Do you dream about dating Filipina women?
Have you ever wondered what your life would look like if you had a beautiful Pinay girlfriend or wife?
I was 22 when I traveled to the Philippines for the very first time.
Everyone was trying to stop me. “It’s too dangerous”, they said. “You’ll only meet hookers who’ll try to rip you of”, they said. Today I’m glad that I didn’t listen to all the naysayers who believed the lies about this country.
Even though everyone predicted that I would get killed in this terrible Third World Country, I packed my suitcase and headed to Manila. I stayed in this crazy place for a couple of days until I decided to spend another couple of weeks in Cebu. When landed in Cebu, I knew that I wanted a Filipino girlfriend, even if it would be just for a few weeks.
Two days after I landed I met a cute Pinay who spent the rest of my trip with me.
I’m still friends with her and I promised to keep her name a secret. Let’s call her Joy.
She’s the reason why I fell in love with Filipina women and she’s the reason why I’m writing this article for you. Without this experience I couldn’t share everything that I’m going to share with you today.
“What do you share with me?” you ask.
Everything a white man needs to know to date Filipina girls.
In this guide you'll learn…
- Why you should or should not date and/or marry Filipinas.
- What types of women you’ll encounter.
- Why they really love foreigners.
- Where to meet the woman of your dreams.
In addition to that, I show you how to attract them, how to date them and how to get a Filipina girlfriend or wife. This guide is anything but short, but once you’ve read it you’ll know more about dating Filipino women than 99% of men.
That’s my guarantee.
What I’ve Learned From Dating a Filipino Woman
That’s the first word that pops into my head when I think back to the time I spent with Joy.
And even though it turned out that she was not the love of my life, she will always have a place in my heart. It might sound weird, but I’m still friends with her…and I still wear the necklace she bought for me at a run-down shop in the city center of Cebu.
She was the first girl who showed me how invigorating and fulfilling it can be to date a woman who hasn’t been exposed to radical feminist propaganda. The time with her proved to me that feminine, joyful and supportive women still exist.
She awakened the Global Seducer inside of me and inspired me to embark on my international dating journey. I am forever thankful for that.
I don’t know why but I felt like sharing this before showing you WHY dating Filipina women can make you so damn happy.
5 Reasons Why You Want to Date and Fall in Love with a Filipina
But why is it that men like you and me are so fascinated by Pinays?
Why is it that so many white men who are attracted to Asian women want to know how to date Filipinas?
I’m pretty sure that you already have a preference for Asian women. Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article.
However, there must be a reason why you think that dating Filipino women is the right choice. And you are right. It can be the right choice, at least when you appreciate the following five facts about Pinays.
1. The Beauty of the Women in the Philippines
Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. But I know that you, just like me, think that the women in this country are gorgeous.
And I’m pretty sure it’s because they look like cute mini Latinas.
What, you don’t see that? It’s so obvious.
Their brown skin, their curvy bodies (at least in comparison to women from other Asian countries) and their voluptuous lips…they look like mini Latinas. It’s impossible to not love the way they look.
As a man who is into petite Asian women with curves, you simply can’t ignore the Philippines. Sooner or later you will visit this country and sooner or later you will fall in love.
2. The Psychology of the Filipino Woman
You get the best of both worlds.
The good news is that many Filipinas are highly educated. Of course there are also a lot of uneducated women with a poor family background, but it’s common for girls in the Philippines to go to university. But it gets even better. Exactly these women can’t find a man.
And it’s obvious why.
The literacy rate among females is higher than among men. When it comes to numerical skills, the women are also better than the Pinoy men. The same is true for the ability to communicate and comprehend.
The difference becomes even more evident when you look at academic degrees and licensed professionals. 56.2% of holders of academic degrees and 63.7% of licensed professionals are women (all statistics can be looked up here).
Do you know what this means?
There are hundreds of thousands of educated young women who can’t find a decent man who can write a whole sentence.
That’s absolutely insane, but it gets even better.
Filipina women go to university to learn. They don’t go there to host cry-ins or to complain about the evil patriarchy while sobbing in their safe space. No, they actually go to college to learn something and to become educated members of society. Can you believe that?
It might shock the shit out of you, but it’s true.
These women are beautiful, educated and they are not yet destroyed by the feminist agenda. In other words, they don’t think that getting wasted and teaching men lessons with false rape accusations is fun, hip and progressive.
They actually respect men, value family above everything and dream about marriage.
3. The Conversation with a Filipina
The Philippines is a country in South East Asia. Yes, you know that, but do you also know that it’s one of the few South East Asian countries where everyone speaks English?
It can be hard to find a girl who speaks proper English when you are in Thailand, Indonesia, or China.
But it’s ridiculously easy when you are in the Philippines.
And no, the college girls are not the only ones who speak English. No matter if you talk to a shop assistant, a nurse, or a high society girl. She will understand you. The only women who don’t speak English are the really uneducated ones and these are the women that you want to avoid anyway.
