How to Physically Flirt with a Girl (With a Reason)

The following paragraphs have only one purpose:

I want to show you how to use your body to get her. I don’t want to waste your time with words, gestures, and love letters. You are here because you want to get physical. And you deserve a step-by-step guide that shows you how it’s done.

Let me ask you something:

Have you ever used your body to flirt with girls?

I’m sure you’ve tried…or you wanted to try. But for some reason, you didn’t do it. You backed down because you didn’t know what to do and how to do it without being creepy…and without disrespecting her personal space.

Let’s face it.

Most guys are either too shy or way too aggressive. They go from zero to hero and then they wonder why she backs off, turns cold, and moves on. They don’t realize that there’s a right way to do it and a wrong way.

I’ll help you to do it the right way by…

Are you ready to flirt like a god…without saying a word?

Then continue reading…

How to Physically Flirt with a Girl with the Intensity Ladder  

“What the heck is the intensity ladder?” 

Glad you ask. But let’s be honest. You already know it. You know it because you either never climbed it or you tried to jump to the top without takin a single step. In other words, you were either too passive or way too sexually aggressive.

I still remember how bad I was at physically flirting with girls.

Back then I didn’t realize that there’s a simple solution to my problem:

You have to climb the intensity letter, step by step….

1. Announce the Death of the Hover Hand 

No more hover hand, my friend.

I know you’ve done it in the past. We all have. You know, this magical moment when you want to hug a girl but your hand hovers over her shoulder. Or this incredibly ecstatic moment when you want to give her a friendly push, but your arm keeps hovering over her shoulder.

That’s what causes nightmares.

The only antidote to the hover hand is learning how to physically flirt with a girl. That’s why you’re here. And that’s good. So please do yourself, the world, and your coach Sebastian (FYI: That’s me) a favor and don’t ever hover again.

Say no to the hover hand and say “yes” to your flirting journey…

2. Shake Her Hand Like a Seducer

Shaking her hand…

That’s the start of your physical flirting journey. It all starts with a simple handshake. Unfortunately, most guys fuck it up completely. For some reason they shake her hand as if she was a man. But she’s a woman and certain types of handshakes just don’t cut it.

Here’s what not to do:

Listen up Casanova:

Shaking the hand of a woman is like holding a precious flower.

You don’t shake her hand. You open your hand and invite her to lay her hand in yours. Then you close yours. You show her that you are willing to accommodate her and to protect her. She’ll feel more connected to you than to her ex-boyfriend.

Do you know why?

That douchebag didn’t shake her hand like a seducer.

3. Come up with a Reason to Explore Her Body  

In case you didn’t know it:

Physically flirting with a girl is about touching her. I know…duh…but hey. Some guys are too shy to even think about touching her. And I get it. It’s hard to get over your fear of getting physical, especially because you don’t know when it’s appropriate and when not.

Let me tell you something:

There’s one element that puts an end to “too soon” and “that’s awkward”. This element is called The Reason. You have to give her a reason to touch her. Without a reason, it might be too soon or too awkward.

A reason solves this problem.

As long as you have a reason, she won’t mind. It’s okay because it feels completely normal. Maybe you’re looking at something. Or you’re holding something.

I mean, you have to touch her to do that, right?

Come up with a reason and you can touch her wherever you want.

4. Touch Her Shoulder When She’s Laughing

Nothing beats the friendly shoulder touch.

This is a highly effective flirting technique. And yet, a lot of guys do it wrong. They know that they should do it after something funny was said. It’s natural. You do it with your friends too.

It works, but only if you have the perfect timing:

If you touch her shoulder while you’re laughing your ass off but the corners of her mouth are frozen, it will be awkward. However, if you touch her shoulder while she’s laughing, it will feel good for her.

That’s a huge difference.

Wait until she’s laughing about your joke. Then do it, knowing that the timing’s right.

5. Touch Her Hand While You’re Talking

Image you’re in the middle of a conversation.

You’re talking about one of these topics and she enjoys every second of it. You’re having a great time, but it’s not a very sexual time. I mean, she has fun. But she doesn’t look at you with eyes that say “rip my clothes off”. You want to change that.

