Today I want to show you how to charm a woman with words.
Yep, you have to open your mouth and talk. I know. It’s hard. It would be so much easier if you could just walk up to her, nod your head, and take her phone number. But that’s not how the world works. And sorry, it’s not going to change.
I’m sure you’ve talked to women. But even if you haven’t talked to a girl in months...it’s not too late. When I started out, I didn’t know what to say, how to say it, and when I had to shut up. My willingness to learn was my strength.
Over the years, I learned…
I promise you one thing:
After reading this article, you’ll know how to charm a lady with your mouth. And no, I’m not talking about cunnilingus. You can do that later. For now, it’s all about using words that make her want to be with you and sleep with you.
Let me ask you something…
How to Charm a Girl with Words
Have you ever wondered why Tom Cruise is so charismatic?
It’s not about the way he looks and it’s also not about the voice Mother Nature gave him. He’s smooth as silk because of the words he uses and the way he speaks. You can find a lot of these examples on YouTube, but this one is the best…
Observe the way he speaks and the words he uses.
Every word has an impact. His pauses are timed to the second. Yes, he has to discuss a sad event. But when I watched the video for the first time, it gave me the chills. It almost seemed as if every word was planned.
I want you to plan your words as well…
1. Give Her a Compliment When She Least Expects It
What do most guys do?
They give her a compliment at the beginning of the date. They walk up to her, hug her, and tell her how beautiful she looks. And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with it. Women love to hear compliments…unless they are needy.
However, I discovered an even more effective way.
It’s not about sweet talking her into nirvana. You don’t have to shower her with compliment. In fact, you should do the opposite. Wait for the most imperfect moment and shoot one precise bullet.
The effect is stronger when she doesn’t expect it.
Here are some examples:
Let’s say she spills her coffee. The coffee is still running down her lips and she desperately tries to prevent the misery with a tissue paper. She blushes. The whole situation makes her feel embarrassed. That’s your chance.
“You look so cute.”
She’ll remember this compliment forever.
2. Speak the Truth
All you need is truth.
That’s how easy it can be to charm a woman with words. Don’t think about crazy ways to impress her. You also don’t need DHV’s (stories that demonstrate higher value), how pickup artists love to call it.
Speak the truth and women will love you.
Here’s what this means:
I can already hear you saying “I should tell her how I feel? Are you insane?!”
Well, there’s a difference between…
“I love you so much, I can’t live without you. You’re absolutely amazing.”
“Hey, I really like you.”
A confident man speaks his truth while looking rejection directly in the eyes.
3. Battle Awkward Situations with Humor
Awkwardness is a part of the game.
It’s always awkward when strangers meet for the first time. Just think about it. You see a beautiful girl, run after her, and you stop her. You’re nervous as hell and she’s shocked. She doesn’t know how to react. You don’t know what to say.
The question is:
Will you make the situation even more awkward?
Unfortunately, a lot of guys do exactly that. They desperately try to hide the awkwardness under the carpet. But that’s not how it works. That beast wants to breathe and the more you try to hide it, the stronger it gets.
Here’s the solution:
Joke about how awkward the situation is. Use humor as a way to make her feel comfortable. You don’t have to fight your nervousness, her shock, and maybe even her horror (don’t approach her with a Scream Mask).
Instead, tell her the truth with a smile on your face:
“I know. It’s a bit weird. But you look so amazing that I had to stop you. You almost gave me a heart attack.”
She’ll smile as well.
4. Make Fun of Your Own Behavior
Men are weird.
I’m serious. I do so much weird stuff throughout the day. Sometimes I poke my nose and look at my accomplishment. Other times I cite move lines in the middle of a conversation. That’s when I end up talking in a Darth Vader voice, calling everyone Luke.
Maybe I’m weirder than you.
But I’m sure there are some things you do that are, well, a bit different. I want you to embrace them. Okay, I don’t want you to poke your nose in front of a girl. That’s a bit too much. But if it happens, make fun of it.
Laugh it off.
Say something along the lines of “I’m such a naughty boy. Now you have to punish me.” Heck, I farted in front of models and they were laughing their pretty asses off.
5. Appreciate a Quality No Other Guy Thinks of
What do most guys appreciate about women?
Yes, you can appreciate a woman’s cooking skills. If she’s a really good chef, you should let her know. Of course, you can also let her know that her body is sweet like sugar. However, other guys have (most likely) already told her that.
You want to set yourself apart from the masses.
That’s why you have to come up with something that she hasn’t head before:
She has more to offer than a beautiful body and you’re the first guy who notices it.
6. Talk Like Hollywood’s Enchanters
Who else besides Tom Cruise can you think of?
I didn’t want to mention 50 Shades of Grey again because I’ve mentioned this movie in so many articles. But yes, Jamie Dorman aka Christian Grey does this as well. Even though the acting is terrible, he knows how to charm girls with words.
