How to Get a Girl to Make Out With You

Do you really want to know how to get a girl to make out with you?

I think I know why…

Maybe you don’t have a specific girl in mind. You might have reached a point where it’s no longer exciting to “just” kiss a girl. I mean, yeah…a soft kiss on the lips is better than no sloppy experience. But you want more. You want to go all in.

There’s just one problem:

She has to be all in before you can go all in.

Sorry, but there’s no way around it. You can’t make out with a girl who doesn’t want to taste your lips and tongue. Unfortunately, most guys don’t know how to get a woman in the mood.

What about you?

Maybe you already know how to get a girl to make out with you by….

How to Get a Girl to Make Out With You (My Sneakiest Tips) 

Shall I tell you about the first time I made out with a girl?

Better not. It’s way too embarrassing.

Ah, shit. I’ll tell you. So…I was at this party. Back in those days I used to drink alcohol. If you’re one of my loyal readers or podcast listeners, you know that I don’t drink nowadays. Well, back then I was so insecure that I was in desperate need of liquid courage.

I needed A LOT of liquid courage.

This one night, I must have been 18 years old. I was so shitfaced drunk that I couldn’t even walk anymore. I was just standing in the middle of the dance floor. I saw the bright lights and I saw something that looked like a woman…it could have been an alien.

This alien came closer…and closer.

Suddenly, I felt something wet and slimy in my mouth. I couldn’t believe it. This girl made out with me. I was too drunk to jump up and down  with joy and her tongue was too thick to smile. But inside I was celebrating my victory.

Just 24 hours later the words of one of my friends destroyed everything.

“Dude, she was fatter than Jabba The Hutt.”

I was devastated…and all my classmates made fun of me.

It sucks when the memory of your first make out session makes you want to throw up. That’s why you have to know how to do it right.

Here’s how…

1. Make Sure That She’s Not Making Out with Someone Else

That’s rule number one.

You can’t expect a girl to make out with you when she’s constantly thinking about another guy’s tongue. If she’s in a relationship (and happy), she won’t play tongue wrestling with you. In some cases you might be able to get the kiss without even asking…especially when she’s drunk.

But let’s face it:

It’s way easier to get a single lady to exchange saliva with you.

Here’s what I would do:

How do you get her so interested in you that making out with you is the natural next step?

I’ll show you.

But first, you have to find out if she’s single…

2. Give Her and Her Lips Compliments 

It’s not that hard to find out.

You don’t need a sophisticated algorithm. One innocent compliment is enough. You just have to make her realize that you want her…and not as a friend. You want her because you’re attracted to her. Now you just have to communicate it.

General compliments can work. Focusing on your target is even better. Yes, her lips are your target and her mouth is the door you want to open. Aim at your target and let her know what you think and feel.

Of course, you can also skip this step.

But then you don’t know if she’s single or married. You also don’t know if she’s lesbian or into human beings with tales. There’s just one way to find out…

Express your interest.

This brings you one step closer to making out with her.

3. Touch Her Heart Before You Touch Her Lips

You don’t want to hear this.

But hey, I have to tell you anyway. You’re here because you want to learn how to get a girl to make out with you. Let’s face it. You care about her lips but what about her heart? You couldn’t care less. I mean, you don’t want to kiss that bloody thing.

What if I told you that hear heart holds the key to her lips?

Women don’t make out with guys…

It’s bonding time!

Most guys totally forget about that. They want to kiss the girl….and forget about what SHE wants. Yes, she also wants the kiss. It's in her nature. But she wants more than that. For men it’s a physical experience, for some even a conquest.

For women it is an emotional experience.

Talk about her passions, her feelings, and her goals in life. That’s what she needs.

The saliva exchange will follow.

4. Attract Her with Your Body Language

Quick question:

Do women want to make out with timid men?

High-quality women open their mouths for high-quality men. And high-quality men are confident. Men are attracted to physical beauty, women are attracted to confidence. In case you’re a male model: Sorry, but that’s how it is.

Use your body language to express your confidence:

Women see these things. Then they take mental notes. In the end, they know if you deserve their lips, their mouth, and their tongue. Only confident men do.

Improve your body language and you’ll deserve what you want. 

5. Get Closer to Her Beautiful Red Lips  

It’s time to take what you deserve.

