Why do you want to know how to flirt back with a girl?
Let me guess:
Of course, you look at so many women in the course of the day. You do the same when you’re out with your friends. And you also do it on the way to work. You’re like a walking radar station. You’re always looking for signs.
There’s just one problem:
You don’t know what to do when you spot one of these signs. How should you react? What should you do? And what should you say? You have so many questions.
I hope you are ready for the answers:
After reading this article you’ll be one of the few guys who know how to respond and how to close the deal with a girl who’s flirting with you…
How to Flirt Back with a Girl: The Principle
It doesn’t matter how she shows her interest.
The principle is always the same.
She gives you clues and she desperately hopes that you pick up on these clues. No matter if you stand next to her, sit next to her, or if you’re on the other side of the room…every flirtatious woman wants the same thing.
She wants you to accept her invitation.
That’s how the game is played. That’s how you flirt back with a girl. The principle is always the same, but the way you respond depends on how she plays the game.
How to Flirt Back When a Girl Flirts with You
Women play this game in all kinds of ways.
Sometimes she touches you when you don’t expect it. There are many of these signs. But I’m sure you’re already an expert when it comes to flirting with women AND spotting the signs. In case you’re not, you have to read my book Rise of the Phoenix.
The question is:
How do you react when she does something obvious?
The first rule might surprise you…
1. Don’t Expose Her Flirting Attempt
Don’t even think about it.
This is the most important rule when it comes to learning how to flirt back with a girl. I’ve seen it in so many of my one-on-one coaching sessions. It’s always the same scenario and it’s always the same devastating outcome.
That’s the dumbest thing you can do.
Of course she will say “no”. She’s a woman for God’s sake. Getting judged for showing interest in a guy is at the top of her “Things I’m Afraid Of” list. Don’t let your arrogance destroy everything.
Enjoy the fact that she shows interest in you and shup up.
2. Hold Seductive Eye Contact
Shut up about her signs but don’t shut your eyes.
Here’s one of the best ways to flirt back with a girl:
That’s the difference between normal eye contact and seductive eye contact. You let her know that her flirting attempt has an effect on you. Choose your weapon. You can bite your lips, wet your lips with your tongue or release a soft “mhhh”.
Reward her for being a naughty girl.
3. Mirror Her Touch
Here’s how to flirt back with a girl and increase sexual tension:
You mirror everything she does. She touches your hand. You do the same. She touches your belly. You do the same. She touches your dick. You get the point.
There are a couple of reasons why this is so effective:
Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the flirtiest of them all?
Sorry for the terrible joke. Let’s continue…
4. Give Her a Teasing Hug
I love to do this whenever a woman flirts with me.
I give her a hug but it’s more than just a simple hug. I do something while hugging her that makes it even clearer that I enjoy what she does. Just like a Double Whopper, this is a double reward for her. Okay, enough terrible jokes for today.
Here are some ideas:
Do one or more of these things while hugging her and she’ll melt like butter in the sun.
5. Get Closer and Closer
Forget about her private space.
This chick is flirting with you. The last thing she wants is to keep a distance. She wants you to come closer. Don’t be shy. Move your lazy ass and get closer.
Give her the chance to become more efficient.
She can only do these things when you’re really close.
6. Speak Your Truth
This is extremely powerful.
If you want to know how to flirt back with a girl, you shouldn’t be afraid to be relentlessly honest…at least in some situations. It doesn’t always work. It depends on the situation. But verbalizing your thoughts can be exactly what she wants to hear.
Look out for these situations:
Say what you feel:
“I’m so attracted to you that it’s hard to not kiss you right now…”
Now you can kiss her.
7. Close the Deal
Sometime you just have to close the deal.
Here are some examples:
What if she flirts with you in one of these moments?
You only have to do one thing:
Close the deal!
This might be a kiss, making out or taking her clothes off. Do whatever you need to do.
How to Flirt Back with a Girl Over Text
What if she’s texting you?
