How to Approach a Girl in College (For the First Time)

Have you ever wondered how to approach a girl in college?

You thought about walking up to her in class and telling her how beautiful she is. But every time you think about doing it, you flinch. Some inner voice stops you. You can’t explain it. It just doesn’t feel right.

We both know why.

You do it because you are not sure if your approach will work.

Believe me, I totally get it. A couple of years ago, I had the same problem. I did my Bachelor Degree in Germany.

Do you know how many sexual partners I had in these 3 years?

Zero.

I’m not proud of this number. In fact, whenever I think about my college time in Germany, I want to cry. All these regrets and missed opportunities make me angry. But things changed when I did my Master Degree in London.

That was more than four years ago and today I want to make a promise:

But you’ll only experience these things if you read this article till the end…

How I Learned to Approach Girls in College in London 

Let’s not talk about my college time in Germany.

To say that I struggled would be the understatement of the year. I suffered. I suffered through more than 1000 days with blue balls, lonely nights, and too much porn. God, I watched so much porn. But this experience shaped me.

I promised myself to learn how to approach a girl in college.

And I did. My first day in the college in London changed everything. This year changed my whole life. I took action, made mistakes, and learned. I learned until I mastered the art of picking up girls at college.

I slept with women that were hotter than her...

How did I do it?

Well, while everyone else tried to hook up with drunk college girls at the local club, I turned the campus into my own hunting paradise. I left no stone unturned.

Eventually, I knew how to approach a girl in college and I got laid every single weekend…

1. Use the “I’m New Here” Approach

Have you feel if you knew how to approach a girl at college without even approaching her?

“What the f#@k?” I hear you screaming.

Yep, it’s possible.

In fact, I met my incredibly sexy friend with benefits with this simple approach. God, now I remember my time with her. She’s half Chinese and half English. I think she’s married now. If her husband knew what we did in her small dorm room, he would kill me.

Anyway…

Here’s what I did:

From the moment I stepped foot on campus, I approached EVERY girl I saw. And yes, there’s a reason why I put EVERY in all caps. I really mean it. No matter if she was cute, sexy as hell, or a bit overweight…I approached her. And yes, the overweight chicks have a purpose too. I’ll share it under point 10.

“Sebastian, how did you approach all these girls?”

Glad you ask.

I didn’t run up to them saying “excuse me, I just saw you on campus and you look really amazing. What’s your name?” We’ll come to that later. For now, it’s all about meeting as many leads as you possibly can. Yup, you’re a business man. The girls are your leads.

And I got hundreds of leads with this simple approach:

“Excuse me. I’m new here and you seem like a cool person. What’s your name?”

Allow me to explain why this is so effective…just in case you want to call me a pussy for going indirect.

It would be weird on the street. It’s highly effective on campus. I got more phone numbers and Facebook friends than I could keep up with. Try it.

2. Approach a Hot College Girl in Her Favorite Club  

Most college kids waste their time playing video games.

I did that when I was studying in Germany. I didn’t do it when I was studying in England. Hell no. I was too busy joining every club under the sun.

Don’t waste your time. Instead, see your campus as your playground. What if you still can’t decide between video games and naked girls in your bed? Then see yourself as the hero in your own roleplay video game.

Your mission is to go on as many quests as possible.

The good news:

You don’t even have to approach the women you meet in college clubs, at least not in the traditional “hey, you are really beautiful” kind of way. You just have to ask them out after the activity. It can’t get any easier.

Here’s an example:

That’s all you have to do.

3. Apologize when you Bump into Her while Waiting in Line

Oh, how I loved the canteen in my college in London.

No, I didn’t love it because of the terrible English food. That was certainly not the reason. I loved the college canteen because I could go in without a number and leave with a number…and a smile on my face.

I made the same approach I usually make at Starbucks:

This strategy is so simple. It works almost every time. And even thought I don’t want to admit it, I have to give Hollywood movies credit for it. Every college girl dreams about bumping into the man of her dreams.

Then you invite her to follow you to your table.

FYI: I know how cheesy these lines sound, but believe me. They work.

4. Use the Letter Approach in the College Library 

Let me show you how to approach a girl in college you like without saying a word.

“Without saying a single word…how is that possible?” I hear you asking.

The library makes it possible.

And believe me, you don’t want to run into the library and approach a beautiful woman with a direct compliment. She might like you. Maybe she wants to sleep with you. But she won’t show it. Instead, she will reject you.

Here’s why:

The social pressure is way too high.

And talking smart-ass bullshit like this dude doesn’t help either:

Here’s how I used to do it in London:

I wrote everything I wanted to say to her on a piece of paper. I also wrote a call to action at the bottom of the paper. Then I waited.

The result: 7 out of 10 times she showed up at the door.

Here’s one of the letters I used:

Give it a shot.

5. Give Her Your Student Staff Member Card  

What? You’re not part of the staff?

That has to change!

Okay, don’t panic. You don’t have to do it if you don’t want to. But it’s a great chance to approach hot college girls. To be honest, I didn’t do it while I was in college. Today I regret it.

Come on. Don't be so lazy!

I regret it because I know how easy it was for some guys to get laid.

 By the way:

I don’t even know if American’s call this also fresher’s week. According to a friend of mine, you guys call it orientation week. But it’s also about drinking and partying, even though it sounds a bit more professional.

