“I want to date a black woman, but…”
Does that sound familiar to you?
It does to me.
A couple of months ago I published an article that answers the question “Do black girls like white men?” Thanks to the almighty power of Mother Google, this innocent article ranks number one…after it has been shared all over the internet.
Sometimes I wish that I didn’t publish that goddamn thing because now I get emails every week from white guys who want to date black women.
Don’t get me wrong. I love to get these emails. I love to help. And I love to hear from men who have the courage to admit that they are insanely attracted to dark-skinned women. These emails make me happy.
Or let’s say that these emails would make me happy if 90% of them didn’t end with three letters that give me the chills.
There’s always a “but”!
I know that you agree with me that black women are beautiful. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article.
However, I also know that you do NOT agree with me when I say that it’s easy to meet, attract, and date black girls. And again…otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article.
You would be too busy kissing and cuddling your black girlfriend.
Imagine how you would feel if here was no “but”. Imagine how it would feel to kiss, cuddle, and fuck (nothing wrong with that) the black woman of your dreams.
In case this image makes you smile, you are ready to find out how you can become one of the few white guys who can confidently say “I love my black girlfriend more than anything in the world.”
So You Want to Date a Black Woman?
You have issues.
Sorry, but there’s really no other way I can say it.
If you belong to the group of white guys who say “I want to date a black woman” and you always put a “but” at the end of this sentence, you have at least one issue.
It doesn’t really matter what comes after the “but”. Usually, it’s nothing but a limiting belief that you keep telling yourself. It’s an idea that you either heard from friends, the media, or your parents, that does not represent the truth.
I dated black women in the past.
As a white man you have to deal with all kinds of doubts, stereotypical thoughts and worries. That’s just how it is.
Most white men have these doubts. Most of them are conditioned from a young age and hard to overcome. However, you need to overcome them in order to meet, attract and date your African dream girl.
There’s really no way around it…
1. I Want to Date Black Girls But They Don’t Like White Guys
I call bullshit.
So, I have this article that ranks number one in Google for the phrase “Do black girls like white men”. And I still get emails from guys who ask me whether or not African (American) women want to date Caucasian men.
For some inexplicable reason, millions of white guys believe that they don’t have a chance with black women.
Why? Please, tell me why.
Most black women love white guys, even the ones in South Africa…
They really do.
I know so many dark-skinned girls who would love to date a white guy. The problem is that nobody approaches them because they all think that they don’t have a chance.
It makes me sad to think about all the swirl relationships that will never happen because of white men who think that black women are not into them.
2. I Want to Date a Black Woman But I’m Not a Racist
I have dated black women in the past, but I’m not a racist.
Robert de Niro is married to a black woman and as far as I know he’s also not a racist.
Listen, just because a white man prefers to date black women doesn’t mean that he’s a racist. The fact that you are physically attracted to African women doesn’t mean that you have an evil slave fetish, no matter how many overweight white feminists tell you that you have one.
Being attracted to a specific race is OKAY.
There’s nothing wrong with you. In the same way as black men can be attracted to white women, white men can be attracted to black women. There’s nothing wrong with having a girlfriend from another race.
Please don’t believe these ridiculous articles that claim that every white man who’s into black women secretly wants to oppress and exploit them because of their slave fetish.
This way of thinking doesn’t help to improve the relationship between black and white people
I know many white guys who are together with black women and the only way the “oppress” them is by showing them how much they love them. I’m sure you would do the same.
3. I Want to Date a Black Woman But I’m Not a Social Justice Warrior
I understand that you don’t want to be seen as a racist with a weird slave fetish, but if I were you I’d be even more afraid to be seen as a Social Justice Warrior.
Yep, I’m referring to the universally loved group of people who think that everything in the whole wide world is oppressed and exploited while ignoring every form of logic and rational thinking.
These guys appear to be so progressive, but they just hide their own self-hate under a thick blanket with the imprint “I want to save the world”. They want the attention that mommy never gave them and they do everything for a few Facebook likes.
The shocking truth is that some white men think that becoming one of these weirdos is the only way to attract black women.
Social Justice Warriors make it a lot harder for normal white men to date black women.
- I received emails from white men who asked me if they have to pretend to be a Social Justice Warrior in order to attract black women.
- I received even more emails from black women who told me that they are scared to date white men because they might end up in bed with a Social Justice Warrior
“But why are black women afraid to date a Social Justice Warrior?”
Well, because they know that such a man doesn’t love them. They just love the idea of being in a progressive relationship.
I received so many emails from black women who were terrified of ending up in bed or in a relationship with a white Social Justice Warrior.
Believe me. You don’t need to become one in order to attract black women.
4. I Would Love to Date a Black Woman But I Don’t Know Where to Meet One
As someone who is living in the USA, it’s relatively easy to meet black women. You just have to take a walk in the city and you’ll see dozens of African American women.
But what if you are an American and you want to date a traditional African woman who hasn’t been born and raised in the USA?
And what if you live in Europe and you want to meet stunning black women?
You can’t just leave your apartment and approach the first woman. That’s not how it works in most parts of Europe. There are simply not a lot of black women.
Thank God there is the internet.
