How to Develop Self-Discipline and Achieve Your (Dating) Goals

Unless you learn how to develop self-discipline, you will never end up dating the women of your dreams.

It might be a hard pill to swallow, especially because you’ve been lied to by too many sleazy pick up artists who tried to sell you the idea that instant seduction success is possible without even lifting your ass off the couch. You have been sold the idea that the perfect pick up line and the secret technique has the power to replace dedication, determination and self-discipline.

It’s time to wake up!

The only way to ever achieve something outstanding is to develop a certain level of self-discipline.

 

The most successful people are not the ones who were lucky enough to stumble upon a magic Ring or wand. The most successful people were the ones who had a vision, who visualized their goals and who then made the decision to take action.

But these are just the first steps…

 

Discipline is Just a Habit

You can visualize as much as you want. You can even take massive action, but if you don’t have the discipline to continue to take action and to continue to improve, you will always stay mediocre.

This is true for every aspect of your life, but it is especially true when it comes to attracting, seducing and making love to incredibly beautiful women.

There are a lot of things you MUST do if you want to become a successful seducer that you WON’T do without this habit. Yes, discipline is nothing else than a habit, even though some sources claim that it is something entirely different.

When you come to think of it, you’ll realize that having self-discipline is just a habit that you can develop and integrate in your life.

You might not be an early riser, but after you set your alarm clock to 6 am for 30 days in a row you can become one. You might not be a disciplined person, but when you write a to-do list and force yourself to stick to this to-do list for 30 days you’ll probably be a very self-disciplined man.

If you still don’t believe me that discipline is an important factor on your road to (dating) success, you just have to listen to the following short video of  Corey Wayne:

 

The question is:

How do you get there?

How do you get to a point where self-discipline is not just a habit, but an essential part of your life?

In case you want to have the power to approach at least ten girls every single day, seven days a week, the following step-by-step guide on how to develop self-discipline is exactly what you need. It doesn’t really matter at which stage of your path you are at the moment. The following steps are as important for a guy who gets laid left and right as they are for a guy who never had sex before. By applying the following four step guideline you will succeed.

Here are the four steps you have to follow when you want to learn how to develop self-discipline:

Goals –> Prioritize –> Schedule –> Habit

Now let’s give those four words a meaning…

 

How to Develop Self-Discipline – Step 1: Goals

The first thing you have to do in order to change from a lazy dude to a man who has enough self-discipline to achieve anything he wants to achieve is to set desirable goals.

Before you can start taking action in a way that will lead you on a path of unbreakable self-discipline, you have to think about what you want in life and especially what kind of women you want in your life.

Do you want to have sex with multiple girls or do you want to live in a monogamous relationship?

Do you want to travel the world in search of sexual adventures or do you want to stay in your tiny hometown and continue to date girls that you wouldn’t even touch if you would live in another country?

Think about the type of women you want to seduce, how many women you want to sleep with and what kind of relationships you want to have with them. At this stage it is important to define the goals that you want to achieve as specific as possible.

 

The best thing you can do is to distinguish between short-term goals and long-term goals.

I personally define short-term goals as everything that you want to achieve within one year. In case this is the first of my articles that you read and the concept of approaching and seducing women is new to you, you might set the goal to get at least three phone numbers within the next month.

Define those short-term goals as detailed as you can and don’t forget to write down a specific deadline.

Having the goal to get three phone numbers can appear unreachable, especially when you have never spoken to a woman besides your mother. However, once you have achieved this goal, you want to know what’s next. That’s where the long-term goals come into play.

Now that you are able to get as many phone numbers as you want, it is time to set one or two long-term goals. Set some goals that make your heart thump as soon as you think about how it would feel to achieve them.

Write down everything you can think of and come up with at least ten long-term and ten short-term goals that make you smile when you think about them. This first step paves the way for your future dating success as a disciplined and extremely successful seducer.

 

How to Develop Self-Discipline – Step 2:  Prioritize

Now that you have a list of short-term and long-term goals it is time to prioritize. Take your list of goals and look through it while you ask yourself the following questions:

Are these goals based on my own beliefs or are they influenced by the media or the society I live in?

Are these goals in alignment with my values?

Which goals will provide me with the most happiness, satisfaction and pride, once I’ve achieved them?

Which goals will lead me on a path of self-development and which ones will make me stagnate?

 

Have a look at all those questions and go through them for each and every goal you wrote down.

After you have done this I want you to pick one to three short term goals and one to three long-term goals that you want to focus on. The fewer goals you choose, the easier it will be for you to focus on achieving those goals.

By learning how to develop self-discipline you can achieve incredible things in your dating and sex life, but please don’t make the mistake that a lot of overly enthusiastic guys make and set thousands of goals.