4. The Friendliness of Filipino Women
Filipina women are friendly. There’s really no other way to say it.
They are life-affirming, playful and kind. I mean, you can of course date a nagging Western woman who complains about God and the world, but if you want a friendly foreign woman, you’ll feel at home in the Philippines.
But they are so much more than just friendly. They also treat you with respect. When you approach a Filipina and she’s married or simply not interested, she smiles and thanks you for the compliment. No drama, no bad feelings.
What if she’s into you?
Believe me, she will be the sweetest woman on earth.
She’ll treat you like you’ve never been treated and you will enjoy every second of it.
5. The Religious Values of Filipino Women
I want to be honest. I’m not a very religious person. But maybe you are. Everyone can believe what he wants to believe (as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone) and if you are a religious Catholic, you will love the women in the Philippines.
Most of them actually are religious Catholics.
And even though I’m not religious, I’m not blind to the fact that the religious upbringing has a positive impact on the way Filipinas value family, their elders and marriage.
What to Expect from the 5 Types of Filipina Women
What can you expect when you meet a Filipino Woman?
It depends on where you hang out.
If you hang out in shady bars with half-naked girls, you won’t meet the kind of girls that I would call marriage material. If you, however, hang out on college campuses or at the Cebu IT Park, your chances to meet an educated woman with an IQ above 100 is quite high.
Of course, every woman is unique and every Pinay girl you meet has her own beliefs, values and interests. However, from first-hand experience and from testing the biggest Filipina dating sites, I can say that there are five general types of women in this country.
Have a look at them and decide for yourself who you want to date…
1. A True Filipina Lady aka The High Society Pinay Girl
The Philippines is not the richest country on earth. That’s not a secret. But to say that every Filipina is dirt poor would be an ignorant lie.
It’s a country where two worlds collide.
On the one side of this world are the poor people in the slums of the Smokey Mountains. The chance that you’ll ever meet a girl who was born and raised in such an area is vanishingly low. She has no chance to join one of the Filipina online dating sites. No money, no smartphone, no electricity.
On the other side of this world are the Filipinos who are richer than 99% of the population and probably richer than you and I. They live in the Forbes Park in Makati and Beverly Hills in Cebu City. And guess what, these lawyers, doctors and landlords have really hot daughters.
You remember Joy?
She’s one of these high society girls.
She’s a beautiful Filipina lady, has studied in Japan and has a smartphone that’s bigger than her handbag. But just because the high society girls can be a bit spoiled (they certainly are), doesn’t mean that they don’t want to date you.
Of course, you can’t be 50 kilos overweight and stink like a dead buffalo if you want to date a high society Pinay. Not every Wester man can enjoy dating such a girl, but if you follow the advice in this article, you can.
2. The Filipina Lover for One Night aka The Bar Girl
She’s the opposite of the high society girl.
This girl was born and raised in the slums of Manila and the only reason why she has the latest smartphone is because her sponsor gave it to her. Some people call them bar girls, others call them prostitutes. She’s a hustler whose parents are dirt poor.
There’s a high chance that she has experienced sexual and physical abuse in her childhood. What I can promise you is that she was raised with the belief that foreigners = money. She knows that marrying a foreigner is her only chance to get out of this because, as sad as it is, no Filipino would marry her.
It’s sad but a lot of guys who come to the Philippines end up dating Filipina bar girls.
I mean, you’re a big guy and you can do what you want. Just don’t marry one of these girls and then write a comment below in which you complain that all Filipina women are gold-digging whores.
Before you marry a Filipina bar girl who has all kinds of psychological issues from years of abuse, you should think about the consequences for your own life. You can do it, but I would rather date a girl who belongs to any of the other four types.
3. The Filipina College Girl or the Party Pinay
Who are the Party Pinays?
They are college girls who want to date a foreigner because it’s...
B: Something they haven’t done before
C: Something to brag about
They are not always college girls, but in most cases they are. Or let’s say they are educated enough to know a couple of things about the Western culture. They’ve seen every movie from High School Musical to Terminator and they already fantasize about how it would be to date a cute Zac Efron or a manly Arnold Schwarzenegger.
These girls start to date you because they want the experience. But if you make sure that the experience is great, they want more. You wouldn’t be the first white man who makes a Filipina fall in love by showing her how much of a gentleman men can be.
4. The Shy Filipino Girl aka The Dating Newby
She’s the new kid in town.
Her parents come from a small village outside of Manila, Cebu or Davao. It’s the first time that she’s in a big city. Everything is new to her.
She just got a job in the city as a nurse, hotel receptionist or a shop assistant. All I can say for sure is that she never dated a white man. Heck, there’s a high chance that she has no dating experience at all. When you join a Filipino online dating site, you’ll find her in the New Members category.
