How to Be More Attractive to Women: The 31 Rules

Don’t you also want to know how to be more attractive to women?

I was 18 when I first tried to figure this stuff out. I was standing in the middle of my bedroom in my parent’s house. The mirror was right in front of me. This bastard was looking at me with a cheeky smile.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like shit?

For years I felt like an ugly, worthless goblin whenever I came near a mirror. No woman was attracted to me. Heck, they didn’t even value my existence.

“Life is suffering” I used to tell myself.

Then everything changed. It wasn’t one of those aha moments you see in Hollywood movies. It was slower, but more profound. Slowly but steadily, I learned what it takes to become more attractive to women.

I learned:

How to Become More Attractive to Women with These 31 Rules 

You entered Global Seducer territory.

Do you know what this means?

This means that you are safe from ridiculous mainstream advice. You wouldn’t believe what crap I found when I looked at the advice on mainstream sites.  

Don’t worry. I won’t tell you to…

Yes, I’m serious. One of the most popular men’s advice blogs gave the advice to befriend a baby because, apparently, women are attracted to men who like babies. Good luck walking up to moms and asking them if you can be friends with their toddlers.

Have fun getting pepper sprayed.

It’s time to learn how to REALLY be more attractive to women. No bullshit. I promise. The advice I share with you is unapologetically honest and based on my personal experience.

But I have to warn you.

You have to be open-minded and accept the fact that learning how to become attractive to girls is a holistic process…

How to Become More Attractive to Women with Your Beliefs 

It all starts with your beliefs.

I know, I know. That goes against the “dress better, eat better, and poop better” advice from other sources. But hey, I warned you. Becoming attractive to women requires major changes. Quick fixes only lead to short- term results.

You are in it for the long run, right? 

Then you need to have a look at the big picture…

1. Believe that You Deserve Beautiful Women  

Do you think you deserve beautiful women?

There’s one thing you need to know about the female species. They have extremely sensitive sensors. You walk up to her thinking about her sexy ass. She looks at you and thinks about who you are.

You can lie to me, but you can’t lie to her. If you don’t believe that you deserve her, she doesn’t believe it either.

A woman is the reflection of her man.

Believe that you can get her and she’ll consider you attractive enough to get her.

2. See Yourself as a Leader 

Are you a leader?

I hope you are one because women are attracted to leaders. They hate followers. They despise them. Followers are the men who get rejected, spit out and eaten for breakfast. Leaders are the men who get breakfast after a night of passionate sex.

What does it mean to be a man who leads women?

Don’t worry. You don’t have to change jobs and become a manager. I know managers who are killers in the board room, but whenever a girl looks at them they transform into obedient puppies. That’s not a very attractive quality.

Be her thought leader and lead her physically. 

And don’t forget to cry…

3. Trust the Power of Vulnerability 

Okay, don’t cry.

And don’t kill me for giving you the following anti-alpha male advice. I’m all for being an alpha male, but I know that women love vulnerable men. So don’t pretend that you don’t have emotions. You have emotions. She knows it.

Here’s the shocking truth:

Women find vulnerable men more emotionally and sexually desirable.

Here’s why:

I know how hard it is to believe in the power of vulnerability. Everyone else told you to be an emotionless rock, an alpha, a killer. Well, science says the opposite. 

4. Change Your Beliefs about the Innocent Angel 

What do you think when you look at a hot girl?

Come on. Be honest.

All these thoughts are normal and natural. And guess what? Women want you to think of them as sex objects. Oh God, I’m so sorry. That was so politically incorrect. But hey, it’s the truth.

News flash:

It’s not because they want you to admire them for their PhD. in political science. It’s okay to think naughty thoughts when you look at her. This makes you more dangerous and women love dangerous men.

5. Believe in Selflessly Helping Others 

You might not know this, but I donate a lot of my money.

I don’t make a big deal out of it because actions speak louder than words. But when somebody asks, I tell the truth. One girl I met two weeks ago asked me if I ever donate money. I listed all the charities I supported in the past and the ones I still support.

