Do you want to discover how to talk to a girl you don’t know?
I know you do.
Let’s face it. Every young (or old) man who stumbles upon this whole pickup and seduction thing wants to know this. I mean, that’s what cold approaching is all about. It’s about talking to women you’ve never seen or met.
I don’t care if you want to do it…
It’s always the same principle.
Today I will share the individual steps with you because I want you be able to approach any girl you want at any time. Don’t allow social circles or your environment to limit your choices.
You deserve to have the choice and to learn:
And believe me. You’ll want to take things to the next level once you know how to attract dozens of beautiful strangers.
Here’s how you do it…
How to Talk to Girls You Don’t Know: The Secret Formula
I still remember this day.
There was this girl. I saw her and the world stopped turning. Okay, okay. It wasn’t that romantic. Let’s better say I stopped moving because my anxiety paralyzed me. Yeah, that’s how it really was.
I’ve never seen her but I knew I had to approach her.
But I didn’t. I couldn’t.
That’s the reason why I decided to write this article for you. That’s why I want you to know how to talk to a girl you don’t know. I don’t want you to experience the same doubts, shame, and fear that crippled me for years.
Today I'm not crippled anymore because I discovered the secret formula.
No matter if you approach her in person, on WhatsApp, on Instagram, on Snapchat, on Facebook, or if you text her until your fingers bleed…the following step-by-step guide is proven to work.
Follow the steps and you’ll get the results you want…
1. Imagine You Know Her for Years
Learning how to talk to a woman you don’t know starts in your head.
No, I don’t want you to talk to your imaginary girlfriend Barbara Big Boobs and I also don’t want you to start a conversation with your virtual girlfriend Hakatama Yokozama. I’m talking about your mindset.
What do most guys think when they approach a girl they don’t know?
For most guys, it’s a stressful endeavor with many “if’s” and unknown variables. But it doesn’t have to be like that. Imagine she’s not a stranger. Imagine you knew her for years.
Your mind is a powerful tool. Use it.
“I’m going to talk to her as if I knew her for years!”
That’s the mindset you need to have. It takes the pressure away and makes everything so much easier.
2. Approach Her with the Obvious
How do you approach a girl you don’t know?
With the mindset that you know each other for years, but the honesty that you don’t. Yes, the mindset I just shared with you helped me a lot. But that doesn’t mean that I run up to girls like an old friend.
Sebastian: “Hey Melissa, it’s so great to see you.”
She: “My name is not Melissa.”
Sebastian: “How have you been?”
She: “We don’t know each other…”
Sebastian: “Yeah, I know.”
She: Awkward silence
That’s NOT how it’s done.
Having the right mindset is one part of the equation. Using the right words is the other part. Yes, you don’t know her yet. That’s no big deal. It’s better to address the elephant in the room than to cause awkward silence.
Here’s how you approach her:
Then you tell her how beautiful, gorgeous, or breathtaking she is in your eyes. Combine honesty with a compliment and you’re winning.
3. Give Her the Feeling that You’re Long Lost Friends
You approached her and you gave her a compliment.
Now you’re talking. You talk about the weather and the fact that the pollution gets worse. And you tell her how much you like how the birds are singing in the trees. Oh, and don’t forget to mention that you’ve seen a dead opossum down the road.
Okay, stop right here!
Who told you to bore the shit out of her with small talk?
I hope it wasn’t me because if it was me, I deserve a kick in the balls. Do yourself a favor and skip the small talk. I said it in other articles, but I have to say it again…
Small talk is the death of chemistry.
Here are some ways to breathe life back into your interaction:
Give her the feeling that you’re long lost friends. This is not about friendzoning her. It’s about turning an awkward moment (and it’s always awkward when strangers meet) into a pleasant and fun experience.
Friends don’t talk about the weather. They talk about meaningful stuff.
4. Search for Similarities
Her interests and passions mean a lot to her.
Talking about these topics makes her smile, but it doesn’t make her fall for you. And I guess that’s what you want. You want her to feel such a strong connection with you that she wants to spend more and more time with you.
Then start digging for similarities.
There’s this misconception that opposites attract. And it might be true when it comes to short-term sexual adventures. But when it comes to dating and relationships, women are looking for similarities. A recent study published in the journal of Psychological Science backs this up.
It’s good to know what she’s passionate about, but it’s better to know…
You can talk about her passions all day long, but if she’s a polyamorous world traveler and you’re looking for a monogamous relationship, you’re not compatible.
Here’s how to find out whether or not you’re compatible…
5. Show Her that You’re Compatible
Compatibility is the cherry on the cake.
