When I tested the largest Hong Kong dating site, 72% of the girls replied to my message. But a lot of them weren’t Chinese.
I chatted with girls from the Philippines, Indonesia, Thailand and Japan.
And even though I believe that meeting Hong Kong women online is the best, easiest, and most effective way, there are dozens of other ways.
This is the perfect place to meet girls from all over Asia.
All you have to do is to leave your office on the 26th floor and understand what dating in Hong Kong is all about…
3 Facts about Dating in Hong Kong That Every Western Man Must Know
I spent only two nights in this city, but these two nights were enough to see what it’s like to date in Hong Kong.
It’s different. It’s insane. And it has a dark side.
“What’s the dark side?” you ask.
Well, it didn’t take long until the dark side knocked on the door of my hotel room…
1. Compensated Dating in Hong Kong is Not Your Only Option
This is how I imagined the Hong Kong dating etiquette:
That’s what I thought of before I arrived. I mean, it’s the financial hub of Asia. The city is known as one of the richest, cleanest, and most-educated places in Asia.
Well, it is, but not everyone in the financial hub of Asia is financially well-off.
Some people are struggling and some of those people are cute young girls who have to support their families. They have to find a way to make money and because this is the financial hub of Asia, compensated dating is a booming business.
You want a one night stand in Hong Kong? You can pay for it.
You want a girlfriend for three days? You can buy one.
The reason why compensated dating is so huge in Hong Kong is because men are trained to seduce with their wallets, credit cards, and job titles instead of their confidence, seduction skills, and charm.
This is your chance.
I took this chance and when the staff member knocked on my hotel room to offer me “an innocent college girl”, he was surprised to find a (not so innocent) college girl in my bed…
…a girl I haven’t paid for.
2. The Gender Imbalance Makes Dating Hong Kong Girls Easy
To be honest, relying on compensated dating is the dumbest thing you can do. It’s a waste of money and it’s completely unnecessary.
There are so many Hong Kong single women.
In 2016 there were only 925 males for every 1000 females. And this statistic doesn’t even include the thousands of female domestic helpers from the Philippines, Indonesia and other parts of Asia.
This gender imbalance is worth gold because it means that there are hundreds, no thousands of lonely Hong Kong single women who can’t find a man.
Forget about compensated dating. In this city you are the prize.
3. You Have a Better Reputation than in Other Asian Country
I live in Thailand and even though the reputation of foreigners is changing, it took me some time to convince the mother of my girlfriend that…
- I’m not a sex tourist.
- I don’t spend all day and all night at Soi Cowboy.
- I really love her daughter.
The sex tourist stigma is still there and even though I’ve written an alternative article about Pattaya, it will probably last.
What about the reputation of foreigners in Hong Kong?
The girls in this part of Asia think that foreigners are business-savvy, educated, rich, and hard-working.
You don’t have to convince a Hong Kong girl that you’re an awesome dude. She already thinks that you’re awesome. All you have to do is to not disappoint her.
Where to Pick up Girls in Hong Kong
As you know by now, this city has more women than men…way more women than men.
It’s not hard to find girls in Hong Kong.
You just have to walk up and down the Stanley street or the Yung Shue Wan street.
- But what if you don’t want to walk up and down a street?
- What if you want to meet hundreds of sexy girls in one building?
- What if you want to go where all the Hong Kong single ladies go?
Well, in this case, you should check out one of the following places…
The 3 Best Malls to Meet Girls in Hong Kong
Where to find girls in Hong Kong?
At the mall!
The rich girls go there every week to look for the latest designer clothes. The poor girls go there every week in the hope that they can one day buy the latest designer clothes.
No matter if you want to date rich Chinese women or Filipina domestic workers, you’ll find them in one of these malls:
The Landmark in Central Hong Kong:
The Landmark is the most famous shopping mall in Hong Kong. It’s also the one with the most designer knick-knack. This is the place where the high society girls hang out. And these are the girls who have the hardest time to find a man.
Harbour City at Tsim Sha Tsui:
This place has more than 700 stores and 50 restaurants and cafes. If you only find one hot Hong Kong girl in each store, you can approach 700 girls. Let’s say 10% of them want to meet you. That means that you can go on 70 instant dates in one of the 50 restaurants and cafes. Sounds good, doesn’t it?
IFC Mall in Central Hong Kong:
Sorry, Harbour City is hard to top. You won’t find another mall with more than 700 stores in this city. But there’s one that has 200 stores. It’s called IFC Mall. Once you have found the perfect girl in one of the stores, you can take her to the cinema in the mall.
