Do you know how to sweet talk a girl into liking you?
Oh man, I’m so good at this.
Sorry for sounding arrogant. But it’s true. I suck at almost everything. I can’t cook, I can’t paint and I can’t even grow a goddamn beard. In Germany, we call this skill to “rasp licorice”. I know. This expression doesn’t make any sense to native English speakers.
Sweet talk didn’t make sense to me.
I mean, have you ever tried it?
Never in a million years did I expect it to work. I always thought that it’s something for children. Heck, I didn’t want to be sweet. I wanted to be a strong man and a ruthless seducer.
Here’s what I learned over the years:
Are you ready to be so sweet that girls want to taste your candy bar?
Let’s get started…
How to Sweet Talk a Girl and Win Her Heart
You’re entering dangerous territory.
It’s so easy to mess this up because there’s a fine line between sweet talk and the friend zone. I mean, let’s face it. This is not the same as increasing the sexual tension with words. Talk about sex and she’ll know what you want.
What if you want to know how to say something sweet to a girl?
You’re at risk:
Think about it:
This technique is only effective if you add a sexual element. Unfortunately, all mainstream magazines ignore this fact and torture you with the same lame “be respectful” and “be nice” advice.
Let me show you how it’s really done…
How to Sweet Talk a Girl You Just Met
Imagine the following situation…
You walk down the street and you see a beautiful girl. She smiles at you. She’s into you. All you have to do is to walk up to her, say “hi”, and get her number.
There’s just one problem:
You don’t know how to sweet talk her into giving you her number.
Here’s what I would do…
1. Start the Conversation with a Compliment
“How do you sweet talk a girl?”
Try it with a compliment.
I know. It sounds so simple…too simple. But I’m serious. You don’t need any fancy technique or crazy word-for-word sequence in this situation. Keep it simple and make it personal.
Here’s what you need to avoid:
Don’t give boring and impersonal compliments. Everyone gives these types of compliments. She’s heard it before and it’s your job to stand out from the crowd.
Here’s how you do it:
Give a specific and personal compliment.
Make it count.
2. Comment on Her Appearance
Now you’re talking to her.
She tells you about herself and you do the same. You share your stories with her and you try to find out more about her. Enjoy the conversation and listen to every word she says. But don’t forget the sweet talk.
Here’s what I love to do:
I casually mention something I like about her.
I sprinkle the conversation with these comments. One minute of talking and woop, it’s time for another comment. Don’t wait for her response. Just mention it and continue the conversation. She’ll do the same…and smile like a happy child.
3. Address Her Unique Selling Proposition
Here’s how to sweet talk a girl and make her feel special:
Find her USP.
Have you ever heard of the unique selling proposition?
In business, this describes the one key element that distinguishes your product from a competitor’s product. Guess what? You can also use this principle to describe women. Every woman is special in some way.
Whatever it is…let her know that you like it.
How to Sweet Talk a Girl Online and on Facebook
Now you know how to do it in person.
But what if you meet her online?
You need a different strategy.
You can’t just bombard her with compliments…even though that’s exactly what a lot of guys do. They write “hey beautiful” ten time and then they wonder why on earth she doesn’t reply.
Here’s what to do instead…
4. Don’t Be too Pushy
You want to know how to sweet talk a girl and make her melt?
Then don’t be too pushy. I hate to say it but a lot of guys are way too pushy online. These are the same guys who are too scared to approach a girl during the daytime. Give them a smartphone and boom…they turn into chatting machines.
This can easily lead to something like this…
Here’s the rule:
Whoever invented the “send multiple texts” or “send the same text over and over again” deserves a gigantic slap in the face.
5. Give Her Cute Nicknames
This is the secret sauce.
Everyone can write “Hey Jenny” and most guys settle for “Hey” without the Jenny. Well, that’s creative. Come on. You can do better than that. You can start your online message with a firework. And no, I’m not talking about dick pics.
I’m talking about nicknames.
Combine these elements and turn them into nicknames. Marketing Molly or Tipsy Travel Theresa are just two examples. But seriously, giving a girl nicknames is powerful. It gives her the feeling that you’re closer than you actually are.
This makes gaining her trust so much easier.
6. Send Her Compliment Memes
I love compliment memes.
I’ve written about the power of memes in this article about flirting over text and in others. Today I want to show you how to use memes in a different way. It’s time to turn meme figures into compliment givers.
Let me give you an example:
That’s basically all you have to do.
When she responds, you can either answer with another meme or with a normal message. It’s up to you.
How to Sweet Talk a Girl Over the Phone
Change of scenery…
You’re no longer chatting with her on an online dating site or on Facebook. You’re about to call her. Maybe you’ve met her online. Maybe you’ve met her in person. It doesn’t matter. The steps you have to take are the same.
Let me tell you something:
I love to sweet talk girls over the phone because I love to make women smile…
7. Make Her Smile When She Picks Up the Phone
“How can you tell if she smiles?” I hear you asking.
I swear to God that you can hear it. You can hear when a woman smiles. You can hear it in the sound of her voice. She might even giggle. Then it’s even more obvious. I enjoy to create these moments right when she picks up the phone.
Here are some ideas:
I don’t care what you do. All that matters is that you do it in the first couple of seconds of the call. That’s when she’s nervous as hell. By making her smile, you allow her to release all the tension.
And a girl who feels good talking to you will feel good about you.
8. Tell Her You’ll Be There for Her
Do you want to know how to sweet talk a girl into going out with you?
Tell her THIS:
You don’t even need a guitar. The words “I’ll be there for you” or “I’m there for you” are extremely powerful. I use them whenever a girl is not sure, which happens all the time.
