"Do black girls like white men?"
I am a white guy and some black girls take my breath away.
UPDATE 23.07.2016: At the end of this article (right before the summed up wisdom) you can find a case study of one of my readers who found the black woman of his dreams. Make sure to check it out!
And no, just because I am also into Asian girls doesn’t mean that I despise black women. During the year that I spent studying in the UK I dated two extremely gorgeous dark-skinned women.
I like their beautiful brown skin, their hearty smile and to be completely honest, I love how their skin smells like vanilla.
It is okay for me if you want to call me a weirdo for saying that black girls smell like vanilla, but it is not okay if you are a white guy who is totally into black girls and you have never dated one because you are convinced that they don’t like you.
Unfortunately, a lot of white men believe this lie and according to Google more than 1000 desperate white guys ask the one question that, if answered correctly, can change their dating life forever…
Short Disclaimer: Before I get ignorant racist comments I want to say that I support white guys who want to date outside their race in the same way as black guys who want to date outside their race. However, I am white and that’s why I write this article from my point of view. In case you are a black guy and you want to write about black men dating white women, feel free to contact me and send me your article. I’d be happy to publish it.
Do Black Girls Like White Men?
The short answer is:
Yes, a lot of black girls like white men.
I can’t even tell you how many dark-skinned women I have met who were totally into white guys. In case you don’t believe me, I want you to switch on your computer, laptop or tablet and type “interracial celebrity couples” into Google.
What you will find are women like the actress Tara Wilson who is married to a white guy. You will find actress Zoe Saldana who is married to a white guy. You will find Tina Turner who is married to a white guy who has the same weird accent as I have.
After you have looked through countless celebrity gossip websites you can head over to Facebook. What you will find is the Black Women Who Love White Men Period Facebook Group.
Yes, this Facebook group has more than 30.000 members and countless pictures of happy black girls with their white boyfriends or husbands. In case you are still not convinced that black girls actually like white guys, you can look through popular forums.
What you will find there are frustrated, confused and clueless black girls who ask themselves the following question:
Oh, and of course you will also find a lot of entries from Caucasian guys who ask themselves the important question that I want to answer in this article:
The proof is there.
Facebook groups with over 30.000 active members, beautiful African American celebrities who date a white guy, desperate forum members who ask themselves why they can’t find a white guy AND countless white guys who ask Google “do black girls like white men?” because they want to know if they have a chance with the dark-skinned woman of their dreams.
So why is it then that white men are the least likely to marry someone outside their own race, especially when it comes to marrying black girls?
Why is it then that black female white male couples are still so rare, even though both races are obviously attracted to each other?
Well, I can only speak from my own experience.
During the time I dated black girls I learned that many of them are attracted to white guys. Through conversations with the female friends of the girls I dated I also found out that many of them secretly fantasized about dating a white guy.
However, I also found out why there are still so many white guys who ask themselves “do black girls like white men?” while they gaze a after a black girl who would never admit who she is really attracted to.
The Misconceptions about Black Girls Who Like White Men
There are in fact reasons why black girls write about how much they love white guys in anonymous forums and Facebook groups, but why only a handful of them are brave enough to upload a picture with their white boyfriend.
One of those reasons are the misconceptions that our society has about black girls who decide to date white guys. Unfortunately, a lot of beautiful black women have been conditioned by those lies and started to believe them.
You should be proud of yourself for ignoring the misconceptions and for going for what you really want.
A lot of the misconceptions that I am going to talk about in the following lines can also be directly used to answer the question “do white men like black girls?” but that’s fuel for another article.
Let’s have a look at why there are still so many white guys who wonder if they have a chance with black girls, while the African girls who are secretly into them are too shy to even look at them.
They Hate to Be Black
One of the biggest misconceptions about black girls who are into white guys is that they all hate themselves.
They hate to be black. That’s why they don’t date a black man. They think they are ugly. That’s why they try to increase their self-confidence by dating a white guy. They don’t want their children to be dark-skinned. That’s why they would do everything to end up marrying a white guy.
Whenever I dated a black girl I heard those accusations.
You might think that my white friends warned me from ending up in a relationship with a black girl by saying those things, but the shocking truth (at least shocking for me) was that HER friends said those things.
