How to Approach a Girl at a Party

I wanted to know how to approach a girl at a party because…

All I had to do was to walk up to her and say something, anything. But I couldn’t. I was standing there like an old tree that hasn’t moved since World War II. My thoughts were running wild. I couldn’t concentrate. I couldn’t open my mouth.

She had this pleading look on her face.

Have you ever been paralyzed?

It happened to me again and again. No matter if I went to a house party or if it was a public social event. The outcome was always the same…nothing. I ended up without numbers, without kisses, and without a girlfriend.

I didn’t know what to say and when to say it.

Now I know what I did wrong and that’s why I want to tell you about…

I promise that this article will turn you into a party animal and give you the power to talk to as many beautiful girls as you want.

Sounds good?

Then grab your best shirt, turn up the music, and let’s get started…

The Best Situations to Approach a Girl at a Party 

When should you talk to her?

Asking yourself this simple question already puts you ahead of 99% of the male party guests. Yep, it’s easy to succeed at something when the completion is sleep-walking. I mean, most guys don’t even think about this question.

That’s extremely discouraging. I mean, I did it all the time. I saw a girl and then my brain started the race to Crazy Mountain. After I had convinced myself that I was an unworthy piece of shit, I chickened out and talked to myself like a guy with severe schizophrenia.

Yeah, that was me…

Here’s one of the two reasons I failed:

I didn’t know about the right timing and the right moment.

I saw her, I felt helpless, and I gave up. That was my strategy. It worked pretty well…if your goal is to stay a miserable virgin. Something had to change. I had to calm myself down and wait for the perfect moment.

At parties, timing is everything…

1. She Stands Alone in the Corner  

It’s so much easier when you don’t have ADHD.

I’m serious.

Sometimes you just have to wait. I know. It’s freaking hard. We live in a day and age where everything has to be instantly available. Heck, I’m sure you wouldn’t be reading this article about how to approach girls at a party if my site loaded slower.

That’s how obsessed we are with speed.

And that’s a big mistake. Good things take time. That’s also true for a good approach. I mean, yeah. You can approach her while she’s surrounded by three irresistibly handsome guys who want to get in her panties. Feel free to do it.

But I have a better idea:

Wait until she is alone and sings “all by myself” in her mind.

Let her know that she doesn’t have to jump because you’re here now.

2. She’s on the Way to Get or Release Fluids 

What do I mean by getting or releasing fluids?

Come on. You know the answer. I couldn’t find a more sophisticated way to explain the act of getting shitfaced drunk or pissing like a racehorse. But that’s exactly what she does when she goes to the kitchen or to the bathroom.

This is your chance!

Imagine…

She walks into the kitchen. You follow her with a creepy smile. She touches the fridge to open it and to get a bottle of beer and, oh what a coincidence, you do the same. Your hand touches hers and your eyes meet while you smile like retarded frogs on ecstasy.

That’s the stuff romantic Hollywood movies are made of.

3. She’s Talking to a Boring Guy  

Not every guy is as amazing as you.

Some dudes are boring. They talk about boring stuff, they are less engaging than a reality TV show and they don’t know how to put a full stop at the end of a sentence. Every girl at a party fears these guys. They are like the Grievers in The Maze Runner.

How do you know that she wants you to rescue her?

Look out for the signs:

Her body language screams “please, can someone rescue me from this misery?” It’s your job to hear her cry for help and to take action. You’re Batman and you have to rescue her from the boring version of the Joker…if that makes sense.

Walk up to her and Mr. Bob Boring and introduce yourself.

She’ll turn away from him and turn towards you. That’s how you know when you’ve won the battle.

4. She’s Having Fun with One of the Female Guests  

You want to know how to hit on girls at a party.

Are you willing to go the extra mile?

Waiting until she’s alone or stealing her from Bob Boring are two options. But there’s another way to open a girl at a social event. You can approach her while she’s talking to her friends. However, I have to warn you about something.

It works better if all of her friends are female. 

If she’s surrounded by multiple guys, you’ll run into all kinds of problems:

Here’s what happens when a confident guy (not Bob Boring) encounters a male threat…

I mean, you can still try it. You’re a Global Seducer. That means you have a heart of gold and balls of steel. Read my book Rise of the Phoenix and you’ll be able to pull it off. But I have to be honest. It’s way easier if she’s surrounded by women.

“Hey ladies, you seem like you have a great time” can be enough.

They’ll invite you to have a good time with them.

5. You Get the Same Food at the Same Time

You are starving.

And no, I don’t care if you’ve eaten two Big Mac meals before the party. If she’s hungry, you are hungry. Chew and swallow as if your life depended on it. Do it for your country and for the thing between your legs. He’ll thank you later.

Here’s what you do:

“Sebastian, does it have to be the same food? I hate Sushi!”

Well, it’s not a requirement, but it makes things easier. Think about it. You’re sitting next to her and you both eat the Sushi. It tastes horrible. You can already imagine your future self having a food poisoning. That’s not good. But at least you have a topic to talk about.

You can start the conversation by talking about the horrible food.

She’ll laugh and listen. 

The Best Openers to Approach Girls at a Party 

Now you know that you have to control your ADHD.

