t know how they do it.
Maybe it’s the local food. Maybe they have won the genetic lottery. I don’t know. All I know is that even thick Vietnamese girls (the ones who have asses like Kim Kardashian), have a small waist.
And no, plastic surgeries are popular among South Korean women but not among hot Vietnamese women. We have to thank Mother Nature for this blessing.
You can definitely find more thick Asian girls in Ho Chi Minh City than in Manila or in Bangkok.
7. The Women of Vietnam Know How to Dress
Look at this girl…
She’s not stylish. She has real style. She doesn’t look slutty. She looks elegant and classy. I would be proud to walk hand in hand with her.
Vietnamese women have this incredible skill to look like princesses whenever they leave the house.
Of course, not every woman walks around in a traditional dress, but the ones who do will take your breath away.
8. Respect and Loyalty are the Most Common Traits in Vietnamese Women
That’s what Phuong says.
I wanted to believe her but I had to be sure. So I asked my friend Thomas if it was true.
He just looked at me with a smile on his face. That’s when I knew that it was true. But I wanted to hear it in his words.
“I have to be honest (he looked at his girlfriend). She is the most respectful and loyal woman I have ever met.”
Phuong looked at him and gave him a kiss, which is something that Vietnamese girls usually don’t do in public. I just wondered when those two will get married.
9. Vietnamese Girlfriends Know How to Take Care of Their Boyfriends
It made me happy to see how happy my friend was with his girlfriend. I mean, how could he not be happy? She takes better care of him than a dozen moms.
- Are you thirsty?
- Are you hungry?
- Can I bring you something?
It’s almost a miracle that she didn’t ask him if he has to take a shit. I bet she would take him to the toilet and wipe his ass.
She’s an angel.
10. Attention-Whoring is Not a Common Characteristic of Vietnamese Women
What’s the most obnoxious characteristic of young Western women?
Narcissism!
“Me, me, me, it’s all about me!”
Even if they have personalities like serial killers and the physical appearance of a hippopotamus, they believe that they are sweet princesses who deserve the best of the best. It’s hilarious.
Vietnamese women are way more down to earth…despite the fact that they actually look like princess. Maybe it’s because of the communist culture that despises self-centeredness.
I promise you one thing:
The hottest Vietnamese girl in the world is less entitled and narcissistic than the ugliest American woman that has ever walked on this earth.
11-14 Answer the Question “What Do Vietnamese Women Like?”
Congratulations!
You survived the first category without suffering from a stroke.
Now you know what Vietnamese women are really like, but do you also know what they like and what they are looking for in a man?
She wants a man who makes her smile
Let’s have a look at why they are so excited when a man like you wants to get to know them…
11. Vietnamese Women are Crazy for Western Men
There’s one reason why these girls are so crazy for Western men and no, it has nothing to do with the color of your skin. They don’t need you to make light-skinned babies. They are whiter than snow.
They want you because a relationship with you promises freedom, safety and stability.
You have to understand that Vietnamese women are self-reliant, educated fighters who know how to provide for themselves and their families. It also helps to understand that the local men are the complete opposite.
They want you because…
- You provide them with the freedom to express themselves.
- You don’t drink away your money instead of providing for your family.
- You don’t think that sitting in a café all day long is the same as achieving something.
The reason why you will get hundreds of messages from cute Vietnamese girls is because you are different than the local men who treat them like crap…
12. Beautiful Vietnamese Ladies are Looking for Nice Men
Did I really just say that the local men treat them like crap?
She has enough...
Well, I’m sure that there are a lot of good men in this country, but the facts speak for themselves. And it’s a fact that approximately 58% of all Vietnamese women are victims of domestic violence.
What does that mean for your dating success in Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh City?
Be nice.
I know, you have been told that being nice, genuine, and friendly equals a death sentence. And that’s true, at least when you are dating women in Western countries.
But you’re not in the West. You’re in Vietnam.
13. Sexy Vietnamese Ladies Want a Romantic Gentleman
Finally, you can be the gentleman you always wanted to be.
- You won’t hear and awkward okaaay when you hold the door for her.
- You can give her as many compliments as you want without sounding needy.
- You can even talk about marriage without listening to a talk about individual freedom.
In case you still ask yourself “what do Vietnamese girls like?” I encourage you to watch a Disney movie. Even though these movies are poison for every man, they are exactly what these cute Asian girls dream of.
They want a gentleman from a Disney movie, not a psychopath from Fifty Shades of Grey.
14. Beautiful Vietnamese Women Want to Date Leaders
If you ask your Vietnamese girlfriend one of these questions, you are already dead:
- Honey, where do you want to go today?
- Is it really okay that we go to that Italian restaurant?
- Why don’t you choose something?
Don’t expect an answer. And don’t expect sex when you ask too many of these questions. She’s not together with you because she wants a so-called 50/50 relationship. I have news for you. This doesn’t exist in this country.
She wants a man who leads her, not one who asks her to lead him.
Don’t worry. She will let you know if your plan sucks. But she wants to know that you have a plan.
15-20 Reveal Everything about the Vietnamese Dating Culture
Now that you know what cute Vietnamese girls are like and what kind of man they are looking for, it’s time to have a look at the dating culture.
“Sebastian, is the Vietnamese dating culture comparable to the Western dating culture?”
This is not the USA
Nope, it’s not all about getting pissed drink, having sex with random strangers, and being proud of your STDs (yes, there are really feminists who celebrate their STD’s with the hashtag #ShoutYourStatus).
In Vietnam it’s not about catching Chlamydia. It’s about finding love and enjoying a fulfilling relationship.
15. Feminism is Not a Part of the Vietnamese Dating Culture
Is it wrong to use your friend’s girlfriend for a little experiment?
Not if the experiment consists of one simple question:
“What do you think about feminism?”
Her answer was priceless. It wasn’t a particularly long answer, but it was the best answer she could possibly give.
“What?”
That was her answer and it said more than a thousand words could have said.
Vietnam is a communist country with deeply traditional values. It’s more likely to meet a frustrated feminist in Bangkok than in Hanoi.
You can take a deep breath. The women in this country are still women.
16. Love in Vietnamese Means Being Honest about Your Emotions
I believe that the way Vietnamese girls deal with their emotions is a reason to date them. But I have to warn you. It might be a bit too much for you.
To be honest, I didn’t expect these girls to be so open about their emotions. As a man who lives in Asia, I am used to women who cover their mouth with their hand when they laugh.
I haven’t seen this in Vietnam.
These girls are laughing when they are happy, crying when they are angry, and they don’t shy away from showing their affection.
It’s even normal for friends to walk hand in hand.
17. It is Easier to Date Young Vietnamese Girls than Mature Vietnamese Women
I have more good news for you.
Vietnamese women who are in their late 30s are already married.
“Why on earth is this good news?” I hear you asking.
Well, because I assume that you want to date young women and most women in their early 20s are desperately looking for a husband. In a country where it’s normal that girls marry with 18, the pressure for a 22 year old single woman is high.
She wants to get married and you should act fast if you want a cute Vietnamese bride.