You want to make a girl make out with you. That’s great. But first, you must get closer to her. I mean, you can’t kiss her if she sits on the other side of the couch. You can poke her with a stick but you won’t be able to taste her sweet cherry lip gloss.

Here’s your mission:

Get as close as you can…

I don’t care if you have to walk over, lean in, or pretend that you can’t hear her. God, I love the Deaf Man Move.

Here’s how it works:

Yep, you touch her back while you lean in and (pretend to) listen to her. Then you look into her eyes and smile. That’s the perfect moment to kiss her.

But what if she backs off a bit?

Nobody said you have to start with her lips…

6. Kiss Other Parts Before You Make Out With Her 

Nope, I’m not talking about her butt.

You can kiss her ass later when you’ve read my book Rise of the Phoenix. Then you’ll be able to undress her and to enjoy every inch of her naked body. For now, you have to focus on the parts you can kiss in public and without taking her pants off.

Here are some ideas:

“Her elbow!? Are you on drugs?” I hear you asking.

I’m sorry to disappoint you but I’m a boring nerd. I don’t drink and I don’t take drugs. But I kiss girl’s elbows. Don’t ask me why it works. I honestly don’t know. But whenever I do it, the ladies love it. They smile and giggle because it’s funny and no guy has ever done it before.

You should at least try it before you ask me to see a psychiatrist.

Oh, and don’t forget her back and her shoulders…

7. Get Her in the Mood with a Massage 

Here’s a sure way to get a girl to make out with you:

Massage her.

It works every single time. I think I initiated almost all of my make out sessions with a massage…and 90% of my lays. Seriously, that’s how effective it is. A massage helps her to relax and to prepare for your first kiss.  

How does she react?

Don’t expect a super crazy reaction.

She won’t scream “oh God, that feels so good.” You’re not a in a port movie. If she doesn’t move, she enjoys it. And if she doesn’t ask you to stop, she wants you to continue…and continuing the massage means escalating slowly.

Do this for a couple of minutes and she’ll show you when she’s ready for more.  

8. Start the Make Out Session  

How does she show it?

Well, she turns her head. Yep, that’s it.

Oh and in case you don’t know what do to: Here’s how to go in for the kiss. I mean, I don’t want you to massage her for two hours straight because you don’t know how to go in for the goddamn kiss. You have to pull the trigger if you want to shoot the target.

So shoot the bloody target!

Start the make out session with a soft kiss on her lips. Then kiss her again. This time, you increase the intensity. Then you go in for another kiss. But this time, you move your lips and open your mouth…just a little bit.

How does she react?

Her reaction reveals if she’s ready for the full make out…

9. Observe if She’s Ready to Make Out with You  

Now you know how to get a girl to make out with you.

But how do you know if she’s ready?

Watch out for the signs.

These are all clear signs. At this stage, she wants it to happen and she wants you to know how much she enjoys it. I mean, you are the one who’s supposed to make it happen. Heck, you can already feel her excitement on your lips.  

Does she open her mouth a bit?

That’s the best sign!

She wants you to open your mouth and to take things further.   

10. Play with Her Lips and Her Tongue 

What is the best way to make out with a girl?

Here are some ideas:

Nothing tops tongue wrestling. 

Imagine your tongue is a snake and you want to cuddle with another snake. That’s what you do inside of her mouth. Gosh, I’m deeply sorry for this absolutely terrible comparison.

My book Rise of the Phoenix does a better job when it comes to explaining seduction techniques.

Summed Up Wisdom 

How do you get a girl to make out with you? First, you have to find out if she’s single and into guys. That’s a good start. Once you know that she’s available and thirsty for male tongues, you have to talk to her. Let her know that you’re attracted to her.

Just don’t walk up to her like a wet sack of potatoes. Women don’t want to make out with timid men. They want to lock lips with confident men. As a confident man, you express your high self-esteem through your body language. Walk with your head held high and take big steps. Smalls steps are for cowards.

You have to get closer to her and to her delicious lips. There’s no way around it because you can’t kiss her from a distance. Once you are close enough, you can start by kissing other parts of her body. And never underestimate the power of an innocent massage. Observer her while you make her relaxed. Then go in for the kiss, make out with her, and play tongue wrestling.