That’s why you take the following steps:

You do all these things while you’re talking to her. You look her in the eyes and you continue the conversation as if nothing happened. The only thing that has changes is that you’re now holding her hand.

No big deal.

She won’t care about it as long as you don’t make a big deal out of it. But of course, she’ll notice it and guess what? She feels better than before. She feels close to you and the conversation is more exciting than a couple of minutes ago.

Don’t let go.

6. Play with Her Hand and Fingers  

You’re still holding her hand.

Don’t even think about letting go. You can hold it softly. This makes her feel safe and secure. What if she tries to free her hand? Then she’s not ready for it. But if she doesn’t move her hand away, you can assume that she likes it.

Continue to talk with her for another ten minutes before you increase the tension.

And how do you increase the tension?

Well, you’re already holding her hand so…

I love to play gentle finger wrestling with girls!

It’s one of my favorite games and no, it’s not as brutal as it sounds. That’s why I put the “gentle” in front of the “finger wrestling”. You just play with her fingers while you look into her eyes. Combine this with a bright smile and she won’t be able to resist you.

Play until you want to do other things with your fingers…

7. Stroke Her Cheek When She’s Smiling 

You looked into her eyes with a bright smile while you’re playing with her fingers.

How does she respond?

Does she really have a hair, an eyelash, or a bit of makeup on her cheek? 

Nope, but that doesn’t matter.

Unless she has frog eyes, she can’t see what’s on her cheek. You could remove a nuclear weapon in her face and she wouldn’t know it. Don’t be shy. Make up a reason and stroke her cheek.

Tell her how soft her cheeks are and that she looks so cute.

She’ll giggle and smile.

8. Lead Her with Your Hand on Her Lower Back 

That’s a powerful move.

In fact, it’s one of the most powerful moves you can make. Every man who wants to learn how to physically flirt with a girl should be able to pull off the lower back touch. And you should also be able to lead her once your hand is on her back.

Here’s how it works:

You can do this whenever you want.

Putting your hand on her lower back is a powerful move. Use it.

9. Walk Hand in Hand and Don’t Let Go 

“Is it too soon to walk hand in hand with her?” I hear you asking.

That’s the wrong question, my friend.

Here’s the right question:

“Do I have a reason to walk hand in hand with her?”

As long as you have reason, you can physically flirt with her until the earth stops turning. But you need a reason and an intersection is a perfect reason. All you need is a zebra line and/or a busy street.

Your job is to help her to get to the other side…in one piece.

Nobody said you have to let go of her hand once you are on the other side of the street. She feels safe and secure. You’re still here to protect her. As long as she doesn’t tell you otherwise, you keep holding her hand.

Walk hand in hand and caress it every now and then. She’ll love it.  

10. Hug it Out Before You Kiss Her 

Do you want to feel her body?

I assume you do. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here. You want to physically flirt with girls. That means you want to touch her and feel her boobs pressing against your chest. Come on. Stay focused. You can jerk off later.

Here’s what I want you to do:

Hug her and then go for the kiss.   

Sooner or later, you have to go in for the kiss. And guess what? You better do it sooner than later. A hug is the perfect excuse to test how far you can go. A simple hug reveals everything you need to know about her attraction to you.

What do I mean when I say “does she feel you”?

Well, it’s hard to explain. That’s what a woman does when she wants to get physical with you. She presses her boobs against your chest. She hugs you with her whole body. She moves her head in a way that makes it impossible for you to miss her lips.

She wants the kiss and probably more.

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Summed Up Wisdom 

You are here because you want to know how to physically flirt with a girl and I’m here to tell you that you need a reason. It’s time to stop the hover hand and to come up with good reasons to touch her. This allows you to do whatever you want.

You can touch her hair, her neck, her arm, and any other body part. Of course, you can also increase the tension over time. You can start by holding her hand and continue to play with her fingers. Everything is possible.

But you’re not only a flirt master. You’re also a leader. You lead her with your hand and if you want, you can walk hand in hand with her until it’s time to hug her. Why should you hug her? It’s the perfect excuse to go for the kiss.