Even though I might risk getting one or two hate comments by saying the truth, I want to say it anyway:
Whenever someone told me that the girl I dated was only together with me because she hated herself and her race, it was another black girl who said that, sometimes even close friends. If my friends would say such things behind my back I would look out for new friends.
Anyway, I addressed this topic and eventually found out that none of the black girls I was dating hated themselves or the color of their skin. Nevertheless, I also discovered the sad truth that there are in fact some black women who hate the color of their skin:
Thankfully, the majority of black girls, at least the ones I met in the UK, embraced their color. The only thing they really hated was the label that other black people would give them as soon as they would date outside of their race.
They Betray Their Own Race
“There must be something wrong about her. Why isn’t she dating a black man? There are so many good-looking black men and she is holding the hand of this white bread. It’s a shame.”
In case you have ever dated a black girl and you were standing right next to two old black men who enjoy gossiping about you, you have probably already heard the words I just shared with you.
I don’t know why but for some reason a lot of people, especially old black people, tend to believe that all black women must naturally be attracted to black guys and ONLY black guys. Dating someone outside of their race seems to be the proof that something is wrong with her.
In the same way as white guys who date Asian women are labeled as creepy sex tourists, black women who date white guys are seen as race traitors who have some serious mental issues.
We live in a crazy world.
They Want to Brag About Dating a White Guy
Another popular misconception about dark-skinned ladies who decide to date a white bread like me is that they just do it because they want to brag about dating a white guy. I know that this misconception is contradictory to the above mentioned allegations, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t an issue.
In the same way as some people believe that white guys only date outside of their race because they want to get the “exotic girl” high five from their buddies, it is believed that black girls hunt white guys as a trophy.
While this might be true for some girls (It would be great if a black lady would shine some light on this in the comments), it is definitely not true for all of them. From ten women who date a white guy their might be one who does it because she wants to be the first in her social circle who has a white boyfriend.
Of course that’s enough to generalize it…
They Have a Slave Fetish
Now we come to the one misconception that, in my experience, is the most painful allegation that a black girl who dates a white guy has to survive.
I still remember the day when one so-called friend of the girl I was dating made her cry by asking her one brutal question.
“You like to be a slave to your master, right?”
It was a black guy who said that, but I am pretty sure that there are also a lot of white guys who would say stuff like that.
These are the kind of sentences that have the power to destroy a beautiful relationship.
These are the words that make black girls all over the world think twice before they date a white guy, even though that’s what they want to do.
How Her Family Tries to Convince Her to Not Like You
Now you know how our society influences black girls to answer the questions “do you like white men?” with “umm, nah, not really. That would be weird”.
The problem is that the society we live in is not the only force that prevents beautiful dark-skinned women from admitting their sexual preferences. Don’t think that society is the worst, before you have met her parents.
I was fortunate enough to meet the parents of both black girls I dated.
The parents of girl number one welcomed me with open arms. They had absolutely no problem with the color of my skin.
When I met the parents of the second black girl I dated, things looked a bit different. Her father opened the door, looked at me with despite and I was treated like shit. Eventually, her family was a major reason why the relationship failed.
I could only hear fractions of the debate she had with her father, but here were the two most painful sentences I can remember:
“You are a disgrace to our family!”
Yes, that’s exactly what he said to his daughter.
Just imagine if you would come home with a black girlfriend and your father would tell you that you are a disgrace to the family, that he will throw you out if you don’t break up with her and that you are not his son anymore.
I am pretty sure that your motivation to openly admit that you are into black girls will be as low as it has ever been. The same was true for the girl I was dating.
We lost contact, but I am pretty sure that she would tell any white guy who would ask her if she likes white men, that she never has and never will.
“That’s Not What Martin Luther King Died For!”
Speaking of the race traitor thing…
I was completely speechless when I heard this sentence. Her dad actually said “that’s not what Martin Luther King died for”. Despite the proven fact that Martin Luther King didn’t say anything against interracial relationships, this statement shows how narrow-minded people, no matter if black or white, still are.
I don’t say that you should forget what happened in the past.
All I ask for is to move on and to embrace the fact that interracial dating is in fact legal, instead of taking one step back by condemning it.
How She Convinces Herself Not to Like You
As if the misconceptions that our society still propagates and her family members weren’t enough, the answer to the question “do black women like white guys?” is also accompanied by a lot of worries and anxieties that she has to battle with.