Yes, you want to know how to talk to women you don’t know. But you want more. You can’t fool me. You want to get to know her, seducer her, sleep with her, and maybe you even want to make her your girlfriend.
Use the power of compatibility to achieve these goals.
Human beings are attracted to people who are similar. And you already found out your similarities. Now you have to prove it. You have to prove that you’re meant for each other. She wants a guy who “gets her”.
Show her that you get her:
Find out if you’re compatible because she wants to date a guy who thinks and feels like her…
6. Express Your Interest in Getting to Know Her
She’s not a stranger anymore.
You came here because you wanted to learn how to talk to girls you don’t know. Now you’re talking to a girl you already know. Heck, you know her better than most husbands know their wives. Okay, that’s not that difficult, but still.
Let me ask you something:
Do you want to stop now?
Hell no! You don’t want to talk to her, find out whether or not you’re compatible, just to give up. That would be a waste of time. You want to date this girl…and do other things with her. You want to get to know her and she deserves to know it.
Let her know what you want:
Express your interest in getting to know her. You’ve done a great job so far. She’ll want to reach the next level with you.
7. Get to Know Her on a Whole New Level
Passions, interests, hobbies…
You scratched the surface. Now it’s time to dive in deep. You want to find out all the things other guys are afraid to ask because you want her to do all the things with you she doesn’t do with other guys. That’s why you need to get to know her
And I mean, really get to know her:
These are topics most girls have never talked about. These are powerful topics. But most guys are either too afraid to address them or it’s not part of their reality to talk about deep stuff.
My experience tells me:
Get to know her on a whole new level and she’ll open up for you in a way she never has before.
8. Come Up with Activities You Would Both Enjoy
She was the girl you didn’t know. Now she’s the girl you know.
You know her better than her best male friend. Yep, I’m talking about that poor bastard who tries to get out of the friendzone for years. But he can’t. He can’t because he doesn’t know how to connect with her and he has never tried to dive in deep.
You are the most exciting guy she has ever me.
Show her how exciting you are. You showed her what it’s like to talk about things that mean something. Now you have to do things with her that make her feel alive. Come on. You can do better than her ex-boyfriend.
That dude was boring as hell, but you want to…
You know her. Come up with something exciting that’s in alignment with her personality and her interests. Be more creative than “let’s go to Starbucks”.
Here’s what I’ve learned over the years:
Unusual dates give women the feeling that you know each other for an unusually long time.
9. Be Ready to Adjust Your Plan
What if she doesn’t like to go to the lake at night?
That’s okay. She might be afraid in the dark. Or she’s scared that you’ll hide her clothes and force her to swim naked. Yup, she knows all your naughty thoughts.
Give her he chance to choose the perfect venue:
- 1She can agree to your suggestion.
- 2She can suggest another first date venue.
- 3She can ask you to come up with other ideas.
Don’t get discouraged if your first suggestion doesn’t make her scream with joy. Not so long ago she was a stranger, a girl you didn’t know. Now she’s a girl you know. But she’s also a woman who can decide where she wants to go.
Let her chose the place where she wants to take things further with you.
10. Meet a Girl You Know Inside and Out
Now you know how to talk to a girl you don’t know.
Take a moment to tap yourself on the back.
You’ve learned something that most guys will never figure out. You know how to approach and talk to complete strangers…sexy strangers. You can now go out and meet beautiful girls every day.
And if you want to know how to attract, seduced, and sleep with all the girls you’ll soon know inside and out, you have to follow this strategy.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to talk to a girl you don’t know? You just have to use the secret formula. “What the heck is that?” Glad you ask. It’s a step-by-step system that allows you to turn complete strangers into potential lovers and girlfriends.
It starts with the right mindset. Walk up to her as if she’s your best friend, but approach her as if you’ve never met her. You don’t want to be the awkward guy who pretends to know her. Avoid awkwardness with honesty.
And don’t forget to find out everything you can about her. Start with her interests and hobbies and continue with her family relationships and future plans. Reaching the next level allows her to see you as more than a stranger. Enjoy your time with a woman you know inside and out.
Sebastian Harris says
you first approach her friends and ask them if you can talk to their friend.
What if she is with a group of friends walking on the street ?
It seems to me like too showing to stop her (the group will surely stop also hence a higher level of social pressure)
Sebastian Harris says
then first talk about yourself and encourage her later.
What to do if a girl appears to be uninterested with topics related to her with she saying stuff like “I don’t like to talk about myself”?
Sebastian Harris says
Work on your confidence first and follow the instructions in the article. I also have other articles for shy guys 😉
Im shy any advice?