18. The Women in Hanoi Love You Even More than the Women in Ho Chi Minh
I spent the past five days in Ho Chi Minh City and I don’t want to brag, but I got a lot of stares.
- Girls were checking me out.
- They were smiling at me.
- One girl even touched my hand in the bus (it was on purpose. I know it young lady!)
My friend’s girlfriend saw that I got a lot of attention from the local girls. Then she said something that blew me away…
“You’ll get even more attention in Hanoi.”
“More???” I replied in shock.
She knows what she’s talking about.
Ho Chi Minh City is in the communist part of the country. The city was once called Saigon and got renamed after the first communist leader of North Vietnam. The girls in this part of the country are more traditional, less accepting of foreigners (especially Americans) and more conservative in their beliefs.
The girls in Hanoi, on the other hand, love the American culture, romanticize everything that’s from the West (especially the men) and are even more open to dating foreigners.
It must be a dream to meet girls in Hanoi.
19. Most Vietnamese Ladies Don’t Care about Your Religion
Dating a Russian woman can be tricky, especially if you are a Muslim. Dating a Malaysian woman can be tricky too, especially if you are a Christian.
What about Vietnamese women?
Don’t worry about that. Most of them don’t care about your religion. Neither Christianity nor Buddhism is a predominant religion in this country. Most people practice the Vietnamese folk religion.
Your future girlfriend knows that you have never heard of it and she’s cool with it.
20. The Older You Are, The Easier it is to Meet Vietnamese Women
I already told you that it’s easier to find young single women in this country than mature single women.
It gets even better.
I know that it sounds unbelievable but it’s easier to meet Vietnamese girls when you are in your 40s than when you are a 27-year-old German with the name Sebastian. And you don’t have to be rich either.
That deserves a smile
The Vietnamese culture is more concerned with status, defined as age and education, than with wealth or youth.
21-25 Reveal Why It’s so Easy to Meet Vietnamese Women
Congratulations, you’ve just survived my rant about the Vietnamese dating culture.
Okay, it wasn’t really a rent. It was rather and song of praise. And I don’t take it back, not a single word. I really mean what I’ve written and my friend Thomas and his beautiful girlfriend are the living proof that this country is an amazing place to meet women.
- But how do you meet these women?
- Where do you meet them?
- And what does it take to meet them?
Have a look at the following reasons to date Vietnamese girls and you’ll find the answers to these questions…
21. Beautiful Vietnamese Women Don’t Jump in Bed with Everyone
In case you want easy sex, this is the wrong country for you.
You’ll have more fun in a club in New York than on the streets of Ho Chi Minh City. Vietnamese women are traditional and conservative. Just because she comes back to your place doesn’t mean that she will sleep with you.
She might be a virgin. Yes, even if she’s already 25.
She's preparing herself for the perfect guy
These girls know that some guys only come to Vietnam to have fun and to fuck off right afterwards. I don’t say that it’s impossible to have a one-night stand. All I say is that most of the good girls want a relationship that lasts longer than 4 hours.
22. Chatting with Vietnamese Girls Online is Easier Than Meeting them in Clubs
It’s easy to meet girls in Vietnam. You just have to look in the right places.
What about the nightlife?
Wrong place!
Sorry, but if you are looking for a vibrant nightlife with thousands of sexy party girls who want to meet a man for the night, you should stay in Bangkok.
I went to a club in the center of Ho Chi Minh City (you know how much I hate clubs).
Here’s what it looked like:
- The girls were standing around in groups.
- None of them were dancing.
- The local guys ordered one overpriced bottle after another to impress the girls.
Maybe we went to the wrong club. Maybe we went on the wrong day. I don’t know. All I know is that it’s way easier to meet Vietnamese girls online.
23. You Can Find 1000s of Single Girls on This Vietnamese Dating Site
“Okay, it’s easy to meet Vietnamese girls online. But what’s the best dating site to meet them?” I hear you asking.
Well, there’s only one answer:
VietnamCupid is the only Vietnamese dating site…
- That has more than 800.000 members (most of them are Vietnamese girls).
- Where more than two third of the girls reply (I enjoyed a response rate of 93%).
- Where you can meet dozens of stunning women within a short period of time (I received 93 replies within 24 hours).
You don’t believe me?
Have a look at the screenshots of the replies I got
24. Picking Up Girls in Vietnam is Predictable
Did I already mention that these girls are open about their emotions?
Yes, I did, but I didn’t tell you yet that this makes it super easy to pick them up.
- No guessing
- No stupid games
- No need to decode body language
That’s how it should be and that’s exactly how it is in this South East Asian country. The girls are extremely emotional and when it comes to hiding their emotions, they are worse than Lil Wayne at singing.
It’s so easy to read her emotions and thoughts. You just have to look at her. As a result, it’s super easy to react to her emotional state and to seduce her.
25. Meeting Girls in Vietnam is Easy Because They Speak English
Thomas girlfriend could speak English. Her friends could speak English. Okay, her mom couldn’t speak English but you get the point.
Of course, no Asian country in the world can be compared to the Philippines, a place where even donkeys can speak English.
But it’s way easier to communicate with the girls in Vietnam than with Thai girls. Just have a look at the official English Proficiency Index…
26-33 Reveal Why You Want to Date a Vietnamese Girl
Now you know….
- Where to meet them.
- How to meet them.
- How easy it is to communicate with them.
Let’s say you meet a girl in Ho Chi Minh City, Hanoi or in a rice field in Da Lat. Her smile makes you want to hug the moon and her soft skin makes you want to lick her whole body (Oh God…that was really inappropriate).
You want to date this girl but you have no idea what it’s like to date a Vietnamese woman.
Calm down. It’s not that hard.
Have a look at the following reasons and you will understand why…
26. The Hottest Vietnamese Girls Want to Be Your Girlfriend
Vietnam doesn’t have a hookup culture. It’s all about being in a relationship and when you’re together for more than a year it’s all about marriage.
As a result, every girl you are dating wants to be your girlfriend.
- Forget friends with benefits.
- Don’t even think about taking things casual.
- What about one-night stands? You’ll break her heart.
She wants to be your girlfriend, better today than tomorrow.
27. Your Vietnamese Girlfriend is Not a Bar Girl
Yes, there are go-go bars in this country, but Vietnam doesn’t have a city like Pattaya or Angeles City. There’s no bar girl culture…if you can call this culture.
What does this mean for your dating life?
Well, you don’t have to worry that your Vietnamese girlfriend is a prostitute. That’s what it means. Of course, it doesn’t hurt to ask her about her job and to have a look at her Instagram account, but the chances that you fall for a bar girl are lower than in Thailand or in the Philippines.
Every single girl I chatted with on VietnamCupid had a normal job.
28. Dating a Vietnamese Woman Means Following Your Vision
“What I love most about my Vietnamese girlfriend is that she cares more about how hard I work than about how much I earn.”
That’s what Thomas told me and I believe him.
These girls can take care of themselves, but what they love most is to support their boyfriends and husbands.
Don't give up. She supports you.
I could see that Phuong was proud to be together with a man who wants more out of life than to lay in the sun all day. It made her proud to be his biggest supporter.