No matter if you are living in the USA, Europe or in any other part of the world, you can easily meet black women from all over the world.
You don’t believe me?
You see, there’s no reason to put a “but” at the end of the sentence “I want to date black women”.
Meeting the right girl can’t get any easier.
5. I Want to Date a Black Girl But I Don’t Know How to Ask her Out
Don’t make such a big deal out of it.
She’s a normal woman, not an alien. And she’s also not the aggressive, loud, and bitchy black girl that you see in every low-budget reality TV show.
Okay, I don’t have a lot of experience talking to African American women, but black girls from other countries are definitely NOT like the ones you see on TV, at least the ones who are into white guys.
They are friendly, they smile and they giggle when a white guy approaches them.
You can even get away with a compliment about her hair. In fact, they love compliments about their hair and about their beautiful dark-skin.
Many black women have insecurities about their natural hair. Tell her how much you love it and she’ll want to date you.
6. I Want to Date a Black Woman But I’m Afraid of What People Think
There’s only one solution for this problem:
Stop giving a fuck of what others think of you.
I want to be honest with you: Unless you stop caring about what other people think about you, your relationship, and your girlfriend, you can throw your “I want to date a black woman” dream in the trash.
With this attitude, you won’t be able to attract her.
She wants to be together with a man who shows the world how much he loves her whenever someone says something hurtful. She doesn’t want to waste her life with a little boy who cares more about what other people think than about what he feels.
Grow some balls and be proud of your beautiful black girlfriend.
7. I Would Date a Black Girl But My Parents Don’t Want Me to Date a Black Woman
“My parents don’t want me to date a black woman…”
This can be a problem.
However, just because you think that your parents would kill you and set your corpse on fire if you dated a black woman, doesn’t mean that they would really do it.
I have talked to quite a few guys who were terribly afraid to date an African woman because of one racist joke that their dad made five years ago. I remember one guy who sent me an email in which he listed all the things his father would do to him.
I told him to talk to his father. He followed my advice and it turned out that he was totally okay with it. Talk before you worry.
Nevertheless, there are cases that are a bit more problematic. Just imagine if you had a dad who’s a member of the KKK. That can get nasty.
In the worst case you have to choose between your family and the woman you love.
Only you can make this decision.
8. I Would Love to Date a Black Woman But I Don’t Want to Be a Dad
Who said that you have to be a daddy?
Oh, I see. You’ve read dozens of articles about those bad, bad black single moms. You are afraid that black women are only into white guys because they are looking for a provider for their children.
I’m sorry to say this but your fear is not unfounded. The uncomfortable truth is that 72% of all African American mothers are single moms.
Nevertheless, there are millions of beautiful and educated dark-skinned women who don't have children.
What if you can’t find one?
Then you should finally find out where to meet black women who are looking for white men and chat with some beautiful African ladies from abroad.
9. I Would Love to Date a Black Woman But I Don’t Have Swag
“Young moolah baby!”
Don’t worry. Even if you’ve never heard that expression, you can still get a black girlfriend. You don’t need to run around screaming incomprehensible gibberish while stumbling over your own baggy pants.
In fact, pretending to have the swag of a black man will work against you.
I’m serious. There’s nothing more embarrassing than a white dude who tries to act black…and fails miserably.
You also need to understand that not all black women are ass-shaking hoes who are attracted to mentally retarded rappers. In fact, most educated African women would never date such a guy. Maybe some African American women, but black women from other parts of the world would rather chop off their fingers.
You don’t need to have swag and you also don’t need to be ghetto (whatever the hell these two things mean). The only reason why black women are attracted to white men is because they are different.
Be yourself. Be the dorky white dude that you are. Black girls love you for it.
10. I Want to Date a Black Woman But Not a “Strong” and “Independent” One
These memes are all over the internet. And to be honest, as much as I love black women, I wouldn’t date a girl like her. I’m sure you wouldn’t either.
And you don’t have to.
You don’t have to because you are white.
I know that what I’m about to say is controversial, but I have to say it anyway.
There are two theories why you, as a white man, don’t have to deal with the loud and aggressive black woman that is portrayed in the media.
- 1. Black women act differently when they are around white men.
- 2. Black women who are into white guys are different.
I don’t believe in the first theory, even though a lot of black men use it as an excuse (sorry, but that’s true).
In fact, I know from my own experience that a disrespectful woman, no matter if she’s black or white, will treat both black men and white men disrespectfully. That’s just how it is.
I do, however, believe in the second theory and so does she:
A black woman who is into white guys is different, has different interests and wants different things in life.
She wants a white guy who appreciates her, celebrates her and treats her with respect.
Let me know in the comments below if you are that kind of guy…
Summed Up Wisdom
It’s great that you admit that you are into black women. I encourage you to date whoever the hell you want and if you are into dark-skinned women, more power to you. However, you can only attract women if you reach a point where you don’t have to end the sentence “I want to date a black woman” with “but”.
You need to realize that a lot of black girls are into white guys and that you don’t need swag or gold chains to attract them. You also have to realize that being attracted to dark-skinned girls doesn’t mean that you’re a racist. Oh, and the black women who want to date you are very different than the ones you see on TV.