Do you know how women think in relationships?
In case you believe that they have the same thoughts as we do, you are either totally naive or you have been together with too many feminists who already mutated to men.
If you say that women have the same train of thoughts as men you could also say that traditional Asian women and sorority girls have the same attitude towards alcohol.
Women think different, especially when it comes to relationships.
When you are honest to yourself you don’t really want a woman who is just like you and who thinks like you. No, you want a woman whose brain works in the female modus. I already shared in a couple of articles that my girlfriend is absolutely amazing. One reason for that is her femininity and the way she deal with my quirks.
She is amazing and if she wouldn’t see things in our relationship from a different perspective than I do, we would probably fight all the time. We would both be ambitious visionaries who tend to be a bit self-destructive from time to time. It would be horrible.
I am glad that she is differently. I don’t want to be together with a success-driven girl who tends to destroy herself with an incredible workload. It is enough that I am that way and I am pretty happy that she fulfills the role of the supportive and caring girl who has the power to calm me down when I get a bit overambitious.
I learned to love the way she thinks differently, but from a lot of conversations with guys who are in relationships I know that they don’t understand (or don’t want to understand) the fact that how women think in relationships is completely different than how men think in relationships.
How Women Think in Relationships: Completely Different Than Men
The misunderstanding, respectively the ignorance to believe that women have to have the same thoughts as you, can easily lead to frustration, breakups and resentment against women that could have been avoided in the first place.
The only way to live in a happy relationship is to understand how women think in relationships. There is really no way around that.
This is the only way to understand why she does the things she does and why she feels the way she feels. Without this knowledge you will make all the mistakes that the majority of guys make. Those mistakes will eventually destroy every chance for a happy relationship.
That’s the last thing I want for you. No matter if you want to have a monogamous, open or strictly sexual relationship, I want you to be happy and I want you to spend your time with women who make you happy.
You can only keep those women if you understand how they think. Before you learn how women think in relationships it is time to have a look at the things that most guys assume about the things that are going on in a female brain.
No Logical Thinking
What is the typical reaction of the average guy when his girlfriend is upset?
He wants to solve her problem.
We men love to solve logical problems and because we are so good at doing that, we automatically assume that the best way to solve the problems of our girlfriends is to solve it with logic.
The last thing you should think about when a woman has a problem is to solve it with logic. When women cry because of a negative experience they had, they don’t want you to solve the problem. If you only take away this one thing from this article I am already happy.
Women don’t want you to solve their problems!
Let’s say that your girlfriend has an emotional meltdown because she is completely stressed out at work. Do you really think she wants you to solve this problem on a logical level? I mean, you can try to call her boss in order to tell him that he shouldn’t let your girlfriend work so hard but don’t complain if she is pissed at you when you tell her what you have done.
The only thing that a woman wants you to do in such a situation is to hug her, give her a kiss and tell her that everything is going to be alright and that you are there for her. That’s it.
Women don’t think logically and solving their problems using logic won’t help you, at least not for the survival of your relationship.
If women don’t think logically, what kind of thoughts do women actually have?
Well, I already said that the best thing you can do is to hug her and give her a kiss. Do you also know why doing this is so effective? Kisses, hugs and nice words trigger emotions in her.
For women emotions are like oxygen.
Women think in emotions. Realizing this is absolutely essential for every relationship you will ever have. Whatever a woman says to you, you always have to remember that the only reason she says it is because she reacts to a certain emotion.
The emotions she experiences can be positive or negative. No matter if she wants to fuck you or kill you, you must have done something that triggers those emotions in her.
Stop wasting your time trying to find a logical reason your girlfriend is pissed at you and start to think in emotions.
I know that it can be quite difficult for guys to leave their logical way of thinking behind them and to focus on the emotions of a woman, but in order to guarantee a happy relationship you have to give it a shot.
Once you know why she does the things she does, you can take the necessary steps to guide her emotions in a positive direction.
Women and Superficiality
Before I am going to list a few of the most common thoughts women have in relationships, I want to talk about one thing that women and men think very different about. In case you don’t have a girlfriend, this aspect will be interesting for you.
