Here’s how to make women want you:
Yep, that’s it. That’s the end of the article. Unless you have these three ingredients, you can forget about it. Unfortunately, that’s what most guys believe. They look at highly successful and famous men and think “I have no chance.”
Let’s talk about me for a second:
I have a baby face that makes me look weirder than Charlie Runkle in Californication. My legs are so skinny that my ex-girlfriend used to call them chicken legs. And I was born and raised in Germany, which means that I didn’t even know what charm was before I traveled abroad for the first time.
All odds were against me.
Nevertheless, I know how to make a woman want me. And no, it’s not because of my amazing genetics. It’s also not because of my dozens of scars. It’s because I was deep down under a pile of shit and I dug my way out.
I learned what it means to…
You already have what it takes to make women crave you, chase you, and hunt you down.
You just have to unleash the beast…
How to Make Women Want You: The Steps You Need to Take
Most men don’t get it.
And it’s not even their fault. They have been conditioned to take the wrong steps. Every dating coach under the sun tells them that technique X or pickup line Y or magic formula Z is what makes a woman want you badly.
Guess what? It’s just marketing BS.
Women don’t want a robot who knows all the techniques in the book but hates his life, his job, and his parent’s basement because he still lives in it. Making women want you is so simple. But it requires effort and that’s why most guys don’t do it.
Here’s the secret:
You have to become a man women want.
Yes, techniques are one aspect and I’ll share them with you. But you have to reverse the formula. Think about it. The fastest way to get a girlfriend is to be the kind of guy who is girlfriend material. The same principle applies here.
Let me show you how YOU can become this guy…
1. Become the Leader Women Want
What and where should you lead?
The answer: Everything!
Okay, that’s not the grammatically correct answer. But it’s THE answer. You have to lead everything. If you really want to know how to make women want you, you have to lead every aspect of your life…and some aspects of her life.
Let me give you some examples:
Women don’t want to date nice guy followers. They want leaders. So be one.
2. Live the Life Women Want to Be a Part of
Allow me to introduce two men to you.
Let’s first have a look at Jason:
He works as an accountant and he doesn’t like his job. His salary is okay, but he wakes up with a terrible “I have to throw the fuck up” feeling every morning. Changing his job? That’s too scary for him. He spends every evening watching TV and playing video games. He even spends his vacation at home.
Now let’s have a look at Jackson:
He also works as an accountant but he really likes his job. Numbers are his thing. After work, he hits the gym or reads interesting books. He loves to travel when he gets a day off. He already has plans for his future and he follows his path relentlessly.
Who do you think gets more pussy?
The answer is obvious and here’s why:
Women don’t just want your dick. I know. That’s the ultimate male fantasy. But let’s have a look at reality. Women want so much more. If a girl wants you, she wants to spend time with you, do things with you, and experience things with you. Yep, she wants to be a part of your life.
You better have an exciting life. Otherwise, no woman on earth wants to be a part of it.
3. Make Her Want You with a Killer Compliment
What do you say to her?
Imagine you meet this girl in an overpriced coffee shop with a green logo. You hold eye contact, she smiles, and you have the courage to walk up to her because you have read my book Rise of the Phoenix. You’re ready to sweep her off her feet.
“Hey, uuhmm…you look really nice.”
That’s it? Are you serious? Come on. That’s one of the lamest compliments you could possibly give to a woman. Okay, you could make it even worse. You could tell her about your imaginary sister and ask her for a birthday present for her.
Here’s what you have to do instead:
No woman wants to have the feeling that you said the same line to the last ten chicks you approached. Unfortunately, that’s the exact impression a lot of guys leave. And then they wonder why they collect twenty fake phone numbers in a row.
If you make it about her, she will want you more than all the other men.
4. Have the Style Women are Drawn Towards
Just don’t walk around like a shit sandwich.
Here’s how to make a woman want you:
It’s so simple. And yet, I had a one-on-one coaching client who showed up with an oversized yellow shirt, dirty pants, and a base cap that was bigger than Lil Wayne’s. I’m all about individuality but he looked like the lovechild of a minion and Aaron Carter.
Look like a decent human being and don’t say no to button shirts.
That’s all there is to it.
5. Have Conversations that Make Her Want to Know More
Women want men they feel a connection with.
And the fastest way to connect with a woman is through her emotions. In fact, it’s the only way. A lot of guys try it with logic but that doesn’t work. It never works. So don’t even think about it. The right topics… yeah, that’s what you need.
Here’s what most guys talk about on dates:
Here’s what you should do instead:
Talk about topics that make her FEEL something. No matter if it’s excitement, shock, happiness, empathy…rock her emotional world. Talk about passions, adventures and dreams. These are the topics that make her feel something.
Another quick tip:
Make her reveal everything about herself while you only reveal the tip of the iceberg.
She’ll want to know more about this mysterious man.
6. Do Things that Make Her Laugh
Women want men who make them laugh.
It’s no secret that girls are attracted to men who have humor. Be a bit more like Russel Brand. That’s how to make a woman want you. I’m sure his humor is the reason why hundreds of ladies decided to sleep with this hairy dude.