Here’s what all these Hollywood enchanters have in common:
Watch Alfie in action and you’ll inevitably become more charismatic.
7. Talk Passionately About Your Passions
What are you passionate about?
Here’s my list:
It doesn’t matter what you’re passionate about. You can be into medieval roleplays with Orcs and dinosaurs. Nobody cares as long as you care. You need to have the ability to talk about your passion and to express your feelings.
Let me give you an example:
Here’s what I could say about my job as a dating coach:
“On average I spend ten hours a day in front of my laptop. It takes me about two to four hours to outline and to finish an article. Then it takes another hour to record and upload a podcast. Sometimes I even get hate mail. That’s my life.”
Alternatively, I could say:
“I write articles and podcasts that change the lives of men all over the world. I spend a lot of time writing and recording and the feedback I get is phenomenal. Yes, I get hate mail from ignorant twats, but I also cry tears of joy when a guy who bought my book Rise of the Phoenix turns his life around. That’s my life.”
It all depends on how you say it.
P.S. I really cried tears of joy because of feedback from readers. You’re awesome.
8. Use Powerful Verbs
Verbs are your best friends.
Sentences don’t mean shit when the right verb is missing. Women want men who make them FEEL something. They want to be TAKEN on exciting adventures. And they want to LISTEN to the sound of music while you TOUCH their soft skin.
In German, we call verbs the do words.
If you use them, women want to do something with you.
Verbs are a powerful tool to charm a woman with words.
9. Utilize the Foreigner Bonus
What is the foreigner bonus?
Well, in case you’re American, Canadian, British, or Australian, you don’t have it. I’m sorry. I’m German and I have it. Whenever I meet a girl whose first or second language is English, I charm her with some German words.
I know. It’s hard to believe…
Believe it or not, but it works. Yes, it even works with the unsexist language on planet earth. If I can do it, all the French, Italian, Spanish and wherever the heck you’re from guys can do it, too. Speaking a foreign language is always attractive.
I don’t know why but here’s my theory:
Okay, nobody on earth thinks that German is a sexy language. But I still use my ugly-ass mother tongue to charm girls with (German) words.
10. Think of Other Ways to Call Her
Now you know how to say butterfly in German.
That’s how to charm a woman with words…or maybe not. Let’s face it. Giving a girl cute nicknames is way more effective than screaming “SCHMETTERLING” in her left ear until she has a tinnitus. Just call her “cutie cat”. Or come up with another nickname.
Nicknames are great, but I want to share another idea with you:
Think about it what she wants the most.
She likes you. She might even be obsessed with you. You’re a charismatic magnet and she’s an innocent paperclip that can’t resist your charm. There’s one thing she wants more than anything else. That’s right. She wants to be your girlfriend.
Here’s what you can do:
Call her “babe” or “honey” on the second or third date. Pretend to be surprised about your own words. Then apologize. If she says “it’s okay”, she wants to be your girlfriend.
11. Share Your Most Personal Stories
I love to share personal stories.
You know me. I talk a lot about my personal struggle and my experiences. I do it because I like to motivate and help you by sharing my darkest moments. But I also like to do it when the reward is a naked woman in my bed.
I’m not afraid to tell women about…
I don’t know what you’ve been through. Feel free to let me know in an email. All I know is that you’ve experienced some hardship. Everyone has. Life is suffering, as the Buddhists point out. Share your suffering with women.
Get personal with her and she’ll become attracted to you.
12. Paint a Bright Picture with Your Words
Your words can create pictures.
Every book and every movie you like uses this principle.
One of the best ways to charm a girl with words is by painting colorful pictures. Remember what I said about verbs. Use a lot of them. Then start painting. Don’t stop until she can see the picture clearly in front of her eyes.
Here’s a picture I painted for a girl I met on an Island in Thailand:
“I might not be the guy you’ll marry, but you will always be a part of me. I want to enjoy this time with you, every moment. I want you to remember me. Everything that happens between us stays between us. All I know is that I want to wake up next to you tomorrow.”
Guess what happened?
I woke up next to her the next day.
I hope you wake up today and finally decide to change your life.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to charm a woman with words? Then stop giving her compliments when all the other guys are doing it. Wait for the perfectly imperfect moment. And speak your truth. Your truth is what she really wants to hear.
What if you act weird? Make fun of it. And don’t be afraid to be awkward. It’s always awkward when two strangers meet for the first time. Laugh it off and smile like George Clooney. In fact, he’s a the perfect example for a charismatic man. Watch one of his movies and learn.
What are you passionate about? It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you show your passion and share your feelings with her. Use powerful verbs and that you share your most personal stories. Now you have what it takes to paint a colorful picture.