How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams

You want to know how to get the girl of your dreams and I’m pretty sure she looks like her…

Or maybe like her….

Hell, I might be wrong and she looks like her…

I don’t know what type of woman you prefer. I mean, it would be nice if you shared your thoughts in the comments below. Then I know. For now, I have to guess. But it doesn’t really matter because it’s not important that I know how she looks like.

All that matters is that I show you how to get her.

“Yeah Sebastian, the other guys said the same and I still don’t have her.” I hear you saying.

Well, what can I say? I’m not like the other guys. I’m the German (and white) version of Hitch and I know how to pull it off. I know it because I’ve done it. In fact, my dream girl is lying next to me right now…and rolling her eyes because of my stupid Hitch comment.

Here’s how my history looks like:

Okay, I have to admit something. It wasn’t luck. Eventually, I figured out how to use the right mindset, the right techniques, and the right thought process to pull the girl of my dreams. The journey was worth it.

You can do the same because…

Are you ready to attract the woman of your dreams?

Let’s dive right in…

How to Find the Woman of Your Dreams by Seeing Her in Your Mind

You need to have a clear picture in your mind.

Wanting to know how to get the girl of your dreams without knowing your target is like starting a business without knowing your target audience. It will fail. And you don’t want to fail. You want to make her yours.

Remember the pictures I shared with you at the beginning?

Look at them again and ask yourself:

And no, that’s not racist. This is what you need to do in order to find out who you are looking for. Of course, her looks are only the beginning. Think about her personality. Think about the way she interacts with other people.

Write down the answers on a piece of paper until you know exactly how your dream girl looks, feels and thinks. You can do it in 20 minutes or less. Try to ignore other people’s opinion and write down what YOU want.

Do you have a clear picture in mind?  

Awesome! Now it’s time to find, pursue and get this girl…

How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams by Taking Action

I’m not the biggest fan of Tony Robbins, but this is true:  

The path to success is to take massive, determined actions. – Tony Robbins

Or to say it in a more old-fashioned way:

God provides the wind, but man must raise the sails. – St. Augustine

Okay, okay. I stop throwing around smart-ass quotes. I promise. But I won’t stop telling you what you don’t want to hear but need to hear. I won’t say that learning how to get the girl of your dreams is easy. All I say is that it’s worth it.

Thank God I’m German. Structure is pumping through my veins. And thanks to years of failure with women, I learned to apply this structured thinking as a dating coach.

Here’s your step-by-step plan to get the girl of your dreams…

1. Refuse to Settle for Less than Your Dream Girl 

I know. You’ve heard it before.

The advice “don’t settle” has become such a buzz phrase. The only problem: Nobody knows what it actually means. In fact, a lot of people get it all wrong. They think that it’s about NEVER settling down. Uhhh…settling is bad!

That’s not true at all.

There’s nothing wrong with that. The danger, however, is to settle down before you find what you are looking for. You don’t want to end up singing U2’s “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for” for the rest of your life.

Here’s the mindset you need to have:

It’s that simple. You already know how she looks, feels and thinks. Now you just have to keep your goal in mind and resist the temptation to settle for less. And I know how tempting this can be. Heck, that’s why so many guys get married to the wrong woman.

Don’t do that!

Don’t settle until you’ve found what you were looking for.

2. Find Your Dream Girl at Your Favorite Places  

Where do you find your dream girl?

It depends.

I know. That’s not the answer you want to hear. But it’s true. If you are an extroverted party animal you might meet her at a house party. What if you’re an introverted bookworm like me? Forget about the party and approach girls in bookstores.

Here’s the golden rule:

Look for your dream girl where you want to find her.

Let’s be honest. You don’t want to find her on Tinder (you’d be guy number 189) and you also don’t want to find her at the club (she has an obvious alcohol problem). Go to places YOU are interested in.

Why? Because we like people who are like us!

It’s very simple:

I love books and that’s why I met the most amazing girls in bookstores. That’s how it works.  

3. Impress the Girl of Your Dreams with Honesty 

You don’t just want to find her. You also want to impress her.

How do you do it?

You play the “let’s do the opposite” game. You do the opposite of what other guys do. I mean, she’s beautiful. She has to be because she’s your dream girl. Unfortunately, beautiful women are used to dishonest men.

At the end of a conversation with such a phony, she believes that she met the nicest best friend on earth…while he thinks about the best way to sneak into her panties.

Don’t do this, my friend.

You’re a Global Seducer, a real man, a warrior. You fight with honesty.

Okay, don’t say “I want to make sweet love to her”. Instead, use one of these compliments. But let her know. She deserves honesty.

4. Talk to the Girl of Your Dreams with Big Words 

Please choose one of the following two lifestyles:

These two sentences have the same structure and almost the same length. The only difference is the usage of words. Words have power. Use them and they can have the power to make the girl of your dreams fall for you.

Forget about small words. Use big words.

Use words that excite her and inspire her. Delight her with your words and she will delight you with her affection, kisses, and with her body.  

5. Meet the Girl of Your Dreams at Your Favorite Date Venue 

You want to meet her again, right?

Now that you found her, talked to her, and impressed her with your stories, adventures, and anecdotes. You want to turn your first official meeting (man, that sounds serious) into the perfect first date.

