I don’t have the cure for cancer.
But I have the cure for another terrible disease. Today I want to show you how to not be a nice guy anymore. It’s time for change. It’s time to leave your old life behind you and to embark on a new, more fulfilling, journey.
You’ve done it too many times.
Come on. You know what I’m talking about.
Yeah, let’s talk about integrity for a moment. That’s something that nice guys don’t have. They are like wheat in the wind. The wind comes from right, they move right. And when they wind blows from the left side, they move left. They bend in every direction.
A Global Seducer doesn’t bend. He’s strong.
Do you want to be the guy who’s strong, confident, and powerful?
Then it’s time to stop being so goddamn nice…
How to Stop Being a Nice Guy (No More!)
“You’re such a nice guy, but I see you more as a friend.”
She could have just rammed a sword in my belly. That would have been less painful. I did everything for this girl…EVERYTHING. Heck, I even pretended to like horses. The truth: I didn’t give a shit about her two constantly pooping horses.
I wanted to sleep with her!
But she had nothing better to do than to sleep with another guy from my school. He was dumb as bread (kind of mentally retarded) and a complete jerk. What about me? Well, I continued my journey as a lonely and frustrated male virgin.
Recently, one of my friends said:
“I wish I could turn back the time and be a teenager again.”
I looked at him and said:
“Oh hell no! This was the most terrible time of my life!”
That’s true. My teenage years sucked because I couldn’t get laid. Heck, I couldn’t even get a kiss because I was too freaking nice. Don’t get me wrong. I had girls talking to me. But for them, I was a neuter, a harmless man as Jordan Peterson would say.
It was time to become dangerous…
1. Stop Confusing Being Nice with Being Friendly
One has nothing to do with the other.
Most nice guys are the opposite of friendly. Yes, they pretend to be all sunshine, rainbows, and smiley face…but deep down. Deep down they are full of anger and hate.
They wear a mask and they never take it off.
Here’s how to stop being a nice guy:
Yes, you are friendly. But if she disrespects you or other people, you set boundaries. You’re friendly enough to be a good man, but strong enough to not put up with her shit.
2. Stop Trying to Fix Her Life and Her Stuff
Change your job.
Seriously, your current job sucks. Or maybe I should say jobs. I’m sure you work more than one job and overtime. And guess what? You get paid jack shit. You receive nothing but a fake smile and a hug…or a cold handshake.
Here are the jobs you need to quit:
That’s how to not be a nice guy anymore. You no longer work your ass off for a boss who doesn’t appreciate you, doesn’t like you, and doesn’t pay you. And don’t even think about being her handbag carrier for her weekly shopping trips.
Look her in the eyes and say: “I quit!”
3. No More Free Rides for Drunk Debbie
Let me elaborate on your job as her chauffeur.
I decided to discuss this in detail because I received many (way too many) emails from guys who fell in the “friendship favor” trap. They hang out with a girl but they never lie on top of her. They are balls deep in the friend zone and deep down they know it.
Nevertheless, they continue the charade:
Don’t laugh. I’ve coached one guy who actually did that. He drove a girl he liked to another man’s house. All he got was a hug. The other guy was the one who banged her. But don’t worry. He’s okay now. I cured him after one Skype coaching session.
Now he has a smoking hot girlfriend.
The moral of the story:
Don’t drink and drive and don’t drive her around…especially not to another man’s love cave.
4. Stop Telling Her That You Would Treat Her Better
I could puke whenever I hear this song…
I mean, yeah. The more men listen to this song, the more will fail with women and eventually become a part of the Global Seducer Community. That’s good for me. But that doesn’t change the fact that the lyrics of this song are pure poison for you.
Let’s have a look at the worst parts:
- “I’ll stop time for you, the second you’d like me too”
- “Cause I know I can treat you better than he can”
- “And any girl like you deserve a gentleman”
- “Tell me why are we wasting time?”
Jesus fucking Christ…
I can tell you why you waste time. You waste time because you whine and beg a woman who’s in an abusive relationship to be with you. And guess what? She’s dumb enough to stay with this guy…and she probably has borderline syndrome.