The 4 Best Nightlife Venues to Meet Hong Kong Girls
I don’t want to bore the shit out of you with nightlife venues that overpromise and underdeliver.
Instead, I want to introduce the only two districts of Hong Kong that are worth checking out.
Lan Kwai Fong
These are the two districts that every night owl in this city visits. These are the two districts with the most clubs, bars, and beautiful girls who want to have fun and hook up.
The 2 Best Clubs in The Lan Kwai Fong District
This club is located in the center of the Lan Kwai Fong district. The moment you step into this club, you’ll think that you are the video game. Have you ever played Tron? Then you know what I mean. But don’t worry. The girls are real and there are many of them.
Ce La Vi:
This club has it all. Okay, club is the wrong word. It’s an entertainment district in the middle of Hong Kong. The building has a lounge, a dancefloor, a sky bar and a dining restaurant. Meet a girl on the dancefloor and enjoy the romantic view over Hong Kong at the sky bar.
P.S. The sky bar has a whirlpool in which you can get to know each other even better
The 2 Best Bars in The Wan Chai District
Wooloomooloo Rooftop bar:
The Wan Chai district is famous for its bars, not for its clubs. Apparently, it’s also famous for places with weird names. I hope I didn’t make a typo. The Wooloomooloo is not only the only rooftop bar in Wan Chai, it’s also one of the most famous ones in the city, probably because it has the dumbest name ever.
Do you hate sunlight or do you have crippling insomnia? Joe Bananas is the perfect place for you. You can’t find another bar in Hong Kong that closes at 05.30. But you need to come before midnight to meet hot Filipina maids who want to relax after work and listen to the Filipino band that plays regularly.
The Ladies Market and Speed Dating Events are the Best Pick Up Joints in Hong Kong
Speed dating sucks, right?
Well, it sucks if you have to sit opposite of a landwhale. That’s what speed dating looks like in the West. Speed dating events in Hong Kong paint another picture…
Remember the 925 males for every 1000 females?
Speed dating in Hong Kong is a pleasure. The single ladies you meet are beautiful, educated and they don’t join such an event because they couldn’t find someone on Tinder. They are here because they want a relationship.
What about the Ladies Market?
Nope, it has nothing to do with prostitution. The Ladies Market is not a place where you can buy ladies. It’s a place where Hong Kong girls can buy everything a girl could dream of.
I don’t tell you this because I want you to pick up women in Hong Kong as a drag queen. I tell you this because this is the best place to meet cute Asian maids and nannies who can’t afford the brands in the big malls.
It’s made for ladies, but it’s heaven for men.
The Best Dating Site to Meet Girls in Hong Kong
Online dating in Hong Kong is easy.
Yes, there are a lot of materialistic and childish girls (more on that later), but you don’t have to meet them. You don’t even have to talk to them because you have the choice.
It’s comparable to Foodpanda in Thailand. You can choose between Italian, Chinese, Filipina, Indonesia and all kinds of other tastes (oops…I hope that doesn’t sound too sexist).
When I tested and reviewed the largest Hong Kong dating site…
- I chatted with a Filipina nanny.
- I got several replies from Indonesian girls.
- I received dozens of messages from rich Chinese girls.
Click here to see the screenshots of these messages
There’s no need to use expensive Hong Kong matchmakers. And there’s also no need to pay $20 for a drink in a crowded club when you can pay less than half of that for a monthly membership on Hong Kong Cupid.
There are not many Hong Kong dating sites but the one that’s owned by the Cupid Media group is the best. I met my girlfriend on one of their international dating sites and I know that you can meet yours on Hong Kong Cupid.
The 3 Best Places for an Unforgettable Date in Hong Kong
Let’s say you meet a cute girl online.
Maybe she’s a Filipina nanny. Maybe she’s a Chinese business woman who already thinks about buying you a Mercedes if you marry her. It doesn’t matter.
The following three dating spots in Hong Kong are perfect because going to a restaurant is so boring…
Visiting the Victoria Peak:
Do you want to hold her hand while you are looking over the city? Take her to the Victoria Peak, the highest point of Hong Kong. Go there in the evening and the lights of the skyscrapers give her that romantic tickling in her belly that she needs in order to release bonding hormones.
Take her to the Jordan Valley Park in Kwun Tong:
Women love picnics and you will love this park. 6.3 hectares of grass are not that amazing, but if you have a blanket and romantic music, it’s all you need to experience an unforgettable day.