On the one hand, a lot of those anxieties and worries are based on the social conditioning and the family beliefs that she has been exposed to. On the other hand, some of those anxieties are closely related to her own negative experiences and the negative experiences that other black girls made.
She Worries About What Her Friends and Family Would Think
Now that you have read my experience with the dad who called his daughter a disgrace to his family, you hopefully understand why a lot of black women are worried about what her family thinks.
“Will they accept him?”
“Will they like him?”
“Will they still respect me?”
These are all questions that a dark-skinned girl who just thinks about dating a white guy asks herself. Just imagine the fear, the worries and the crippling anxieties a woman who knows that her parents are extremely narrow-minded and ignorant when it comes to interracial dating has to deal with.
It is really hard to admit something when the peer pressure and the family pressure are too high. At the same time it is very easy to deny something in order to be liked by your friends and family.
She Believes that White Men Don’t Like Black Girls
The uncomfortable truth that a lot of black girls I talked with about this issue confirmed is that many dark-skinned women don’t think that any white man would be attracted to them. Even though they secretly dream about being in a relationship with a white guy, they would never give them any signs of attraction, because they think that they have no chance.
Yes, it is messed up. While thousands of white guys ask themselves whether or not the black ladies they are so into like them, the same black women think that no white guy would ever consider dating them.
I made the experience that the darker the skin of the girl was, the more she was convinced that no white man would be attracted to her.
I actually talked to one extremely dark-skinned and at the same time incredibly beautiful woman who thought that white men are disgusted by the color of her skin.
In case you are a guy who loves dark-skinned girls with uncontrollable curly hair, the following video and the encouraging comments show that you are not the only one:
Unfortunately, a lot of dark-skinned girls still believe that white men look at them with disgust. This makes it impossible for them to ever admit that they like white men.
It is your job as a white guy who is into black women to change this. Tell the dark-skinned beauties you see that they are indeed beautiful.
She is Afraid that You Will Act Black (And Embarrass Her)
This concern is actually funny and serious at the same time. It is funny, because there are in fact white guys who think that they have to “act black” in order to win the heart of a black woman. Thanks to their narrow-minded idea of acting black, they walk around in baggy pants, listen to Tupac and put “though” after every sentence.
During the dating process this idiotic behavior can be quite funny and entertaining; at least when I can believe the black women I talked to. However, this can become a serious issue if the naïve white bread acts like that when he meets her friends, or even worse, her parents.
One girl told me that her father threw her boyfriend out of the house, because he acted like a complete retard. All he wanted was to act black, while her father, who had a doctor’s degree, interpreted it as the most disrespectful behavior he had ever seen.
Believe it or not, but there are quite a few black ladies who are afraid of getting embarrassed by their white boyfriends who think that acting like Lil Wayne is the key to acceptance in a black family.
If she is afraid that you will act black, she will never reveal that she wants to date white.
She is Afraid to Be the Bed Bunny and Never the Girlfriend
Okay, now we come to a serious reason why a black girl might not admit that she is into you, even though she totally is.
It is okay to not want a girlfriend. It is okay to keep it casual and it is also okay to have a one night stand with a woman without marrying her the next day. All those things are totally fine no matter if she is black, white or yellow. As long as you are honest about your intentions, there is nothing wrong with any of that.
The only problem is that a lot of white guys have to battle with the same misconceptions, conditioning and fears that black girls have to battle with. As a result, they often hide or deny the fact that they are in a relationship with a black girl, even though they are in one or at least want to be in one.
The painful truth is that some white men won’t call a black girl their girlfriend, even though she technically is.
When I heard from one African girl that her white boyfriend runs away whenever someone wants to take a picture of them, I understood that this is one of the biggest fears black women have.
All I can say is this:
If you have the courage to talk to her, to seduce her and to sleep with her, you should also have the courage to call her your girlfriend.
One of the best ways to find a beautiful black woman who will be proud to be your girlfriend is through this site:
A Black Girl Who Likes White Men is…
Now you know that a lot of black girls like white men. You also learned why it is so hard for a lot of African beauties to admit this truth and to show the white guys who would love to date them that they are in fact interested in.
To show you that a black girl who likes white men is not the self-hating race traitor that our society wants her to be, I now want to tell you from my own perspective what she really is.