Here’s how to stop being a nice guy:
Don’t promise girls who don’t want to get treated better to treat them better.
5. No More Flowers and Chocolate
You romantic bastard...
You’ve bought her flowers on the first date. That’s really, really nice. Oh, and you also bought her a box of chocolate…the ones with the heart shape. That’s so romantic. She’ll love it. In fact, she’ll enjoy eating the chocolate off her boyfriend’s body.
Please don’t be this guy.
The following items are forbidden on first dates:
Flowers, chocolate, and other gifts.
Okay, there’s one exception. Let’s say she’s a really traditional Russian or Ukrainian woman. In this case, flowers can work. But if you’re dealing with an American, Canadian or any other type of Western woman, leave this stuff in the supermarket.
The purpose of a date is to get to know each other.
Bribing her with gifts that scream “I need to bring something to feel worthy” won’t cut it.
6. No More Waiting By the Phone that Never Rings
Are you a Global Seducer?
Then stop waiting by the phone!
You are a man who’s living the Global Seducer lifestyle. You have better things to do that to wait for a call that never comes. You have a life. Hobbies, interests, and goals…that’s what you need. That’s the cure for nice guy behavior.
Here’s what I want you to do:
Don’t waste your life playing video games, watching TV, and eating junk food. Instead, you do something productive. You download (and read) my book Rise of the Phoenix. Then you hit the gym. Afterwards you approach a couple of girls.
That’s what a man should do when the phone doesn’t ring.
7. No More Angry Rants When She Doesn’t Text Back
Let’s take a closer look at your phone…
I hope you didn’t waste any time waiting for her call. She won’t call anyway. Oh wait. She sent you a text message. Yes, right now. Look at your phone.
Oh…I’m sorry. She didn’t.
But you did. You sent her a text message three hours ago. She still didn’t reply. That sucks. It makes you angry because you’re staring at your goddamn smartphone every ten minutes. She has read your message. You can see it.
She still doesn’t reply.
You’re getting angry. “Fuck this bitch!” you scream. “All women are the same” you mumble. You don’t realize it but you’re entering dangerous territory. You’re about to become an MGTOW…or just an embittered shadow of a man.
Remember what I said earlier.
You are a Global Seducer with hobbies, interests and passions. If not, you have to become one. Don’t get angry because of a girl. Delete her text messages and move on. There are millions of other women out there…and they reply.
8. Stop Making Her the Center of Your World
Who or what is the center of your world?
The answer should be obvious. It’s you. You, your goals, and your path are more important than anything else. And no, that’s neither arrogant nor egoistic. It’s the sign of a healthy self-esteem. I mean, you are you. That’s why you should be the center of your world.
Every woman would agree with that.
Unfortunately, a lot of men believe that women want to be the center of a man’s world. God, it sounds so romantic…but it’s so pathetic. Believe me. Women don’t want to be the center of your world, even if they say the opposite.
Here’s what happens when you make her the center of your world:
She’ll leave you for a man who understands that nothing is more important than his own path.
9. Stop Being Her Professor or Tutor
This is an important message for my younger readers. Yep, I’m talking to the guys who are trying to get girls in high school or who are hunting chicks in college. I’m talking to you. You are not her professor and not her tutor.
Helping her by answering a simple question?
Sure, there’s nothing wrong with that.
Staying up until 2 o’clock in the morning to write her essay?
Nope, there’s everything wrong with that.
Don’t fall into this trap and remember what I always say. Follow your path and women will follow you. Studying is important…but only if it’s YOUR studies. Believe me. She won’t help you when you can’t get a job because you fail college.
Study hard (my book is a form of study) but do it for yourself and not for her.
10. No More Paying for Bills and Drinks
I have this friend.
He’s not bad with women. I wouldn’t call him a pick up artist, but he tries. And from time to time, he succeeds. There’s just one thing he does every time we go out. It drives me mad. Whenever he sees a beautiful girl he likes, he does the following.
