What are the signs a girl wants you to approach her?
A smile is not enough.
Sorry, but that’s the truth. Most guys don’t believe me. They say “Sebastian, she smiled at me, she wanted me to approach her.” Well, sometimes. It depends on what she does after the smile…but more on that later.
Imagine the following situation:
You’re listening to music on your headphones while you’re walking down the street. You enjoy the song. It’s about a guy who finally meets his dream girl. Suddenly, you see her…your dream girl. She’s about to walk past you.
You instinctively turn your head.
Yes, you already know what you say because you’ve bought my book Rise of the Phoenix. And you downloaded the free bonus eBook Cocky Cold Approach Cheat Sheet. You’re ready to use one of the 72 openers that you find in this PDF.
“But what if she rejects me?” you say to yourself.
All I need is about seven minutes of your time and you’ll never ask this question again…
8 Signs a Girl Wants You to Approach Her and Talk to Her
Why is it important to know these signs?
The short answer:
It saves you a lot of time and pain.
The long answer:
You are basically immune against rejection, the certainty that she’s into you makes you feel more confident, and this results in more fun when approaching and talking to women.
Wow…that was a freaking long sentence.
But yeah, I’m serious. It’s way better to know what’s going on. Uncertainty leads to panic and panic is not good. The last thing you want is to panic before, while, and after talking to a girl. So calm the fuck down and learn the signs.
Remember what I said about the smiling girl?
Nothing is as it seems…
1. She Does the Smile Look Away Routine
You’re still in the same situation.
She’s about to walk past you. You turn your head and your eyes meet. You smile and she does the same. You can’t believe it. Jesus, you are in heaven. This beautiful girl just smiled at you. It feels so good to know that she’s into you.
Was that really one of the signs she want you to talk to her?
Maybe it was. Maybe it wasn’t. It depends on how she smiled. Some women smile because they want to be nice. They smile no matter if they talk to a guy they don’t care about or the love of their life. Not every smile is real.
The wrinkles around her eyes reveal the truth.
Okay, you can distinguish a fake smile from a real smile. But there’s more to it. You can tell if a woman wants you to approach her when she plays the Smile Look Away game. If she’s trapped in this routine, she wants you.
This is an obvious sign she wants you to talk to her.
2. She Nervously Plays with Everything
She can’t control it.
Take a look at her bracelet. Now take a closer look at her watch. And did you see what she just did with her hair? She plays with everything. When a woman plays with everything her body has to offer, she wants to play with everything your body has to offer.
It’s a simple physiological reaction:
She’s excited and the excitement needs a catalyst.
I’m serious. I once approached a girl who was the definition of shy. It was really cute. She touched her lips during the whole conversation. The only problem was that she had long fingernails. Eventually, she ended up cutting her lips with them.
She was so embarrassed.
I thought it was cute. That’s why I got her number.
She thought I was cute. That’s why she gave me a blowjob…one week later.
3. She Tries Everything to Be Close to You
She tries everything…really everything.
Have you ever been in the following situation?
You’re in a club with your friends. The beer is flowing as much as the conversations. You’re having a great time. Then it happens. While you’re talking to a friend, something touches you. You turn around and see the behind of a beautiful girl.
She turns around and says “I’m sorry”.
You continue the conversation with your friend. The club closes at 3 AM. Shit, another night without pussy. None of the girls liked you. Then it hits you. You think back to the moment where this girl said “I’m sorry”. She had a smile on her face.
Fuck, this was not an accident…
4. She Makes Cute Flirting Attempts
I love this.
When girls make these cute flirting attempts…it’s just amazing. I recently dated this cute Thai girl. I approached her in a mall. She was working in a smartphone shop. I didn’t want to get a smartphone. I wanted to get her.
As it turned out, she wanted to get me too.
How do I know that she didn’t just want to sell me a smartphone?
Well, she doesn’t get a commission. And she’s Thai. If you’ve ever been to a shop in Thailand you know that the sales people do everything in their power to not interact with a customer. Oh, and I went on a date with her.
