How to Get Laid at a Party

Do you want to know how to get laid at a party?

For me, it was a mystery.

I had no idea how to do it. I was 18-years-old and about to go to my first house party. Yep, nobody had invited me to the ones before. That’s how popular I was in high school. As one of the losers, I had to wait a very long time.

Then I finally got my first invitation.

God, I had seen so many movies where guys have sex at these events. I wanted to be one of the main characters in American Pie. Heck, I would have been happy to get Stiffler’s mom.

However, I ended up getting nothing because…

How to Have Sex at a Party: The Steps to Getting Laid  

I’ll never forget this crazy night at Fred’s house.

In high school, Fred was the coolest guy. Not because he looked good or because he was an athlete. No, the real reason was his house. Or let’s say his parent’s house. His parents were richer than God and their house looked like Stiffler’s mom’s house in American Pie.

His parties were…

They were so amazing that I (almost) got laid.

Here’s what happened:

That hurt.

She was into me but she rejected me because I looked like a moron…

1. Say No to Peacocking

Hey, don’t blame me.

When I was in high school, Neil Strauss had just released his bestselling book The Game. If it wasn’t for this book, you wouldn’t be reading this article right now. But I also wouldn’t have dressed like the lovechild of a clown and a 90s rapper.

Jesus, I looked so ridiculous.

 All I wanted was to get laid at a party, but my style made it impossible:

I looked like Mystery in his best peacocking days. The only two things missing were the eyeliner and the goggles. And yeah, Clara was into me, but because I looked so ridiculous, she went home with another guy and banged him.

Here’s what I would do if I were you:

Don’t overdress.

A plain black shirt and blue jeans is better than looking like a clown with a drug problem.

2. Get Yourself in the Party Mood  

Be honest:

Do you really want to go?

You’re here because you want to know how to have sex at a party. You’re most likely an introvert. Admit it. You’re not the kind of guy who feels comfortable around people. You feel more at peace when you’re at home by yourself.

I get it. I’m the same.

That’s why I have to push myself to enjoy social events:

"You look amazing” I say, even though the bags under my eyes get bigger every day.

Now I’m prepared. 

3. Show Up With a Female Friend

What’s the best way to get a girl at a party?

Show up with another one.

Yep, that’s the whole secret. Women are attracted to men who are desired by other women. That’s female nature. As soon as you step into the room with a chick next to you, her biological programming makes her nipples hard.

It’s instant social proof.

Think about children and toys. It’s the same thing. One child has a toy and the other child sees it. Now this child wants the same toy. Women are like children. They want what other women have, no matter where they are.  

Show up with another girl and all (female) eyes will be on you.

4. Look Out for Approachable Girls

What if you don’t show up with a girl?

Well, you can’t enjoy the all eyes on me effect, but you can still succeed. You just have to work a bit harder. The ladies won’t stare at you, but you can still stare at them. Your ego won’t like it, but your dick will thank me later.

Here’s what you do:

Your job is to search for ladies who are alone AND who might be interested in you. Yep, eye contact is important. I can’t emphasize it enough. One fraction of a second can be enough to find out if she’s interested in you.

Scan the room and get ready to make a smooth move.

5. Use My Super Creative Party Approach  

Are you ready for the most creative party approach in history?

Drum rolls please…

“Do you also hate small talk at parties?”

I know what you’re thinking. You think I’m an idiot for recommending this stupid opener. But hey, try it before you judge me. It works surprisingly well. I tested many different approaches and this one leads to incredible results.

There are several reasons why it works:

Every experienced seducer knows that going deep is the only way to get deep inside of her. This stupid question is perfect for starting an exciting conversation. But of course, excitement is not the only emotion you want her to feel.

6. Enjoy an Innocent Conversation with a Sexual Undertone

Here’s what you need to get laid at a party:

A sexual connection…

You need to have it with at least one girl. Of course, having a sexual connection with two women is better than with one. This allows you to choose…or to enjoy an unforgettable threesome. But let’s first start with one.  

You’re having an innocent conversation.

What do you do now?

You make sure that the innocent conversation is not too innocent. Every now and then you touch her. First you touch her arm, then her hand, and then her shoulder. You test the waters because, well, you want to get laid at this party.

Observe how she reacts when you touch her.

In case she likes it, you can add less innocent topics to the conversation.

7. Ask Her Uncommon Party Questions  

Most guys are boring.

Sorry, but it’s true. Just think about some of the typical questions girls get asked at parties. It’s all uncreative gibberish that nobody really cares about. Come on. You already told her that you’re not a big fan of small talk.

That’s lame!

Instead, ask her personal and intriguing questions:

That’s how you establish an emotional connection with a woman. Her feelings don’t care about whether or not you know her job title. That’s irrelevant. Her inner woman jumps up and down for guys who ask questions that make her heart beat.  

Maybe you are lucky and she has never slept with a stranger she met at a party.

