How to Create Chemistry With a Girl

Have you ever wondered how to create chemistry with a girl?

I’m sure you have.

I still remember when I first tried to create this incredible feeling with the girls I approached. I wanted them to smile. I wanted them to be addicted to me.

What happened?

Nothing happened. It was a disaster.

The only emotions I made women feel were disgust and pity. How did I feel? I was too ashamed to admit that I messed up. It took me years to figure out how to build chemistry with women.

Eventually, I found out what works and what doesn’t:

Are you ready to learn in a couple of minutes what took me years of trial and error? 

Then let’s get started…

Unplug from the world and listen to your heart.

You smile when you look into each other’s eyes. You could swear she shows these signs. And every time you meet, there’s this energy that fills your heart with joy…and makes your hands sweat. I could go on and on, but like I said, you have to feel it in order to understand it.  

But don’t worry. You will feel it.

You’ll feel it because after reading this article you’ll be able to create it with every girl you meet…

How to Create Chemistry on a First Date and Beyond 

What is it all about?

Well, there’s one expression you have to think of while going through the following techniques. This one expression explains creating chemistry better than anything else. This is your guidance and your goal.

That’s what it comes down to.

It’s about creating a feeling of mutual connection. This feeling is deeper and different than attraction. Attraction is often superficial. Attraction can come and go in the blink of an eye. Chemistry, however, will stay once it’s created.

That’s why saying and doing the right things is so important…

1. Use the Opposite Mirroring Technique  

You want to know how to build chemistry with a girl.

That’s great, but have you ever asked yourself when women feel this emotion. I mean, you already know that it’s about establishing a mutual connection. But there’s more to it. It would be wrong to assume that it’s about doing and saying the exact same things she’s doing and saying.

She’s a woman. You’re a man. You’re NOT the same.

No matter how many feminists tell you that men and women are the same, they are not. We are different and this difference is the secret to creating this emotion.

Here’s the rule:

Feminine women feel chemistry with masculine men.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the mirroring technique. Spoiler alert: You can’t use it to create chemistry with a woman because if you mirror her words, moves, and actions you’ll turn into a woman. That’s not what she wants.

Instead, I want you to use what I call the opposite mirroring technique:

Chemistry is the natural result when a feminine woman meets a masculine man.

2. Talk about Topics that Excite Her 

Traveling is my biggest passion.

I know. It sounds like a cliché, written on the Instagram account of a 16-year-old schoolgirl who has never been abroad. But it’s true. I mean, I’m the Global Seducer.

Let’s test if you know me well:  

Would it be easier for me to feel chemistry with a girl who loves traveling or video games?

The answer is obvious. I don’t care about video games but if a girl tells me about her time in South East Asia and her love for the Thai culture, I’m all ears. You can and should use the same principle in your interactions with women.

Talk about these things and she’ll end up with a severe addiction…to you.  

3. Share Stories that Inspire Her 

Do you want to know how to create a spark with a girl?

Tell stories!

Movie writers do it. Famous authors do it. And yes, I admit it. I also love to share my stories with you. Human beings learn, laugh, and connect through stories. You already know her passions and interests. It’s so easy to turn them into a story.

Let’s continue with the “I love to travel” example:

Why don’t you inspire her with some of your personal travel stories?

Maybe you’ve never left your home country. That’s okay…even though it’s time to book a flight. You can still tell her a story that contains your plans or the experience of a friend. It doesn’t matter.

Just turn it into a story.    

4. Touch Her Like You Touch a Friend  

Okay, that sounds a bit creepy.

I’ll explain.

Of course, you don’t touch your best friend’s waist, ass and thigs, unless she’s a hot girl and you want to get out of the friend zone. But let’s face it. Your best buddy is way too hairy…and he has a penis. Yikes.

But you still touch him, just in a different way.

Come on. We’ve all hugged our best friends.