29. It Means Something When a Sexy Vietnamese Girl Holds Your Hand
She’s traditional, so don’t expect her to hold your hand in public. It’s a big deal for her. You are not in the Philippines, where the girls are proud to walk hand in hand with a foreigner.
Even the hottest Vietnamese girls are shy about it.
She’ll only hold your hand if she sees you as her boyfriend. If she does, it means something. And as a man who wants a committed and loyal girlfriend, you should be happy that it means something to her.
30. Going on Dates in Vietnam is Not Expensive
If I lived in New York or London, I would quit dating.
I mean, Jesus Christ. It’s cheaper to call a hooker than to invite a girl to dinner. Dating in these places sets your wallet on fire.
Going on a date in Ho Chi Minh City can cost less than $5 for both you and the girl.
The prices are comparable to Bangkok. The food is cheap and good. Drinks are cheap. Taxis are cheap. The only thing that’s more expensive than in the West is condoms…at least when you want the ones without holes.
31. Dating a Vietnamese Girl is Like Dating Your Best Friend
She wants to be a part of your life. And no I’m not talking about the way she feels. She literally wants to be a part of your life.
- She wants to go where you go.
- She wants to do what you do.
- She wants to meet the people you want to meet.
My friend’s girlfriend even signed up for a gym membership even though she doesn’t lift weights. I guess that it’s a mixture of jealousy and commitment.
Just don’t be surprised when your girlfriend follows you wherever you go. She’s Vietnamese. It’s totally normal.
32. Hot Vietnamese Babes Don’t Need to Be Entertained
I still can’t believe how lucky I am that I’m in a relationship with a Thai woman who doesn’t want to be entertained 24/7. A lot of Thai girls want to have fun until it’s not fun anymore. This can be a pleasure, but it can also be a curse.
"Can somebody please entertain me?"
Vietnamese women are not like that.
They are more comfortable with you doing your thing. You don’t need to take care of them all the time because they learned how to take care of themselves.
Phuong didn’t complain once while Thomas worked on his business. It’s rare to find such a woman.
33. Dating a Vietnamese Woman is Intellectually Stimulating
It was refreshing to be around so many beautiful women who know that books are something you can read and not something you can upload on Instagram.
I only met seven Vietnamese girls, but every single one of them had…
- An interest besides Facebook.
- Read at least one book in their life.
- Loved to discuss deep topics.
I would say that dating a low-class Vietnam girl is more intellectually stimulating than dating a high-class Filipina. But maybe my friend’s girlfriend has just really cool friends.
34-44 Reveal Reasons to Marry a Vietnamese Girl
Are you ready for the last couple of reasons to date Vietnamese girls?
Good because you’re at a crossroads.
You have met this girl on VietnamCupid. She is beautiful, educated, and she treats you like a king. Now that you think about it, you realize that she’s the kind of girl you always dreamed of.
You can check all the boxes. She has it all and the only thing you can think of is to marry this woman.
In case you really want to do that, I want you to be prepared…
34. Vietnam is a Paradise for Men Who Are Looking for Women for Marriage
I already told you that Vietnamese girls are not easy. And I also told you that every girl you go on a date with wants to be your girlfriend. No, not your friend with benefits. Your girlfriend.
Once she is your girlfriend, she wants more.
Remember that she has been born and raised in a culture where it’s normal for women to marry when they are 18. Ask a Western 18-year-old girl if she wants to marry you and she calls the police.
While the West is living hell for marriage-minded men, Vietnam is paradise on earth.
35. Vietnamese Brides Don’t Have Completely Unrealistic Expectations
Thomas, his girlfriend, and I were in this small café in the center of Ho Chi Minh City when we heard a conversation between two female backpackers. I think they were Australian, but I’m not sure.
One of the girls was complaining about how hard it is to meet guys in Vietnam. The other one just nodded their head. I shook my head in disbelief.
“Of course it’s hard for you to find a guy. You weight 150 kilo, sweat like a horse, and I just have to look in your face to see that you have a crappy personality!”
I didn’t say it, but I wanted to.
It’s no news that Western women have completely unrealistic expectations, but it gets dangerous when you marry one of them and they threaten to take half of your money if you don’t fulfill their expectations.
A Vietnamese bride, on the other hand, has low expectations because the local men set the bar so low.
36. Finding and Marrying a Vietnamese Virgin is Not that Hard
This is a controversial reason, but a reason nonetheless.
In case marrying a girl who had sex before marriage goes against your Christian belief, you will love Vietnam.
It’s common for girls to stay a virgin until they get married.
In fact, a lot of families expect it from their daughters and things can get pretty nasty if the daughter is a bit too naughty.
37. Marrying a Vietnamese Woman after a Long-Distance Relationship is Less Risky
I warn everyone about having a long-distance relationship with a Thai woman. It’s funny because I was in a long-distance relationship with a Thai woman (now we live together).
And even though I know that my girlfriend is 100% loyal, I have to admit that it’s less risky to have a long-distance relationship with a Vietnamese woman.
- She can take care of herself.
- She doesn’t seek for someone who can entertain her.
- She believes in loyalty.
It's deffinitely more risky with a Western woman...
38. Your Vietnamese Mail Order Bride Doesn’t Want Your Money
There’s one thing I observed about the girls in Ho Chi Minh City, but I might be wrong...
I saw a lot less girls with designer handbags, expensive jewelry and IPhones than in Thailand or the Philippines.
I can only assume that it’s because of the communist belief system. From what I can see they are less materialistic than girls from other Asian countries.
39. You Might Want to Marry a Christian Vietnamese Girl
Just because you’re a Christian man doesn’t mean that your Vietnamese bride must be a virgin. However, I’m sure you want to marry a woman who has the same religious values.
Can you find her in Vietnam?
You can, at least if you find a girl who belongs to the 6.8% of Christians in this country.
And believe me. She’s REALLY Christian. Sleeping with her on the first date is impossible and marrying her is your only option.
These girls are perfect for religious men because being a Christian in Vietnam is dangerous and the ones who still practice their religion are really serious about it.
40. Vietnamese Wives Don’t Want You to Do the Dishes
Let’s be honest.
Do you want to clean the floor, do the dishes, and take out the trash while your beloved wife watches Sex and the City?
I bet you don’t.
Do you want to work on your business or watch porn a movie while she takes care of the household?
Now we’re talking.
Say hello to your Vietnamese wife, a woman who doesn’t want you to wash, iron, and clean. If you do it, she will lose respect for you. If you appreciate her for doing it, she will be a proud wife.
Not in her house
41. Your Vietnamese Wife Won’t Cheat on You
Vietnamese women are loyal yada yada yada.
I don’t want to repeat myself. Instead, I want to quote a reputable Vietnamese news outlet that reported on article 182 of the 2015 Penal Code that is the basis for a new adultery law that has been passed last year.
“…those who commit adultery which results in divorce or suicide…shall be sentenced to up to three years in prison.”
She won’t cheat on you. Believe me.
42. Beautiful Vietnamese Ladies Have Amazing Families
Do you remember what I told you at the beginning of this article?
