Are you a single man?
Do you want to know how to overcome loneliness?
Then continue reading…
Let’s face it. This is a huge issue for men, especially in today’s day and age. While thousands of Men Going Their Own Way pretend that they don’t need women in their life, the suicide rate for middle-aged men is on an all-time high.
Yep, we live in a fucked up society.
But there’s hope. There’s hope because today you have the chance to take responsibility for your life, your future, and the way you deal with your loneliness. I hope this article will inspire you to change your life…and prevent you from doing something terrible.
Here’s what I want to share with you:
Let’s fight this epidemic that hits modern men harder than ever before…
How to Overcome Loneliness as a Single Man
One more thing to the MGTOWs…
This shit is dangerous, really, really dangerous. I mean, yeah. I’m also not a big fan of marriage. I also believe that marrying an overweight Western woman who believes in the evil patriarchy is emotional and financial suicide.
Common sense is enough to avoid this mistake.
However, most MGTOW’s believe that…
This is the fast track to loneliness and here’s why:
Human beings are biologically programmed to need human touch and affection…especially from the opposite sex. Not getting enough of it leads to stress, anxiety, and in the worst case to death. And that’s exactly what happens when you become an MGTOW.
Here’s the truth:
You can’t live a fulfilled life without female touch.
But first, you need to realize something…
1. Realize that Social Media is Not Real
What’s the first step out of loneliness town?
Here’s the most important realization a modern man can make:
Social media is not real!
There are two reasons why this is so important:
Reason #1: your social media friends are not your real friends.
Reason #2: Your social media friends’ life is not their real life.
I recently got an Instagram Account. Yes, you can follow me on Instagram. Search for “theglobalseducer” or #globalseducer and you’ll find me. I haven’t posted much, but I will in the future.
Anyway, here’s the point I want to make:
Okay, I’ll probably never upload a picture of a sports car because I don’t need a penis with four wheels to boost my self-confidence. But let’s face it. A lot of guys look at their friends’ social media accounts and believe this is how they live every single day.
Do you know what’s even worse?
They believe their Facebook friends are their real friends.
Real friends are the people you can call in the middle of the night. These are the people you need to surround yourself with and I’ll show you how to meet them.
2. Understand that it’s Not about Quantity
What if I told you that I have five friends?
I’m German. We have another perception of friendship than Americans. We don’t call someone a friend after a couple of minutes. It can take years until a German calls you his friend. And that can be a big advantage.
I could ask these five friends for help at any time.
Here’s what I want you to understand:
Loneliness has nothing to do with the number of people in your life. It’s about the quality of your relationships. Having one close relationship is more valuable than 500 friends on Facebook. We all have hundreds of Facebook friends and yet…we are so lonely.
Having not enough friends is not the problem.
3. Realize that Being Single and Lonely is Not the Same
Does that mean that I’m lonely?
In fact, I felt lonelier in my relationship because I didn’t go out to meet new people. Now that I’m single, I enjoy being social and connecting with interesting people. And no, I don’t say this to brag. I say this because I want you to stop playing the blame game.
Stop confusing being single with being lonely!
That’s like blaming the supermarket for your hunger, just because you’re too lazy to buy groceries. You can be incredibly happy as a single man. And if you really want a girlfriend, you can check out my book Rise of the Phoenix.
Please understand that being single and lonely are not the same. It’s a choice.
4. Accept that Nothing Happens Unless You Do
You have to choose doing over blaming.
Yes, some people are assholes and our society does everything to fuel the war of the sexes. That’s true. But there will always be external factors that try to pull you down. Your job is to do it anyway. Get knocked down, get up and try again.
Nothing happens unless you do.
And you have to stop blaming others for your loneliness before you can take action. Now that you’ve taken responsibility for your life, it’s time to rise like a Phoenix from the ashes.
5. Overcome Your Social Anxiety Step by Step
Are you suffering from social anxiety?
I bet you do.
I mean, I could be wrong. But I remember the time when I was lonely, depressed, and desperate for a way out. I had social anxiety…severe social anxiety. I couldn’t even look women in the eyes, let alone talk to them.
Here’s what I did to cure myself:
I took baby steps.
It doesn’t sound sexy. I know. But it’s the only way to do it. No matter how many motivational speakers tell you to go from zero to hero in a matter of seconds…it doesn’t work that way. The shiny affirmation from the motivational guru won’t help.
