How to Be Smooth With Girls

These guys are the definition of the smooth operator. They have the charm, the charisma and the flirting skills to attract any girl they want. And no, this has nothing to do with Alfie’s limousine, Tony’s Audi, or Hank’s Porsche.

Money and cars don’t make you smooth.

One of the smoothest guys I know is dirty poor. He’s one of my best friends and he fulfills every stereotype of the starving artist. Let’s say it like this. He has more hair on his teeth than dollar bills in his wallet.

Here’s why this guy is so successful with the ladies:

How to Be Smooth With Girls 

What does it actually mean to be like Alfie, Tony, or Hank?

Have a look at the following list:

Is this you?

If not, we have some work to do. But don’t worry. You’ll soon be the smoothest motherfucker on earth. In the following lines I will share 18 different techniques with you. You can choose the ones you like the most. Or try them all.

Let’s start with a game…

1. Be Playful from the Start 

Life is a game.

Dating is no different. You’re in one big game show and you’re the host. Be playful and she’ll play with your balls. That doesn’t rhyme but it’s the truth. Women absolutely love playful men. They are attracted to them like mice to cheese.

Do you know why?

Because most men are boring as hell!

It’s not hard to be more playful than her ex-boyfriend. Most men don’t crack jokes, offer piggyback rides, or tease girls for being too naughty, too innocent or dirty devils. Yeah, she has seen this stuff in movies. But real life isn’t a move.

Turn her life into a movie and she’ll turn the night into a firework.

2. Don’t React to Her Shit Tests 

Here’s how to be smooth with girls who test you:

Do nothing.

I’m serious. Don’t even react. Let her throw one shit test after another at you. It doesn’t matter because you are so confident in yourself that you don’t care. She wants you to do this. The moment you react is the moment you fail the test.

No matter what she does, you don’t react.

Smile, say “yeah, I know” or “guilty, you’re honor” and enjoy the way she looks at you.

3. Transition with Ease

When is the perfect moment to transition?

Well, you have to transition all the time:

A man who learned how to be smooth with girls will do this with ease. His transitions are effortless. He doesn’t make a big deal out of it. He doesn’t say “sooo…and now?” before the first kiss. He just goes for the kiss. A smile is all he needs.

A smile and a kiss is what she wanted all along.

4. Talk Like a Smooth Operator  

How does such a dude talk?

And no, I’m not talking about friendzoning yourself. That’s not the purpose of talking as if she was your friend. It’s about being true to yourself. It’s about being the same person, no matter if you’re out with your ugly buddy or a hot girl.

Women want the raw and unfiltered you.

They crave a man who knows how to smooth talk and how to act accordingly.

5. Assume You’ll Get Her Number

Here’s the biggest number close mistake guys make:

They ask for a girl’s number.

Don’t do it. Yes, it works…at least sometimes. But it’s more effective to assume that she’ll give you her number. This simple mindset shift makes you more comfortable and more confident. And it makes getting the magic digits so much easier.

“Let’s stay in contact…”

That’s all you have to say before you give her your phone. She knows what to do.

6. Meditate Yourself in a Calm State 

Do you also think that meditation is for hippies and esoteric losers?

There was a time when I thought that. I was convinced that meditation doesn’t work, is a waste of time, and is kind of gay. Well, I was young and naïve. Everything changed when I met James Marshall from the Natural lifestyles.

He opened my eyes to the power of meditation.

I’m meditating ever since. And today I want to encourage you to give it a shot. Sit down, close your eyes and feel your breath or your heartbeat. That’s all you have to do. Do this on a regular basis and you’ll feel more at peace, less stressed, and more focused.

Why is that important?

Because smooth men are at peace with themselves, calm, and have ruthless focus.

7. Expect Surprises and Shocks  

What happens when you always expect sunshine?

You are pissed when it rains.

Imagine you were prepared for rain. You have your umbrella in your bag. What has changed? Everything! You are no longer pissed when it rains. It’s not a big deal when the clouds pee on your head.

That’s how to be smooth with girls.

Expect surprises, shocks and getting hit by a big-ass UFO. Shit happens. Expect crazy things to happen and you’ll react cool when they actually happen. That’s what defines a smooth man. He’s calm when others freak out.

You are the monk she can rely on when she suffers three heart attacks.

8. Touch Her But Do it Casually 

You don’t want to do it too obviously.

You are a smooth operator and you want to touch her in a way that feels good and natural. Running up to her and slapping her butt doesn’t feel natural. She might like it but she has to at least pretend to be offended.

So don’t do what these guys are doing:

Instead, you touch her arm, her shoulder or her leg when…

Touching a girl casually is not awkward. It’s something she genuinely enjoys.

9. Be Humble and Down-to-Earth  

I’m pretty down to earth.

I mean, I’m not into luxury cars and I don’t give a damn about brands.

What about you?

Are you down-to-earth and humble?

I hope you are because that’s what being smooth with girls is all about.

It’s about not torturing her with a list of your accomplishments, job titles, and your car collection. Insecure men have to overpromise. You, on the other hand, have the confidence to underpromise and overdeliver.

That’s the type of guy a lot of women want but can’t find.