“…I met Thomas, his girlfriend, a bunch of her friends, and her family.”
Yes, I really met Phuong’s family and they are the friendliest people on earth. Her mom cooked for us and we watched an American movie with her dad. He was laughing all the time even though he didn’t understand a single word.
You’ll marry a beautiful woman who has an amazing family.
And don’t worry. You are not marrying a South Korean girl. You don’t have to drink until you pass out. You marry a Vietnamese girl and her family will take care of you in the same way as she takes care of you.
43. Your Parents Want You to Marry a Vietnamese Woman
Your parents will love your future wife because...
- She takes care of their son.
- She has good manners.
- She looks like an angel (Your parents don’t know that she’s a devil in the bedroom).
Heck, she will probably cook for your parents and help them with the household because Vietnamese parents-in-law would expect it. Show me one Western girl who does that.
44. Vietnamese Mail Order Brides are So Thankful
You made it to the finish line…or you scrolled all the way down to read reason #44 (Do your fingers hurt?).
There’s only one more thing left to say:
Your Vietnamese wife will thank you forever
- She will thank you for saving her from a life of domestic violence (remember the 58%).
- She will thank you for being a good husband.
- She will thank you for loving her, respecting her, an appreciating her.
Oh, and she will be thankful that you had the balls to send her a message on VietnamCupid because she wouldn’t have met you otherwise.
Summed Up Wisdom
Come on.
I can’t sum up 44 reasons. Or wait. Maybe I can. Let’s try it with these four words:
Vietnamese women are amazing!
You want more?
Read the goddamn article and leave a friendly comment…
Sebastian, HI!
I’m from the US, light skinned East Indian man, almost 43, but look 30. Worldly, writer, teacher. I know about Vietnam for years, but have yet to visit bc I’m working on my immigration. Tell me, according to this copy paste below from afarang is it an advantage or an disadvantage to meeting girls by knowing a lot or very little? I read an article on farang that says it helps to:
“Ask Vietnamese Women Dumb Touristy Questions
Acting dumber than you are in general works wonders with local Vietnamese women, who are more than eager to tell you about life in Vietnam.
Even if the girl doesn’t speak English, you’ll quickly be pointed to a girl that does. Often, the English-speakers are not as hot but will serve as an anchor to build connections with her surrounding hot friends – i.e. when she invites you to dinner, she’ll have a handful of friends and cousins around.
The best part about opening sets in Vietnam is that groups of all-girls is more common than mixed sets with guys mixed in (unless it’s a nightclub). And when I say make dumb comments, I mean really REALLY dumb, borderline sarcastic. Western girls would pick up that you’re joking, but anyone experienced in Asia knows this sense is lost among Vietnamese and Chinese.”
Please clarify. Thoroughly confused what afarang means even.
Thank you so much! I wish you all the best with her!
Hey Sebastian,
Interesting article. I have been dating a viet girl for nearly a year now in a LDR, I agree with most of the things you said. However since my girlfriend is divorced with a daughter, she likes to see the man help in the house after her experience with the ex husband of not helping and just walking away from the dinner table to play on his play station. She loves that I cook for her , making an effort to do so is whats important . She will not date another local again, according to her.
She is not big on text messaging, she does tell me she misses me a lot during calls. No love words yet though. She wants a life together , although claims doesn’t want to get married again and wants me to be a father figure to her daughter. when Im in town the three of us always go out on the weekend to have fun together.
I always pay when we are out for dinner, it’s to be expected. They do like you to lead like you said. If you are unsure about what to eat you can ask her she will give options and locations and pick one and she will go with it and say ok. She may ask what do you want to do today, pick something and she will mostly likely agree, if she doesn’t she will let you know and give an option. You can go with her option just pretend you considered it carefully and agreed that’s the best option. They love chivalry, I always open and close the car door for her and open doors for her.
Above all very loyal. I don’t have any worry when I’m in the UK and when she is back home even is she is having coffee with a male friend. something I would fined harder with a western woman.
Keep up the good work and good luck everyone.
Dave
Everybody has different experiences.
Awesome!
I have a Vietnamese girl.
It is a long distance relationship, but it is so amazing.
It lasts longer than any other i ever had.
ALl the positive aspects such as caring, loyal and intelligent, they are all in their place.
It actually scared me, because one day, she talked about us getting married and having a baby, while it would take years for a western girl to think about such things, especially when we’re talking about serious stuff.
When I found out that she was for real, it amazed me, but i got used to it.
There were a few cases where I wanted to leave her, because for some reason I thought that she’s not happy with me, and she was just hiding it, like some Japanese girl.
The truth was, she didn’t.
She was saying stuff like
“Please don’t go! I love you so! You mean so much to me!”
Actually, she said one more thing, which kind of links with your non-cheating statement.
“If I didn’t love you, I would ignore you like the other boys.”
Yes, apparently she had no boyfriend before, and she didn’t feel love in her heart, until i was there.
It makes sense now, because I spend hours with her every day.
Chatting, being myself, and a gentle man too.
I was just nice, loving and normal, and noo one criticized me for it.
She is magical, and thank you for this guide, it made me understand it all even better, and now i’m so calm and happy.
Thanks G!
I used to be a fan of the women in Vietnam but not anymore.
Their personalities are pretty cold and unfeeling compared to Thailand and Phils.
They have a really weak motherly instinct.
Even if you date virgins you’ll find that this is the case as well.
Not really easygoing on top of being largely prude or asexual.
Lot of undercover hookers and single moms.
You really need to be Viet to get the good ones.
Interesting thoughts.
The more I date in Saigon, the more I realize the so called conservative culture is b.s. and girls do put out for sure.
The danger is when girls have guys they bang on the side and other guys they string along for free English lessons or use as a meal ticket. They are very crafty in doing this while playing the ‘virginal princess’ card. Doesn’t happen as much in Thailand or Philippines.
As it follows, I never give a girl more than 1 date here on my terms. If we don’t click or hookup, I’m NOT going through the rigamarole of 3 dates at a stuffy coffee shop in Ben Nghe or Thao Dien or wherever.
I guess for guys looking for a wife, it might be different.
Give it a shot and you’ll know. You have good chances.
Im 18 and im an introvert person.How hard is it for me to find a girlfriend
True.
Based on my experience cupid isn’t a scam at all. yes it is about 10 bucks a month, so what ? any dating website need revenues, it doesn’t mean it is a scam.
Hey Lukas,
I am not 18 but I look like 18 and I’m German. So don’t worry 😉
Hey Carlos,
like I said in my review, it is free to join but if you want to upgrade, you have to pay. I also discuss the different options in my Vietnam Cupid review. After recent tests, I would say that Vietnam Cupid is definitely more trustworthy. I met girls from Vietnam Cupid in person.
Hi Sebastian,
Thanks for your wonderful article; it’s a great read indeed!
