Don’t you think that learning how to not get friendzoned by a girl you like would improve your life?
Of course you do!
I bet you’ve tried everything in your power to not end up in the only zone that’s more terrifying than the Sahel Zone. You tried to sneak in the backdoor. Come on, you know exactly what I mean. You tried to be nice, to say what (you think) she wants to hear. You did everything.
But it didn’t work.
You don’t know why, but whenever you meet a woman, she sees you as nothing but a good friend…over and over again.
And hey, I know how that feels. A couple of years ago, I was the good friend. Always. Not one single girl I approached on the street, met in class, or got to know through my social circle wanted more from me than a shoulder to cry on when the asshole she had NOT friendzoned dumped her.
You know, that guy who actually slept with her.
Yep, I’ve had so many girls crying their eyes out on my shoulder, but none of them ever slept with me. It was a disaster. I don’t want you to suffer as much as I did for years. I want you to have the skills to NEVER AGAIN land in the zone millions of guys all over the world are trapped in like helpless hostages.
It’s time to change this vicious cycle once and for all!
That’s why you have to read this article and learn:
Are you ready?
Let’s transform you into one of the few guys who know how to not get friend zoned by a girl you like…
I Didn’t Always Know How to NOT Get Friendzoned by a Girl
But I was extremely good at getting friendzoned.
In fact, I was so good at it that I managed to land in this fucking zone (excuse my language) with a girl who wanted to sleep with me. Yes, she was waiting for me to make a move. She wanted it so bad.
And I messed up…big time.
Imagine the following scenario…
What happens next?
Well, I can tell you what happened next when I had this cute girl on my couch. Nothing happened because I put myself in the friend zone. And I did it fast. It took only five seconds until she lost all interest.
It was one of the most embarrassing experiences in my life.
Now that I think back to this time I have to chuckle. It’s funny because there was a time when I experienced this every single time. Nowadays, I couldn’t get friendzoned by a girl if I wanted it to happen (which I obviously don’t).
1. Realize That You Get Friendzoned in a Matter of Seconds
I recently got an email from a guy who asked the following question:
“When should I start to avoid the friend zone?”
It’s a simple question and here’s my simple answer:
Don’t ever ask yourself this question. It’s the wrong question to ask because not getting friendzoned by a girl starts from the moment you meet her. Like I said, it took me less than five seconds to destroy everything with the girl on my couch.
Some men can do it in three seconds.
You have to realize that ending up as a good friend is not a process. A single moment, a single mistake at the beginning of an interaction is all that is needed.
Whenever you think to yourself “how do I not get friendzoned by this girl?” and you are already talking to her for a couple of minutes…it’s usually too late.
But how do you do it?
How do you make her see you as a lover and not as a friend?
It’s all about the way you approach her…
2. Rip the Friendzone into Pieces with the Right Intent
What do you think of when you approach a woman?
Come on, be honest.
Do you think “I can get her” or do you think “she’s probably not interested”?
Do you think “I have what it takes” or do you think “I don’t have what it takes?”
Do you think “I want to seduce her” or do you think “I hope she looks at me”?
It’s all about your intent, baby!
If you approach a woman with the intent that you hope she looks at you and values your existence, you are already in the friend zone before you open your mouth. The thoughts in your head influence the results on the street…or wherever you approach her.
You want to know how to not get friendzoned by a girl you like, right?
Then you need the intent of a seducer and not of a friend.
A friend walks up to a woman thinking to himself “oh, well, it would be nice if she’d talk to me. But if not that’s okay. I have enough friends.” Yep, that’s true. You have enough male friends. However, I’m pretty sure that you don’t want to bang any of them (they are just too hairy).
No, you want to sleep with a beautiful woman.
That’s why you should walk up to her thinking to yourself “I have what it takes to get her and I want to seduce her.”
A woman can feel a man’s intent. Your job is to make her feel the right intent.
3. Give Compliments But Don’t Give Nice Compliments
Compliments are great.
Most of my sexual adventures started with “excuse me…” followed by a compliment. Yeah, compliments work and anyone who tells you that they don’t work is either lying or doesn’t know how to use them.
And here lies the problem.
Most guys watch infield pickup videos on YouTube and copy the openers word for word. Don’t get me wrong. That can work. But it doesn’t work when the compliment they copy is so innocent that even a nun would be happy to hear it.
“Excuse me. I just saw you and I had to talk to you. You look really nice.”
I bet you’ve seen and/or heard this compliment before.
Nice…mhhm….what the hell does that mean?
Imagine it for a second.
You’re looking for dating advice because you want to stop being the nice guy who doesn’t get laid. Then you watch a pickup video that tells you that you should use the word “nice” as a compliment.
Am I really the only one who sees the irony?
Heck, whenever I hear one of my coaching clients use the “you look really nice” compliment, I want to cut my throat and throw the rest of my body in melting lava. A flower looks nice. A building can look nice. Rise is nice.
It’s time to learn honest (and sexual) compliments that work. Hint: These compliments include words, such as beautiful, attractive, stunning, or gorgeous. None of these compliments include the word nice.
4. Reveal Your Strong Desire with Equally Strong Eye Contact
Let’s jump back to your intent.
You already learned that the right intent can make a huge difference. But you also have to understand that thinking is only one part of the equation. Showing is the second part that completes the equation.
The right thoughts + the right actions = the right outcome
What is the right outcome?
She sits on your lap, kisses you, and moves her hand under your shirt. I assume that this is the outcome you want. And in order to get there you need to show her that you want her on your lap.
Show it with your eyes.
Don’t look at her like a castrated puppy. Look at her like a tiger that hasn’t eaten in days.
Let her feel that you are not a friend.
Eyes are the window to the soul and she’ll see that your soul wants her phone number, a date, and her body…in that exact order.