One tip: Don’t be too straightforward with her. She’s very shy.
The Dating Newby is the type of girl you should be looking for if you dream about marrying a Filipina woman. She has little to none dating experience and a very romantic image of love. She will be so happy that she met a guy like you that she wants to marry you straight away.
But please be careful.
If all you want is two weeks of fun, you should not date this type of girl. She will fall in love with you fast and a bad experience can easily ruin her perception of love, sex and men. Please don’t break her heart.
5. The Filipino Woman Who Wants a White Man
The Filipino woman who only dates white men is the Pinay equivalent to the Gringo Hunter. For reasons that I share with you within the next paragraphs, this girl decided to date foreigners…and only foreigners.
There’s a positive and a negative side to this.
The positive side is obvious. Her obsession for foreigners makes it easy for you to attract, seduce and date her. In fact, she was already seduced when she looked into your eyes for the first time.
The negative side hides behind a façade of good feelings.
Your ego can make you blind to the fact that she only sees the white skin, not the human being. And you are probably not her first white guy. This makes it very hard to find out if she really likes you or just the color of your skin.
Dating a normal college girl, a high society girl or a shy Filipino girl might be the better option.
3 Reasons Why Filipinas Love Foreigners
Even though most girls are not as obsessed about dating a white guy as the Pinay Gringo Hunter, many Filipino women are attracted to white men. That’s a fact.
Hell, both girls and guys prefer Caucasian partners…
The question is: Why?
Why are so many young and beautiful Filipinas into white guys like you and me?
Why do some Filipinas dream about dating a white man, even when he’s 10 or 20 years older than them?
To be honest, there are all kinds of different reasons why these women prefer white guys. Some of them make total sense. Others, however, are not so funny, especially when you date the wrong girl.
1. Some Filipina Girls are Obsessed with White Skin
Filipina women are obsessed with white skin. Period.
This is not unusual for Asian countries, but to be honest, I’ve never seen so many advertisements for skin-whitening products as in the Philippines. When it comes to obsession with white skin, Thailand is a 6 out of 10 and the Philippines is a 9 out of 10.
I will never forget the day when I went to this shopping mall with a guy I met at a meetup. He was dark-skinned and the shop assistants ignored him while they offered me all kinds of things. It was embarrassing.
It’s pretty obvious why this obsession with white skin can be a huge dating advantage.
It’s easier to attract Filipina women when you are white than when you are black. I don’t say this because I’m racist. I say this because it’s the truth.
But there’s a dark side to it. If her obsession is too strong, she might convince you to not use a condom the first night. Some of them would do everything for a halfie baby. Be careful.
2. Some Filipina Girls Ask You for Money
Remember how I told you to stay away from the Filipino bar girls and from the really, really poor women?
Good, these are the women that are “attracted” to you because of your wallet. And you can’t really blame them. They come from nothing and they finally want to have something. Of course these Filipino women are seeking American or Western men in general because it's the easy way out.
Marrying a foreigner who pays for everything is the easiest way out.
You find those women in bars and you even find some of them on online dating sites. But it’s easy to see right through them:
- They are the ones who ask for money for their sick grandmother.
- They are the ones who ask for taxi money before they even meet you.
- They are the ones who chat with two other sponsors while they are with you.
But don’t worry. You don’t have to date one of these girls. There are millions of warm-hearted and loyal Filipinas who want to date you because of reason number three…
3. Some Filipina Girls Believe the Rumors about Foreigners
Yes, your white skin is an advantage, but the number one reason why millions of Filipinas dream about dating a foreigner has nothing to do with your skin color or your wallet.
All they want is a decent man who loves them and treats them with respect.
I can already hear the angry screams of angry feminists: “you are a liar! They just want your money! They are whores!”
No they are not, at least most of them. Most Filipinas you meet online or in one of the bigger cities are good women who want a good man. It’s really that simple.
And no, this is not the same as a false rape accusation of some spoilt brat who didn’t get enough attention of Facebook. This is the terrifying reality.
Is it really so hard to understand that these women don’t want this for themselves and for their children?
On the one hand, they are abused and treated with lack of respect by their fathers, uncles and husbands and on the other hand, they watch romantic Hollywood movies.
Joy told me that she cried when her aunt, who is married to an American man, told her how respectful and loving her husband treats her. She just couldn’t believe it.
And she said the same about the time with me. She told me that she never felt so loved, so secure and so respected before.
That’s the REAL reason why Filipinas dream about dating a white man.
The Best Cities to Meet Filipinas
Even though I loved Cebu the most, it wasn’t the only place I visited in the Philippines. I traveled all over the country and met all kinds of interesting and beautiful women.
But there are only three cities that I can recommend to someone who has never been to the Philippines. I fell in love with two of these cities and I have a love-hate relationship with one of them.
Nevertheless, they are all great to meet beautiful and feminine women.