But I tried Vn Cupid — it’s not free; if you really want to contact somebody you have to upgrade and pay at least 11 bucks a month! Up to now I couldn’t find / see anybody on this site – is it all a scam – are there real girls ? —
Well, the other site “Asia Charm” seems to be a real scam; has the same address in Cyprus like Asian Brides some years ago: they send you fancy long-winding “letters” probably created by some computer processing — if you want to contact somebody you have to give them your credit card number — but is it really the girl that will answer you or some prefab-comuter program? Admittedly they have the most gorgeous – mostly Chinese – women to look at but they look all heavily manicured! I spend usually 6 months a year in Taiwan, so I guess I should know how a real Chinese girl looks like on AC they’re gorgeous but do not look real – I mean a girl you could see at a shopping centre at Taipei, Taichung or Kaohsiung!
haha i love this comment
How easy is it to find a Viatnamese girl if am 18 years old and a germen men? Your article is very good 🙂
Hey Gary,
your comment is beautiful and brutal at the same time 😉
I Spent 18 months in nha trang with u.s. contracting firm, and in any Asian urban area you will find gold
diggers galore,but also more nice women than in any western country.in my experience if you want a traditional
viet girl,be advised, the rual Vietnamese look down on girls who date westerners,period. it would be very unusual for a Vietnamese girl to go against her familys wishes,at least with regards to this. I would
proceed very carefully when dating them long term, as the rual girls are not into casual relationships.that
being said, you will find a better wife there than you will here (u.s.) less b.s. and you wont have to worry
about how many of your friends are nailing your American whore/ wife when your out of town, or losing
half your money to that fatass pig in the inevitable divorce.
half
Hey Pablo,
yeah, I know. I got it mixed up. My mistake. The jealousy is a huge issue all over Asia.
Hi Sebastian
Couple of comments. First, a good “respectful” article, well done.
However I think you got Hanoi and HCMC mixed up? The North is the communist stronghold while the south – well, I have had many conversations with people in *Saigon* who aren’t overjoyed with the government in Hanoi. And no self respecting person in Saigon calls it HCMC. Not a biggies but just wondering if you got the “more friendly” bit upside down?
I met my GF on Vietnam Cupid. She is 20 years younger than me and I really only contacted her as she spoke English and I needed some local advice. I was talking more seriously to the 50 year olds as I thought they would be more understanding of my age group. Thank god I stepped out of Western thinking!
One last thing, which may be an negative or not – Viet woman can be extremely jealous. It can be flattering at first but can be real tiring if you are chatting with a business acquaintance who just happens to be female. Which happens a lot as men can be a bit standoffish (I put this down to jealously as to the enhanced status foreigners have and are “pinching” the local women) and women tend to be the more outgoing types. Just be warned – she wont stray but you are expected not to either!
Hey James,
I’m 28 and I still look like 16. So don’t worry. Nevertheless, it’s easier for older men to find a girlfriend.
You mentioned that it was easier for older men to young Vietnamese woman than in western countries. I just wanted to know as a very youthful looking 20 year old (I look like a 6’4” sixteen year old) how well I will fair.
Give it a shot and you’ll find out.
Hi friend i am hindusim from India .I want marry with a Vietnam girl. How much possibele. PLEASE tell me.
Hey James,
either Vietnam or the Philippines.
What is the best country for a 60 year old man? In the U.S. 30 yo women won’t date me because of my age.
Hey Anthony,
I’m happy for you. Don’t forget to name your first child Sebastian 😛
Hey Sebastian , Thanks for the post .
I am dating a Vietnamese woman for 2 months now and everything you said is so true and I love it .
I will marry her and have the best life !!!
Thanks so much for validating that they are putting Western women to shame
Anthony
I was born in Saigon in the 80s and have lived here during my whole life. Honestly speaking, I think you have not met a real and well – educated Saigon woman. My friends and I are very traditional. Many local guys prefer Saigon girls because they live honestly. I hope that you will change your thinking about Saigon ladies in future.
Hey Lotus,
Here’s what I think: “Come see her”
Hi Sebastian. Sorry I intentionally looked for this kind of article in the web. Well I just want to share something. I met a vietnamese girl when I went in Singapore yesterday.. we’ve been on a same training that was based on Singapore. The first time I saw her, I fell in love with her. Before I got back here in the Philippines I tried to message her in iMessage and I was shocked that she’s very friendly. Before we leave I chat her that asking if it’s okay to have a selfie with me and she said “okay” and another message saying “come see me”. She also said that “she hope that we’ll keep in touch. I was very very happy. What do you think sir ? Thank you for helping.
Just be nice to her parents. Politeness is all you need.
Hey Sebastian,
A random google search bought me here, to this helpful article. Thank you for writing this.
I recently started dating a vietnamese girl. We both live in the US and are professionals. And I’m crazy about her – her family values, her education, her style are all I always wanted. We are both committed and I see(hope) more for us.
Here’s my dilemma – I have not met her folks yet. Being from India, I can relate to some of the family oriented/respect elders part. But can you please share some pointers on do’s and dont’s when I meet them and her relatives/culture in general?
Thanks much!
Hey Michael,
I don’t have an article that compares them.
Do you have Vietnamese vs filipina article as it seems they have plenty of character traits in common,however I don’t see the dreaded tampo here or did I miss anything?
Hey Mikey,
There are many amazing Thai women and of course many amazing Vietnamese women. You just fell for the wrong woman. Sorry to hear that.
I am a 58yo Australian man, I recently lost all of my money to a Thailand woman and her family, I want a life partner, I want children and most importantly, I want love… after reading this article and all of the above comments, I truly wish that i had gone to Vietnam instead of to Thailand…!!!
Unfortunately, now i have nothing to offer a woman except love… I have nothing else…!
If I ever have enough money to support a wife and children again, I will be going to Vietnam first…!!!
Thanks Hoang!
Im a Vietnamese women. I read your writing; I Thank for your high appreciation; all is really true; it seems u have your experiences here; Vietnamese women promote inside soul beauty than outside beauty; they appreciate faithfulness, love of family, responsible for family; I am on my journey looking for half- life; If you are interested in Vietnam to find out more deeply you can call
i think it isnt any special
Hey Dave,
awesome comment. Thanks for sharing!
I’m in my early 50’s (fit and young looking for my age) and Wow – it’s all I can say about Vietnamese women – wow! I made my first trip to Vietnam merely 2 and a half months ago, then went again 6 weeks later and next weekend I will go for my third trip!! I work in China so it’s relatively affordable to fly down from Beijing. Of course I met a girl on my first trip – she worked in the hotel I stayed at. She struck up a conversation with me although she only speaks a little English. Oh that smile! Then she started preparing me items that weren’t on the breakfast menu and brought them to me every morning. We laughed about that and then the next thing I know she’s got my phone in her hand and is adding me on Facebook. By that afternoon she’s commenting on my posts and telling me that I’m very handsome. Of course, flattery works and these girls know it! Let me just say that she is smoking hot and south of 30. Before I know it we’re going out for dinner and ktv with her and her friends. I fly back to China and within a few days we strike up a texting relationaship and soon she’s telling me that she misses me and wonders when I will come back.So I go back and this time I go on a double date with her and another hotel staff who is also smoking hot and who has a foreign boyfriend. This time the ladies are dressed very sexily with short miniskirts and tight tops and there is lots of casual physical contact in the taxi, etc. …let’s just say I can hardly walk!!…but still trying to be a gentleman because I really like this lady, so classy and fun. So I only could stay a few days – texting increased with lots of hearts, audio and video clips and video calls. So this time I asked her to go with me on an island snorkelling trip and she accepted right away. THird time a charm is my modus operandi – I want a real nice relationship after a
marriage that ended badly, not looking for one night stands.. I feel blessed….and her friends are just as amazing. They are ALSO flirting with me – it’s all I can do to keep my head on straight!! I’m in classy, sexy women heaven. Vietnamese girls have a way of getting into your head and they can make you think about them all the time. They are flirty, gorgeous, kind, funny and they love to go out on dates with YOU (as long as you are a gentleman). They expect you to be the man – therefore, have a PLAN! Ask them out. Tell them where they are going to go – make the decisions. Give them compliments – tell them they are beautiful, buy them flowers, pay the bill, hold the door. They LOVE it!!
