Right now I am on my way to an exciting and quite fucked up Eastern European city that I am soon going to write an article about.
Okay, I probably won’t write an article about the city, but I am definitely going to write about the local women, who are hopefully as friendly and sexy as the Hungarian women. I’ll keep you updated.
While I am writing these lines I am on a train and I still have about five hours until I’ll finally arrive at my destination. Thanks to the Post-Soviet railway it will probably take up to eight hours. Let’s hope for the best.
The only glimmer of light is that I am not alone on the train. The train is full of people and there are quite a few hot Eastern European girls in my cabin. As you can already imagine I decided to sit next to one of those beauties. The desire to survive the train ride is not the only reason why I decided to sit next to a busty blonde woman and not next to the drunk Russian bear who sits two rows behind me.
The only reason why I sat next to this incredibly beautiful girl is because I plan to approach her and to take her number (or to fuck her in the dirty train toilet). But before I am going to approach her, I thought that it would be a good idea to show you how to seduce a woman on a train.
The last thing I want is that you don’t know what to do when you sit next to a hot woman while you are traveling from one city to another. You might be able to approach women on the street, but a train is a completely different environment and requires a more sophisticated seduction strategy.
To my surprise the blonde beauty next to me stares at my laptop like a gold digger on a black credit card.
Maybe I am lucky and her English is good enough to understand what I write and to get turned on by it. Maybe she won’t talk to me after she read how I plan to approach and to seduce her. As long as your next train seduction attempt will be successful, I couldn’t care less.
Why Train Seduction Requires a Different Strategy
What do you have to do when you want to approach a woman on a train and why does this environment require a different approach than the street, a shopping center or a library?
One reason why women tend to react so friendly in the venues that I just listed is because they can be sure that nobody listens to your conversation.
Think back to the last time you have approached a woman on a busy shopping street. You approached her and told her that you think she is absolutely gorgeous. She smiled and giggled. Have you witnessed that the people around you suddenly stopped to listen to your conversation?
Unless you accidentally approach a woman next to an aspiring seducer who wants to learn from your interaction, which happened to me twice, nobody will listen to your conversation. In this situation she can be 100% sure that nobody will judge her for smiling at a guy who obviously wants to fuck the shit out of her.
When it comes to train seduction things are a bit different…
Everyone Will Witness Your Approach
Unless you are alone in a cabin, you won’t be able to approach her with a direct compliment without running the risk that somebody around you will witness your approach.
Not that you should care about that. I hope that you are self-confident enough to not care about what other people think of you. The problem is that she probably cares about what the others think of her.
For women it is extremely important to avoid getting judged and to maintain their innocent image in public.
If she would giggle while you tell her how beautiful she is, the other passengers would witness that she shows sexual interest in a man. In our hypocritical society a reputable woman doesn’t do that. Only sluts do that.
The fact that all the other passengers can witness your conversation makes the indirect approach inevitable.
She Is Forced to Respond in a Socially Accepted Way
The indirect approach is a non-sexual approach that doesn’t directly reveal your sexual intent. It appears as if you would just be a nice guy who wants to have an innocent conversation with her.
That’s exactly what SHE wants the other passengers to believe.
Of course she knows that you don’t approach her because you are interested in the book she is reading.
If you are still convinced that “you are so fucking sexy” is a good way to approach women on trains, you can of course go ahead and try it, but all you do with this approach is to force her to react in a socially accepted way. Even if she is interested in you she will feel awkward and pretend that you are a creepy guy who harasses her.
At the same time she might hate you for not having enough social intelligence to approach her in a way that would allow her to give you her number. Let’s have a look at how you can get her number while nobody finds out that you are future lovers and not just strangers who will never see each other again.
How to Approach a Woman on a Train
A successful train seduction can be divided in three different phases, the approach, the connection and the close. In every phase there are single steps that you should follow in order to guarantee a positive outcome. In the following paragraphs we are going to have a look at every individual step in detail.
Before you can connect with her and seal the deal, you have to make the first move. You already know that the direct approach is not the best idea.
Here is how you do it instead…
Step 1: Search for an Attractive Woman
You arrived at the right platform and you are just about to enter the train. Now don’t make the mistake and choose a random seat, in the hope that a beautiful woman will magically appear out of nowhere, just to sit next to you. Depending on which county you are in and how many beautiful women there are, this can of course happen. However, it would be stupid to trust in destiny when you can actively create your own destiny.
Take your time and walk from cabin to cabin. While the others think that you are searching for your reserved seat, you invest the time in the search for the most beautiful woman. Once you have found her, it is time to sit down.
