Are you ready to become fearless?
Even though you might be afraid in a way that makes it impossible for you to attract beautiful women into your life, I promise that you can overcome every single one of your anxieties if you are determined enough.
I don’t say that it is easy to change your life in a way that makes you overcome all your insecurities, doubts and fears.
You have to put in some effort and you have to be willing to not only address your deepest anxieties on a theoretical level, you also have to be determined to conquer them in a practical context.
Nothing in life that is worth achieving comes easy.
However, living a life in which you are scared of absolutely nothing is something that is definitely worth the effort.
No matter if you are scared of approaching women, if you have certain issues that are related to your sexuality, if you are afraid of what other people think of you when you suddenly start to travel the world in search of the most beautiful women – the following guide on how to become fearless can be applied to any form of anxiety.
Everybody is afraid of something and even though the context might be different, the underlying pattern is always the same. In order to overcome any form of fear you first have to make a decision. You have to decide to stop being a victim of your emotions. In order to get to this level you have to look your fear deep into the eyes.
1. Accept your Fears
“All you have to do is to accept your fears. Then everything will be alright.”
What a fucking bullshit.
In case you are afraid to approach women and every time you come near a female human being your heart starts to beat as if you would have swallowed a hand grenade, you probably already hate me for writing Accept your Fears in the subheading.
Don’t worry, I won’t tell you that all you have to do in order to learn how to become fearless is to accept your fears and to live with them. Such an advice wouldn’t help you to overcome your anxieties and it certainly wouldn’t help you to live a fearless life.
By saying that you should accept your fears I don’t mean that you should learn to live with them till the end of your days. What I actually mean by saying this is that you should stop doing what the majority of people who are afraid of something do.
Most people pretend that their anxieties don’t exist.
They do this in order to justify why it is okay to not take action and to not do something about their situation.
Sorry, but this childish behavior won’t help you to learn how to become fearless. What you really need to do is to accept your fears. Even our deepest fears, such as the fear of death, ask for acceptance:
The following article about accepting your deepest fears contains some tools that have the power to help you to achieve this.
Stop Ignoring your Fears
Are you afraid of approaching women?
Then men the fuck up and be okay with the fact that you have those fears at the moment.
I know that the famous pick up artist who you have seen on YouTube told you that you just have to scream “I am the best PUA in the world. I can get EVERY woman!” three times a day while you are standing under the cold shower and all of your problems will vanish as if you would have used a magic spell.
That’s not how it works.
No matter if the fears you want to get rid of are related to women or not – stop ignoring that they exist!
Depending on how strong your fears determine the enjoyment of your everyday life, the process of accepting their existence can be quite painful, but by doing this you take the essential first step on your way towards learning how to become fearless.
Without accepting them you won’t solve them. It is really that simple.
However, just because you have to become okay with the fact that your fears are present at the moment, doesn’t mean that you have to become okay with the fact that it has to stay that way.
Go to War
The ignorance and the denial of your current anxieties are the best way to never become a fearless man, but accepting their survival isn’t any better.
After you finally had the balls and stopped to ignore your darkest insecurities, it is time to go to war.
The enemy that you are fighting against is within you.
Your negative emotions are the soldiers that you have to kill.
Accepting that there is an enemy within you and stopping to ignore its hostile take-over was the first step towards learning how to become fearless. The next step is to use this realization and to stop accepting this hostile take-over.
Prepare yourself to invest some time and effort in fighting and eventually overcoming your anxieties.
Don’t accept their survival.
In order to ensure that you will defeat your fears in the future you have to do one more thing that holds the majority of men back in their attempt to live a life without fears.
Decide to take Action
I already said that it is impossible to put your knowledge about how to become fearless into practice. I also told you that it is impossible to defeat your anxieties without putting in some work, effort and without facing your inner demons.
In case you are not willing to do something to defeat your fears you can stop reading this article right now. I am serious. The only way to live a fearless life is by taking action.
You have to make a decision.
Decide that you want to live a life without fears and decide that you will do everything within your power to overcome your fears, so that you can live a life in absolute freedom while doing whatever you want, approaching whoever you want and having sex with as many girls as you want.
As soon as you made this decision, you can continue.
2. How to Become Fearless on a Theoretical Level
Before you will be able to overcome all your fears by taking the necessary action steps and by facing your fears directly, you have to address your fears on a theoretical level. In the same way as you can only win a war with a good strategy, you need a good plan to get rid of all your anxieties.
You can only fight against an enemy if you know against which enemy you are fighting.
Before you are stepping on the battlefield you should ask yourself why there is a war in the first place and if this war has a certain reason that could have been prevented a long time ago.
Identify the Reason
I guess you already know that you are afraid of something but do you also know why?
The reason why you think that you are afraid of something and the reason why you are really afraid can vary.
Let’s take approach anxiety as an example.
You might think that you are afraid of approaching women but is the fear of walking up to a woman and saying “hi” really the thing that you are afraid of?
I doubt it.
You are probably a lot taller and stronger than the girls that you would approach. Unless she is a world champion in martial arts, there is nothing you have to be afraid of.
Let me ask you a question that makes the difference between assumed and real reason a little bit clearer:
Would you have the courage to approach a woman if you could be 100% sure that nobody around you would witness your approach and that there is a 0% chance that she will reject you?
You would probably do it.