You’re welcome, Jay!
I’m shocked at how accurate this is… I’m actually very seriously considering dating this really sweet Vietnamese girl. Thanks for all the tips, and I’ll be sure to appreciate her ^^
Hey Stephen,
get to know her a long time before you marry her.
I am currently in Vietnam. I have an interesting story, but besides all that, I was introduced to a beautiful girl. She and I had been conversing through FB, but now I’m here and have met her and all her family. My mom and I were invited to her brother’s weddings. 2 separate cities. She lets me hold her hand, and we plan to have a future together in the states. That’s the issue though. A k-1. Not sure if I will have to start selling my things to get her to the states. Attourney’s or through programs. Any advice that keeps me from going broke?
Thanks RC!
Hey David,
just ask her out. You have nothing to lose.
I’m into my Vietnamese nail salon lady in California. I’m 62. She’s around 30 and divorced. How do I approach her for a date.
:))
Great Overview Sebastian
I’ve been living here in Vietnam for the past two years, outside of Saigon/HCMC; arrived in Hanoi and stayed my first six weeks there, which was quite different!
Bit confused under the point 18: the more communist conservative part of the country is Hanoi! And Americans are more popular in the South & HCMC than the North.
[although the younger generation doesn’t look back too much, and everyone is eager to go to an English speaking country for study/university].
RC
Hay Jon ! Glad to hear that
Glad to hear that
hey guys! that’s great comment :)))))
You can find those cities in the North, South or central Vietnam, excluded some big cities like Saigon, Hanoi, Hue, Da Nang. There would be a lot. Saigon and Hanoi girls are more modern, while Hue, Da Nang girls are more likely a combination of modern and traditional.
i’m a vietnamese, ho chi minh city is totally contradictory to what ” history” said 😉
Hey Ricardo,
awesome…Go and get her!
Thank you!! Now I want to vietnamese girlfriend!!!
Greetings from México dude.
Hey Ron,
give her the note in person. Otherwise, her boss might throw it away.
The vietnamese woman I love lives in my city in the US. She is 50 and she is all I want. I’m 57. 2004 to 2006 i would go to her place of employment. We always shared long eye contact but I was married to a filipina and 2 young kids and I think she understood my dilemma. So 2018 I’m divorced and back at her work and the eye contact and big smiles continue. The last month she has started calling me babe. Now I don’t see doing this to other customers. All I know about her is that she has a 28 year old daughter and owns a home and is not married. She is constantly surrounded by men including her bosses. I got the balls to ask her out in front of them and she said maybe quickly and then said not now, i assume because of her bosses. I said let me know and she said ok. That’s when she started calling me babe. It’s been almost 3 weeks and she hasn’t said yes or no. Should I leave a note with my number at the her bosses work desk, ask out again or wait. I would appreciate replies. Ron
They are open to moving.
Do most Vietnamese women expect the man to move and live over there? Or are they open to eventually living in the states? Thanks for a GREAT article Sebastian!
Thanks, very encouraging to hear your experience!
Thanks
Can you please tell names of these 2nd or 3rd tier cities
Great
Thanks for sharing your opinion.
Most of the girls in Ho Chi Minh City live very honestly
The girl of Ho Chi Minh City is polite, sincere, romantic and faithful.
I love living in Ho Chi Minh City because people here are really good, they do not know the lie.
2nd or 3rd tier? Like south or north…?
Hey Dillinger,
great to hear that you found the perfect girl.
I am 52 good and young looking but with grey hair and British teeth. I have a bit of cash but not much.
But here in VN I have the pulling power of George Clooney.
But only for marraige. If you are one of ‘da playaz’ you will get nowhere. Go back to your copy and past forums. Leave these gorgeous girls to the adults.
I wanted to give a bad review to Vietnamcupid because I was like every guy here a cynic. But I am not joking that the girls I have turned down from that sute are hotter than any I dated in the UK .
Why did I turn them down? Because I commited to the one. If you think you can play more than one VN girl you are deluded, they love everything about you and will text you all day every day about how much she loves you, how much she misses you, what you and she had for lunch and send cute stickers throughout the day.
You will not have time for 2 girls believe me.
As for sex. I Will not demean them except to say that the dream is alive in bed too.
For a guy who does not smoke or drink too much I would search for girls about 20 years younger. They do not want young hot guys with Ferarris they want a GOOD man who loves and respects them.
If you are a bit out of shape go for about 10 years younger. I would get a hula hoop and lose that belly though. Surely a hot beautiful wife who is 20 years younger is better than that can of Heineken and fatty breakfast.
Vietnam is a wonderful country where every day it gets a little bit better. I thank the Universe for a terrible end to a long marraige. It brought me here to my beautiful lady.
Love them, hold them and care of them, for they will do all that and more for you.
Hey Ross,
that sounds awesome!
I spent 3 weeks in Vietnam, found a lovely girl while in hcmc. I am 49, she is 20. I traveled the country with her while there. Came back home, missed her after a week, so flew back. Went into the country meet and stayed with her mother father and family. I am now looking to move there and start a new life with her. I’m hooked.
Totally agree.
Hey Richard,
wow…I’m speechless. I’ve never met a guy who dated a Vietnamese girl who pays taxi fares and the restaurant tip for the foreign man. She might be a keeper. Come on, buddy. You are 68. Let’s give love another chance 😉
I came to HCMC 49 years later curious to see the changes. I am 68 years old & met a worker in the hotel I am staying in. She is 43. She does not speak English nor do I speak Vietnamese. We are dating. She always reaches for my hand when we are walking to hold it. She looks out for me. She pays taxi fares & the restaurant tip every time we go out. She is hard working & takes care of a 23 year old daughter & her mother. I have changed my previous plans for travel. In 3 months I am returning to HCMC for 1 year. She is going to look for an apartment for me that is near her. She is everything that the Western ladies are not. I have been divorced for 29 years. Afraid to make the same mistake. Things seem very different here.
Hey Jon,
thanks for sharing your experience!
Good article but i’d say very optimistic.