A woman’s emotions can change in a heartbeat.
One day ago she wanted to meet you. Suddenly, she’s not sure anymore.
Let her know that it’s up to her but that you’ll be there for her, no matter how she decides. It’s a cheeky trick because it always works. These words will make her emotional and boom…she wants to see you more than ever before.
9. Tell Her What Her Sweet Voice Does with You
Does she have a beautiful voice?
I don’t care if she sounds like a sweet princess or like an alcoholic after the second bottle of Whiskey. Compliment her voice. Okay, if she sounds like Darth Vader, she won’t believe you. But hey, most girls have a beautiful voice.
Here’s what you can say to her:
Let her know that her voice has an effect on you…and your pee pee. You can even let her know that listening to her voice makes you horny. That’s okay. Women love to make guys lose their minds with their angel-like voices.
Just keep in mind:
She won’t be an angel when she’s in your bedroom.
How to Sweet Talk a Girl Over Text
What if you’re texting with her?
Texting is not the same as talking online or over Facebook. There are better techniques you can use and I want to share them with you right now.
Being good at texting is more important than ever before.
Here’s what you need to do…
10. Send Her Sweet One-Liners
The sweetest things to say to a girl are short.
Nope, this wasn’t a mean joke about the size of your dick. I’m sure you have a gigantic anaconda. I’m talking about your text messages. They should be short and sweet. Don’t torture her with Shakespeare monologues.
Two to three words are enough.
“You’re cute” is better than “I truly believe that your kind of cute face makes you incredibly attractive”.
Here are some situations where a one-liner is great:
A sweet one-liner can easily lead to an even sweeter first date.
11. Send Her Romantically Funny Selfies
What on earth are romantically funny selfies?
I’m glad you ask.
This is my invention.. I tested this technique a couple of months ago and it works surprisingly well. You just have to combine two elements and voila…Frankenstein’s monster is created.
What are funny selfies?
What about romantic selfies?
Here’s what you do now:
You simply combine these two elements and send her a picture. The easiest thing you can do is to hold a red rose and make a duck face. It sounds completely ridiculous but it kills two birds with one stone.
You communicate your interest and you make her laugh.
12. Tell Her Why You Want to Meet Her
You want to know how to talk sweet to a woman, right?
Tell her the truth.
Yep, the truth can be the sweetest thing you can say. You want to meet her right? Then let her know why you want to meet her. Okay, don’t be completely honest. She doesn’t want to hear that her ass is the only reason…even though it might be.
Here are some alternatives:
Give her a reason and she’ll be more likely to do whatever you want.
How to Sweet Talk a Woman on the First Date
You see. She wants to meet you.
Giving her a reason with the wonderful word “because” seemed to work. It’s time for your first date.
Are you nervous?
You'll dominate the date because you know how to sweet talk a girl.
You just have to start the right way…
13. Ask Her Personal Questions
It’s not all about compliments.
Of course, compliments are a vital part. But you have to dig deeper. You can’t use one compliment after another. That’s the needy behavior you want to avoid. Instead, you ask her the right questions and “right” means “deep”.
Here are some examples:
Now that you know her answer, you can use the same “you’re cute” or “you’re so sweet” one-liners I shared earlier.
14. Appreciate Her Personality
Forget about her gigantic ass for a moment.
I know. You also can’t keep your eyes off the two juicy watermelons between her face and her belly button. Life is hard. Suck it up buttercup and try to focus on her personality.
Tell her how much you appreciate her qualities.
This already sets you apart from all the other guys who only talk about her physical features. Reward her for having these qualities, beliefs, and values and she’ll reward you too…
…with her gigantic ass.
15. Thank Her For Being the Way She Is
We all want to be accepted.
Many of my one-on-one coaching clients are afraid that they have to be someone they are not to get girls. Spoiler alert: You don’t. Women have the exact same fear.
Every human being has fears.
That’s why the following sentence is so powerful:
“Thank you for being the way you are.”
Say this to a woman and she’ll melt right in front of you.
How to Sweet Talk a Girl into Bed
Let’s talk about sex…
This is the final chapter of your journey. You came here to learn how to sweet talk a girl into liking you and now I’ll show you how to get her in bed.
Be honest. That’s what you want.
“No Sebastian, I’m not that kind of guy. I want a platonic friendship.”
Stop bullshitting me, yourself, and the girl who’ll soon be in your bed…
16. Appreciate Her Wild Side
She’s a wild animal trapped in a cage. Her mind is her cage and her insecurities are the guards. You won’t be able to open the cage unless you help her to get over her insecurities and to accept herself. Make her feel good.
Here’s what you do:
These are the sweet words that make her think “wait a minute. I’m attractive. I’m desirable. This guy likes me…and he wants me to be open-minded.”
That’s exactly what you want her to think right before she steps into your bedroom.
17. Sweet Talk with Your Body
You don’t have to use words.
Your body language is as powerful as the sweetest compliment. Communicate with your body and let her know how you she makes you feel. Don’t hide your emotions…or your arousal. Reveal the truth.
Here are some ways to do it:
Nothing is sweeter than a loving touch.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to sweet talk a girl into liking you? Don’t worry. I won’t allow you to end up in the friend zone. Instead, I want you to give her the right compliments and ask her the right questions. Dig deep.
Let her know that you’ll be there for her. And let her know that she has a beautiful voice. Yes, you can also send sweet one-liners or a romantically funny meme. Choose your weapon.
Fight the war with praise. Appreciate her beliefs, values, and her personality. But don’t forget her wild side…and the power of your body.