Do you want to know how to flirt over text with a girl?
Let me guess:
Who’s this girl?
You know that better than me. She might be the cute college girl you approached last week. Or she might be the sexy waitress who gave you her number. I’m sure she’s not the first girl you texted…without success.
It’s so goddamn frustrating.
You push through your fear and finally approach this girl. It feels so good when she types her number into your phone. And God, it feels even better when she replies to your first message. She’s into you. You are so close. Then you mess up.
That happens when you don’t know about…
It’s time to learn the best ways to flirt with a girl through text…
How to Flirt Through Text with a Girl
Let me tell you something:
You are not the only one who struggles with this. Thousands of guys want to learn how to be flirty over text because, well, they all have the same problems. Please correct me if I’m wrong, but I’m sure you’ve made one of the following crucial mistakes…
Almost everyone does it. But playing it safe is not the solution. Famous TV show host Steve Harvey famously said that you need to jump if you want to succeed. If you don’t jump, you’ll never make it. And that’s true.
Flirting over text is about taking risks.
Are you ready to take these risks to reap the reward?
Then share your story…
1. Share Your Selfie Story
Sending selfies is a great way to flirt over text with a girl.
But don’t just send any selfie. A standard selfie with a smile and thumbs up is pretty boring. You can be more creative. Instead of sending a standard selfie, you share a selfie story.
Here’s what I mean:
Yes, that’s exactly what you do. You share your life with her. Make selfies in the gym, at work, and with friends. Women are attracted to interesting men with an interesting lifestyle.
Your selfie proves that you are this kind of guy.
2. Use Funny Memes or Gifs
Memes and gifs are a gift from heaven.
This is one of the easiest ways to flirt with a girl over text. All you have to do is to trade the standard message for a meme message. You can use the exact same words but the energy is completely different.
Heck, you can even write some boring-ass stuff.
If you send her a message with “hey, how are you?” it’s boring. If you send it as a meme or a gif, it’s not that boring anymore. The internet makes it so easy to flirt with girls.
Don’t underestimate the power of memes and gifs.
3. Put an Emoji After Every Text
The best flirty texts to send a girl have an emoji at the end.
Here’s the golden rule:
Do not send a text message to a girl without an emoji. It’s a waste of words. That’s how much girls love this shit. Seriously, I don’t make this stuff up. It’s scientifically proven that emojis trigger emotions, especially joy and happiness.
Use smileys whenever you can.
4. Play with the Angel and Devil Smiley
Say hello to my favorite emojis.
You can do so many fun things with the angel and devil smiley. You can reward her for being a good girl and you can punish her for being a bad girl. You can reveal your naughty thoughts and you can joke that you’re an innocent angel.
Here’s the way I like to use it:
Oh man, I love these two smileys.
5. Ask Her the Weirdest Question Ever
What is the weirdest question ever?
It depends on what you’re talking about. All I know is that learning how to flirt with a girl through text is about embracing your weird side. The worst thing you can do is to ask her logical questions. She’s a woman. That doesn’t work.
The weirder the better…
- “Have you ever asked yourself why women don't have their breasts at the back?”
- “How is it possible that your smartphone doesn’t explode when you look at it?”
- “Do you know how I can make my kitchen table dance Samba with the chair?”
I’m sure you can come up with your own weird questions. But yeah, make it weird. She’ll laugh her ass of. And believe me. Nobody has ever asked her these questions. Give her something to laugh about and she will reply.
6. Share a Secret with Her
I’m sure you have some dirty secrets you can share.
Okay, you don’t have to tell her about that day you peed yourself in high school after drinking two bottles of Jägermeister. That’s not the kind of secret she wants to hear. Instead, tell her something funny or naughty.
Here’s why this technique works:
By sharing a secret, you build trust. You are vulnerable and this vulnerability makes girls trust you more and open up. And it allows you transition the conversation in a sexual direction.
That’s where you want her to go.
7. Give Her the Silver Medal
Here’s how to attract a girl through texting:
Don’t put her on a pedestal.
Sounds weird, right? I mean, that’s exactly what a lot of guys do. They put the woman on a pedestal and send her ridiculous love letters over text. Seriously, I’ve seen text love letters that looked like one of Shakespeare’s novels.
I have news for you:
That’s a terrible idea. Calling her “perfect” or telling her how “special” she is doesn’t work. That’s needy and has nothing to do with flirting. You need a different approach. You can keep your pedestal, but you don’t put her on top of it.
Here’s what you can say:
It’s cheeky, it shows confidence, and it allows you to answer in a funny way when she asks you who’s your favorite girl.
I always say “my dog Bella. You would love her.”
8. Call Her Out for Being…
…for being what?
Well, it depends. Some girls are shy. Others are cheeky. Then there are the kinds of girls who are so straightforward that it hurts. I (probably) don’t know the beautiful lady you want to impress with your newly acquired skills.
All I know is this:
Calling a girl out for her behavior is a great way to flirt.
Here are some examples:
Call her out for her behavior. She needs someone who sets boundaries.
9. Pretend to Be Offended
This works every single time.
It’s so easy to flirt over text with a girl when you’re not afraid to pretend to be offended. No, I’m not talking about offending her with your inappropriate jokes…even though that’s also a way to take your text game to the next level.
Now you are the one who’s offended.
Of course, you’re not really offended. I mean, if you get offended by the words of a cute girl, no matter how mean she is, you have to work on your self-confidence. My book Rise of the Phoenix will help you with that.
Here are some situations where you can use this technique:
These are the perfect moments. Seize the moment and tell her that you’re offended. You can either do this with or without a smiley. If you do it with a smiley, she’ll know that you’re joking. If you don’t use a smiley, she’ll apologize.