Anyway, help to organize it. You won’t regret it.

7. Use the “Can I Sit Here?” Approach in College Class

Learning how to approach a girl in college class is a bit tricky.

Be subtle. Be suave.

Start in the most innocent way possible. Walk into the class room and look out for a beautiful girl. Nobody says that you have to sit on the same damn chair in every lecture. Instead, sit next to a beautiful woman.

Ask her “can I sit here?”

Unless you’ve just eaten a stinky kebab, she’ll say “yeah, sure”. 

Now it’s time to get to know her. Introduce yourself. Make a couple of jokes. Get to know her. You can even make fun of your lecturer. As long as she smiles, you’re chances are high that she’ll bite when you throw the hook.

But be careful. The social pressure in class is high.

Here’s how to avoid stares from her friends, your friends, and the lecturer…

8. Use the “I’m so Hungry” Approach at the End of Class 

Get ready for the hook.

Here’s how to approach a girl for the first time in your college class:

You close the deal in an innocent but highly effective way. You don’t tell her how beautiful she is…at least not yet. First, you touch your stomach and say: “I’m so hungry.”

Smile at her.

If she likes you, she’ll say “I’m hungry, too.”

That’s the alley-oop you waited for. Now it’s time to catch the ball and slam it home. And it’s easy. You just have to invite her to join you.

“Come on. Let’s grab something to eat…”

She’ll follow you.

9. Be the Yes Man on College Campus  

Have you ever seen the movie “Yes Man” with Jim Carrey? 

God, I love this movie…

I don’t love it because it’s so funny (even though it is). I love it because it teaches a valuable life lesson…and a lesson about how to approach a girl in college.

The idea is simple.

You say “yes” to everything. Yes, to EVERYTHING.

Combined with the “I’m New Here” approach, this technique got me laid so many times in college. It’s insane. And it’s so simple. You say “yes” to live and by saying “yes” to live, you open a door with thousands of opportunities.

Suddenly, you spend more time with friends, their hot female friends, and your friends with benefits than playing video games and jerking off in your room.

So, do you want to approach hot college girls today?

Yes!

10. Make Female Friends to Approach Girls

Are you ready for another way to approach a girl at college?

Okay, I have to correct myself. This strategy is not about approaching ONE girl. It allows you to approach HUNDREDS of cute and sexy college girls. I already revealed it in the last section.

Can you guess what it is?

It’s time to put yourself in the friend zone.

Wait!!!

Don’t run away. Stay here. And don’t scream “you traitor, you goddamn asshole!” at your laptop. I’m not a traitor. Usually, I would never give such advice. But when it comes to picking up girls in college, it works like gangbusters.

Think about it:

It’s a numbers game. But it works. 

The numbers work in your favor because it’s a big-ass campus.

Are you ready to make friends and sleep with their friends?

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11. Organize a House Party and Talk to Every Girl 

Maybe you’re too lazy to meet so many new people.

That’s too bad because guess what…you can use my “I’m New Here” technique to meet more women than your phone and that thing between your legs could possibly handle. But hey, maybe you’re more into meeting girls at night.

Why don’t you organize a house party?

There are three rules for picking up college girls at a house party:  

In other words, don’t end up like this dude…

Make sure that your house or dorm or wherever you live doesn’t get destroyed. In case you live under a bridge, you can ignore this advice (how the fuck do you pay your tuition fees?).

The good news:

By throwing the house party is that your value goes from zero to hero. You just have to walk up to girls and introduce yourself as the host. All college girls want a piece of the host of the party. They want you to make a move. I know this from experience.

12. Approach Girls on Your Way from Building A to Building B 

This is still the best way to approach a girl in college.

These are all benefits of this approach. The only downside is that it can be time intensive.  And you have to be careful to not look like a creep. Just follow my advice and you’ll be the college Casanova instead of the college creep.

Here’s how to make this way of approaching girls at college work:

Why the limit?

Well, you don’t want to have the reputation of the college pickup artist. Or wait. Now that I think back to my college time, this reputation worked in my favor.

Have fun approaching girls in college!

13. Study Between Stacey and Lindsey

But don’t have too much fun!

Remember that you (or your parents) pay a shitload of money for your education. You can’t spend all day sleeping with girls. Okay, you can, but don’t forget to study. You’ll find time because Stacey leaves in the morning and Lindsey will come over in the evening.

What about the hours in between?

It’s study time!

I know, I know. Your college books are so freaking boring. I get it. But you need to study. You have to read something. Oh, I have an idea.

Why don’t you read the best dating & seduction book that has ever been written?

Once a day you deserve a break from approaching sexy college girls.

Summed Up Wisdom 

You want to know how to approach a girl at college and I don’t want to think back to my university time in Germany. I was a frustrated and terribly underfucked loser. But everything changed when I did my Master’s in England.

I introduced myself to everyone. I met so many people. Some of the girls were just friends. Some of these friends turned into friends with benefits. Heck, I even organized house parties. I did everything to succeed at picking up girls at college.

Suddenly, I was able to approach girls in class without being creepy. I even managed to get phone numbers in the library with me letter method. And I joined the weirdest clubs to get laid. It was a great time.