As a man who is looking for Filipina women, you have to visit at least one of the following three cities...
Where to Meet Filipinas in Manila
Manila is the capital city of the Philippines.
Thanks to more than 1.6 million inhabitants, it’s impossible to not find an amazing woman in this city. However, even though the majority of the Filipina women you’ll soon meet online live in Manila, I hate this city.
Maybe I just stayed in the wrong part, but I only associate three words with Manila: Loud, dirty, exhausting.
Everyone and their grandmother are honking. Traffic jam for two hours and for two hours straight EVERYONE in this goddamn city is honking. You’ll go insane.
But not everything about this city is bad.
There are some really beautiful hotels, restaurants and parks. If I were you, I would go to the Rizal Park or near the University of Manila. These are the best places to meet beautiful and educated Pinay women.
Of course you can also go to Makati to meet sexy business women (don’t worry, they are feminine) or to the Revel Club to meet party girls and high society girls who want to have a great time.
Manila will be your first stop anyway, so you should make the best out of it. Just make sure that the cute Filipina girls you meet are beautiful enough to distract you from the honking.
Check out my Manila girls guide for more information.
Where to Meet Filipinas in Davao
You might have never heard of Davao, but it has nearly as many inhabitants as Manila and it’s considered to be the safest city in the Philippines. Oh, and the cost of living is cheaper than in Manila and Cebu.
The best thing about this city is that there are not many tourists.
The girls will be all over you and thanks to the five big universities it’s easy to find an educated and stunning Filipina girlfriend in Davao.
But the city has more to offer than university girls. Both the Aldevinco and Gaisano mall are great places to meet beautiful Filipina women. The only thing that sucks is the nightlife, even though the Club Echelon is actually really amazing.
Anyway, you will have a great time in Davao, at least when you check out this Davao girls guide before you fly.
Where to Meet Filipinas in Cebu
This is by far my most favorite city in the Philippines. I don’t even know why, but there’s something magical about this city. It’s right at the ocean, it has the perfect size and the women are even more beautiful and friendly than in Manila.
Okay, maybe I’m a bit biased because I met Joy in this city. But I don’t care. You absolutely have to visit this city. You’ll love it.
But is it easy to meet beautiful Filipina girls in Cebu?
It can’t get any easier.
You can meet beautiful business women in the IT Park or you can flirt with the shop assistants in one of Cebu’s malls. I recommend the Ayala Mall or the Robinsons Mall. And of course you can also go to Mango Square and dance closely with Filipino college girls who want to forget about their tight schedule.
For more information about dating in Cebu, you can read this article about the local women.
Nevertheless, the easiest way to meet women in Manila, Davao and Cebu is through online dating…
The Best Dating Sites to Meet Filipinas Online
Let me ask you a question:
Who has a higher chance to meet the love of his life in the Philippines?
A: A man who flies to Manila and runs around approaching one woman after another until he finally meets one who isn’t too shy to give him her number.
B: A man who flies to Manila after he chatted with 10 girls online. One of them picks him up at the airport and another one wants to meet him a day later.
The answer is obvious.
Online dating is still the best way to find a Filipina wife or girlfriend.
Unfortunately, I didn’t believe in the power of online dating when I traveled to this beautiful country for the first time. To be honest, I regret it a bit. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had met more Filipino women like Joy.
But what are the top dating sites in the Philippines?
There are dozens of international dating sites where you can meet Filipinas. Many of them are extremely good. Others are not. I’ve already tested quite a few, but so far only two sites deserved an extensive review.
While I haven’t tested all Filipina dating sites yet (I will update this article frequently), FilipinoCupid and Pinalove are definitely the crème de la crème.
If you don’t find your Filipina girlfriend or wife on one of these two sites, not even God can help you.
How to Meet Filipino Women Online on Pinalove
In October 2016 I wrote a review about Pinalove.com. Back then the site had 529.000 members. Today the site has more than 569.000 active members.
Pinalove is the fastest growing Filipina dating site on the internet.
Hundreds, sometimes thousands of new female members join this site every day. Yes, thousands. The moment you land on the homepage of Pinalove, you get bombarded with pictures of stunning Filipinas. It might shock you, but they are all real active members on the site.
It’s free to join and the free membership allows you to send messages to the girls (restricted to one message every 10 minutes) and to see who’s interested in you. Yes, you can test the site without paying a single cent.
How to Meet Filipino Women Online on FilipinoCupid
But when Pinalove is so amazing, why should you choose FilipinoCupid instead?
Well, let me say it like this:
The women you’ll meet on FilipinoCupid are a bit different.
There are hundreds of thousands of sexy girls on Pinalove, but many of them are young college girls who are looking for fun and women who are obviously looking for a sponsor (the pics in underwear leave no doubt). The site is better for guys who are looking for a short romance and not for a wife.
What if you are looking for a Filipina girlfriend or wife?