What if you can’t decide between two girls who are both incredibly hot?
In case one of them has an empty seat next to her and the other one has an empty seat opposite to her, the decision should be fairly easy.
Step 2: Chose a Girl You Can Sit Next to (Not Opposite)
Choose the girl who has an empty seat next to her.
You will have it way easier to seduce a girl who sits next to you than a girl who sits opposite to you. You can’t really touch a woman who sits opposite to you, without touching her in an unnatural way.
In addition to that, you have to talk a lot louder when you have a girl sitting opposite to you. The only advantage is that it is easier to hold eye contact, but even that is more intimate when she sits closer to you.
Step 3: Ask Her If the Seat is Free
Don’t waste your first chance to interact with her by simply sitting down. Be a polite gentleman and ask her if the seat is free. This allows her to check you out and it also shows that you have manners, even though this is not the main reason why you should do it.
When she smiles while she says “yes”, you already have a good sign that she is open for a conversation.
Step 4: Eye Contact While You Sit Down
The main reason why you should ask her if the seat next to her is free is because she will feel the desire to look at the guy who wants to sit next to her. It is very important to make use of the second she invests to look at you.
Look her deep into the eyes while she checks you out. Transform the one second she wanted to look at you into three seconds during which she can’t take her eyes off you. Sit down and enjoy how she blushes.
How to Connect With a Woman on a Train
Did you approach her with your eyes? Good job!
While the blonde beauty next to me also starts to blush and to giggle while she still stares at my laptop, it is time to discuss the next phase of a successful train seduction. Now we come to the connection phase.
In case the girl who sits next to you is as fluent in English as the one who sits next to me, you won’t have any difficulties to connect with her while staying under the radar of the other passengers.
Step 5: Find a Reason to Talk to Her
You looked into her eyes like a hungry wolf and you sat right next to her. Now it’s time to start a conversation with her that allows an emotional and a sexual connection.
The million dollar question is:
How do you start the conversation and what the heck are you talking about?
You can of course try it with “sooo, you are also traveling on this train” but I doubt that this is very effective. The key to a successful interaction in a train is to find the right topic. How do you do that?
By observing her and the environment you are in.
Is there something funny about other passengers? Does she read a book that could interest you? Does she listen to music that you also like? Does she have phone that you would like to have a look at, because you are thinking about buying a new one?
Those are all reasons to talk to her. Due to the fact that you have a 99% chance that she has a phone that you could use as a reason to start a conversation, we are going to use this example.
So you start your conversation with:
“Hey, what phone is that? I really need to buy a new one and that looks quite good.”
Now you have her attention.
Step 6: Let Your Arms (Accidently)Touch
What’s the next ingredient to a successful train seduction?
You talk about how you need a new phone, because you can’t play videos on your old one, or because it has some kind of error. I am pretty sure you can think of some stupid reason.
While you are talking to her you can slowly but steadily get closer to her. I mean, you are already sitting next to each other and the space between your and her arm is probably less than a few millimeters.
In this situation it is inevitable that your arm accidentally touches her arm.
Through this subtle touch she will subconsciously get used to your touch. And don’t fool yourself. She knows that her phone is not the real reason why you are talking to her.
But the other passengers don’t have to know.
Step 7: Talk about Her Interests and Passions
At this stage she is already used to a subtle touch, but before you increase the sexual connection it is quite useful to connect with her on an emotional level. It’s time to talk about related topics that are a little bit more exciting than her smartphone, even though I sometimes get the feeling that there is nothing that excites women more than their smartphones.
It is time to talk about her interests, her desires and her passions. How can you lead over to those exciting topics when you were just talking about her smartphone? There are many paths that lead to Rome.
You can ask her what music she has on her phone. After she lists some bands you can ask her if she is into music and why she loves it so much.
You can ask her if she can watch movies on this phone and what movies she likes. Why does she like romantic movies instead of action movies? Find it out.
You can tell her that you need a phone that can take high quality pictures from your travel adventures. If she wants to find out more about your travels, you can assume that she is into traveling. Allow her to share this passion with you.
Step 8: Find a Reason to Touch Her
Now that you talk about her interests, she trusts you and likes you more and more. Let’s get back to the one reason why your conversation started in the first place, while you are intensify the sexual energy.
Ask her if you can have a look at her phone. She will give it to you. The second she hands her phone over to you is absolutely crucial. In this second your hand should touch her hand.
The way she reacts will tell you whether or not your attempt will end in a successful train seduction.
If she doesn’t pull her hand away, you are in. If she pulls it away, you simply continue to talk with her until you think she is ready for The Smartphone Game.