Patience is a virtue. But patience alone is worthless. You’ll wait all day and all night, unless you know what to say. You can’t just run up to women at parties and say “hey, I just saw you here and I think you look really beautiful”. I mean, you can. But it’s kind of weird.

Here’s a better idea:

Here are some ways to approach a woman at a party that are guaranteed to work…

6. Use the Smile and Wave Approach 

Have you ever watched Madagascar? 

Then you already know the Smile and Wave Approach…

Yep, it’s that easy. And no, I’m not joking.

You just have to smile at girls and observe their reactions. The first one might look away. The second one might look at the ceiling. She’s obviously not interested. But the third one is lonely, horny, and you are just her type.

The moment she smiles at you, you wave at her.

That’s how to approach a woman at a party in the simplest possible way. And it works. In fact, it works surprisingly well. Believe it or not, but it makes you appear confident. Only confident men smile at women and have the balls to wave.

Do it like the penguins and waddle towards her.

She’ll await you with a smile.

7. Use the Anti-Small Talk Party Approach

“What the heck is the Anti-Small Talk Party Approach?” I hear you asking.

I already introduced this opener in my article about getting laid at parties. You’re here because you want to know how to chat up a girl at a party, so you might want to check this one out, too. So…let me tell you what it is and why it works.

That’s exactly why it works. 

Now that you know that she’s also not a fan of small talk, you can talk about the topics that matter. These are the topics that create chemistry with her and make her emotions dance limbo. Believe me. Talking about her passions is way more exciting for her than talking about her job title.

You have the permission to dive in deep. Enjoy the ride.

8. Ask Her if She Likes the Music

“Hey, do you like the music?”

A lot of guys would rate this as one of the most boring chat up lines of all times. Well, not so fast. I admit it. It can be boring as hell…but only because most men don’t know how to properly use this line.

Here’s what they do:

Sorry, but that’s not the right way you do it. That’s like jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. The jump is not the problem. Not having a parachute is what kills you.

Have a look at how to do it right:

The topic music is just an excuse to talk about deep topics. As soon as she tells you that she’s into Metal, Hip Hop or Irish Folk music with traditional Chinese instruments, you can ask her what else she likes to do or what else she’s passionate about.

That’s how you connect with women at parties where everyone else is painfully superficial.

9. Do What Barney Stinson Does Best  

This article has already way too many YouTube videos.

But hey, I have to share another one with you because I want to show you the power of the “have you met Ted?” Approach. God, I love How I Met Your Mother. It’s my favorite TV show because of one character. Barney Stinson is legendary.

Here’s what he does to help his friend Ted to get laid:

Usually, he introduces his friend with “have you met Ted?” But sometimes, when the chick is really hot, he changes the opener into “have you met me?” It doesn’t matter if the party girl you’re walking up to knows How I Met Your Mother or if she has never heard of it. It’s simple, fun and it works.

You walk up to her and say “have you met me?”

Say it with a funny voice and she’ll laugh. Then you can say something along the lines of “sorry, but you’re really beautiful and this stupid How I Met Your Mother line is all I could think of.” If she doesn’t know the show, you can tell her about it. If she knows it, you can talk about it.

Approaching girls at parties can be so easy.

P.S. If you bring a friend to the party you can ask him to introduce you to girls with the “have you met Ted?” opener. 

10. Use the Sneaky Tic Tac Approach

I always carry a box of Tic Tac with me.

It’s almost as important as having a condom in your wallet. One prevents pregnancy and the other one creates situations where getting a girl pregnant becomes possible. Yep, that’s the power of the Tic Tac. Even politicians know that.

What if you hate Tic Tac?

Jesus, don’t be such a prima donna. You can also carry Fisherman’s friend or bubble gum. I don’t care what it is (as long as it’s not crack, cocaine, or ecstasy). All I care about is that you offer it to beautiful women.

Here’s what you do:

Most guys don’t know this:

The way she reacts when you offer her the Tic Tac reveals more than you think. She either refuses the Tic Tac (that’s a bad sign). Or she smiles and looks you in the eyes while she takes the sugary thing (that’s a good sign).

What is she doesn’t like Tic Tac?

She might hate Tic Tac more than cats hate water. But that doesn’t matter. If she likes you, she takes one. And if she smiles at you and holds eye contact, she wants you to know that she likes you more than the Tic Tac.

I hope you like my bestselling book more than a Tic Tac…even though it tastes worse.

Summed Up Wisdom 

Are you ready to discover how to approach a girl at a party? Then look out for the best situations. Is she all by herself? You have to walk up to her. But hey, even if she’s talking to a really boring guy, you still have a chance. She wants you to rescue her.

What if she’s having a great time with other guests? Pray to God that these other people are female. It’s harder to approach a girl who’s surrounded by horny guys than to walk up to a girl who’s surrounded by horny chicks. They guys want her and they don’t like competition.

What do you say? Well, you don’t have to say anything. Think about what the penguins in Madagascar do. They smile and wave. If that doesn’t work, you can use the Anti-Small Talk Party Approach. And don’t underestimate the power of Tic Tac. These little things are almost as important as condoms.