10. Be Comfortable with Taking Over Control  

You have to be in control.

Sorry, but you can’t be a smooth follower. That’s an oxymoron. Every man who has this ability is either a natural leader or someone who acquired this skill. I was a follower for most of my life. Then I made one life-changing realization.

It’s impossible to be a seducer who follows.

Every seducer has to lead. There is no way around it. You have to be comfortable with taking over control. You have to hold the steering wheel in your hands to lead women in the direction you want them to go.

11. Lead with Empathy Instead of Fear  

And how do you lead her?

You do it with empathy.

That sounds lame. I know. But it’s the only way. If you want to learn how to be smooth with girls, you have to be empathic. You can either lead a girl with fear or with empathy. I hope you choose the latter because that’s when she wants to follow you.

Put yourself in her shoes.

This allows you to know what to say or do next, which ultimately allows you to escalate when she wants it the most.

12. Slow Down Your Body and Mind  

No hurry.

If you want to be smooth with girls, you have to slow down.

Here’s the general rule:

Don’t think, walk, and talk too fast.

Okay, maybe you should think fast. Just don’t verbalize your thoughts before you’ve found the right words.

13. Don’t Be Impressed By Her Beauty

Beauty is common.

I didn’t know how common until my first trip to Eastern Europe. I mean, Holy Mother of God. That was the first time I crossed the Western European borders and bam…I was blown away. I haven’t dated a German woman ever since.

I realized that beauty is like water.

It’s everywhere and easily available…unless you live in a desert.

So unless you live in country or city where beauty is not available, you have absolutely no reason to go crazy when you see a beautiful girl. Don’t get me wrong. You can give her a compliment. That’s totally fine. Just keep your cool.

“Oh man, wow, I mean, Jesus Fucking Christ! You are….hell, I can’t believe how hot you are!”

Do the opposite of that and you’ll give off the vibe that you’re used to beautiful women. And we both know that women want men who are desired and surrounded by other women.

14. Share Your Wildest Stories with Her  

She wants to know more about you.

Sharing your stories is a surefire way to educate her, entertain her, and make her attracted to you. Human beings love stories and women are no exception. Share your wildest stories with her...the stuff you didn’t tell your mom.

That’s what she wants to hear.

She wants to hear about your crazy adventures because she wants to experience crazy adventures with you. Don’t be shy. And don’t be afraid to reveal the naughty parts. It’s good to put naughty images in her head.

Enjoy her reaction.

15. Share Your Darkest Moments with Her  

Don’t hold back.

As a smooth man, you are at peace with yourself. Do you know what that really means…being at peace with yourself? It means to have the ability to talk about everything. No experience is too painful or too awkward to share it.

You are 100% authentic.

You are okay with who you are. This gives you the power to reveal the positive and the negative. Believe it or not, but this sets you apart from all the other guys. Most guys don’t reveal anything negative. They paint a picture without cracks.

You have the courage to show your cracks. That’s exactly what women want.  

16. Expect Nothing from Women  

That sounds depressing, right?

But wait. This is not some “all women are bitches” propaganda. I’m not turning into an embittered and sexually frustrated MGTOW. That’s not what I mean.

I’m talking about attachment to the outcome.

The more attached you are, the harder it will be for you to be calm and confident. Sorry, but that’s life. If you reach a point where you don’t care if a girl rejects you or gives you her phone number, you’ve reached smoothness mastery.

Being unattached from the outcome is the opposite of neediness.

What? That seems impossible?

You really need to read my book Rise of the Phoenix.

17. Talk About Deep Topics  

What should you talk about with her?

Dig deep, my friend.

You are the kind of guy who doesn’t give two shits about small talk. Small talk is the opposite of smooth. It’s forced, nobody likes it, and let’s be honest…it can be pretty awkward. Avoid taking this path. Dive instead.

Dive right into the topics no other guy talks about.

You are not afraid to touch topics that the rest of mankind is afraid of.

18. Be Casually Specific with Girls  

“What the heck do you mean by being casually specific?”

Glad you ask…

I’ll try to explain it with an example:

Look:

A lot of guys make a huge deal out of asking a girl out. It’s this big thing and they ask her if she has time…with neediness in their voice. She can sense it. That’s why you want to use a different strategy. Instead of neediness, you choose to be casually specific.

You confirm a date in a casual way.

“Let’s hang out Saturday evening. I’ll meet you at X at Y o’clock.”

You mention it as if it was no big deal because, well, it isn’t.

That’s why I love to casually mention my book Rise of the Phoenix and to specifically tell you that it will change your life.

Summed Up Wisdom 

You came here to learn how to be smooth with girls. It’s time for you to learn the tricks of Alfie, Tony Stark and Hank Moody. How do they do it? Well, they are playful and they don’t react to shit tests. The only Avenger who reacts to shit tests is the Hulk.

You don’t ask girls for their numbers. You assume that you’ll get the magic digits. But you’re not arrogant. You are a humble man. You live by the principle of underpromising and overdelivering. That’s why she wants to talk about deep topics with you.

In fact, she wants to talk about so much more. She wants to know your dark secrets and your craziest stories. You are smooth with women and not ashamed to reveal both. And you close the deal…by being casually specific.