FilipinoCupid is your best choice.
With over 3.5 million active members it’s the biggest Pinay dating site on the internet. And thanks to a sophisticated matchmaking algorithm and an excellent support, meeting your future wife is more than just possible.
How to Attract a Filipino Girl
Your white skin gives you an advantage, but that doesn’t mean that the women will jump on you. You are not the first white guy who visits this country and you won’t be the last, especially now that I published this dating guide.
But you don’t just want to settle with any woman, do you?
No, you want to meet and date one of the most beautiful women in the Philippines. And that’s great, but In order to attract the high quality Pinays, you need to know the answer to the following question…
What Attracts Filipinas?
What are Filipinas attracted to besides white skin?
I told you that Filipinas love Hollywood movies and the American culture. Of course they only know the whitewashed version, but that’s just another advantage for you.
What attracts Filipinas the most is a man who embodies the stereotypical characters in Hollywood romance movies.
They don’t want bad boys. They are sick and tired of the cheating, lying and abusive local guys. Instead, they want a man who treats them like Richard Gere in the final scene of An Officer and a Gentleman.
That’s what they want because that’s what Filipino guys don’t give them.
While Western women tend to ridicule romantic gestures, the heart of a Filipina starts to beat as soon as she hears the word “romance”.
Isn’t this a bit naïve?
Yes, but that’s how it is. Just because we don’t like the force of gravity, doesn’t mean that we can change it.
Don’t try to change her romantic ideal. Be her romantic ideal.
How to Impress a Filipino Girl
What can you do to satisfy her romantic fantasies?
Well, you can start with one of the following things:
- Tell her how beautiful she is when you approach her (online or in real life).
- Give her a kiss on the hand when you meet her for the first time.
- Hold the door for her.
- Bring a small flower and put it in her hair.
- Tell her how cute her smile is.
- Take her for a romantic walk.
These are all things that I don’t recommend you to do when you date a Western woman (besides the compliment). But when you date a Filipina woman these romantic gestures are your most effective weapons.
What Your Filipina Girlfriend Expects from You
Knowing how to attract and impress a Filipino woman is important. But there’s something else you should know before you approach girls from Manila to Subic Bay.
You need to know what she expects from you.
Being the romantic gentleman she knows from the movies is just the cherry on the cake. She dreams about that, but she doesn’t expect it.
What she expects is that you are good to her.
In case you expected some earth-shattering revelation, I have to disappoint you. Dating Filipinas is not the same as solving a mathematical equation. It’s simple.
After years of dating in the West, many guys forgot how effective being friendly and polite can be in other parts of the world.
How to Get a Filipina Girlfriend
Okay, you know how to attract the girls from Manilla to Davao. It’s just a matter of time until you are dating a beautiful Filipina woman.
Before you can date her, you have to make her your girlfriend.
And in order to make her your girlfriend, you have to approach her, no matter if you do it online or on in the Ayala Mall in Cebu City.
How to Approach a Filipina
Whenever you approach a Pinay woman, you should keep two things in mind:
She’s hopelessly romantic
She’s incredibly nervous
That’s not a good mixture, but that’s what you get.
She is hopelessly romantic. You know that by now. I promise you that one compliment about her hair, her eyes and especially the color of her skin is enough to make her smile.
But at the same time she is nervous. She is nervous to talk to you because you are the first white guy who approaches her. And she is scared that you are one of those sleazy sex tourists that she does NOT want to date.
Here are a few no-goes for the first approach:
- Don’t ask her for sex (unless you want to date a prostitute)
- Don’t brag about how rich you are (unless you want to attract a gold digger)
- Don’t talk about the bar scene (unless you never want to hear from her again)
Instead, you ask her out like a real gentleman.
How to Ask a Filipino Girl Out
Remember, you are not dating a Western girl. You can ask her out without feeling weird about it. You don’t have to be afraid that she gets a panic attack when you mention the word “date”. It’s okay. You can be honest.
No matter if you are meeting her in a park in Manila or on FilipinoCupid, just follow the following steps and ask her out:
- Get to know her a bit by asking personal questions
- Let her know that you like her and enjoy talking to her.
- Suggest a place and a time to meet for your first date.
Now you just have to get her to like you…
How to Get a Filipino Girl to Like You on the First Date
Finally, you go on your first date with a beautiful Filipina woman.
Just remember, no matter how nervous you are, she is ten times more nervous. While you think about which jeans to wear, she takes three showers, does her nails twice and asks a voodoo priest for help.
In case the woman you’re going on a date with hasn’t dated 31 foreigners before you, she will be extremely nervous. It’s your job to make her comfortable around you.
Here’s a quick checklist of how you can do this:
- Show that you respect Filipino dating customs by not kissing or hugging her in public.
- Make her feel more comfortable by sitting next her and not opposite to her.
- Connect with her by asking questions about the Filipino culture.