A Day trip to an island:
Hong Kong is surrounded by something that’s called the ocean and in this ocean you can find the Cheung Chau Island and the Peng Chau Island. The prices on the islands are cheaper than in the city and relaxing at the beach is way more romantic than staring at skyscrapers.
9 Dating Tips I Wish I Knew Before I Came to Hong Kong
I first visited Hong Kong in 2015.
I had no intention to date one of the local girls. But it happened. She was Chinese, born and raised in Hong Kong, and the most childish woman I ever met.
Back then I didn’t know how easy it is to meet girls on Hong Kong Cupid.
Heck, I didn’t even know that this dating site exists. I also didn’t know what it’s really like to date Hong Kong girls.
Today I know better…
1. Take a Parenting Class Before You Date in Hong Kong
I’m not joking. The cute Hong Kong girl I met two years ago was really the most childish woman I ever met.
And don’t get me wrong. I love playful girls. I love women who act cute, who snuggle up to me, and who giggle when I touch them (I guess that’s why I love Asian women so much).
But this was another form of childish.
She was a 21-year-old woman who acted like a 5-year old girl.
I can only assume that her parents spoilt her, but I know for sure that you have to set boundaries in a relationship with a Hong Kong girl.
Otherwise, you’ll end up like this poor bastard…
2. Don’t Allow Sexy Hong Kong Women To Treat You Like a Local
Have you ever watched this video?
I feel ashamed whenever I watch it.
It’s a shame that a grown man allows a woman to treat him like that. I was even more shocked when one of my friends told me that this is a harmless case. He worked in Hong Kong for two years and according to him, Hong Kong girls treat their boyfriends and husbands worse than any American woman.
But they only do it with Asian men.
Are you an Asian man living in Hong Kong? Consider this your wake-up call…
Stop putting up with this shit. You know that she would never do this with a white man. And no, it has nothing to do with racial preferences, but because she knows that no white man would tolerate such a behavior. Set boundaries. Be a man and earn your respect.
Are you a Caucasian man dating in Hong Kong? Consider this a warning…
Be her football and she will kick you. Be the goalkeeper and she will land in your arms.
3. What a Shitty Apartment for $1000 Has to Do With Dating in Hong Kong
Do you even know how lucky you are that joining Hong Kong Cupid is so damn cheap?
Everything else about dating in Hong Kong is expensive.
- It’s hard to get an apartment for less than $1000 a month.
- It’s nearly impossible to find food for less than $10.
- It’s hard to find a girl who doesn’t care about money.
How old are you?
In case you are in you are a 40-year-old professional and you earn more than $50.000 a year it’s ten times easier for you than for me. I’m 27 and a digital nomad. Most girls in this city don’t want a guy like me. They want a guy with a good job and a fat wallet.
They want a guy like you.
Congratulations, you can steal every Hong Kong woman from me.
4. You Want a Non-Materialistic Girlfriend? Date Foreign Women in Hong Kong
I have to warn you.
The girls you steal from young guys like me expect a certain treatment.
What if you want a non-materialistic girlfriend who doesn’t expect fancy dinners?
Date a foreign woman!
No, I’m not telling you to date a Western woman. I’m not insane. I’m telling you to choose between thousands of beautiful domestic helpers from the Philippines, Indonesia, and Thailand. These girls are happy when you give them a compliment and a noodle soup.
- The dates are cheaper
- The girls are more down-to-earth.
- Thousands of them are looking for men online.
Insider tip: Sunday is her day off.
5. Stay Away from the ABC Girls and Bar Girls
There are two types of girls you should stay away from, no matter if you want to spend $100 or $1 on your first date.
Stay away from the bar girls
Stay away from the ABC girls
“Okay Sebastian, I understand why I should stay away from the girlie bars in Hong Kong. Bar girls only want my money. But why should I stay away from the ABC girls…and what does ABC even mean?”
ABC stands for American born Chinese.
These girls were born and raised in the USA and came to Hong Kong to work.
They look like Hong Kong girls, but they are not. Their bodies are Asian. Their minds are Western.
Asian face + Western values = Trouble in disguise
- She doesn’t have traditional family values.
- She has completely unrealistic expectations.
- She doesn’t want to settle down in her twenties.
The best thing you can do is to ask her where she was born BEFORE you meet her.
6. Have the Style that Sexy Hong Kong Girls Expect
Don’t look like a backpacker.
Look like a man who belongs in a metropolitan city that is considered the financial hub of Asia.
That’s all I have to say.