As someone who’s been living in Vietnam for a number of years now i’d say things are definitely changing here for the worst. It’s getting harder to find ‘good girls’ in the city as apps like Tinder are exploding in popularity opening up thousands of foreign guys to local girls. Indeed it’s very easy to get casual hook ups here now and the girls, especially in HCM are becoming very Westernised and entitled. I’d say if you are looking for more traditional Viet girls for something long-term then stick to the 2nd or 3rd tier cities and stay away from stuff like Tinder and Badoo.
Hey Buddy,
that’s the beauty of Asia. You can still meet young women, even as a guy in his 50s. Of course, I wouldn’t go for the 19-21 year olds but if you’re looking for a woman in her early 30s, your chances are extremely good. Check out my Vietnam Cupid review.
First, thanks for taking all the time necessary for typing your posting and sharing your perspectives.
As for my situation, I am an American late 50s and love small petite asian woman. I am currently working in Phnom Pehn and have never travelled to Vietnam.
Many foreign friends here at different times had said to me, at different individual times, that they did not like Cambodian woman. When I asked why, which I think no one had ever asked previously, they were short of an answer. I remained unbiased and went on my way. As time has passed I now know EXACTLY what they were all at a loss to express. That Cambodian woman want nothing to do with western guys unless other than your money. They are the most uptight and unfriendly woman of any country I have travelled or lived in.
So, with that said…a white western guy in his upper 50s…what might you have to say to me of my potential to meet a young beautiful Vietnamese woman? I do not want a bar girl, thats for sure, but a real woman, young, beautiful, sophisticated, fashionable, traditional all rolled up imto one being… …what might you say are my prospects in HCMC to meet and marry to a young vietnamese woman such as what I have noted?
I would love to find my young Vietnamese Forever Woman and from PP to travel weekends into HCMC are realistic…
What are your thoughts?
Thanks so much for your work…
Hey Dan,
thanks a lot. Yep, you can’t compare Vietnamese women to Western women. Enjoy your time!
Loved reading your article. Just returned from 2 weeks in Ho chi Min City, my second time and I totally agree that the girls are elegantly classy, soo beautifully slim and shapely, thin boned, feminine, soo gorgeous. Fell in love wherever I looked. Beautiful smooth white skin, gorgeous legs in sexy heels. I’m back in Southern California now where most people are disgustingly obese and big boned and that goes for all of
U.S.ofA home of the American fat ass. Since coming back I can’t stop thinking about the women there and how soon I can get back. Next time I will spending months there and not just weeks. Loved your sense of humor, had me cracking up. Thank you.
sounds like he went to a whore house aka massage place and cafe places, what did you expect? that’s their job, call girls.He knew exactly what he was getting himself into and he fell asleep in the hotel sounded like some real bull**** lol Most girls are traditional but the poverty forced lots of girls from small towns to do jobs like that to send money home
I know that I got it wrong. I already admit it. Don’t set me on fire 😉
This comment is correct. Sebastian has it backwards. I am American and have lived in Vietnam for more than a year. Hanoi in the north is much more conservative and the girls there are much less wiling to go out with a foreigner. Not saying it doesn’t happen. It does but it’s much more difficult and uncommon than it is in the south.
You will find many on Vietnam Cupid
Hi i need some vietnamese friends
“Ho Chi Minh City is in the communist part of the country. The city was once called Saigon and got renamed after the first communist leader of North Vietnam. The girls in this part of the country are more traditional, less accepting of foreigners (especially Americans) and more conservative in their beliefs.”
Dude, I think you got this in reverse. The Saigon army was actually fighting with the Americans against the communist Hanoi army.
Thanks Miguel!
Hey Uyen,
thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts!
Hi Sebastian,
I respect your point because it’s your feeling. I have thoughts and feelings different your point.
I was bon in Quang Ngai province, it belong to the middle of Vietnam country. Currently I’m studying and living in Saigon. This means I’m not Saigon girl and sure I’m also not Ha Noi girl!!!! ( Currently in Viet Nam, people are living, studying and working in Saigon and Hanoi, they come from many provinces. It mean is whenever there are conservatives and open-minded people).
I see and feeling girls in Ha Noi and Saigon are gentle, friendly and open minded. But what would you think when I say I have more sympathy for Saigon girls than Hanoi girls? I like openness, honesty of Saigon girls (I’m not talking about girls from other provinces and in Saigon)
I have a lot of friends, they are boys and girls from many provinces of Vietnam, Hanoi is one of them. I also wen visit some place And i understand their personality depends where they are born and full-grown.
I went to some places, to communicate with the people there.
Moreover, I am Vietnamese, I can hear, see, know and understand Vietnamese, about Vietnamese girls quite exactly.
Thank you for the nice things you have thought about Vietnamese women. And it is truth. But in 2017 , i think girls are educated, good qualities account for about 60 – 65%. If the guys want to meet and date with this Vietnamese girls, I think it is not difficult. But guys will be shocked by culture, if they only know about Vietnamese culture but don’t understand Vietnamese culture. EX: When Vietnamese guy and Vietnamese girl dating, guy will pay if they go out for drinks, eat together.. It is a part of Vietnamese lifestyle and culture. But for West guys, they think Vietnamese girl take advantage, greed,date with them for money!!! ( of couse i know a lot of girls date with foreigner for money or similar things, but not all Vietnamese girl!). I think when dating, sharing 50/50 like in Western countries is ok but it’s better if foreign guy and Vietnamese girl have better ways.
I think there are many cultural issues West guys should understand if they want dating and marry Vietnamese. For example: why Vietnamese women do not have sex before marriage, Why guys should not give Chrysanthemum to girls, why Vietnamese women keep their husbands money (Vietnamese men often say that wife is the bank It’s easy to put money, but it’s hard to get out money !!! lol),Why when married, he had to give wedding presents to his future wife’s family, why mother-in-law gives the bride’s earrings,….
Yes, I’m thinking some guy started feeling difficult or run away…
P/s: Thanks for reading my thoughts. I sure you can understand althought i write not corect by English.
Great Article my man! good job!
Hey Dave,
thank you so much for your feedback. Your comment motivated me even more to continue on this journey. Thanks!
Hey Uyen,
thanks for correcting me (seriously!). I’m not shy to admit a mistake and I guess I made one. I did more research. Thanks a lot. However, I recently visited Hanoi and I had the feeling that the girls in Hanoi are way friendlier and more open to talk to foreigners than the girls in Ho Chi Minh. Has anyone had a similar experience?
I’m a Vietnamese girl and studied Vietnamese culture. I don’t totally gree about some of point of view you write.There are some problems you have written that are wrong. And I’m sure Thomas’s girlfriend Phuong provided a lot of incorrect information. I guess she is Northerner in Vietnam. Or when she said but you have written wrong. EX:
“Ho Chi Minh City is in the communist part of the country. The city was once called Saigon and got renamed after the first communist leader of North Vietnam. The girls in this part of the country are more traditional, less accepting of foreigners (especially Americans) and more conservative in their beliefs.
The girls in Hanoi, on the other hand, love the American culture, romanticize everything that’s from the West (especially the men) and are even more open to dating foreigners.”