- Woo her with Filipino compliments (maganda ka = you are beautiful)
How to Tell if a Filipina Likes You
You will know. Believe me.
It’s impossible to not know when a Filipina likes you. It’s so obvious that it hurts.
In fact, sometimes it really hurts, especially when you are a man who has commitment phobia. Men with commitment phobia shouldn’t even think about getting a Filipina girlfriend. She can be the sweetest, most loyal and most supportive girlfriend you can imagine, but she’s very, very clingy.
You wanted to know how to tell if a Filipina likes you. Here’s how:
She tells you that she loves you on the first date. She asks you if you are angry at her when you ignore her for two seconds. She accuses you of cheating on her when you need more than two hours for yourself.
Filipinas are the definition of clinginess. That’s something you have to deal with when you are dating a Pinay.
How to Date a Filipina Woman and Make Her Happy
Things are about to get serious.
You went on your first date and you really like her. You went on your second date and now she clings to you like a Koala baby. And you kinda like it.
In fact, you enjoy it so much that you tell her that you want her to be your girlfriend. She kisses you all over your face when you call her “honey” for the first time. You are happy like a clown on Prozac.
But don’t start celebrating yet.
You have no idea what it really means to date a Filipina…
How Dating Works in the Philippines
There’s something you must know about dating a Filipino woman...
I guess you are familiar with the Western dating culture: She introduces you to your parents and it’s not a big deal.
Well, that’s how it works in the West. In the Philippines, however, it’s a big deal. It’s like Christmas and Thanks Giving combined.
Even though I only dated Joy for a couple of weeks (I was honest from the start) I agreed to meet her mother.
I didn’t just meet her mother. I met her mother, her uncles, her cousins, her sisters and all kinds of other people who I didn’t know who they were. I will never forget this day. I stepped out of the car and 25 Filipinos were waving at me.
That’s how dating works in the Philippines.
You either date her AND her family or you don’t date her at all.
Oh, and don’t ignore all the cultural differences between the USA or any other Western country and the Philippines.
Besides the no kissing and hugging in public rule, you can’t just move together with a girl. If her parents are conservative, you have to jump through hoops to move together with their daughter, unless, of course, you want to marry her.
Dating in the Philippines is like dating in the USA 50 years ago. And to be honest, that’s the beauty of it.
How to Treat a Filipina Woman in a Relationship
You are the leader. And no, that’s not an option.
Forget about everything you’ve learned about the so-called 50/50 relationship. It doesn’t exist in the Philippines. If you expect her to decide where you go to eat, you will starve to death.
She doesn’t want to lead.
Feminist will call me a misogynistic pig with a fetish for “submissive Asian dolls” for saying this. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. I adore women and yes, I also adore the healthy equilibrium between male and female energy that still exists in the Philippines.
Female energy is submissive. Male energy is leading. Filipinas understand that. And you need to understand that in order to date them.
If you don’t lead her, she will follow someone else.
How to Make Love to a Filipino Woman and Satisfy Her
Now it’s getting dirty.
Okay, not really. You are in the Philippines, a country where the women are very conservative about sex. And even though you know this you might still ask yourself “How are Filipinas in bed?”
Thanks to a rigorous religious upbringing, many of them feel guilty about sex. But that doesn’t mean that they can’t be sensual lovers. They can, at least when you guide them and when you show them that you appreciate their sexuality and that you don’t judge them.
Especially at the beginning of a relationship with a Filipina it can be difficult to talk openly about sex. When she’s one of the conservative girls, she’ll be very shy about it.
But you need to talk about everything. Not just because you want to learn how to make her happy, but also because of another problem that the religious upbringing can lead to.
There’s a 95% chance that she’s not on birth control.
I’m not kidding. This can get you into serious trouble.
The good news is that a reproductive health law was implemented in the year 2014. The goal of this law was to distribute free contraception to women. The bad news is that a small but powerful group of conservative Catholics succeeded in cutting the funding.
If you don’t talk about sex with her, nobody will. Ignore this issue and you’ll be a daddy soon.
How to Make a Filipina Fall in Love with You
Be the best boyfriend you can be.
Remember what I said about how to attract a Filipino woman and how to get a Filipina girlfriend?
Continue to do this.
Don’t just stop because she’s your girlfriend. Don’t destroy her image of her perfect boyfriend, just because you are getting lazy. You can be grateful that you are dating a young and beautiful Pinay. Show her every day that you appreciate her.
That’s how you make a Filipina fall in love with you and that’s how you win her heart.
Is Marrying a Filipina Girl a Good or a Bad Idea?
Did you survive the family gathering?
Now that you said hi to her mother, her father, her uncle Jerry and her cat Snuggles, you decided that you want to make this work. You love this beautiful Filipina woman so much.
She is everything you ever wanted and you know that marrying her is the right choice. You are ready to embrace happiness and you want to wake up next to her every day for the rest of your life.