Not all women have the courage to flirt with a guy in person. Some girls are so shy that they have to hide behind their smartphones. Don’t blame them. Instead, appreciate that she’s doing her best to show her interest in you.
Imagine you receive one of the following texts:
Here are some ways you can react to her message…
8. Tease Her for Being Naughty
Tease her and please her.
You don’t expose her for flirting with you. You just acknowledge it and respond in a way that makes her want to flirt even more. Women enjoy this game, especially when you encourage her with your words. It’s simple. She feels good when you feel good about her actions.
Here are some things you could say:
Now she wants to be bad for you, really, really bad.
9. Send Flirtatious Gifs and Memes
I love gifs and memes.
I explained how to use them in another article about texting. But yeah, you can also use them to flirt back with a girl. And don’t worry. She won’t think that you make fun of her. You simply combine flirting with humor and she knows it.
Here’s what I usually do:
It not only works. It’s also a great way to encourage girls to send you naughty selfies.
10. Share Your Feelings in a Voice Message
Okay, maybe not all your feelings.
You shouldn’t tell her how much you love her and that she’s the one for you, just because she’s fliting with you. That’s needy and desperate. Instead, tell her the effect her flirting attempt has on you. But don’t text her.
Send her a voice message.
That’s more intimate than a text. And let’s face it. If a woman hears your voice AND your naughty message, she’ll get wet. This combination works. I’ve done it so many times.
“If I told you what I’m thinking right now…”
She’ll listen to this voice message over and over again.
How to Flirt Back to a Compliment
What if she gives you a compliment?
I have to warn you:
Most women won’t give you compliments. They are too shy, it’s too much of a risk, and the investment is too high. Some do it but most don’t or they wait until you go first. But still, you should be prepared for every eventuality.
There’s no better sign of interest than a compliment.
Here are some ways I react when a woman uses this flirting technique with me…
11. Rephrase Her Compliment
This is so much fun.
Whenever a girl gives me a compliment, I take her words and rephrase them. Of course, I don’t do it without adding a sexual undertone and a cheeky smile. I don’t know why but girls love it.
Let me give you an example:
- She says: “you look really handsome today.”
- You say: “So you think I look handsome, huh?”
What happens next?
She’ll probably call you out for being arrogant.
But don’t worry. She won’t say “don’t be so arrogant” in a serious way. She’ll say it in a “your confidence turns me on” kind of way. And it does. You’re so confident in yourself that you play with her compliment. That’s exactly what she wants.
12. Give Her a Distant Compliment
What the heck is a distant compliment?
Yep, that name is trademark protected. This is my personal Frankenstein’s Monster. I tested this technique vs. standard compliments and it works better. Please don’t ask me why. I don’t know. I just know that it works.
Here’s how to flirt back with a girl using a distant compliment:
- You don’t say: “You’re also very beautiful.”
- You say: “Did you know that handsome guys like cute blonde girls?”
Of course, only use this line if she’s a cute blonde girl. The distant compliment implies that a man like you is attracted to a girl like her. But you don’t say that you’re specifically attracted to her. Let her fill in the blanks.
This will drive her wild.
13. Make a Move According to the Compliment
She’s flirting with you because she wants you to make a move.
Don’t let her wait any longer.
But don’t just make any move. Oh, no. You’re a Global Seducer. You close the deal with style. You plan your move according to her compliment. In other words, you beat her with her own weapons.
Here’s what I mean by that:
Make the move she wants you to make.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to flirt back with a girl? It’s not that hard. You just have to understand one key principle. It’s all about accepting her invitation. Even though she takes action, she’s still a woman. She wants you to make the next move.
She might play with her hair. Or she licks her lips. Or she touches you. One thing you can do is to mirror her touch or hug her. And don’t forget to tease her. Flirting should be a playful experience…even if she uses text messages.
Why don’t you respond with a funny meme or gif? Alternatively, you can send a voice message or tease her again. It’s up to you. And don’t forget to react to her compliment. Give her a distant compliment and make the right move.