How to Seal the Deal with The Smartphone Game
What is The Smartphone Game? The Smartphone Game is a way of getting a girls number on a train that I spontaneously invented during a train ride from Warsaw to Lodz.
You don’t need any words and the other passengers won’t have a clue what you are doing.
What do you have to do? You basically approach her in a direct way, but instead of verbalizing your thoughts, you type them in your smartphone. Write down whatever you want and show it to her. Modern technology is a blessing for every train seduction.
Step 9: When Do You Have to Get Out?
What do you write in your message?
In the first message you should find out when she has to get out. Then you can decide if you can talk to her when you are leaving the train together, or if you have to get her number before she walks out of your life forever.
This is an example of a message you could write:
“I really like your smartphone but I think you are even cuter. I would love to talk to you for a couple of minutes, but the other passengers don’t need to know that. Just nod your head once if you also have to get out at “YOUR DESTINATION” and nod twice if you don’t have to get out there.”
Every fun and playful girl loves this game. She will love you even more after she knows that you have enough social intelligence to not involve the other passengers in your secret romance.
Step 10: The Smartphone Number Close
If she nods once you can stop your game and wait until the train stops. Have fun on your instant date.
What do you do if she nods twice? Suggest that you should meet another day.
Here is what you could write:
“I would really love to meet you again and to continue our conversation about your smartphone. Just type in your number after the peep…peep: “SPACE FOR HER NUMBER”
I have never had a girl who didn’t type in her number after I played this game with her. Women love confident, playful and creative men with good social skills. By playing this game you give her the whole package.
By reading my book you get the whole package.
Summed Up Wisdom
What are the steps of a successful train seduction? Instead of showing every single passenger how attracted you are to the girl next to you by giving her a direct compliment, you show some social intelligence by approaching her in an indirect way.
Take your time to find an attractive woman who you can sit next to and ask her if the seat next to her is free. After you have looked her deep into the eyes it is time to come up with a reason to talk to her. By observing her and your environment you will find a reason. While you are talking to her you can accidentally touch her arm to make her comfortable with your touch. After you have connected with her through her interests and passion, it is time to reveal your sexual intent.
If you want to seal the deal you can simply lead over to the direct approach. However, instead of making it public you can use your smartphone. Show her your direct approach as a message on your phone. Take her on an instant date or let her type in her number under your last message.
Haha, i thought the same, And wondered if i should follow and meet her there, to give her opportunity for something to happen? …with stranger 🙂 , Half joking, but just half with this 🙂
Sebastian Harris says
She’s into you
One thing happened me few times in Train with different girls.. When i sat against her, i checked her, and her body slowly but not in obscene way. Just as man who like what he see and is not scared to show that. Then i take interest away. From corners of my eyes i was can see she checked me deeply to. After a short while we or started conversation, or she started giving me her pursue (bag) asking if i can take care of it for while when she go to toilet.Should i look for deeper meaning of that. or it is meaningless? or it is some kind of sexual intuendo ?
Sebastian Harris says
1. When the wagon is empty you can be as direct as you want.
2. in cafes people are usually talking and having a conversation there is totally natural. In trains it is “socially weird” to start a conversation and many people are quiet. That’s the difference.
3. Using the technique that I shared in this article (giving her the phone with your message for her) already shows balls. She won’t be able to name one guy who ever did that.
David GRESSET says
Hey Sebastian !
Great article ! I actually started years ago on the train, it was a 20mn commute between my city and Paris. At the time, I only used opinion openers and indirect, it worked great on the train. But I might have had better results with direct, who knows. I’ll try and tell you if you are interested !
Loved the tip of sitting next to her, I actually never did it. Always sat in front to the diagonal or on the other raw next to her as it was what was advised by “the community”to leave her her space.
But what you write awakes questions.
1st, You’re saying that the train social pressure is the reason why we should play it indirect. Then what about when the wagon is empty, or mostly and people can’t hear ?
2nd, Because, the idea is to be indirect in venues where people listen to what you say.. So also be indirect in cafés where people sit even closer and hear and see everything you say, including you approaching the girl ? And all venues that are immobile with people up close listening (or whith a friend ?)
3, how can you show that you have some balls if you do opinion or indirect openers ? Isn’t it a handicap ? I remember that girls loved talking to me and that we texted for a while after that, but I rarely had dates. Somes girls laughed on texts and were really enthusiastic with the idea to date but they flaked last minute.
This ended up pretty long !
Sebastian Harris says
of course. It’s the same environment.
So that’s how you do it. Does this also apply to a bus?