Are you a loser or a seducer?
Maybe you are something in between.
You might shiver and sweat whenever you think about approaching a hot woman. You might stumble whenever you are in a situation in which you have to talk to a woman. You might want to cry whenever you gaze after a woman who you didn’t approach, because your fear is paralyzing you.
But you want a change. You demand a change.
Then, my friend, you are on the right path.
You are on the right path because you realized that a life without women, without sexual fulfilment and without deep connections with the opposite sex is not a life worth living. You are on the right path because you made the conscious decision to change your life in a way that seems impossible and out of reach for most other men.
You are on the right path, but you are not quite there yet.
You still haven’t slept with the girls you fantasize about when you are lying awake at night. You still haven’t experienced the adventures that you can only experience in your dreams. You still haven’t achieved what you want to achieve.
You might look at the so-called naturals with envy and you wish you could be like them. Don’t worry, you will get there. In fact, you will become better than all the naturals you look up to.
You are ready to leave Loserville for Seducerville…
How I Stopped Being a Loser (and How You Can Too)
I remember it as if it was yesterday. It wasn’t my last day in Loverville, but it was my last day passively accepting the misery I created for myself by staying in Loserville without ever trying to break free.
It was a Sunday. I just broke up with my ex-girlfriend who I was together with for nearly four years. We had one happy year, one not so happy year and nearly two toxic years. I finally ended a relationship that I already wanted to end two Christmas Eve’s earlier. But that didn’t matter anymore.
It was over and even though the thought of her having sex with another guy made me want to puke, (I actually had to puke when she told me that she made out with some random guy in a club) it was time to decide between path A and path B.
Path A: Stay the shy, insecure and lonely person I am and live my life in quiet desperation without ever seducing and dating the amazing women that I jerked off to every night.
Me in the night I realized that I was on Path A
Path B: Make the decision to change my life and to become the man I always wanted to be and to seduce the women of my dreams, even if it would turn out to be one hard and painful struggle.
When I thought about my life in Loserville, it became very clear to me that I would either take Path B or put a gun into my mouth…
My Ticket to Loserville
Back then my life was a joke and I was the comedian who didn’t realize that the fun times were over. I laughed about my situation, but when I am really honest every second I spent laughing was a second I spent suppressing the feelings that made me want to cry.
I laughed it away when my friends asked me if I was still a virgin. I laughed it away when my grandmother asked when she will finally meet my (imaginary) girlfriend. When I then finally had a girlfriend I laughed it away when they asked me why I am so freaking miserable.
I am sure you know this repression strategy very well.
You pretend to laugh about it. You pretend that it is funny that you are still a virgin. You pretend that you are the last person on earth who wants a girlfriend.
Deep down you are crying whenever someone asks you a question that is somehow related to women, dating and sex. I remember that my heart started beating, my hands began to sweat and my throat began to dry out whenever someone asked me a question that was just remotely related to my “bad luck” with women.
My inability to face my inner demons, to accept my weaknesses and to work on my sticking points made laughing it away the only logical response. Once I was trapped in Loserville it was this very response that made it impossible for me to leave it.
Our Ticket Out of Loserville
Did I just say that it was impossible for me to escape Loserville?
Well, it seemed to be impossible at the time.
The thought of sleeping with women that were as beautiful as the ones that I gazed at in the porn movies I watched seemed to be impossible. The thought of having fulfilling relationships with such girls appeared to be even more impossible.
It all seemed impossible, at least until this one Sunday afternoon that I spent in bed thinking about my life, about how it is and about how it should be. That was the day when I created my ticket out of Loserville in my own mind.
What did I do that turned me from a depressed loser into a successful seducer?
I did what every entrepreneur tells you to do if you ask him how he became so successful.
He made a plan when he started his business and he definitely made a plan when he banged his “secretary” who just imagines something that has nothing to do with her glasses…
I made a decision. I made a plan. I took action.
You can do the same.
You can make the decision to do whatever it takes to learn the skills that are necessary to succeed with women. You can make a weekly plan and write down in detail how many women you want to approach and what goals you want to achieve. You can study the ones who already seduce women that you can only jerk off to.