And the truth is:
“Ho Chi Minh City is NOT in the communist part of the country. The city was once called Saigon and got renamed after the first communist leader of North Vietnam. Americans have lived here for a long time, so girls live in Ho Chi Minh City more openly, less traditionally because their accepting of foreigners’s culture and lifestyle (especially Americans). They are romanticize everything that’s from the West (especially the men) and are even more open to dating foreigners.”
For the girls in Hanoi, Ha Noi is in the communist part of the country. The girls in this part of the country are more traditional, less accepting of foreigners and more conservative in their beliefs!!!!
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Thank you TT, Well said. My husbands ex gf Vietnamese woman wanted him for his passport, he is not white and especially did not come from the west. It just happen he lives in Europe , with European passport. She wants to lived abroad with him and he found out she have a Vietnamese boyfriend.
Thank you for your writing, Sebastian. You combine valuable perception with refreshing frank honesty all around—about the cultures you discuss and about the guys you are writing for. It feels like you size up everyone’s strengths and weaknesses realistically, and to me this is more respectful than whitewashing any of us. It’s such a relief to read straight dope that does not feel packaged and rendered “correct.” Bravo to you for learning to live so well, and thank you for sharing your insights with the rest of us.
Cheers mate
—David
Yes, every woman has the fantasy to date (and sleep with) a guy like that but Vietnamese women are rasied in a traditional way and have traditional beliefs that forbidd them to date such a guy. This is why a lot of Asian girls go to the other extreme and dream about the perfect Disney Gentleman. Both are ideal fantasies.
” They want a gentleman from a Disney movie, not a psychopath from Fifty Shades of Grey. ”
Puting aside some sexual déviations (even if i think it’s great to make love to a woman after you tied her to the bed), i think this character is an inspiration.
He is never insecure. always confident. always in control of himself and the situation. he knows what he want and how to get it. thats what makes him manly and attractive for a woman
You can’t ignore the fact that 90% of women love this book/movie.character.
Thanks for sharing your experience but for a guy who is Vietnamese it’s a totally different experience than for a Western man.
He acts like you aren’t loyal because he loves to have you ‘prove yourself’ it’s a selfish power trip.
If you get sick of it, tell him to stop and grow up. Give less attention rather than more when he behaves badly.
I’m sorry, but I have to disagree with your artcle. While it may be true for some women in VN, I can honestly say my experience was completely opposite of what you described. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years now. He went to Vietnam to work abroad for 6 months, and worked for a very wealthy woman who owned a hotel to teach English to her staff in District 1, Saigon.
Now, my boyfriend and I had decided to do the ldr. I visited him for 2 weeks, and what I saw was completely different from what you described. First, the women crave western foreigner men. Everywhere my boyfriend went, he would get stared down like a blue passport commodity (mind you- he is vietnamese, but very tall, slender, and handsome- so he stuck out like a sore thumb. Women would prance themselves around my boyfriend. In fact, I met his boss while she was out here in the US, and her agenda was to hook him up with her daughter all along – that’s another story.
Secondly, MANY of the women are very materialistic. Every woman I passed had some knock off of a chanel handbag, or louboutin shoes. My boyfriend can vouch for this, and claims that walking with an iPhone 6 deems high and wealthy status.
Thirdly, as I went to the bars with my boyfriend I witnessed young girls kissing their clients- sometimes two different guys in the same night!
Two weeks before my boyfriend’s return to the US- he decided to take a break from me and traveled to Hanoi. The women there are supposedly more beautiful as many of them are from Chinese decent with a “small nose.”
He met a young girl out there the last three days of his trip. They had pictures of them kissing, and holding hands. Now, my boyfriend was usually a very loyal and trustworthy guy. But something in Hanoi made him stray from me. He spent these last three days with this girl whom he met at a cafe where she worked on beer street. She was 23, and he’s 28. They went out for coffee often, and after much persistence, she agreed to sleep at his hotel. -side note: supposedly she’s very conservative and well educated. She supposedly never came to his room that night because he fell asleep- but the intent was there. I found all this out through discovering text messages from his VN phone.
I will say, there is some validity in women wanting love and being emotional. Now, my boyfriend is completely guilty for having a weak and douche bag moment, as he mislead her to think there was emotional connection there. However, she was very quick to proceed into getting something more out of him and making him her boyfriend.
Also, I might add that it was very difficult for him to connect with anyone in HCMC, as a majority of them do not speak English. Whereas, he felt that English was more common in Hanoi.
I’ll also add- that while his friend had visited him out there, he slept with a woman in Hanoi.
Therefore, I have to disagree with this post. There are woman all over the world who can be deemed as deceitful with a hidden agenda, whereas there’s also woman all over the world who is described as the VN women you described above.
Note- I am a Filipina born and raised in the U.S. And I feel that I uphold a lot of the values you described in VN women. But I am also that western typical woman you described as not being submissive, and being more independent. I kind of feel there has to be some respect for that.
Well, i pack my stuff for the holidays, travel to vietnam, find an amazing woman, and then what ? i have to go back to France after a couple of weeks where i have my good paying job (relativly to vietnam)…
That’s great. Your boyfriend is a lucky guy. Maybe you should show him this comment 😉
Hey Lucy,
I hope this inspires some guys to pack their suitcases 😉
I am so happy to read your articles! I am Vietnamese women and i am so prouf of myself. 🙂
If you want to find a Vietnamese girls/women, travel to Vietnam! Welcome you!
Thanks!
Very good article that I absolutely loved reading.
Hey Adam,
maybe she really, really likes you
Hey Quinn,
thanks for sharing your feedback. Glad to hear that.
Thanks for your article. I am a typical Vietnamese young girl and I have lived in Australia for 3 years. I am 20 years old and I am in relationship 3 months with my Irish boyfriend. I feel so happy when your article tells most of vietnamese personality. Thanks for you article.
Hey Gabryael,
it’s good to hear that you are looking for something serious. Vietnamese women are quite traditional, the longer you can visit, the more success you will have. And check out my Vietnam Cupid review.
Hey Lynk,
thanks for sharing.
I guess u need to dig deeper, there’s nothing is perfect in this world, most of the part is true, but there is something to be careful. Girls from certain parts or area of vn, is not like what u said on above. Many countries have many news like vn wives ran away from husband. This I can provide u answer, and like u mentioned up there, they don’t really hide emotions and they dare to do something they think was right. If after marriage but didn’t feel love or did not get respect or also not been treated like normal family members, don’t blame they ran away from u. I bet u all will do the same if u live in other countries feel like hell, sure u wanna go back to your home town like heaven
Hello Sebastian!
Very thanks for your articles, I like them.
How long should be a trip? Two weaks or three? (I have introverted personality to. )
Maybe my question sounds too practical, but I have to ask becouse of my job. I have calculate my holidays with this information. (I want the heart of a lady, not just make a sextrip.)
Thanks for your answer:
Gabryael
Hey Darin,
sure. Of course you can. You are definitely not too old.
Really good information and I thank you , i am mid 50’s , can I still find a nice lady in one of these countries ?
Recompndations ,
Thank you , D