Here's what happened:

A study called “altruism as a courtship display: some effects of third-party generosity on audience perception” explains why this worked so well. Apparently, altruistic men are more attractive for dates and for long-term relationships.

Funny side note: Men don’t care if a woman is altruistic.

6. Believe in and Follow Your Vision  

Do you have a vision and do you believe in it?

Every man needs a vision.

What about you? 

There’s a reason why women are more attracted to starving artists than to frustrated bankers. Loving what you do is ten times more attractive than hating what you do. The paycheck doesn’t matter. The vision matters. 

How to Be More Attractive to Women with Your Words 

Words follow beliefs.

Or was it actions?

Ah, who cares…let’s first have a look at how to be more attractive to women by saying the right words.

Now go and get her with the power of your words…

7. Speak with a Loud and Clear Voice 

Do you want her to hear you?

Then speak loud and clear!

You don’t have to scream ridiculous nonsense. But if you want to date up, you have to turn the volume up. Yes, even if you’re an introvert. I am one and I sometimes have to remind myself to speak louder.

Here’s why women are attracted to men with a clear voice:

Turn up the volume!

8. Be Unapologetically Straightforward 

Most men are cowards.

They don’t say what they think and feel. They hide the truth.

What is your truth?

Well, she’s hot. You are attracted to her. That’s your truth. A man who knows how to be more attractive to women doesn’t hide his truth. Is it offensive? Who cares! Is it sexual? Good!

Speak your truth.

Women are into guys who have the courage to be straightforward, even when they pretend to be offended. Let her pretend and enjoy how her pupils widen while she looks at you.

9. Tease Her But Don’t Please Her  

You don’t want to be a people pleaser.

I mean, it’s good to please girls in the bedroom. That’s definitely attractive. But pleasing her with words is a sure way to make her lose interest.

Don’t do any of the following things:

Do any of that and she’ll lose respect. And if she doesn’t respect you, she won’t be attracted to you.  

10. Your Words Make Her Laugh 

Humor is attractive.

Funny men get laid. Okay, not all of them. And there’s a reason why.

Most men try to entertain her instead of themselves.

By entertaining her, you’re nothing but a dancing monkey. You’re the sad comedian who kills himself with his own jokes, desperately trying to get approval from the audience. Don’t be that guy.

Instead…

Entertain yourself and invite her in your humor bubble.  

Have a great time with yourself and simply invite her to step into your humor bubble. That’s attractive.

11. Be Careful with Self-Deprecating Humor  

It can work, but it’s tricky.

Don’t get me wrong. Women love men who mastered the art of self-depreciating humor. Unfortunately, most men believe they are artists when they are actually interns. Making fun of yourself is easy. But it’s no attractive.

Here’s how to make it attractive:

Here’s an example:

Let’s say you are really hard-working. This can be seen as a positive quality. You could make fun of yourself by saying that you’re a workaholic and that she’ll run away after two days.

12. Your Words Make Her Cry

It’s better to make a woman laugh than to make her cry…but not always.

Calm down. I don’t want you to hit her. No violence please.  I’m a lover of women and I hope you’re one too.

Here’s what I want you to do instead:

Encourage her to share her dreams and stories. 

If you do this, her tears are the expression of a strong feeling of attraction.  

13. Tell her Where, When and Why  

It’s you job to make the decisions.

Remember:

You are her leader. She’s the follower. That’s how nature designed us. And that’s good because with every decision, her attraction for you increases.

Here’s what you need to do:

Open your mouth and make the decisions.

14. Reveal Something But Not Everything

You’ve seen the email signup form for my 7 Scientifically Proven Seduction Techniques, right?

There are three reasons why I allow you to download this PDF for free:

And no, I’m not ashamed to say it. I know that my book will change your life. That’s why I want you to buy it and that’s why I reveal a part of it in my free PDF.

But I don’t reveal everything.