Then he does something that’s really not cool. He takes out his wallet before she says a single word. She sees it and smiles. Of course, she orders the most expensive drink on the menu. I want to slap him whenever he does that.
He spends more on girl’s drinks in one night than you have to invest in my book.
Here’s what’s even worse:
There are guys who pay girl’s bills. And no, I’m not talking about sugar daddies who actually get laid. That’s another story. I’m talking about the guys who pay and don’t get the poon. That’s the really sad part.
I don’t pay for drinks. I don’t pay for bills. I don’t pay for anything.
11. Stop Agreeing With Her When She Full of Shit
Oh, no. She’s not boring.
I mean, she’s perfect. She’s the most beautiful creature on earth. Every word she says is pure gold and every sentence contains a truckload of wisdom. Nobody should have the right to disagree with a goddess like her.
Hah…don’t make me laugh.
A man who learned how to not be a nice guy anymore doesn’t waste his precious time with retards. There are so many intelligent and educated girls. Speak to them. But please stop agreeing with what bleach blonde Brittney says, just because she has C-cups.
Have some self-respect, man.
12. Stop Doing Everything She Wants to Do
Let’s say you hate basketball.
I love basketball and I don’t know why I chose this as an example. But anyway, let’s say you hate basketball. The girl you’re dating (she hasn’t even kissed you yet) wants to play basketball with you. She also wants to watch the playoffs with you. And she wants to see a game with you.
Of course, she wants you to pay for the tickets.
What do you do?
A man who didn’t learn how to stop being a nice guy pays for the tickets…and for a big bag of popcorn. You don’t want to be that guy. The idea behind lifestyle design is not to design your lifestyle the way SHE wants it.
You are the Captain Kirk of your own spaceship.
Tell her what you like and invite her to do these things with you. She will follow.
13. Stop Changing Your Path for Her
It’s your path, your goddamn path!
Sorry for cursing. Okay, fuck it. I’m not sorry for it. I have to do it because it makes me so freaking angry whenever I see this. I even have a friend (or let’s say acquaintance) who changed his entire career for a woman.
And no, I didn’t make this story up. This is a real-life example of a guy who changed his path for a woman. The result is always the same. At first, she’s happy that you made this sacrifice for her. Then she’s pissed because you lose all your energy and your zest for life.
That’s when she leaves you and you have NO girl and NO path.
Always follow your own path. Always!
14. Stop Avoiding Uncomfortable Situations that Make You Grow
Let me ask you something:
What are you not doing that you know you should be doing?
Okay, reading my book is pretty comfortable. But let’s talk about approaching and escalating. I appreciate you and every other reader and podcast listener. Unfortunately, I know the uncomfortable truth. A lot of guys listen to my advice, thank me for it, but don’t follow it.
They don’t put themselves out there.
It’s uncomfortable and that’s why they avoid it. They don’t face their fears. But every now and then I get an email or an iTunes review from a guy who took action. He did it and that’s why he’s now swimming in a sea of beautiful women.
I want you to be next guy who takes action.
Stop avoiding uncomfortable situations and rise like a Phoenix from the ashes.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to not be a nice guy anymore? Then be friendly, but only when she deserves your friendliness. What if she bores you or talks bullshit? Don’t waste your time with her. You have better things to do because you have an amazing lifestyle.
What did I just say? I said you have better things to do. So please stop waiting for a call that never comes and stop staring at your phone. Oh wait, now she calls you. She wants you to pick her up at the shopping mall. By now you know what to do.
Stop doing what she wants to do and don’t agree with her, just because she has boobs. You are not her tutor and you are also not her electrician. And don’t even think about changing your path for her. You’re a man who follows his path and who grows by saying “yes” to uncomfortable situations.
Sebastian Harris says
if it worked for you, great.
I split the drink bill with the only girl I had sex with this year. I paid for two frozen margaritas for her and she paid for two Miller Lite’s for me. I also paid for the pool table and she paid for the Denny’s that we drove to down the street from the Billiard Hall. I drove to the Billiard Hall and stayed with the girl there for about 3 hours.