Baby steps…that’s what really helps.
Crawl back to life and do it step by step. You won’t change overnight, but you will change over time. Take one step a day and you’ll have 30 steps a month. That’s compound interest, my friend.
6. Start the Day with a Small Talk Challenge
Being social is a skill.
I’m not an extrovert. And you wouldn’t be reading an article that shows you how to overcome loneliness as a single man if you were one. My personality wants me to stay at home and to not face the world. That’s why I can write all these articles for you without going nuts.
But there’s a downside:
Yes, I write “had” and not “have” because now it has become a part of me. Being social is like building muscle. The first week at the gym is hell. You don’t want to go and you’re in pain. Eventually, it becomes a habit and you can’t live without it.
Here’s your challenge for today:
Make small talk with at least one person. Man or woman? I don’t care. Do this every day and you soon won’t be lonely anymore.
7. Reach Out to an Old Friend
Oh man, I haven’t talked to him in years.
I didn’t plan to include a personal story but now that I think about it…there’s this one dude I was friends with in high school. I haven’t seen him in such a long time. I think I’m going to send him a message on Facebook. Maybe he wants to meet up.
You can do the same.
Call them. And if you’re too shy to call them, you can search them on Facebook. Almost everyone on this planet has a Facebook account. Reaching out to old friends is a great way to overcome loneliness
And it can lead to unforgettable moments.
8. Do Good Things for Others
I still remember my first visit to Cambodia.
I was all alone and afraid to die.
Yes, there was a time when I was a giant pussy and scared of everything. But I made the best out of it. Instead of sitting in my hotel room all day long, I went to visit the killing fields.
This made me so emotional that I wanted to do something good. So I decided to buy a big bag of food and give it to homeless children all over the city. This helped the children, made me feel better…and ended my loneliness.
Suddenly, I wasn’t lonely anymore…and dozens of street children had something to eat.
9. Go to Meetups that Interest You
Meetup.com is a great site.
I don’t get jack shit for recommending this site. But hey, that’s okay because I love it. It’s almost impossible to know about meetup.com and to be a lonely single man.
I’ve been on so many meetups over the past years.
This is the easiest way to get in contact with people who share the same beliefs, values, and interests as you. Seriously, sign up today (it’s free) and go to your first meetup. Then share your experience in the comments below.
10. Overcome Your Loneliness at a Cuddle Party
“What the hell is a cuddle party?” I hear you asking.
Yes, that’s a thing. These “parties” are the latest trend and to be honest, I think it’s great. So many lonely men and women all over the world are starving for physical affection. And no, this is not about sex. It’s about not feeling lonely anymore.
Okay, not all cuddle parties are strictly asexual.
I once went on a cuddle party that was organized by some hippies in Berlin. A female friend of mine invited me. After twenty minutes of cuddling everyone got naked. It was a weird day. But hey, I finally saw my friend naked…and we had fun cuddling.
But yeah, other cuddle parties are legit.
11. Become a Seducer
Here’s how to overcome loneliness as a single man:
Get good with women.
Doing good things is amazing, but you can’t deny that you have needs. You have sexual needs and romantic needs. If they don’t get met, terrible things can happen. You just have to look at all the high school shooters.
If I can only prevent one lonely single guy from ending up like him, I can die a happy man…
Do everything in your power to get good with women or your life will be a living hell. I speak from experience.
12. Turn Wingmen into Best Friends
What about friends?
Getting good with women gives you the skills to meet and attract beautiful women. But it does so much more. There’s a reason why it’s called the seduction community. It’s a community of people who have the same interests, the same sticking points, and the same goals.
There are other Global Seducer’s out there.
Embark on this journey and you’ll meet hundreds of like-minded men who have once been lonely.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to overcome loneliness as a single man? First, you have to stop wasting your time on Facebook and Instagram. Your followers and Facebook friends don’t solve the problem. Relying on them makes you lonely.
I don’t care if you have one friend or one hundred. The quality of the relationship is more important the number of people you know. And you have to put yourself out there. Take action and loneliness won’t be an issue anymore.
What can you do? You can go on meetups, you can talk to strangers and you can improve one step at the time. And of course, you have to learn how to meet and attract women. You have needs and if you don’t satisfy them, you’ll end up in a dark place.