That’s why you’re curious. You want to find out more. Do you see it? The same applies to women! Reveal something and she’ll be curious. Reveal everything and there’s nothing left for her to discover.

A mysterious seducer is an attractive seducer.

How to Be Attractive to Women with Your Body and Style

Oh, you will hate me for this.

Nobody likes to hear that their body is not perfect. I mean, I have a 30 cm scar on my belly. I know what I’m talking about.

So…are you ready to change your body?

Then have a look at the following tips to improve your body and your style…

15. Smell Good and Masculine 

Sorry but…

Women are not attracted to men who stink like dying fish or like fish who have been dead for a very, very long time. Come on. I’m a guy. I know how tempting it is to wear the same socks for a week and to change your boxers every two days instead of every day.

I mean, who wants to wash clothes, right?

I have terrible news for you:

Women are more sensitive to smell.

Take a shower and change your clothes. Oh, and if you want to boost your attractiveness even more, you can buy a good perfume. 

16. Hit the Gym at Least Once a Week  

“Once a week…are you insane?!”

Calm down, big boy.

You don’t have to become the second Arnold Schwarzenegger. And no, I don’t ask you to go because of the inevitable six-pack you’ll get. That’s only one benefit.

Going to the gym made me more attractive because…

The result: Class always wins…

If you really want to know how to be attractive to women, you have to get a tailor-made suit, or at least two or three shirts. Do it like me and put it on your to-do list for your next trip to Thailand,

This is THE most attractive style.

18. Wear Something Uncommon  

This tip is the result of another experiment I did.

O day I decided to wear my Buddha necklace AND my tailor-made suit. You have to admit that this is a pretty rare combination. I mixed hippie style with business style. It looked really weird.

But something interesting happened:

Every girl I approached asked me about it. They were curious. They wanted to find out more.

Here’s why I think it works:

If you wear something uncommon (a weird necklace or bracelet) or an unusual combination, you automatically set yourself apart from the masses. You are interesting because you’re different.

19. Correct Your Posture

I spend 90% of the day in front of my laptop, writing articles and recording podcasts for you. That’s why my posture is, nicely said, fucked up.

But no, I don’t want your pity.

I want you to correct your posture. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. Come on. Do it now. Stand up and stand as if you were a Greek God.

Here’s why correcting your posture is so important:

I don’t know about you, but the combination of confidence, attractiveness, and a pain-free life doesn’t sound too bad to me.

20. Stand Like a Man, Not Like a Girl

Uhhh…manspreading is bad!

No, it’s not. Manspreading is for winners.

Women are attracted to confident men who make them feel safe and secure. She doesn’t want to date grass. She wants to date a tree.

21. Walk as If the Ground Belongs to You

A confident walk makes you more attractive.

You are the king of the jungle. That’s what you should communicate with your walk. Don’t hold back. Walk like a proud lion.

Just don’t walk like a bodybuilder with razorblades under his armpits.

In other words, do the exact opposite of what these two morons are doing:

Walk as if the ground belongs to you and she’ll want to belong to you.

How to Be Attractive to Girls with Your Actions  

Actions follow thoughts.

Or was it words?

No more smart-ass quotes today. I promise.

Instead, I want to show you which actions you have to take to make a woman attracted to you.

22. Follow Your Path without Turning Back 

Be selfish.

“What? How can you say that? Nobody likes selfish people!”

I’ll explain.

I don’t want you to be a selfish asshole. Remember what I said about being altruistic. It’s not about not caring for others. It’s about being selfish enough to follow your path without turning back.

You go wherever you want to go.

It doesn’t matter if she wants you to go left. If you want to go right and you know that the right path leads you closer to your goals, you take the right path. You don’t give up on your dreams because of a woman.

She has three options:

What if she opts for number three?

Well, you know what to do. Follow your path without turning back because a man who follows his path without making excuses is an attractive man.

23. Stare like a Hawk

Eye contact is so important.

