Some guys claim that they slept with thousands of women. They are lying. I claim that I approached thousands of women. I’m telling you the truth.
There was a time when I approached 10 girls a day.
I did it for three years and yes, I did the math. It turns out that I approached at least 10.950 women. And these are only the approaches that I counted. I mean, there’s a reason why I founded the Global Seducer Community.
Thanks to my obsession, addiction, and dedication, I became the man who I am today. Now I spend time with the woman I love, live in the country where I want to live, and I do work that fulfills me.
All because of “hi” and “excuse me, but…”
Why am I telling you this?
No, not because I want to brag. I write more about my failures, anxieties, and sleepless nights than I write about my successful dates. I’m not a big fan of bragging. I’m the kind of guy who likes to help.
Here’s what I want to do with this article:
I want to inspire you to take action and prove that you can approach the hottest girls and date any woman you want, as long as you follow a few simple rules.
Let’s get started…
What 10.950 Approaches Taught Me about Your Dating Success
You can do anything you set your mind to.
I’m sure you’ve heard this quote before. And I’m also sure that you don’t believe it. Heck, maybe you are at a point in your life where the future seems bleak. Maybe you are single, lonely, and winning the lottery seems more realistic than getting a girlfriend.
Don’t worry. I’ve been there.
A couple of years ago, my life consisted of self-hate, regret, and fears. I was afraid to look women into the eyes. Talking to them? Impossible! Today, years later, I laugh about the things that I once considered impossible.
Let me tell you the truth:
NOTHING is impossible!
None of these things will happen, unless you take action. And I don’t mean taking action for one day. I’m talking about taking action once, and again, and again, and again. Take baby steps and you’ll soon jump with ease.
Consistency is the key to success with women. So start today.
Just Because She Rejects You Doesn’t Mean That…
Every day I get emails from guys who want to get good with women.
Most of the time, the email contains one scary word:
We men hate getting rejected. We are afraid of it. The thought of getting rejected by a beautiful girl makes us want to throw up. One second is enough and our self-confidence and self-worth get crushed.
I ask you: Why?
It doesn’t make any sense. Most rejections have nothing to do with you. Read that sentence again. Seriously, do it.
None of those things have anything to do with you at all!
Here’s what I learned after approaching 10.950 women:
Most rejections have nothing to do with you as a person and the ones that have, are not worth taking personally.
What Hundreds of Rejections Taught Me About Your Resilience
What if you get rejected by a stunning girl?
You’ll survive it.
Yep, that’s all I have to say. You can hate me for it, but it’s the truth.
It’s the truth because most men are afraid of all kinds of negative outcomes that COULD happen when they approach women…but never happen. Maybe you’ve seen the infamous “drink in your face” move in a Hollywood movie. Or you’ve heard someone talking about this one guy who got slapped because he blah blah blah.
Here are some things that did NOT happen to me (and I tried it 10.950 times):
All the things that you are afraid of will most likely never happen. If I don’t get slapped, you won’t get slapped either. Believe me. I did some crazy shit. Women love it when a guy approaches them. So don’t be scared.
Here’s another thing I learned after getting rejected hundreds of times:
The more you get rejected, the less you care. Your skin gets thicker and your tolerance increases. Eventually, you’ll reach a point where you smile when a girl rejects you. That’s the moment when she regrets that she did it.
You Want to Get Started? Giving Up is NOT an Option!
Imagine if I had given up on you.
There was a time when this site had less than 100 readers a month. It took years to reach a point where hundreds of thousands of men read my articles every single month. Imagine if I had stopped after receiving the first hate comment. Hundreds of hate comments (and thousands of positive ones) later, I’m still going strong.
I think that’s the right moment to thank you for your loyal support. Thank you!
Anyway, here’s my point:
If you think about giving up, don’t even bother getting started. Giving up is not an option because giving up makes everything you have achieved so far worthless. Just think about it. You read articles, you buy books, you take action and then you give up.
All the time, money, and effort you invested…for nothing.
How about this scenario:
You read articles, you buy books, you take action and then you take even more action until you reach the next level.
You get rejected. It hurts. You get up and do it again. It hurts less than the first time. Then you do it again. You get a phone number from a hot girl. Then you mess up the date. You analyze your mistakes. You do it again, and again, and again…until you have more women in your life than you can handle.
Improving Your Dating Life is a Marathon (Not a Sprint)
Do I say that you’ll stop caring about rejection immediately?
Deep and fundamental change takes time.
Remember what I said about giving up? It’s not an option. It can’t be an option because if you think about giving up, you’ll never put in the time that’s necessary to become successful.
Learning to approach, meet, and date women is a marathon and not a sprint. You can’t expect to go from zero to hero within one day, one week, or even one month. It takes time and dedication.
The good news is that you don’t have to worry about competition.
How many guys are dedicated enough to do whatever it takes?
In my experience: Not more than 3%.
And that’s an optimistic estimation. All you have to do is to view your journey towards becoming good at approaching women as a marathon and NOT as a sprint. Otherwise, you’ll quit before it really matters.
Millions of Girls are Lonely and Bored
Most men make one crucial mistake:
They imagine that every beautiful girl is happy and fulfilled, just because she’s beautiful. Well, that’s a lie. Just type “models who killed themselves” into Google and you’ll see the proof. Being a beautiful woman doesn’t guarantee a beautiful life.
Here’s the truth about the hot cashier at Starbucks you can’t stop starting at:
Yes, she smiles at you when you order your Frappuccino, but only because her boss is watching her. She smiles, but her eyes don’t move. It’s a fake smile.
What if you would give her a compliment? Her smile would be real.
Maybe she gives you her phone number. You just have to wait until she has a five-minute break. And maybe she can’t wait to wake up next to you because she’s been way too lonely for way too long.
Mothers are the Perfect Wingmen (Fathers are Not)
I love my work as a dating coach.
There’s nothing more amazing than watching a shy guy who claims to have social anxiety transform into a confident man who has three numbers in his phone and a smile on his face. But no matter how excited and pumped my coaching clients are, there’s one exercise they all struggle with.
The moment I tell them “approach that girl with her mom” they look at me as if I said “undress in public and jump around like a kangaroo.”
They are scared. They are terrified.
Here’s what I learned from approaching dozens of mother daughter sets:
Moms are your biggest allies. Dads are your worst enemies. Be polite and friendly and her mom will convince her daughter to give you her number. I’m serious. Moms are awesome.
I don’t even know why I shared this with you. Maybe because approaching mother daughter sets puts you in the top 1%.
Are you ready to reach the top?