You want to know how to get a girl to go out with you, right?
Then listen very carefully:
I know what you’re thinking right now. You don’t believe a word I say. I mean, yeah…one part of you has hope but the other part has already given up all hope. You’ve already tried it way too many times. Or at least you thought about asking a girl out.
“But how do I get her to want to go out with me. I can’t just walk up to her and ask.”
Is that what you’re thinking?
You’re absolutely right because you first have to…
Let me show you how to make a woman so excited that she wants, no begs, you to take her on a date…
How to Get a Girl to Go Out With You (The Easy Way)
In case you expected fancy pickup techniques, you can leave this site right now.
Yes, I’m serious.
I’m German, for God’s sake. I’m a big fan of simplicity, efficiency and easy to follow steps that work. I won’t sell you shiny techniques with even fancier names. This article discusses the basics because the basics make up 90% of your success.
Once you get the basics down, women will go out with you.
Here’s what I want you to know:
Are you ready to learn how to get a girl to go out with you?
Then let’s get started…
1. Be Presentable and Dateable
Just don’t look like a moron.
Hah! That’s easier said than done. I know that from my own experience. I looked like a total dork for the first twenty years of my life. I still don’t know how I managed to lose my virginity right before my 19th birthday, but hey. I looked like a mixture of a clown and Macklemore.
Here are some solutions:
That’s a good start.
My secret tip for looking presentable:
Invest some money (or a few bucks in Thailand) and get yourself one or two tailor-made shirts. I love the colors white, navy blue and black. But getting a woman to go out with you is about more than style. It’s about you.
You also have to be dateable.
Otherwise, she won’t go out with you. Being dateable is about having manners, being a good listener, and being a gentleman. Don’t be a Gordie Shore douchebag. You’ll only end up attracting mentally retarded blondies.
2. Correct your Crappy Body Language
Girls want to go out with confident men.
You have to appear confident within the first couple of seconds…or you’re out. You might think that it’s easier said than done. Actually, it’s pretty easy. You just have to listen to Jordan Peterson. Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
This is the first thing I correct in EVERY one-on-one coaching.
It’s rare to see an aspiring seducer with good body language. Most guys have issues with their body language. They just don’t know it because they walk and stand confidently when they are with their friends. But they do the opposite around women.
Here’s what you need to do:
You can’t be afraid to take up space because women want to go out with confident men.
3. Approach Her When There’s No Social Pressure
Timing is everything.
If you want to learn how to get a girl to go out with you, you need to wait. Have patience, my young Padawan. You don’t want to ask her out in front of her friends.
Here are some situations where this is a death sentence:
These are environments with high social pressure.
She’ll react according to the social norm, even if she wants to scream “yes, make me your wife.” Women avoid social pressure at all costs. Do yourself a favor and wait.
Wait until she’s alone.
Once she’s alone, you can walk up to her with your confident body language.
4. Approach Her with the Right Opener
What’s the right opener when you want to get a girl to go out with you?
Every opener that’s personal.
Don’t just walk up to her with the good old “you are beautiful” compliment. I mean, yeah. That can work. Maybe she smiles. But let’s be honest. You want her to be blown away by your compliment. You want her to beg you for the first date and later for the first kiss.
Here’s what you need to do:
Let’s say her style is casual, she likes to be outdoors and she laughs a lot.
Here’s a potential opener:
“Hey Laura, I really like your style and your cute smile. I have the feeling that you look happy whenever you’re in nature.”
Make it personal and avoid cheesy pickup lines.
P.S If you’re looking for more effective openers, you can check out my book Rise of the Phoenix. You get a bonus eBook for free that contains 72 word-for-word openers you can use today.
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Tell Her That You’re Nervous
What if you’re nervous?
Imagine you approach her and…
I have a shocking confession to make:
Calm down. It’s okay to be nervous when you try to get a girl on a date. Being nervous is not the problem. In fact, I sometimes act a bit nervous. Every experienced Global Seducer knows that this is the best way to make women believe that you don’t do this often.
Not every girl wants to give her number to a player.
Here’s the real issue:
Most guys try to act cool instead of admitting that they’re nervous.
Be okay with being nervous and she’ll be okay with it, too. That’s the whole secret. A man who admits it and says “sorry, but you’re making me nervous right now” is ten times more attractive than a guy who tries to play it cool…and fails.