7. Understand that Hong Kong Babes Are Protected (Thanks to THIS Video)
I couldn’t find the original video, that’s why I want to share this version with you:
This video shows a white guy stealing a Chinese girl from a Chinese dude in Hong Kong. The white guy hugs her, kisses her, and drags her away.
The Chinese guy’s reaction: Nothing. Zero. Nada.
He’s too passive to do anything about it and that’s why now, after it went viral, every guy in Hong Kong is afraid to end up like him.
- The local guys cock block you.
- They give you an evil stare.
- They protect their female friends from you.
This video made it 100 times harder to pick up girls in public in Hong Kong.
That’s why you need to be persistent…or meet girls online.
8. Learn to Deal with Feminine Feminists in a Patriarchal Society
In case you have only dated Western women, you’ll be surprised at how feminine Hong Kong women are.
In case you have only dated traditional Asian women, you’ll be surprised at how Western Hong Kong women are.
Dating in Hong Kong is learning to deal with feminine feminists in a patriarchal society.
- Just because she’s financially successful doesn’t mean that she wants to be a man.
- Just because she’s a leader at work doesn’t mean that she wants to be a leader at home.
- Just because she’s independent doesn’t mean that she hates to be submissive.
As a foreigner who wants to date and marry a Hong Kong girl, you should appreciate their femininity and respect their individuality.
9. Show Her That it’s Not all about Getting Laid in Hong Kong
The cute Hong Kong girl I met two years ago said something that I will never forget.
“In this city it’s all about getting laid. You don’t find love here.”
It made me sad to hear that. That’s why I decided to get to know her, to have deep conversations with her, and to make her feel loved…even though we just spent 48 hours together.
That’s what it’s all about when you’re dating a Hong Kong girl.
They are surrounded by guys who want to buy them. But they are starving for love and affection. Real connection and intimacy…that’s what they want.
That’s the only reason why you can find thousands of hot Hong Kong girls on Hong Kong Cupid.
Summed Up Wisdom
Where to find girls in Hong Kong?
You can find them in malls, in clubs, online and at two special places that I reveal in this article. But what do you do once you have found them? Well, you take them on a date.
And because restaurants are boring you either take them for a picnic or to an island where everything is less expensive than in the city.
But don’t even think about dating in Hong Kong without knowing the rules. Otherwise, you might end up like this poor Chinese dude who gets slapped in the middle of the street (video is in the article). You have to learn to deal with feminine feminists in a patriarchal society and you have to show her that it’s not all about getting laid in Hong Kong.
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks a lot.
Dave Powell says
I’m about to enter into unknown territory, from leaving Chicago to trying to find ladies that I met on the internet. Daunting task, indeed. With your article, I won’t feel too bad if I somehow get stood up when I arrive in HK.
Sebastian Harris says
you are welcome
Great Article, man! I learned a lot. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
Sebastian Harris says
ajaya Gulia says
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Sebastian Harris says
Thanks for sharing!
I’m really sorry that you never saw the beautiful side of Hong Kong girls. Born and raised in HK, I’m not surprised to know people see us as materialistic at first sight (As one of our favourite pastimes is to reward ourselves with nicely designed clothes/handbags after a long and stressful week 😉 )
If anyone is willing to invest time and energy in building a relationship with HK girls, I’m sure they will be amazed and challenged. Receiving higher education and living in an international city mean we are capable of (and love to have!) deep conversation, from Italian election results to Sino-US potential trade war and from Xiong’an new district to Putin’s retirement plan. Prerequisite: intimacy, so we feel comfortable with sharing ideas. Having a well paid job also means we can support you (yes, financially) when you have your ups and downs.
Again, I’m sorry to know what you have experienced and sincerely hope you’ll get to know a loving HK girl soon! I’m proud of my identity and always feel lucky to be surrounded by other highly intelligent HK females. I wish everyone could see the beauty of HK girls like I do! Cheers.
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks for your feedback. I’m happy that I could open your eyes!
As someone who’s grown up in Hong Kong but went abroad to study for a few years, this article is eye-opening to me, even though some aspects of it does sound familiar. I’m trying to get back into dating and I find it so hard to date local guys, just because I’m not a cookie cutter skinny Asian chick. I don’t actually know if that puts me in the ABC category though…
On a side note, the cockblocking in clubs in insane – but I’d argue that the clubbing culture in Hong Kong is more intended for hookups. I rarely find groups of people who just want to have fun! It’s just hard to find places to have genuine conversations with people that I meet through dating apps because there just isn’t enough sitting places that’s quiet enough. Bars are roaring and I’m literally shouting at this guy I met after exchanging a few messages. It’s hard!
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