But what if your dream turns into a nightmare?
The One Question You Must Ask Yourself Before You Marry a Filipina
“Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman?”
In any Western country it’s easy to say “yeah, sure”. What if your wife turns into a dragon? Just get a divorce. You might lose some money, but at least you can get out of it.
You don’t have this freedom when you marry a Pinay, at least when you stay with her in her home country.
The Philippines is the last country in the world where divorce is illegal. I’m not an expert in divorce law, but I think that the only way to get a divorce is by getting it in your home country. And if she doesn’t want to come with you, you’re fucked for life.
Most Western men forget about how conservative this country is. I hope you remember it before you ask her if she wants to be your wife.
Why You Should NOT Marry a Filipino Woman
Marrying your Filipina girlfriend can turn you into a happy and fulfilled man. But that doesn’t mean that it’s always a good idea. Remember, getting a divorce is not that easy.
Let’s have a look at some signs that you should better not marry your Pinay girlfriend, no matter how much you love her:
- She works as a bar girl and tells you that she can’t stop working there.
- She expects you to pay for everything and gets angry when you don’t do it.
- She can’t deal with money and spends it as soon as she gets it.
- She experienced a lot of physical and emotional abuse.
- She is so uneducated that she doesn’t speak English.
- She already has three children from a Filipino guy that she expects you to feed.
If I were you, I wouldn’t marry such a woman. It’s up to you what you do with this advice.
Why Marring a Filipina Girl is the Right Choice
Like I just said, marrying a Filipina woman can turn you into a happy man. It can be the right decision. In fact, I met quite a few men who are married to women from the Philippines and they all said that it was the best decision of their life.
However, none of these men married a girl with the characteristics that I just shared with you. The girls they married were different. One of these guys shared a couple of reasons with me why he is so happy that he married his Filipina wife.
Let’s have a look at some of the signs that made him say “I do”:
- She works in a normal job, not in a bar.
- She has a kind heart and treats everyone with respect.
- She has a good relationship with her parents.
- She is frugal and only spends money on things that are necessary.
- She has a college degree and is fluent in English.
- She loves her family and has traditional family values.
- She appreciates it when you invite her, but she doesn’t expect it.
- She supports you every day and treats you like she treats her family members.
If you meet such a woman in the Philippines, marrying her can be the right choice.
How to Get a Filipina Wife: The Pinay Bride Guide
Let’s imagine you join FilipinoCupid, you meet an incredible woman on the site, you fly to the Philippines to meet her and it turns out that she is the woman of your dreams. You want to spend the rest of your life with her. It’s obvious that marrying her is the right choice.
You love her. She cries when you propose to her. You couldn’t be happier.
But then you tell your family about your plans to marry a Filipina. And they are shocked. They can’t believe it. They want to stop you from making the biggest mistake of your life, so they think.
In their shock they type “Philippines documentary” into YouTube. What shows up are movies about the war on drugs, Angeles city and mail order bride scams. They don’t understand how you can possibly think about marrying a Filipina.
And you can’t really blame them. They are still living in the Matrix. They don’t know the truth about foreign dating and the Filipino mail order wife. I hope you know it and I hope you are not afraid to share it with your friends and family.
The Truth About the Filipino Mail Order Wife
There is no Filipino mail order wife.
Sorry, but that’s the truth. They idea that you can just hop online, buy a wife and get her shipped to your country is nothing but a myth. Unfortunately, it’s a myth that a lot of people still believe in.
No, that’s not how it works and as a man who’s dating a Filipina, you know it.
Now you just have to make sure that your friends and family who still doubt your decision to marry your beautiful girlfriend understand that the Filipino mail order wife is nothing but a myth.
Tell them how you met her and that it was NOT in a bar. Let them know why this woman makes you happy. Share pictures of your romantic dates with them. Eventually, they will understand.
How to Marry a Filipina Woman
You need to ask her if she wants to marry you.
But that’s only the first step. Oh wait, that’s actually the second step.
Marrying a Filipina is not the same as marrying an American girl. You can’t just ask her, drive to Vegas, get drunk, and marry in front of Evils.
Before you ask your future wife if she wants to marry you, you need to ask her parents. This is called the parental marriage proposal. When the parents accept you as their son-in-law, you can ask your Filipina girlfriend. If she wants you too, you can get married.
But wait, not so fast.
There’s another marriage custom that you’ve probably never heard of….
Instead of sending your wedding invitations via mail, you personally inform all the relatives about the upcoming wedding.
Once you have walked to all her relatives, you’ll have calves like a professional basketball player. And I have bad news for you. According to Joy, this is still an important tradition.
For more information about all the legal documents and laws you need to consider in order to get married in the Philippines, I recommend you to check out this Filipino marriage guide.
And if you are looking for more information about how to get your Filipino wife to the USA, you can have a look at this site.