What if you don’t have an amazing sense of humor?
I’m German. My gene code doesn’t contain the humor gene. In fact, I’m naturally so unfunny that it hurts. That’s why I used to be famous for torturing girls with never-ending boring conversations. But just like the art of seduction, you can learn the art of humor.
Watch standup comedy shows…a lot of them.
It helped me and I’m sure it’ll help you too. The number one rule is that you should say things you consider funny. Don’t say anything she might laugh about. You don’t know. But if you entertain yourself, she’ll love it.
That’s what funny men with confidence do.
7. Stop the Lies and the Judgement
No more judgement. No more lies.
Women are sick and tired of it. Nine out of ten guys lie to her. Either he pretends to want a relationship even though he just wants a quick fuck. Or he lies about his profession to appear more successful. Believe me. These things happen all the time.
One of my female friends had a date with a lawyer who was actually a baker.
You want to make a woman want you and I’m sure you also want something from her. Maybe you want a relationship. Maybe you want no strings attached fun. Whatever it is…be honest. You’d be surprised at how many girls give you exactly what you want, if you tell them what it is you want.
Don’t lie to her and don’t judge her.
Yep, judging is as bad as lying. If you want no strings attached fun and you judge her for being sexual, you are a hypocrite. No woman wants to date a hypocrite. Real seducers appreciate a woman’s true sexual nature.
Are you a real seducer?
8. Arouse Her with Bad Boy Qualities
No, being nice is not an option.
But you also don’t want to be an asshole who treats women like shit…at least I hope so. You want to be a strong man who treats women with love and respect….again…at least I hope so. That should be the goal of every Global Seducer.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn from bad boys.
Decisiveness, non-needy behavior, being mysterious, not making excuses, doing what you want, saying what you want…these are all bad boy qualities. And none of these qualities will turn you into a disrespectful asshole.
Just internalize some of the good bad boy qualities.
This makes you a good guy with an edge. That’s the kind of guy I’m proud to be.
9. Make Her Interested with Stories and Experiences
Storytelling is an important seduction skill.
That’s why I love to record my daily podcast for you. Of course, I love the incredible feedback, reviews, and transformation stories it has already lead to. But it also gives me the chance to practice my storytelling skills.
My first podcast episodes were absolutely terrible.
I’m serious. Listen to some of my older episodes and you can hear the insecurity in my voice. The same is true for you as an aspiring seducer. Your first conversations with girls will be far from perfect. That’s normal. It’s a learning process.
You just have to continue to share stories and experiences with girls.
Remember, this is a skill and a skill has to be practiced.
10. Practice the Art of Listening and Responding
What’s the number one complaint women have about men?
He doesn’t listen!
Last week I talked to one of my best female friends. Her boyfriend is a great guy. But he doesn’t listen. “Sebastian, he never listens to me.” Well, what can I say? Most men don’t. This issue can lead to the end of a promising relationship.
The problem, however, starts way earlier.
If you don’t listen to her on the first date, you miss out on important information. She’ll share everything, and I mean everything, you need to know to seduce her. Listening is an art in itself and an important part of the art of seduction.
11. Find the Right Balance Between Sexual and Creepy
Women want sexual men.
How about some nice ass-grabbing in the first interaction?
Well, that’s a bit too soon. You want to be the sexually confident guy, not the creepy weirdo. There’s a fine line between “that feels so good” and “that’s a bit too much”. Most guys are not sexual enough. Others go over the top.
Here are the simple rules for touching girls:
It starts with an innocent handshake and ends with your naked bodies intertwined.
12. Don’t Wait until the Flame Goes Out
Don’t shake her hands for hours.
Remember, you’re not just here to learn how to make a girl want you. You also want something from her. But you’ll only get it if you act fast. Don’t waste your time on the first base until it’s too late to get to the second and third base.
You are the leader. You escalate.
I know that it’s scary. You don’t know if she’s ready to be kissed. You have no clue if she’s ready to be taken home. What can you do about it? Well, it’s learning by doing. Take the next step and you’ll see if she wants to take it with you. But hey, you will follow my advice.
And you’ll read my book Rise of the Phoenix.
It’s safe to say that she’ll want you more than candy and Ryan Gosling.
Summed Up Wisdom
Yes, you have the power to make women want you. But you have to become the leader of your own life. And you can’t be afraid to lead her and to live your life on your own terms. Women don’t want to date needy nice guys. However, they also don’t want disrespectful men.
That’s why you have to filter the good bad boy qualities. Be a bit mysterious and say what you want, especially when it comes to humor. Don’t try to entertain her. Entertain yourself. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you can’t share entertaining stories with her.
Make her interested in you and listen to her. Her words reveal the next step you have to take. And please don’t lie to her. You are an honest Global Seducer who speaks the truth and doesn’t judge women. Live by these principles and women will want you.
Sebastian Harris says
I hope it will help you.
a lot of useful tips, thanks sebastian.
i’ll use this to try to increase a woman’s interest level in me. most of the times…..their interest level is low and i know this because they disappear/stop communicating after our first meeting 🙁