Admitting it is a sign of confidence. Hiding it is a sign of insecurity…and doesn’t work anyway.
6. Get to Know Her Before You Ask Her
Trust is the secret sauce.
Here’s how to get a girl to go out with you:
Okay, not all girls need to trust a guy to go on a date with him. Some chicks are so naïve that they’d jump in the back of the car of a guy whose first name is Jack and whose last name is Ripper.
Believe me. You don’t want these girls.
You want normal women and normal women need to trust you first. And there are different ways to achieve this goal. You can share stories with her, talk about how close you are with your family, and why you like to feed hungry ducks in the park.
Shit, just talk about trustworthy stuff.
Oh, and don’t forget that you’re not the center of attention…
7. Make the Conversation About Her
Narcissism is your biggest enemy.
If you make it all about yourself, you will fail. I guarantee you that. Learning how to get a woman to go out with you is about learning to be humble. Bragging is the poison and letting her brag is the antidote.
Yep, it’s all about her.
Women love to talk, especially about themselves. They are sick and tired of guys who try to impress them with the “my car, my house, my monkey” talk. That’s not attractive. It’s pathetic.
Girls want to have the feeling that you are interested in THEM.
So ask her about...
Don’t be selfish. Make her talk. Now you can close the deal…
8. Don’t Forget to Get to the Point
This is so goddamn important.
The last thing you want to do is to stutter like a two-year old toddler with learning deficiency. Women don't like men like that. You want to get straight to the point. Do it the German way. You’ve spent enough time connecting with her and making her trust you.
Now it’s time to close the deal.
Here’s your truth:
You want her to go out with you. Now is the perfect time to ask her. Look her in the eyes and tell her that you enjoy talking to her and that you’d love to see her again. Be smooth and she'll smile like a happy child with a candy bar.
This is the perfect moment to get specific…
9. Be Specific about When, Where, and How
I still remember this one coaching client.
He was incredible. I mean, he was a virgin and he had never even kissed a girl. His approach count was zero when he booked the infield coaching with me. After the second day of the coaching, he had more than 30 numbers in his phone and he had set up 11 dates.
He just made one crucial mistake.
He asked a girl on a date for Saturday afternoon and then he ended the conversation.
Here’s the rule:
Be as specific as possible.
“Hey Laura, let’s meet this Saturday at 16:15 at the main entrance of the Townson Mall. If you want I can pick you up at home. Or we can meet there. Just let me know what’s better for you.”
Now Laura knows what’s going on.
She’ll know enough to show up and to not flake on you.
10. Get Her Contact Details
What if you set up a date for this Saturday at 16:15?
That’s great. But it’s only Monday. She might get drunk on Tuesday. Then she forgets about you on Wednesday. On Friday she remembers your date. On Saturday her best friend calls her with the news that she’s pregnant.
The baby belly of her friend makes her forget about you.
What can you do about it?
Get her contact details.
You don’t want to stand in front of the mall, waiting for her, without the ability to call or text her. That’s not good.
You wouldn’t believe how many times this happened to one of my coaching clients.
Don’t forget the most important rule:
Always be closing. The number close is one form of closing.
11. Follow Up After You Asked Her Out
Of course, you’re meeting her on Saturday in front of the mall!
No so fast, my friend.
You learned how to get a girl to go out with you. That’s great. But remember: Her friend is pregnant and she’s excited…or pissed because her ex-boyfriend is the father. Either way, she might forget about you and your awesome first date.
Sorry, but that’s the truth because…
It’s always good to call or text a girl a couple of hours before the date. Why a couple of hours? You’ll know whether or not she’ll show up AND it gives you enough time to change your schedule. A quick text is enough.
Here’s what I usually text girls:
“See you in two hours. Be on time ;-)”
That’s all you need to have an amazing first date.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to get a girl to go out with you? Then forget about all the fancy pickup techniques you’ve learned and forgotten. Let’s get back to the basics. Start by becoming a presentable and datable guy.
Once society and women will be able to survive your presence, it’s time to work on your body language. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. I can’t say it often enough. Oh, and don’t forget to wait until she’s alone. Now you can approach her with a personal compliment.
Did it work? Awesome! Don’t ask her out yet. First, try to find out more about her. Make her trust you and she’ll be more likely to agree to go on a date with you. And please don’t forget to get her number. You want to text or call her before the date because, well, flakey girls suck.