Dating a Filipina Woman Q&A
Did you really think I end this article without a bonus?
This is the most comprehensive article about dating Pinay women that has ever been written.
But it’s not my first one.
- I’ve written about the women in Cebu.
- I’ve written about the women in Manila.
- I’ve written about the women in Davao.
Oh, and four of my awesome readers found their Filipina girlfriends on Filipinocupid.com, the Pinay dating site that I can’t recommend enough. I hope you are number five.
Since I published my first article about the women in Cebu (I think it was in December 2014), I received hundreds of emails from guys who asked me questions about the women in the Philippines.
Today I want to take the time to answer the most common ones.
Are Filipinas Beautiful?
This is the most common question I received.
I assume that at least 75% of white Western men want to know more about the beauty of Filipinas. Maybe you are one of the hundreds of guys who asked me the question:
“Are Filipinas beautiful?”
The answer: it depends on what you like.
I think they are beautiful. But I’m also a proud sufferer of yellow fever. The best way to find out if you are a Philippine’s addict is to join a Pinay online dating site and to book a flight to Manila.
Then you’ll see.
How Easy is it to Get a Filipina Woman?
“Is it easy to get a Filipina wife?” and “Are Filipinas easy?” are two very different questions and deserve two different answers.
Here’s what I have to say to question #1:
It’s easier to meet and date beautiful, feminine women than in the West. As a white man it’s relatively easy to go on dates and to find women who want to commit to a relationship and get married. So, finding a Filipina wife is way easier than finding a wife in any Western country.
Here’s what I have to say to question #2:
However, that doesn’t mean that all Filipinas are easy, at least when you define “easy” as sexually promiscuous.
Bar girls? Sure. They’ll jump in bed with you after one drink.
High society girls who are looking for a partner? Think about it. A one night stand with the wrong guy has the potential to ruin their reputation.
In the Philippines it’s not uncommon to meet women who are in their twenties and still virgins. If you want to marry a conservative girl with religious values, she’s not that “easy”:
Are Filipinas Liars and Gold Diggers?
Sure, some of them.
I mean, let’s be realistic. I could tell you that all Filipinas are sweet angels who never lie. But that would be a lie. And the last thing I want is to lie to you.
Just like there are guys who promise the world to their Filipina girlfriends, right before they bang another bar girl, there are Filipinas who pretend to love you, even though they just want a sponsor.
That’s the reality.
But that doesn’t mean that ALL Filipinas are liars. Many of them are honest women who are looking for love. When you stay away from the bar scene, your chances of finding such a girl increase exponentially.
Are Filipinas Faithful?
This is something that not only people who read my site want to know.
Filipinas believe in marriage and when she loves you, she can be the most faithful woman on earth. But of course, if you are naïve enough to date the wrong girl, you can’t expect her to be faithful.
I could go on and on about this topic, but I can’t say it better than this guy…
Are Filipinas Jealous?
There’s no way I can sugarcoat this. Filipino women are extremely jealous.
They are even more jealous than Thai woman and that alone says something.
In case you have many female friends and you marry a Filipina, you need to talk to her. Seriously, do it. Unless you want her to freak out the moment you tell her that you are going to visit Jenny, the friend you know since high school, you need to have a conversation.
In the Philippines it’s not very common for guys to have female friends and for girls to have male friends. Girls hang around with other girls or gay guys. Make her understand that it’s normal in the West to have female friends.
Better wear a knight’s armor before you address this subject.
How Are Filipinas as Wives?
Filipinas make excellent wives, at least when you meet the right girl.
Their attitude towards marriage, their strong family values, and their desire to take care of their husbands like they would take care of their closest family members…
All these things contribute to the fact that Filipinas are amazing wives.
But don’t just take my word for it. Here’s a quote from a man who is about to start a new life with a Filipino woman:
“If you have not had the love of a Pinay woman, you are missing out! The Filipina is everything you want in a girl. She is loving, kind, very romantic, doesn't ask for much and certainly doesn't expect much other than your unconditional love. It has been the best thing I have ever done in my life.”
Summed Up Wisdom
Wow, with over 8.700 words this guide on how to date Filipina women as a white man turned out to be longer than I expected. But I think I covered everything I wanted to cover. I told you about how friendly, beautiful and family-oriented Filipinas really are. And I also told you that dating high society girls and college girls is a way better idea than dating bar girls.
You also know that your white skin, even though a benefit, is not the only reason why these women are so into you. It’s all about the romantic image they have of you and honestly, I hope that you will make your future Filipina girlfriend very happy by being the romantic gentleman she always dreamed of.
What if you decide that you want to marry her? Ask yourself if you really want to spend the rest of your life with this woman. If that’s what you want, go ahead and do it. But only do it if she’s respectful, educated, caring and supportive. And even though your Filipina wife will be jealous from time to time, she will be an excellent wife.