Do alpha males fall in love?
Let me ask you another question:
Do lions eat spinach?
Admit it. That’s what this question sounds like to you. I mean, the alpha male is the animal (or the human) with the highest rank in a dominance hierarchy. This is the kind of guy who has the most power, dominance and assertiveness…at least if you believe the definition in the dictionary.
This is not the kind of man who falls in love, right? RIGHT?!
Mhhm…let’s have a look at some alpha males:
All these men are charismatic, have successful careers and rank pretty high in the dominance hierarchy. It would be a lie to say that they’ve never been in love. Some of them have. Others still are.
So why do so many guys believe that love and being alpha can’t go hand in hand?
Let me tell you why…
Why You Ask Yourself “Do Alpha Males Fall in Love?”
You’ve been conditioned, my friend.
You’ve been conditioned to believe that you can’t have a heart and be a leader at the same time. It’s not your fault. No matter where you look, the alpha who doesn’t have any feelings smiles at you with his psychopathic smile.
There are so many dating coaches who pretend to be so alpha, so cool, and so detached from everything that you’d think they have no emotions. They want you to believe the myth. That’s why they portrait the image of the invulnerable alpha.
Have a look at this feedback from one of my readers:
“Sebastian, I like your site because you’re authentic. You talk about your successes and your failures. You’re the only manosphere blogger who admits that he cries.”
I’m thankful for this feedback…even though I wouldn’t describe myself as a maosphere blogger. I’m a dating coach and yes, I cry.
I have emotions.
Sometimes I’m happy. Sometimes I’m depressed. There are days when I feel down. I’m a leader, an entrepreneur, a writer and a lover of women. But I’m also vulnerable and emotional.
Do you want to know why?
Because I’m a human being!
Tell me if you believe one of the following statements:
You can read this bullshit on any second personal development blog for men.
The question is: Do you really believe it?
Debunking the Myth of the Unemotional Alpha
Most guys are full of shit, especially on the internet.
Heck, there are days when my ego takes over. Then I’m full of shit too. But I try to be as authentic and as honest as possible. I try to be honest about my success, but I also try to be honest about my losses and failures.
There are a lot of bloggers, writers, and dating coaches with a starving ego. It’s starving and every “dude, you’re so alpha” and “man, I wish I was as alpha as you” makes their ego jump up and down like a kangaroo on ecstasy.
I can’t even tell you how many times I read one of the following lines:
Here’s the truth about little Mr. Alpha:
Don’t get me wrong. It’s okay to only want sex. Nobody says that you have to want a relationship. I spent years of my life sleeping with girls from all around the world. It was fucking amazing. However, not once did I say that an alpha male like me doesn’t fall in love.
Alpha Love vs. Beta Love
I know what you’re afraid of.
You’re afraid to end up like Owen Wilson or Ben Stiller in almost all of their movies. You don’t want to be the guy who gets nagged by his wife. And you for sure don’t want to be the guy who holds his girlfriend’s purse…
That’s why you ask yourself: Do alpha males fall in love?
The conditioning strikes again. No matter where you look, husbands and boyfriends are ALWAYS portrait as gullible, naïve, and submissive. They are spineless men while James Bond is saving the world and fucking the girl.
Of course you think that alpha love is impossible!
James doesn’t even make breakfast before he jumps out of the window and into the helicopter. Mr. Average Husband, on the other hand, can’t wait until breakfast is over because his wife is driving him nuts.
Let me tell you the truth:
You and only YOU choose between alpha love and beta love.
Choose alpha over beta love and you’ll answer the question “do alpha males fall in love?” with a confident “I certainly do”.
What it Really Means to Love as an Alpha Male
Have you made your choice?
I hope you chose alpha love because guess what? Alpha men are better at loving themselves and women. In the same way as nice guys are not really nice and friendly, beta love is not really based on love. It’s based on fear.
As a true alpha, you don’t have these fears. You allow love because it’s natural. It feels right. You’re not constantly worried that you’re not good enough. You know that you’re good enough and worthy of a woman’s love.
Loving as an alpha means to…
In other words, you don’t run away from them. You don’t use a mask of hardness, emotionlessness, and fake coolness. As an alpha male, you love authentically, honestly, and unapologetically. No beta man on earth is able to do that.
Do Alpha Men Fall in Love? The One Condition
Yes, they do…but only under one condition.
You have to allow it.
That’s the only way. If you continue to tell yourself that love is for losers and that only beta males fall in love with you, you’ll continue the vicious cycle. You attract what you believe. As a man who isn’t able to love, you attract women with the exact same issue.
Change your mind to change your life.
I want you to understand that it’s your choice. You can be an alpha male and have sex with a different girl every weekend. Or you can be in a relationship with the right girl.
Both paths can be paths of the alpha male.
It’s your decision if you want to see the world in color or if you want to continue to live in a world where everything is either black or white. But hey, you are an alpha male. I know which path you will choose.
And I know you’ll check out my book once you’ve chosen your path.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do alpha males fall in love? I know what you’re thinking. “No, man! A Real alpha doesn’t fall in love. Love falls in him. Oh, shit. These are the Chuck Norris jokes. But hey, take Chuck as an example. He’s madly in love with his wife Gena O’Kelley and nobody would call Chuck a bet a male.
So…is it possible? Of course it is! Unfortunately, there are so many bloggers, advertisers, and movie producers who try to convince you from the opposite. They make you and your ego believe that only beta males fall in love. Deep down you know that this is simply not true.
You have the choice. You can choose between alpha love and beta love. You can either be the submissive guy who does everything his nagging girlfriend says, or you can be the assertive and confident alpha who leads her with emotional strength, and yes, with love. The choice is yours. I just hope you choose wisely.