Looking women into the eyes is a skill you have to learn.

Stare like a hawk and not like a creep. That’s the whole secret. You want to give her the feeling that you desire her. You want her and your eyes should communicate that.

24. Smile Like a Loaded Gun

Women don’t like men with harmless smiles.

They fall for men with dangerous smiles.

Let’s face it. If you walk up to a girl looking like the Terminator, she’ll be scared. She doesn’t know you. You might be a robber, a psychopath or her dad (she has issues). That’s why it’s so important to communicate “I come in peace”. That’s what a smile does.

But you want to communicate so much more.

You want to communicate:

What are these things you want to do with her?

You know it and your confident, playful, and cheeky smile should communicate it.

25. Always Make the First Move 

A man who takes action is a man who’s attractive to women.

In other words, you have to make the first move. If you wait until she makes the first move, you’ll wait a very long time…maybe until forever. Of course, there are ways to get women to approach you, but success is not guaranteed. 

Here’s what making the first move communicates:

You go for what you want and that's fucking attractive. 

26. Surprise Her with Your Spontaneity 

Are you spontaneous?

I hope you are because girls love this quality. Dating a spontaneous guy is exciting, unpredictable, and never boring. They don’t want the boring fart who is more predictable than a German government official.

They want a guy who…

Be spontaneous and make her feel something.

27. Surround Yourself with Beautiful Women 

Why do you think it’s so easy for married men to get laid?

They have been approved. A woman looks at a married man’s ring and thinks to herself “she married him so he must be a good catch. I want him.” Yep, girls are brutal. They love to sleep with married men. I actually thought about buying a ring to increase my chances.

Anyway, here’s how you can get the same approval:

Let her know that a lot of girls approve you and she’ll pursue you.

28. Cook Her a Meal Even if It Tastes Like Shit  

I’m a terrible cook.

I’m the guy who burns the salad and cooks eggs without water. The moment I step into the kitchen, this peaceful place transforms into a danger zone. But that doesn’t stop me from torturing innocent girls with poisonous meals that taste like shit.

They absolutely love it…even when they have to throw it away.

Here’s why:

It’s one of the cutest things to do (female logic) AND it shows that you make an effort. 

Heck, you can cook pasta that turned from yellow to black. It doesn’t matter. Laugh it off and kiss her. That’s what she wants.

29. Stop Being so Needy 

Your neediness destroys everything.

You sent her twenty text messages, called her ten times and wrote her a love letter. Then you wonder why she’s not attracted to you.

Come on. You’re a man. You’re a seducer.

Throw your neediness in the dumpster and develop an abundance mindset. That’s the fastest way to be more attractive to women. 

30. Don’t Be There for Her 24/7

What would you do in the following situations?

What do you do?

Here’s what an attractive man would do:

He lets her know that his work, vision, and life is the number one priority and that he can’t do what she asks for. He confidently tells her to wait until he has time or to ask someone else.

Are you this kind of man?

31. Master the Art of Seduction  

I have good and bad news for you.

If you want to know how to be more attractive to women, you have to master the art of seduction. There’s no way around it. Women are complicit in their own seduction and the more seduction skills you have, the more attractive you’ll become. You have to study and practice. That’s the bad news.

What’s the good news?

I want to help you to become an attractive man who knows how to meet, seduce, and date the women of his dreams.

That’s my path and I follow it.  

Summed Up Wisdom 

You want to know how to be more attractive to women. That’s good. But I hope you’re not looking for three quick fixes that lead to nothing. You have to look at your attractiveness in a holistic way. It starts with your beliefs, continues with your words and ends with your actions.

Attractive men say what they think and they say it in a way that allows women to hear them. They believe in their vision and they follow their path, no matter if she likes it or not. That’s the ultimate sign of non-neediness.

You can either make her laugh or cry with her words. As long as you make her feel intense emotions, you are on the right track. And as long as you are a spontaneous seducer who takes action and takes her on an adventure, you are the most attractive man she has ever met.