You might not have a girlfriend because you think you don’t deserve one. Maybe you think that you are too short, too bald, too fat or even too Asian to get a woman. I recently heard the last excuse from a guy.
Whatever physical thing it is that is holding you back from approaching your future girlfriend, it is nothing but an excuse. I am sure that you already know on a subconscious level that it doesn’t really matter if you are 1.70 or 1.80 meters tall, but now you get the confirmation.
Due to the fact that most men don’t know how women think in relationships, they automatically assume that they have the same thoughts as we do. According to this rule women must choose their boyfriends in the same way as we choose our girlfriends.
This is one of the most common misconceptions.
If we are really honest we men are extremely superficial. When we see a girl who has the most amazing ass in the world and tits to die for, we don’t really care if she graduated with a distinction or not. We are biologically programmed to put our dicks in the most beautiful women, even though it seems that more and more desperate guys in the West try to circumvent this biological principle.
Even though you have a slight dating advantage if you look like a male fitness model, women are by far not as superficial as we men are. If you want to learn how women think in relationships you have to understand that they don’t choose their partners according to the same principles as men do.
As long as you are confident, honest, have values and a vision they don’t really care that much about your height or your body mass index. All you have to do is to overcome your limiting beliefs. I hope these lines just helped you to overcome one of them.
How Women Think in Relationships: The Positive Thoughts
Are you ready to find out how women think in relationships?
Don’t worry, before we have a look at all the really fucked up stuff that wanders around in a typical female brain, we have a look at all the positive thoughts that women have in relationships. The reason I don’t just want to list her negative thoughts as warning signs for you, is because I also want you to become aware of the times you do everything right.
When a woman has positive thoughts in a relationship and she expresses those thoughts with her words, her behavior and her actions, you know that you do everything right. You better remember what you did during the happy times. You can use this knowledge in the bad times to end them as fast as you can.
Let’s have a look at how women think in relationships when they are happy.
“I am in Love with Him”
When a woman is in love with you, she will let you know. Unless she has some emotional issues that don’t allow her to express her feelings, in which case you should think about whether it was the right decision to date her, a woman will show you her loving thoughts.
Yes, she will…but only if you read chapter 5 of my book (it’s about getting and keeping a girlfriend).
She will either tell you directly that she is in love with you or she will reveal it through her actions. She smiles whenever she sees you. She always comes as close as possible. She does things for you that no other girl would do (I am not only talking about sexual favors).
Those are all signs that she is in love with you.
If she has those thoughts, you must do something right.
“I am Happy When He is Happy”
When a woman is happy in the relationship with you she will become the perfect combination of a chef and a nurse.
One of the most important qualities a woman has to have is a caring attitude. For me this is actually more important than anything else. In case you want to have fulfilling relationships, you probably also want a woman who enjoys pampering you.
In case your girlfriend takes care of you and treats you like a king, you can confidently assume that she is happy with you.
My fuck buddy with whom I spend a lot of time with during my studies in the UK once said that she is happy when I am happy. In some way this is closely related to the leader/follower dynamic that is necessary for a relationship to be fulfilling for both sexes.
When you are happy, she will follow you into happiness.
“We Take Care of Each Other”
It is true that most women, at least the ones you want, love to take care of their boyfriends. However, no woman wants to take care of a man who doesn’t give a fuck about her.
Sometimes women have the feeling that everything is in perfect balance and that you both support each other and take care of each other.
This gives her the security that you are a good team, which will make her look in the future with confidence.
How does she show her positive thoughts? She might say things like:
“We are a good team”
“I really enjoy being with you”
“I will always be there for you”
On the other hand, she might let you know through her actions by returning the favor, every time you say or do something that makes her smile.
“He Leads, I Follow”
I say it in this article, I already said it in other articles before and I will say it in hundreds of my future articles…
Women want a man who leads them!
If you have the balls to lead, the woman you end up dating will follow your lead, at least when she is happy with you and the way you lead her. Decoding the sign that shows how she thinks about the leader/follower dynamic of your relationship is pretty easy.