Now you can tell her that you were joking.
10. Make Her Feel a Little Bit Guilty
Guilt is a powerful emotion.
It’s also a great way to flirt with a girl on text. Of course, you don’t really want to make her feel guilty. You’re just joking. I mean, you don’t want her to cry tears of sorrow on her smartphone while you’re congratulating yourself on your smart move.
Here are some situations where guilt works like charm:
It sounds creepy, but you can actually guilt a girl into going on a date with you. It sounds worse than it is because she doesn’t really feel guilty. It’s a weird mixture of emotions. She knows that you’re joking…but what if you’re not.
Here’s what you can say to her:
“Now I’m so sad that I will put myself in the oven and come out as a cake.”
She’ll change her mind and go out with you.
11. Describe Your First Date
What if she still doesn’t want to go out with you?
If negative emotions such as guilt and being offended don’t work, you can still sell yourself. No, I’m not talking about prostitution. You don’t sell your body. You sell your personality, your plans, and future experiences.
Here’s what you can tell her:
She can’t wait to see this place and to spend the evening (and maybe the night) with you.
12. Give Her a Genuine Compliment
It can be so easy.
I know. It’s not the fancy flirting technique you expected, but giving her a genuine compliment can be enough to get things going. Of course, you don’t want to bombard her with compliments. That’s needy. One is enough.
Let her know that you’re attracted to her:
And no, compliments are not lame or cheeky. You have to use them like a good wine. One glass is enough but too many glasses lead to a terrible headache.
She deserves to know that you want more than friendship.
13. Ask Her Naughty Questions
Humor is great.
But learning how to flirt over text with a girl is about more than the skill to make her laugh. It’s also about increasing sexual tension. Eventually, you want her to physically flirt with you. That’s why you have to stir the conversation in a sexual direction.
The best way to do this is by asking her questions.
No, not just any questions…you want to ask her naughty questions. And you don’t want to make a big deal out of it. You just ask her, totally random.
Here are some examples:
- “I know this is a bit random but have you ever kissed a girl?”
- “I shouldn’t ask you this but I’m curious. Do you like it soft or rough?”
- “This is a bit weird but I have to ask you anyway. Are you into tongue kisses?”
It isn’t flirting when it’s not a bit inappropriate.
14. Ask her About Her Hobbies and Interests
What if you don’t have the balls to ask her naughty questions?
Man, you really have to read my book. But anyway, you don’t have to ask her about her favorite sex position, at least not yet. You can start by asking her about her hobbies and interests. That’s PG-13 enough…unless she’s into BDSM.
Here are some simple ideas:
Now you can text back and forth about her hobbies and about your hobbies. That’s a great way to find out more about each other and to find out if you are compatible.
15. Let Her Fill in the Blanks
Women love to fill in the blanks.
Men are visual creatures. We see a nice ass and big boobs and boom…we are ready to get down and dirty. Women are different. They want to visualize the experience. Give them tiny bites and they’ll imagine a beautiful meal.
The true art of flirting through text is about what you leave out.
Here are some examples:
Put naughty thoughts in her head and allow her to fill in the blanks.
16. Give Her Cute Nicknames
It gets boring.
Every other guy starts the message with “Hey Jenny”, “Hi Jenny” or “Hello Jenny”. It’s always the same. Show knows her own name. She doesn’t need you to remind her that her mom chose this name when she was high on anesthetics.
You can do better than that:
There are millions of potential nicknames. Give her one and enjoy her response. Women absolutely love it, especially when the nickname is based on her personality or looks. That’s when she gets the feeling that you get her.
17. Tell Her About Your Dream Last Night
This is one of the best flirty text messages to send a girl.
Share your dreams with her. No, not the dream about you farting a symphony in the Royal Albert Hall. You don’t want to share this with anymore. I’m talking about the naughty dream you had about her and your day at the spa.
What if you didn’t have a naughty dream?
Make something up.
It doesn’t matter what you share with her, as long as it’s naughty. Just don’t go overboard with it. This article teaches you how to flirt with a girl over text and not how to sext her to orgasm. So start slowly and build up the tension.
An innocent dream with a sexual ending is enough for the start.
18. Break Up with Her Before You’re Dating
Be careful with this one.
You want her to giggle, not to cry. You can use this technique with girls you are not dating yet. The idea is simple. You tease her for being a bad girlfriend. You take one of her texts as the reason to break up with her.
Here’s what you can say:
“I never expected this from you. I thought you were an angel. Now I need years of therapy and a new hair color. I have to break up with you now.”
Of course, it’s just a joke and she knows it…I hope she does.
19. Punish Her Over Text
Punishing her is one of the best ways to flirt with a girl over text.
Here are the perfect situations:
Now you have to punish her for being such a bad, naughty, or rude girl. Tell her that she deserves a soft slap on her cute ass. Her response will reveal if she’s ready to do the things you talked about in your text conversations.
Here’s one of the replies I got:
“Spank me daddy ;-)”
I did everything in my power to get this girl on a date.
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to flirt over text, right? Then don’t be afraid to share your story. Oh, and don’t ignore the power of memes and gifs. But don’t worry. A genuine compliment can be enough and a smiley can be the icing on the cake.
You can also pretend to be offended. And you can even use guilt as a flirting technique. But don’t put her on a pedestal. Give her the silver medal and let her know that you’re attracted to her. Let her fill in the blanks.
Asking the right questions is always good. You can either ask her naughty questions or questions about her hobbies and interests. In case she doesn’t reply you can still break up with her or punish her for being such a bad girl.