Congratulations, you just found out that the real cause for your anxiety is the fear of being judged by other people and not your fear of women. Once you have identified the real cause for your anxiety, you can go on and think about whether or not you can alter your belief system in a way that makes this reason appear insignificant.
Rethink your Beliefs
When you want to learn how to become fearless you have to be willing to work on your beliefs. That’s why the next step for you would be to rethink your beliefs in terms of the cause of your anxiety.
Let’s continue with the approach anxiety example.
You found out that you are not really afraid of women, unless they are equipped with grenades and light sabers, but that you are afraid of being judged by other people.
There is no doubt that the majority of people on this earth are afraid of being judged.
Would it be insane to ask you whether or not it makes sense to be afraid of the judgment of other people?
Wouldn’t it be much better to stop giving a damn about what other people think?
Yes, it would be better for you and your overall happiness in life.
A good thing to do now is to write down everything that you can think of that proves why the fear that you have and the reason for this fear are absolutely illogical, stupid and obstructive for your personal happiness.
It is time to rethink your beliefs.
Replace your Beliefs
Have you written down at least 10 reasons why your current beliefs about your anxiety are complete bollocks?
If not, do it!
It is time to replace your old beliefs with new ones.
Let’s get back to our example.
By now you have realized that life is actually a lot more beautiful when you are free of the judgment of other people. By adding some supportive beliefs to this statement you condition yourself to believe it. It works a little bit like affirmations. The only difference is that those supportive believes are actually true and not totally out of reach, such as most affirmations.
One supportive belief that can help you to learn how to become fearless in regards to judgment of other people is that the majority of people don’t give a fuck about what you do and the tiny percentage of people who might judge you, do it predominantly because they are too afraid to do the things you do themselves.
After you have replaced all the negative beliefs that you have concerning a specific fear you will feel how your anxiety slowly but surely disappears.
That was easy, right?
Well, in case you think that destroying you fears on a theoretical level is enough, I have to disappoint you.
In the next paragraph we are going to have a look at how to become fearless on a practical level.
Now you need balls of steel…
3. How to Become Fearless on a Practical Level
I hope you have replaced your old negative beliefs about your fears with new positive ones. The following steps will be way easier to follow, once you cleared your head from all the negative clutter that causes your fears.
Becoming fearless on a theoretical level is just the first step and even though you might be able to overcome all your fears by rethinking and replacing your beliefs, following certain practical action steps can be much more powerful.
You can regard the theoretical way of learning how to become fearless as the best way to overcome fears that don’t paralyze you completely. Fears that really make your life miserable and that make you questioning whether or not you will ever live a life that is worth living have to be addressed on a practical level.
In case you suffer from such strong anxieties you can regard the theoretical level as preparatory work for what’s coming now.
Identify Your No-Go’s
Due to the fact that I already wrote about the importance of accepting your fears and thinking about the real reasons for your negative feelings, I skip this part here.
For the following guidance on how to become fearless on a practical level, I assume that you already know what is causing your fear.
Now it is time to identify specific actions that you associate with your fear.
Let’s go back to our approach anxiety example.
Things that you are probably not capable of doing when you have the fear of approaching women, respectively the fear of being judged by other people, is to walk up to a woman and to approach her.
Maybe it seems impossible for you to approach a woman with a direct compliment. Maybe it seems impossible for you to kiss a woman a few minutes after you have met her. Maybe it seems impossible for you to approach a woman who is walking with a friend.
Whatever it is, write it down.
The same principle applies to any other fear that you might want to get rid of.
Identify the things that you simply cannot do because of this fear. Take your time and write down a couple of activities that make your hands shiver by even thinking about them.
Identify Your Maybes
Now that you have written down all the things that you think of as impossible to do, it is time to write down some activities that you are barely able to do. Those activities should also trigger your fears, but in an attenuated way.
Let’s say you think that you could never approach a woman with a direct compliment. Then decide to approach a woman by asking her for a direction. Let’s say you think that you could never be able to kiss a woman a few minutes after you met her. Then decide to practice touching women a few minutes after you meet them.
Look for activities that force you to face your fears.
Mastering those activities should be difficult, but not impossible.
From “Maybe” to “Hell Yeah”
Learning how to become fearless in practice implies that you actually go out in the wilderness and face your inner demons.
I promise you that the decision to face your fear by doing activities that are difficult but not impossible leads you on a path towards a fearless life. By accomplishing those things you will not only destroy your fears step by step, you will also gain motivation to go one step further and to do things that are a little bit more difficult than the things you did the day before.
Imagine you are climbing a ladder and every winder is a further step towards fearlessness. Every time you face your fear by doing a certain activity you will go one step up.
Once you reached the top of the ladder you not only know how to become fearless, you are fearless.
Summed Up Wisdom
How do you become fearless? Well, it is not easy but it is definitely worth it. The first step towards a fearless life is accepting your fears. Stop ignoring them and stop denying that they exist. However, don’t accept that your fears have to accompany you all your life and start to make the decision to overcome them.
Once you’ve made this decision you can start learning how to become fearless on a theoretical level. You have to identify the causes of your fears, before you can rethink your old negative beliefs and replace them with supportive new beliefs. Learning how to become fearless on a theoretical level is great but for fears that completely paralyze you, it is necessary to take practical action steps.
Therefore you have to identify the things that you are afraid of. Think about activities that might be difficult but that are not impossible to do. Now do those things. This will lead you slowly but steadily towards a life in which you are completely fearless.