A black girl who likes white men is…
Too intelligent to Be Narrow-Minded
You are a white guy and you are happily together with a beautiful black girl.
What does that say about her?
She is too intelligent to be narrow-minded. She is intelligent enough to not allow racial stereotypes and misconceptions to dictate her dating life. She is intelligent enough to not allow the past and the mistakes of the generations before us prevent or destroy something beautiful.
She is open-minded and she knows that love, sex and feeling connected to another person is beautiful, no matter if this person is black or white. She is open-minded enough to rethink false conditioning and to follow her heart.
You should be proud to date her.
Confident Enough to Not Care About Other People’s Opinions
She is confident enough to ignore the looks that you will certainly get. She is so confident in her own skin and with the decision to be together with you that she ignores all the staring, talking and gossiping.
And there will be a lot of it. This is just a foretaste of what she has to ignore:
“How is it to date a white guy?”
“Is it true that white guys have smaller dicks?”
“You don’t look as if you would date a white guy!”
“How did your parents react?”
“Look at her. Can’t find a decent black guy, huh?”
“Do you hate your own race?”
“This is disgusting. Gross!”
“Your kids won’t look like you at all!”
She is confident enough to withstand all this negativity and you are important enough for her to be with you anyway.
She is a strong human being who deserves a strong boyfriend.
Humorous Enough to Take the Jokes
Oh boy, she must have some humor to survive that.
All the once you go black you will never go back jokes and of course all the subtle racist jokes that “weren’t meant like that” can be quite annoying.
But she can deal with it. She has enough humor to not get angry when the twentieth male friend comes up to her and cracks a joke about the dick size of white guys in comparison to black guys. She can laugh it off and she is looking forward to laugh about it with the only person she really wants to laugh with. You.
Attracted to White Guys. Period
Yes, a black girl who admits that she likes white guys and who is not afraid to date a Caucasian man is intelligent, confident and has enough humor to survive all the funny, not so funny and really bad jokes.
But, there is one thing that she also is.
She is attracted to white guys. Period.
Even though she might just find it out after she finally kisses one for the very first time:
I know it’s a shock, but the truth is that there are black girls who are into white guys without any reason.
They are just normal human beings who are attracted to other normal human beings.
Get over it, accept it and embrace the fact that we live in a day and age that allows us to date whoever the hell we want.
That’s exactly what my friend Anton did…
UPDATE 23.07.2016: Case Study of a Man Who Found Love
A couple of days ago I checked my emails and what I found made my jaw drop.
I know what you are thinking, but no, it wasn’t an email from a female groupie. It was an email from Anton, an American man who read my article, overcame his limiting beliefs and found, in his own words, the love of his life.
There are only two things that turn Sebastian Harris into an emotional crybaby:
- My girlfriend says “I love you” while she looks at me with her cute puppy face.
- One of my readers finds the woman of his dreams because of one of my articles.
This time it was #2…
God, I was so damn happy (and a bit proud) when I read Anton’s email and he allowed me to share it with you as long as I don’t reveal his second name (It’s really hard to pronounce anyway). So, here’s the email he wrote me:
Anton took action and found the black woman of his dreams. Now it’s time for you to do the same…
Summed Up Wisdom
Do black girls like white men? Yes, a lot of them do but not all of them admit it. The sad truth is that there are a lot of misconceptions about black girls who are into Caucasian men. A lot of people believe that those girls hate the color of their skin and some of them go so far and say that they betray their own race. Others are convinced that they want to brag with a white boyfriend and that they have a weird slave fetish.
The family can also be a major reason why there are many black girls who hide their preferences. In the same way as there are some racist white families, there are some racist black families. A woman who is labeled as a disgrace thinks twice before she admits that she is into white guys.
Besides her family, her own thoughts and anxieties contribute to more Caucasian men who ask themselves whether or not black girls like white men. She might be scared of social judgment. She might be worried that you think you have to act black. She might not even think that a white man can possibly be into her. And worst of all, she might be scared that she will always stay the bed bunny, but never become the girlfriend.
People say a lot of things about a black girl who likes white men, but the truth is that she is intelligent enough, confident enough and that she has enough humor to ignore the haters and to do what she wants. She is just a human being who is attracted to another human being.