There’s nothing gay about it. That’s an expression of love between two buddies. It’s brotherhood. And even though you don’t want to be her brother (maybe her naughty step bro), you can use the exact same way of touching to create chemistry.

Why?

Because it feels right!

This is a completely natural way of bonding between two human beings. Don’t underestimate it.

5. Turn Your First Date into a Game  

Here’s how to create chemistry on a first date:

Play a game.

Women love games. But they hate first dates. You just have to say the word “date” to a girl and her alarm bells start to ring. She doesn’t want to go on a date. Dates are boring. Everyone knows that. She panics.

Why don’t you turn your first date into a fun game?

Alternatively, you can ask her weird questions that allow her to choose between two items or activities.

Here are some examples:

Turn your first date into a game and you’ll be able to create chemistry with her naturally and effortlessly.

6. Use the Same Words and Expressions  

Developmental psychology distinguishes three main types of learners:

What the heck does that have to do with creating chemistry with a woman?

I’ll explain.

Observe her speech patterns. Try to find out what type of person she is and try to mirror (this time the real mirroring) the way she talks.

Let’s say she’s a visual type.

Use words, such as “look”, “see”, “observe”, and “watch.”” Now that you can both “see” what’s going on and “look” into the same direction, she’ll have the feeling that you experience the world just like her.

She can already “see” the sparks flying.  

7. Lead her Physically and Emotionally  

Let’s talk about leadership.

I already told you that building chemistry with a woman is about masculine and feminine polarity. That’s why you are not attracted to masculine women who believe in the myth of the patriarchy. There’s no feminine energy. This makes a feeling of mutual connection impossible.

The same is true for her.

She can only feel chemistry with you if you talk and act like a man. In other words, she can only be feminine if you are masculine. Be her leader and she’ll be the follower she wants to be. That’s when she can allow herself to feel this powerful emotional connection.

Lead her physically and emotionally by…

Be her leader in every aspect and she’ll follow you wherever you want to go.

8. Be Playful and Easy-Going  

Creating chemistry with a woman can be so simple.

Don’t overthink everything. I mean, the opposite mirroring technique and all the other techniques I shared with you work like gangbusters. You can use them and abuse them as much as you want. Play around with them.

Speaking of playing around…

None of these techniques work if you meet her looking like this…

Remember:

It’s all about creating a feeling of mutual connection. And let’s face it. You can’t connect with someone who makes you feel like shit. She has to have a good time in order to feel the sparks flying.

As a German, I had to learn this the hard way. We Germans are born serious and we get seriousness fed with the breast milk. It was a hard and painful process. But with the help of mentors, such as Sasha Daygame (a professional standup comedian), I finally learned to let lose.

Watch some old Eddie Murphy standup shows 😉

9. Make her Feel Safe and Protected 

Enough about the mercy of God and the playfulness of Germans…

This is the last tip on how to build chemistry with a girl. So listen up and make some notes.

Being playful is important. You have to be easy-going and fun to be around. Serious Germans can’t create chemistry. That’s a law of nature. But it’s not all about playfulness, fun and party, party.

Think about the basic needs of a woman:

How can you make sure that she feels comfortable, safe and protected when she’s with you?

There are dozens of ways. Here are some ideas:

For more information on becoming a man who makes women feel safe, attracted, and horny, please check out my book Rise of the Phoenix.

Summed Up Wisdom 

Do you want to know how to create chemistry with a woman? Then listen up because it’s time to do the opposite of what everyone else is doing. Yes, mirroring is a popular technique, but you have to use the opposite mirroring technique. She’s a woman and she wants you to be a man.

What else? Oh, I almost forgot to tell you about the importance of choosing the right topics. The wrong topic triggers the wrong emotions. Talk about her passions and inspire her with your stories. She wants to hear them.

Don’t be so serious. I know. It can be stressful to lead a woman emotionally and physically. But you have to relax. She can’t feel chemistry with you when you’re not relaxed and playful. And she can’t do it either when she doesn’t feel safe and protected.