The core principle doesn’t change.

She is YOUR dream girl. Therefore, she should like the things you like. I know, we’ve all heard that opposites attract. And that might be true. But I’m sure you’re not looking for your dream girl because you want a one-night stand. A hot chick would be good enough for that.

You want a relationship with this woman and that’s why you should…

Let’s say you are totally into basketball. You have posters on your wall and you’d marry Kobe Bryant if he proposed to you. You start the date at the café and after that you take her to a basketball court. You just want to walk around and see how she reacts.

What if she loves it?

You can take her to the game next weekend. Things are looking good

6. Pursue the Girl of Your Dreams with the Right Techniques

Pickup lines are totally overrated.

Seduction techniques, however, are underrated. I guess it’s because the expression “seduction technique” sounds a bit like a scam. I don’t know. All I know is that some techniques work hundred times better than any pickup line you could think of.

Here are some examples:

7. Attract the Woman of Your Dreams with the Dream Guy Formula 

Imagine you’re a casting agent and you represent an actor.

You want to get him the leading part in a romantic comedy movie. Unfortunately, he’s less popular and less crazy than Tom Cruise. That’s why you need to sell him. You need to talk about his positive qualities.

This is the mindset you need to have.

You want to get your dream girl and you want her for more than one night. Yep, you want that boyfriend title. And you can get that title. But only if she can tick the boyfriend boxes in her mind. Come on. Let her tick the boxes.

Keep in mind that attracting the woman of your dreams with the boyfriend formula is different than getting a one-night stand with a drunk party girl on a Saturday night. Imagine her ideal boyfriend. Then be this guy.

8. Use the Power of Mind Control to Get with the Girl of Your Dreams 

“Sebastian, are you out of your mind?” I hear you asking.

I’m always out of my mind. But that’s not the point. I know that the term “mind control” sounds a bit too voodoo for you. But don’t worry. I won’t tell you to implant an AI chips under your dream girl’s skin that work as a remote control…I first have to consult Elon Musk.

Mind control is much simpler than that.

The idea is to put thoughts and images in her mind that make her desire you. I’m sorry if it’s not sensational enough for you, but that’s really all it is. And it gets even better. It’s really easy to do it.

Let me give you some examples:

What do you think will happen?

She wants you to cuddle her while watching a funny movie. Then she’ll want to do romantic things with you. And yes, passionate lovemaking is as romantic as it gets.

9. Win Over the Girl of Your Dreams with Emotional Warfare 

War is coming.

Oh wait, that was winter, right?

Anyway, you’re ready for combat. And no, you don’t need armor or a sword. Okay, you need your sword later when she’s in your bed...but for now you are enough. Yes, you and your emotions.

It’s time for emotional warfare and for…

Here are some examples (in case it sounds too abstract for you):

That’s what makes her fall for you!

You can’t win over the girl of your dreams by talking about the weather, politics, and Donald Trump’s haircut. Emotions are what close the deal.

10. Pull the Girl of Your Dreams with Untamed Masculinity  

Here’s what you’ve accomplished so far:

Remember how I said that you’ll need your sword?

Emotional warfare is not enough. At some point you have to get physical. And no, I’m not talking about wrestling…even though that can be fun too. But let’s start small. Let’s start with your beliefs about yourself.

If the answer to any of these questions is a reluctant “no”, you have to check out my book. In this book I share everything from touching to kissing to taking her clothes off. That’s what she wants you to do.

It’s time to unleash your inner lion and to…

11. Date the Girl of Your Dreams by Staying on Course 

You want to be with her for a very long time, am I right?

Learning how to get the girl of your dreams is just the beginning. You also have to know how to keep her. And that, my friend, is the hard part. That’s why I dedicated a whole chapter in my book to this challenge and that’s why I decided to share the most important tip with you right now.

Stay on course!

Here’s what I mean by that:

This is one of the most crucial mistakes men make. They pretend to be someone else and then they wonder why they lose their dream girl. Well, if you order a Big Mac and you get a McChicken, you’re not happy.

Don’t suddenly change.

That’s not what she signed up for.  You were a Big Mac on the first date. So stay a Big Mac. Continue to be the man she fell in love with.

12. Get the Woman of Your Dreams with THIS Attitude  

What if the next woman you meet is NOT the girl of your dreams?

She most likely isn’t.

Please don’t think that every girl has this potential. In fact, thinking that the next girl you meet is the woman of your dreams can be a huge mistake. You have to kiss a lot of frogs until you meet your princess…who’s hopefully not a prince in disguise.

I want to end this article with an important message:

We both know that getting the girl of your dreams has absolutely nothing to do with luck…

Summed Up Wisdom 

You want to know how to get the girl of your dreams. I’m sure she’s hot. But she’ll age. That’s why you have to be fast and look for her at your favorite places. And please don’t try to impress her with a sports car. Impress her with honesty.

I hope you promised yourself to not settle before you find her. Never give up. It doesn’t matter if you take one girl after another to your favorite date venue. Maybe nice out of ten hate it. One will love it. She’s the one.

But you still have to seduce her. And yes, seduction techniques are incredibly powerful. So is emotional warfare. Oh, and don’t forget to get physical. Nothing is better than a passionate kiss at the end of the first date.