Either she follows your lead or she doesn’t.
If she follows your lead you should continue what you are doing. It obviously works. In case she doesn’t follow your lead, you should rethink the way you are leading her.
“I Hope He Still Want’s Me”
When a woman is emotionally attached to you and if she knows that you are a guy with options, she might have some moments where she doubts herself. If she really loves you she hopes that you still like her, especially if you are already together for a long time.
In case this insecurity doesn’t get out of hand, it only shows that she cares about you and that she doesn’t want to lose you.
When a woman has this thought she communicates to you that you still make her bed and her world rock.
She will show you her thoughts by constantly asking you if you still love her and by reacting a bit jealous as soon as you mention other women.
How Women Think in Relationships: The Negative Thoughts
Now you know how women think in relationships when they are happy but what do they think when they are frustrated, angry and completely unhappy?
No matter what negative thoughts your girlfriend has, most of the time it has directly or indirectly something to do with you.
I already told you that you should become aware of the happy moments in order to remember them and to use your experiences for the bad times.
The reason why this is so essential is because you have the power to change her thoughts from “I want to kill this motherfucker!” to “I want to bang the shit out of this guy!”.
You just have to know how women think in relationships, why they think that way and how you can turn her thoughts around…
…or at least run as fast as you can.
“I Want to Keep Him, No Matter What”
It is great if a woman is convinced that she loves you but it can get quite dangerous if this feeling of love mutates to the thought that she has to keep you no matter what.
If a woman thinks about keeping you at all cost, you and your life is in danger.
She might even share those thoughts with you by telling you every minute that she wants to grow old with you and that she can’t even imagine a life without you. If she says things like that with a serious facial expression, you should think twice before you put your fuck her again without using a condom.
She will probably tell you that she takes the pill but she might also be willing to do whatever it takes to keep you for the rest of her life.
“I am Leading”
The man leads and the woman follows his lead. That’s the key principle for every healthy relationship.
Unfortunately, a lot of women are under the constant influence of politicians that try to sell them the concept of the happy female leader. As a result, they apply this way of thinking to their relationships. Then they wonder why their relationship sucks.
In case you have the problem that your girlfriend always tries to lead, you won’t like what I am about to say now.
The only reason why women do this is because the man they are together with is a crappy leader. If you lead a woman with confidence and empathy, you will never have this problem. It is really that simple.
“Does He Even Care About Me?”
I already told you that supporting each other gives women the feeling that their relationship has a future. On the other hand, the feeling that you don’t care about her leads to fear and insecurity.
If you want to know how women think in relationships you have to understand that they can get this thought pretty fast. Some women are so sensitive that they think you don’t care about them whenever you don’t tell them that they look great in their new dress.
One sure way of solving this problem is by showing her that you care about her.
Tell her how great she looks and make her feel special.
What Her Thoughts Teach You
No matter if the thoughts of your girlfriend are predominantly negative or positive, they teach you something. They teach you that women think completely different from men in many ways.
On the one hand, understanding how women think in relationships gives you the chance to read her mind, to turn her thoughts in the right direction and to live in a happy relationship. On the other hand, it also gives you the chance to recognize if you are together with a woman who has too many negative thoughts and is poisoning your life.
As the Global Seducer you are, you have to be willing to leave women who are poisoned by negative thoughts and to focus your energy on the women who mainly have positive thoughts.
You deserve positivity in your bedroom and in your life…and you deserve to read this book.
Summed Up Wisdom
If you want to learn how women think in relationships you have to understand that they think completely different from men. Women think in emotions. Don’t try to solve their problems with logic. The good news is that they are by far not as superficial as we men.
Some thoughts that women have in relationships are quite positive. She might for example think about how much she loves to take care of you and how much she respects you as her leader. Other thoughts are quite negative. She might think about taking over the leadership and she might even ask herself if you even care about her.
Both her positive and her negative thoughts teach you something. Eventually, it is up to you to surround yourself with women who mainly have positive thoughts.
Sebastian Harris says
Glad to hear that
Thank you lol shit was on point!