8. Find Out Who She’s Here With

Here’s how to not have sex at a party:

Approach the girls who came with their boyfriends. That’s not a good idea. But I think you already know that. That’s why it’s important to find out if she A: has a boyfriend and B: if she’s here with her boyfriend or if he’s far away.

What is she has a boyfriend but he’s at home?

It’s up to you. Some girls regard parties as the perfect opportunity to get something new between the legs. You have been warned. But let’s face it. Focusing on the single ladies is a more rewarding and a less stressful way to get laid at a party.

Just ask her. Don’t be shy.

“Sorry, but I have to know it. Do you have a boyfriend?”

Now she knows that you want more than an innocent conversation. 

9. Make Friends with Her Friends

What if she came with her friends?

Make friends with them.

Even if you don’t want to do it…you have to. I know. It sucks. You want to talk to HER and not to her overweight friend Sophie. You want to see HER beautiful smile and not the yellow teeth of her drug-addicted friend Lauren.

Well, the Game Gods can be brutal.

When her friends like you, they will help you. Otherwise, they’ll sabotage every move you make.

Think about it:

You want to get laid at a party and most girls would never show up alone. It’s the only way.

10. Give Her the Look When Her Friends Don’t Look

You have to talk to her friends.

But you also want to have sex at a party.

That’s a bad combination. I mean, you can’t bang her while you pretend to care about Laurens favorite synthetic drug. However, you can pave the way to a lay while you’re listening to her gibberish.

You give her the look.

That’s the best thing you can do in this situation. The look is the universal sign for “I would like to sleep with you, may I?” Yes, you may…at least if she smiles at you while you’re giving her the look. That’s the green light you want to see.

Continue the ride and hit the gas pedal…

11. Isolate Her from the Crowd

You can’t hit the gas pedal and the breaks at the same time.

Yeah…technically, you can. But it leads to nothing. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what you do when you try to seduce her while she’s with her friends. She won’t touch you, she won’t kiss you, and she for sure won’t sleep with you as long as her friends are around.

She’s not a bad girl, you know.

You have to isolate her:

You can try the last option, but I have to be honest. It rarely works. I would stick to the get drinks excuse or to the fresh air excuse. That works almost every time.

“Let’s get a drink” and “let’s grab some fresh air” are fast tracks to her panties.

12. Sit Down to Talk about Deep Stuff

Finally…you’re alone with her.

Okay, you are not completely alone. There might be one or two strangers around you. But that doesn’t matter. Her friends are in another room. Now she can loosen up and be herself without fearing a judgmental “oh my Gosh” from one of her jealous and sexually frustrated friends.  

It’s time to get laid at this party…

I don’t care if you talk about childhood memories, your craziest adventures or the meaning of life. Talk about something that excites her. Remember, she likes you because you’re not a fan of small talk. So don’t choke her sexual attraction for you with boring blah blah.

That’s how you emotionally connect with her.

What about the sexual connection?

Don’t change course and continue with consistent effort…

13. Seduce Her Eyes and Hands  

Here’s what you’ve already done:

Here’s what you do next:

More of the same!

Getting laid at a party is not rocket science. Doing the same thing over and over again can be the right choice… if what you do works. Touching, holding eye contact, and getting closer works pretty well.

It’s the icing on the deep topics cake.

Hold her hand while you’re sharing an emotional story. Look into her eyes while you’re holding her hand. And don’t forget to go in for the kiss when she has this look in her eyes.

Yes, that’s the look I’m talking about.  

14. Lead Her to One of the Free Rooms  

You’re talking about meaningful stuff and holding her hand.

It’s so romantic.

But remember: You’re not here to win the prize for the most romantic performance at a party. You want to have sex with her. That’s why you have to do something after the kiss. Tasting her delicious lips is good, but she’s still wearing her dress.

It’s time to get her naked.

Here are different ways to make it happen:

In case the host of the party has a house like Fred’s parents, you’ll find a free room. If you can’t find a free room, you can still do what I had to do at this one crazy party. I undressed a girl next to a guy who was so drunk that he puked right after we got naked.

I hope you’ll enjoy your next party as much as you’ll enjoy reading my book.

Summed Up Wisdom 

You want to know how to get laid at a party. Well, you’re probably an introvert. And you have to say no to peacocking. I’m serious. You don’t need googles and eyeliner to get in a party mood. But you might need a female friend to get all eyes on you. It’ll make things easier.

What if you don’t have a female friend who wants to accompany you? Doesn’t matter! Look out for approachable girls and use my super duper party approach. Don’t forget to find out whether or not she has a boyfriend. And don’t forget her friends.

Sorry, but you have to talk to her friends. Otherwise, they’ll cockblock you relentlessly. However, there comes the time when you have to isolate her. Sit down and talk with her. No topic is too emotional and no touch is too sexual. Now you can lead her to wherever you want to have sex with her.