As a seducer you might be able to focus on two to three girls at the same time, but as soon as girl number four jumps into your bed you are overwhelmed. The same is true when it comes to your goals.

The best thing you can do is to choose one short-term goal and one long-term goal that you want to achieve more than anything else. No matter how impossible it may seem right now to achieve those goals, by learning how to develop self-discipline and by applying the following steps, you will achieve them.

 

How to Develop Self-Discipline – Step 3: Schedule

Now that you have chosen at least one long-term and one short-term goal that you want to work on, it is time to write a schedule. Thereby, I don’t mean writing “I want to approach some girls” in your schedule.  This kind of “planning” leads to nothing and you know that.

If you decide to approach a few girls every month you might end up approaching two and in case they both reject you, you probably won’t continue to pursue this goal. Unfortunately, that’s what most men do when they start out with the intention to include some self-discipline in their dating life.

I know that you are different. You really want to achieve seduction success. You don’t just talk about becoming successful with women; you are ready to do what is necessary in order to achieve this success. Therefore, you need a detailed schedule.

When I say detailed I mean really detailed.

Whenever I make a schedule I usually download an excel form that allows a detailed scheduling for every hour and every single day of the week. Now it is time to fill this excel sheet with the steps that are necessary to achieve the goals that you chose in the previous step.

Let’s imagine your short-term goal is to get at least three phone numbers in the upcoming month and your long-term goal is to have sex with at least three girls in the time-period of one year.

What do you need to do in order to achieve those goals?

You have to make some time every single day to read, to study, to approach and to date.

If you stick to your schedule, learning how to develop self-discipline is an inevitable process.

Let me give you an example of what such a schedule could look like (beginner level):

 

Monday:

7:00-8:00: Read one article on globalseducer.com

8:00-8:30: Practice meditation and visualizing my goals

08:30-09:00: Breakfast and way to work

09:00-17:00: Visualizing how my life would be as a traveling seducer aka pretending to work    

17:00-20:00: Go out and approach at least ten women

20:00-21:00: Go on an instant date or text/call girls to set up a date on the weekend

21:00-22:00: Read at least one chapter in a seduction/dating related book (I recommend this one)

 

About three years ago my schedule looked exactly like this.

I followed this schedule every single day. The only exceptions were Saturday and Sunday where I planned the time from 09:00-17:00 to approach ever more women and to go on even more dates.

 

How to Develop Self-Discipline – Step 4: Habit

Unfortunately, designing a schedule that shows you exactly what you have to do to achieve your goals is absolutely worthless, unless you also DO the things that you wrote down. You have to stick to your schedule and put the stuff that you wrote down into practice.

Therefore, you need to make self-discipline one of your habits.

Thank god Brian Tracy agrees with me that self-discipline is a habit that you should cultivate:

 

Nope, I am not talking about approaching ten girls on Monday and hen slacking off for the rest of the week. Forming a habit isn’t the same as taking action once and then resting on your laurels. I am talking about a daily habit that you adhere to 365 days of the year.

By developing a daily habit you will lose the feeling that your schedule is some kind of to-do list that you have to work off. At the same time you will get the feeling that all your goal-oriented actions are completely natural.

After a while you won’t even think about your schedule anymore. Your actions will be a part of who you are.

As soon as you are at this point you reached a level of unconscious competence. You already learned how to develop self-discipline in the process of planning and working on your goals. The amazing thing is that you won’t even think about whether or not you are disciplined because you can’t imagine a life without this habit.

Of course this concept also applies to approaching, dating and seducing beautiful women.

By learning how to develop self-discipline your initial goal of having sex with three girls in one year might allow you to have sex with three girls every month.  By sticking to your habit you will realize pretty soon that the goals that used to sound unachievable are actually very easy to accomplish.

Yep, you need discipline to read my book till the very end and to succeed with women. But you will succeed.

 

Summed Up Wisdom

Learning how to develop self-discipline isn’t as difficult as it may sound. All you have to do is to follow a simple four step guidance:

Goals à Prioritize à Schedule à Habit

In the first step you should come up with some short-term and long-term goals that you want to achieve. Those goals serve as a starting point for specific action steps. After you wrote down a few desirable goals it is time to assign priorities and to choose about three short-term and long-term goals that you want to focus on.

One step that leads you in this direction is to design a schedule with specific action steps. After you wrote your schedule it is time to put your action steps into practice. By developing a habit you automatically transform tasks from your schedule to activities that are in alignment with who you are. This ultimately allows you to be self-disciplined without consciously realizing it and to do tasks that are necessary to achieve your goals in a way that feels completely natural.