Learn the things that others can do naturally. That’s the fast track to success.
Study the so-called naturals. Observe what they do, how they behave and what they say. Do what they do and do it better. If you follow this simple principle, you will not only get out of Loserville, you will also get better than all the guys you used to look up to.
How is that possible?
Well, as former losers you and I have two advantages that all the naturals don’t have…
How You Become Better Than the Naturals
I am not kidding. You can become better than every natural seducer who has ever smashed the beds and pelvic bones of beautiful women. In fact, you will inevitably become better than them, by applying the following two principles.
The following two principles are the proof that losers are the best seducers.
I have been one of those losers and I met a lot of talented naturals on my journey. None of the guys I met who were able to approach and seduce women without the help of articles, books and coaching programs could improve themselves the way I and the amazing men I coached could.
Even though a natural is a man who has the natural ability to pick up women, he is not a man who knows WHAT he does to pick them up, WHY the things he does work and HOW he can take his success to the next level.
As a former loser you will eventually reach a point where you realize WHY the things you used to do didn’t work, WHAT you can do instead and HOW you can take your success to the next level.
A natural is blessed with above-average seduction skills. You and I are blessed with the ability to turn our below-average (sometimes abysmal) skills and turn them into truly great seduction skills.
Determination and Consistent Effort
As a man who once has been a notorious loser with women you can learn everything a natural can do naturally.
You might think that this sounds too good to be true, but it is the truth. Every trick, every behavioral pattern, every line, every non-verbal and verbal signal can be learned. There is really nothing that you can’t learn.
You have to be determined to not only get out of Loserville, but to fly so high that you can’t even see it anymore. You have to be willing to improve consistently until you finally reach a level of greatness.
Will it be easy? Nothing that’s worth having comes easy.
Is it possible? With the right amount of determination and consistency it is more than possible to leave your old self behind and to transform yourself into a confident, authentic and happy seducer.
This determination and consistency will eventually allow you to become better than the naturals. While the natural just does what he always does, your consistent effort to learn and to improve allows you to see the patterns behind his and your actions.
You learn what he does, but you also learn what he could do better.
The trick is to learn from his weaknesses, turn them into your strengths and enhance your skill set.
With Self-Analysis to True Mastery
You realized that you were trapped in Loserville. You made the decision to leave Loserville. You learned from the naturals and thanks to your determination and your consistent effort, you are now better than they could ever be.
Thanks to the articles you read, the books you bought, the bootcamps you went on and the hours you put in, you are now proud to have the skills to attract and seduce all the beautiful girls you always dreamed of.
You wake up every day with a smile on your face.
But did you already reach the zenith?
The beautiful thing about life and about seduction is that you never really reach a level of complete mastery. This shouldn’t disappoint you. It should rather encourage you.
If you continue to read my articles and to open my emails (and to put the advice into practice) you will eventually reach a level where you say “I had sex with models, I had threesomes and I am together with the woman of my dreams. My life is amazing!”, but you will never reach a level where you say “there’s nothing more to learn”.
Thanks to your ability to analyze your current situation and to compare it with where you came from and where you want to be, you can and will improve one step at the time.
There’s always something more to learn for you and there’s always something more to learn for me.
The only way to ever become a master seducer is to realize that true mastery is the result of the simple decision to get out of Loserville and to continue to walk away from it as far as your feet will carry you.
Summed Up Wisdom
Are you a loser or a seducer?
In case you consider yourself a loser you can change that by making a simple decision. Leave your old life behind and embark on a new path, a path that allows you to leave Loserville once and for all.
What do you need to deserve your ticket out of Loserville? You have to make a decision, you have to plan your departure and you have to take massive action.
Study the ones who can do the things that you want to learn naturally and effortlessly. With the right amount of determination and consistent effort you will soon be able to become better than they will ever be.
When you then harness the power of self-analysis you will become a true master of the art of seduction and as the master you will eventually become, you know that there’s always more to learn.
Hey Charles,
you are absolutely right. Determination and hunger for success make all the difference.
Man definitely agree. To get good at anything you have to have some hunger, some hustle. This has some parallels with people who are rich who came from nothing compared to people who were born with a silver spoon in their mouth. Great article.