What did she do on our first date?
You guessed it…more cute flirting attempts:
I had to hug her and lift her up. It was such an inconvenience.
5. She’s Talking to Her Friends But Looking at You
Signs a girl wants you to approach her
What if you want to talk to a girl in a group?
There are signs she wants you to approach her. It doesn’t matter if she’s talking to your friends, her friends, or her beloved grandmother Bernadette. It’s irrelevant who she talks to and what she talks about. There’s only one thing that matters.
Who does she look at?
She either focuses on the person (or people) she’s talking to or on you. If she looks at you even though she’s talking to someone else, she wants you. Of course, she’s not staring at you. That would be impolite. She has to pretend to listen to her conversational partner.
She tries. But she fails.
She can’t stop looking at you. Every couple of seconds her eyes move in your direction. Then she smiles. The smile lasts less than a second, but you can see it. Then she focuses on the conversation again…or at least she pretends.
She has to pretend because you’re all she can think of.
6. She Slows Down for You
This is one of the most obvious signs she wants you to talk to her.
Most men don’t see it.
That’s the tragedy. Even some of my one-on-one coaching clients don’t believe me when I show them what’s obvious. And yes, I admit it. It’s not easy to see. In fact, when you’re the one who’s approaching AND you are nervous, it’s almost impossible.
But it happens…more often than you think.
It’s always the same game:
You see a girl you’re really attracted to. You want to approach her, but she walks really fast. The Game Gods provide you with one second. She looks into your eyes. You smile. She smiles too. Now she knows that you exist and what you want.
What does she do next?
She slows down for you. Yep, she gives you the chance to hunt her down. You don’t have to run anymore. She wants you to succeed. This is the moment when you have to take action. Stop hesitating and start escalating.
She slowed down because she wants you to do exactly that.
7. She Keeps Standing When You Look at Her
Slowing down is only the beginning.
Here’s how to tell if a woman wants you to approach her:
She keeps standing.
Nope, she doesn’t move. It doesn’t happen often, but it happened to me. I still remember this one girl. We were holding eye contact in the underground. I was standing at the one end and she was standing at the other end.
The eye contact and the smiles were intense.
Here’s what happened:
As soon as we reached the next station and the door opened, I walked out. I walked out fast because she got out. I had one more station left, but fuck it. I had to talk to this girl. The moment I walked out of the underground, I knew that she wanted it too.
She was standing there, just standing.
She only started walking when I had almost reached her…to make it look as if she wasn’t waiting.
Needless to say, I got her number.
8. She Follows You (I’m Not Kidding)
No, this is not a joke.
This is a clear sign a girl wants you to approach her. That’s when you turn from being the hunter to the hunted one. It doesn’t happen often, but it happened to me. I think only once or twice. But when it happens, it’s freaking awesome.
Here’s what happened with this one girl:
I saw her in my shitty German hometown. Back then I was shy as hell. I was a bloody beginner and she was too beautiful for me…so I thought. That’s why I looked at her, looked away, and didn’t approach her. Yep, I chickened out.
For some reason, she was into me.
Here’s what she did:
“This can’t be a coincidence” I thought to myself.
It wasn’t. Thank God I grew some balls and approached her. I seduced her the next day.
How did I seduce her?
Summed Up Wisdom
What are the signs she wants you to talk to her? Well, she might play with everything her body has to offer. Or she will follow you. But let’s face it. The second option is pretty rare. It’s way more likely that she doesn’t move.
What if she smiles at you? I hope it’s a real smile. Pray to the Game Gods that she smiles at you, looks away, and smiles again. That’s the best damn thing that can happen. It’s even better when she checks you out while she’s talking to her friends.
And don’t think that it’s a coincidence that she’s standing right behind you. It’s not. Enjoy the fact that she wants to be close to you and enjoy her flirting attempts. There’s nothing cuter than a girl who tries to flirt with you because she wants you to approach her.