Do you feel aggressive sometimes? Are there times in your life when you want to slap everyone who looks at you? Do you sometimes feel as if everyone is moving forward and you are the only one who is stagnating? Have you ever had the feeling that you just don’t get the results that you desperately want?
Okay, I am going to stop asking you these questions. I don’t want to be responsible for a broken window and a laptop that learned to fly. I also don’t want to make you angry, especially when you are completely happy and content at the moment.
Nevertheless, I still want to know if there are times when you are struggling with aggression.
Don’t worry. I am not going to condemn you for having such feelings. I believe that every man needs to get aggressive (not violent) from time to time. Even though I am a very calm and relaxed person (thank you meditation!), there are moments in my life in which I tend to get aggressive. The last time I got really aggressive (at myself) was when I hacked my car into pieces on New Year’s Eve.
Sometimes we men have to get angry. Sometimes our testosterone wants to be released and we want to scream like cavemen who just found out that you can grill the saber-tooth tiger instead of eating that stinky cat raw.
The only difference between me and other men is that my aggression doesn’t control me.
I don’t give into this feeling and I don’t let my aggression kill my spirit. Even though the first few seconds of being aggressive pump you up, it will sabotage you in the long-run.
When I get aggressive, I use this feeling as a lighted match for my positive energy. As a result of this, feeling aggressive increases my energy level and my motivation. Learning to canalize this negative feeling was helped me a lot on my way towards becoming a Global Seducer.
Why You Will Get Aggressive
No matter how happy, content and relaxed you are, you will become aggressive at some point along your journey. By making the decision to become a successful seducer who experiences sexual adventures with women from all over the world, you also make the decision to face your fears, to do everything in your power to overcome them and to learn how to seduce, date and fuck the women of your dreams.
Mastering the art of seduction and having the success with women that other men can only dream of is the most amazing feeling in the world.
However, if you think that you will only have positive experiences along the way, you are deluded by the popular misconception that you can reach success without failing a few times along the way.
Approaching ten girls can lead to a lot of new numbers in your phone, but I bet that there is at least one girl who rejects you because she has a boyfriend, or because you look like her violent ex-boyfriend who used to beat the shit out of her. Going on dates with three women can lead to three unforgettable sexual experiences, but it can also be that one of those girls doesn’t call you back after the first date because you made a crucial mistake.
All those experiences are important for your learning curve and for your future success. Nevertheless, they sometimes have the power to make you really angry and aggressive.
I remember one weekend during which I approached about twenty girls and only one gave me her number. This one girl then flaked. I was an impatient greenhorn and this experience made me so aggressive that I couldn’t sleep for two nights. If I only would have known that I can use my aggression and transform it into success.
The Negative Side of Aggression
Why did I end up as a sleepless psycho for two nights, even though the only negative thing I experienced was a girl who flaked on me? When I think about all the crazy stories I experienced and all the beautiful women I have shared a bed and body fluids with in the last two years, this one flaky girl is nothing of importance.
The reason why I couldn’t sleep for two nights was because I gave into the feeling of aggression.
Back then I was angry because I waited for hours without receiving an answer from her. Today I wouldn’t give a flying fuck if something like that happens. As a newbie who desperately hopes to get laid, you see things differently.
If I would have stayed in this aggressive state for a couple of minutes before letting go of it, I wouldn’t have had two sleepless nights. The mistake I made was that I kept wallowing in this feeling, without using my emotions in a positive way.
Not using your aggression in the right way is a crucial mistake that can easily lead to frustration, helplessness and to the desire to give up.
The Positive Side of Aggression
Do you really want to give up, because of one negative experience?
If the answer is “yes”, you will never achieve anything in life.
If you want to become successful with women, you shouldn’t even think about quitting, before you haven’t approached at least one hundred women.
In order to not give up and to keep on going, you have to get to know the positive side of aggression. Even though our society always displays aggression as something bad, especially when it comes to dominant male energy that expresses itself in aggressive behavior, this feeling has also a positive side that shouldn’t be neglected.
Aggression can be a huge motivating power, at least when you don’t become reactive, like I did with the flaky girl. Instead of being reactive you have to become proactive. Being proactive enables you to change the meaning and the influence that this feeling has on your life.
Let’s assume you experience a similar situation as I did. A girl flaked on you and you become aggressive, because you wanted to meet her so bad. How can you deal with this feeling? On the one hand, you can be reactive and dwell on that feeling forever, while you get frustrated and resentful. On the other hand, you can decide to be proactive and to use your aggression as a motivator.
By learning how to use your aggression as a motivating force you are able to do something that most men will never accomplish. When most guys get angry and aggressive because of something a woman says or does, they transform into pathetic little wimps…
How Most Men Deal With Aggression
…who start to complain about how the world is so damn unfair. How do I know that? I have been there more than once.
When I started out on my journey I was nothing but a toothpick that snapped whenever a woman didn’t respond the way I wanted.
Whenever a woman didn’t show up on a date, I became so aggressive that I didn’t want to go on dates for a couple of weeks. Whenever an extremely hot girl rejected me, I became so aggressive, that I couldn’t concentrate on approaching the other ten hot girls who would have given me their number. That’s how most guys deal with their aggression.
Being reactive and incorporating this feeling up to a point where it determines your outcomes is definitely not the best way to handle those situations.
Why don’t you stop being reactive and start being proactive?
How to Use Your Aggression to Get Laid
The first step towards a proactive way of dealing with your aggression is to become aware of it as soon as this feeling arises. This is the easy part. I mean, who doesn’t recognize when his muscles cramp, his face gets red and his head is about to explode?
Now that you became aware of your feelings, you are ready for the difficult part. Use this feeling of aggression as a motivator, instead of a reason to sabotage yourself. Instead of wallowing in the feeling, you should start to think about how your life would look like, if you wouldn’t have this feeling.
How would your life look like if you wouldn’t have to care about flaky girls, because you have two hot girlfriends who keep you busy?
Now wallow in that feeling!
Feel how happy, fulfilled and sexually satisfied you would be, once you have reached a point in your life at which this feeling of aggression is not present anymore.
Use your current feeling of aggression and take it out on a piece of paper that you are going to fill with all the action steps that will help you to achieve this goal.
Allow yourself to become really angry and write like a freaking maniac. Use your aggression as a motivator to find a way out of your misery. Also think about how your life would look like if you would continue to wallow in self-pity.
Looks pretty pathetic, right?
Good, then promise yourself that you’ll do everything you can to not give up because of a few negative experiences that you’ll inevitably have along the way.
By regarding those experiences as necessary steps towards achieving your goals and by using your aggression as an additional motivator to achieve your goals, you won’t be one of the guys who quit when it gets tough.
This attitude will eventually provide you with all the sex and love that you desire, while the other guys stay slaves of their negative feelings and won’t achieve anything.
Summed Up Wisdom
How to transform aggression into sex? Accept the fact that you will sooner or later have to deal with aggression along your journey. Understand that this feeling has a positive and a negative side. Wallowing in this feeling can make you feel helpless, whereas using your aggression in the right way can make you feel powerful.
How do you make use of your aggression? Stop being reactive and start being proactive. Imagine how your life would look if you wouldn’t have those negative feelings. It would look pretty amazing, right? Then use your aggression as a motivating energy that helps you to work towards your goals. Using this energy will eventually lead you to success with women, while other guys allow this feeling to paralyze them.