5. Don’t Talk About What Friends Talk About
Now you can think about your intent and show it.
What’s the next step?
You open your mouth and you let the words flow. It’s great when it flows, but not when it flows in the wrong direction.
Let me give you an example:
Let’s say you approach a girl and you give her a compliment. Yes, a real compliment, not a “nice” one. She smiles and giggles. Then you start talking. You talk about her university, the city, and how nice it is outside. This goes on and on and on.
Here’s what you should have talked about instead:
Yes, talking about her kissable lips is better than talking about the weather because it’s sexual. And talking about her passions is even better because it’s emotional.
Seduction is a fine mix of sexual energy and emotions.
6. Turn Friendzoned into Loverzoned with One Touch
Do you touch your friends?
I don’t mean the occasional hug or shoulder tap. I’m sure you touch your female friends differently than your lovers. I certainly do, at least when I don’t sleep with them.
You probably do the same.
You don’t do any of these touchy feely things. She’s your friend. It would be weird. In the same way it would be weird if you didn’t do these things with a girl you want to sleep with. She doesn’t want to get touched by her friend, but she can’t wait to get touched by you.
Now you just have to know how to get her back to your place and how to make her so uncontrollably horny that she rips your and her clothes off.
I reveal all these things in my book Rise of the Phoenix.
7. Close the Deal if You Don’t Want Her to Friendzone You
A friend talks to her and wishes her a good day.
As a seducer, you don’t do that. You don’t let her walk away without getting her number. That would be insane. Sure, if you want to be friends with her, you can add her on Facebook or on Instagram. Then you’re one of 254 (on Facebook) or 35.922 (on Instagram) friends.
But you want to be her lover or her boyfriend.
Close the deal or go home. That’s the rule and if you don’t follow this rule, you’ll never learn how to not get friendzoned by a girl you like.
The moment you ask for her phone number, she knows what’s going on. She’s not stupid. Don’t think that she doesn’t know that you are not interested in being her Facebook friend. You want more and she wants it too.
Now you just have to know how to get her number.
8. Understand that Friends are Equal But Lovers are Not
What I’m about to say goes against everything you’ve learned in high school, college, and from popular news reporters.
Women don’t want to be treated equally.
The fastest way to get friendzoned is to be harmless and to give her the chance to lead you 50% of the time. I mean, that makes you and her equal, right?
Yep, it does. But it won’t get you laid.
Feminists don’t want to hear it, but women don't want to be leaders. They want to sleep with leaders.
They don’t sleep with 50/50 guys. That shit makes them dry like sand. Women will only see you as a lover instead of a friend if you lead them…100% of the time.
9. Block the Friendzone with Your Unfriendly Opinion
Have you ever been on a date and made THIS crucial mistake?
Imagine you are on a first date. She looks really yummy and you can already imagine how it would feel to get her out of her dress and kiss her body from head to toe. But you have to wait. The good news is that everything goes as planned.
Suddenly, she asks you a question.
It’s a question about politics and YOU KNOW that her opinion differs from yours. You know it because she showed up with a “Hillary for President” handbag. You want to tell her that the election is over and that you wouldn’t walk around with such a handbag, even if somebody would threaten to remove your fingernails if you don’t obey.
But you don’t say anything because you are afraid.
Do you know what women do with men who are afraid to say what’s on their mind?
They don’t respect them and they don’t sleep with them.
Say what you want to say, even if it’s “offensive”. Do it. You’ll be surprised at how many girls want to sleep with you even though (or maybe because?) you don’t agree with them.
Having the balls to play with fire is incredibly attractive.
10. Avoid all these Little Friendship Favors
Having the balls to say no is even more attractive.
I have a friend who recently told me that he’s totally into this one girl. When I asked him what he has done to get her, he listed a couple of things.
- 1He has helped her with her dissertation.
- 2He helped her with the contract for her apartment.
- 3He has helped her with…let’s end this misery here, okay?
All these little friendship favors are so nice and she is so thankful for what you do.
“Great! If she’s thankful, she will sleep with me to show her gratitude, right?” I hear you saying.
No, she won’t.
It won’t happen today, it won’t happen tomorrow, and it won’t happen in two years…unless you change the course. Please understand that a guy who has his hands in her cold and broken fridge will never have his fingers in her warm and wet vagina.
She might even tell you about the guys she sleeps with while you repair that goddamn thing.
You don’t want to be in this situation, believe me.
11. Don’t Be Available Whenever the Mistress Whistles
Do you know what also hurts?
Jumping whenever she says you have to jump.
You are not a monkey in a zoo. And you’re also not an obedient puppy who walks up to his mistress whenever she whistles. Unfortunately, that’s what most guys do when a hot girl wants something from them (Hint: remember what I said about all these little friendship favors).
The fastest way to make a woman lose respect for you and to force her to throw you in a cage with the sign “friend zone” on it is to be available 24/7.
You are a man with a busy schedule. You have an adventurous lifestyle, and whenever you are not traveling, partying, or working on your dream, you are reading articles about how to not get friendzoned by a girl you like.
If she knows that you are busy, that you have options, and that you have an interesting life WITHOUT her, she’ll do everything in her power to be a part of your life.
Summed Up Wisdom
There was a time when I needed to learn how to not get friendzoned by a girl more than I needed to breathe. Over and over again I found myself in this uncomfortable position. I was the tissue paper, nothing more.
When I realized that I was the one who put myself in this goddamn zone and that I did it within the first couple of seconds of an interaction, everything changed. I finally learned that my intent, my eyes, and the topics I chose to talk about had an impact.
I also learned the power behind the word “no” and what it means to have an amazing lifestyle. Women are attracted to men who live an interesting life. These men are leaders, not followers. And they never have to wonder about how to not get friendzoned by a girl.