Can it actually be a good idea to learn how to make female friends?
In case you are just starting out with approaching and seducing women, you are busy enough doing everything you can to not land in the friend zone.
All you want is to avoid being seen as a nice guy who she doesn’t want to sleep with, so why the hell should you be interested in a relationship with women that is based on friendship and NOT on sexual attraction?
Even though it should of course be your number one goal to approach and to seduce women who you end up in bed with, it is sometimes better to become friends with a beautiful girl, instead of saying goodbye to her straight away.
I know that some guys in the seduction community say that you should never have any female friends and that having women in your life with whom you don’t have sex is a complete waste of time. I have a different opinion on that. I know from my own experience that it can have quite a few benefits to have some women in your life besides your mother and sister, with whom you don’t have any sexual relationship.
However, that doesn’t mean that you should try to become friends with a girl, just to hit on her later. This “pick up technique” has never worked and will never work. By doing this you only waste your time and your energy. This desperate attempt would lead to nothing but frustration and a destroyed friendship.
By saying that it is beneficial to learn how to make female friends, I don’t mean that you should use this endeavor as an opportunity get in bed with those girls.
That’s not the goal.
Your goal is to make use of all the positive side effects that having a good female friend brings along.
How to Make Female Friends: The WHY
What positive side effects does it have to have a girl in your life who you don’t exchange body fluids with?
Well, even though I absolutely love my best female friend (in a no-sexual way) and even if I think that a friendship with a woman can enrich your life, you should think about how you can utilize this friendship for a higher purpose.
Maybe it’s a bit mean to say that you should use your friend, but I wouldn’t say it if it wouldn’t be so damn effective.
A beautiful female friend can provide you with more women who would do everything to sleep with you than anyone of your male friends.
Spending your time with women, no matter if they drop their panties for you or not, is always beneficial for your seduction success. You wouldn’t believe how much you can learn by simply listening to all the weird, crazy and shocking things that women talk about with their friends.
Study the Art of Seduction In Field
There was a time when I thought that all the nice guys who are always polite are the ones who get the girls. There was also a time when I thought that every woman is a little angel who just wants to be cuddled and who dreams about making love on a bed of roses.
I really believed all that until I met my best female friend. I still remember our first conversation about female sexuality. It turned my worldview upside down and I am pretty sure that I would have had a lot more difficulties to figure out what women really want, if I wouldn’t have had her as my teacher.
If you have a female friend who is sexually active and not a lesbian, you can learn so much about seduction, sex and women. All you have to do is to ask her questions and listen to what she has to say. Every story, every experience, every fantasy and every opinion she shares with you can be worth hours of trial and error in field.
I know that there is this popular belief among pick up artists that women don’t know what they want, but this is complete bullshit.
Women know exactly what they want.
The only tricky thing is that they often don’t reveal it.
Women know how women want to be touched, kissed and fucked. That’s why it is so important that your female friend is honest to you and doesn’t tell you the same “nice guy lie” that you have heard from your mother.
If she is honest with you and tells you what she really thinks and feels, you will have one epiphany after another.
Should the Occasion Arise…Bang Her
Should you have sex with your female friend?
Well, it shouldn’t be your priority to get her into bed.
If you only want to find some hot ass for the night, you are better off if you approach a woman who is attracted to you in a way that has nothing to do with friendship.
However, even though it shouldn’t be your primary goal to bang your friends, it can still happen from time to time that friends land in bed together. Don’t work towards it, but don’t prevent it when it naturally happens. Your primary goal should be to learn from her and to use her as a matchmaker, but should the occasion arise it is totally legitimate to bang the shit out of her.
Use Her as Your Matchmaker
Besides learning a lot about women and their sometimes weird and disgusting fetishes, you should use the girls who you put in the friend zone as your matchmaker.
No matter if consciously or subconsciously and no matter if direct or indirect, women have the power to bring you into contact with other women. Not only that. They also have the power to make those women desire you like you have never been desired before.
Forget about the cool guy in college who introduced you to the sister of his girlfriend.
The possibilities of what a good female friend can do to transform your dull dating life into a sexual mayhem are limitless.
Why Female Friends are the Perfect Matchmakers
Why are women the perfect matchmakers?
Why should you learn how to make female friends?
Besides the obvious fact that it is impossible that she thinks about stealing all the hot girls from you, a woman doesn’t have to do much to be your matchmaker.
Your buddies can be your wingmen and your coaches Both of those activities can be extremely helpful for your development, but they still require a certain amount of effort and time.
What does a woman have to do to get you laid?
She has to be there. That’s it.
She Takes You to Places with a lot of Women
Thanks to my best female friend I have been to places that I would have never visited without her. She took me to private house parties where the percentage of women was far beyond the 70% mark.
Believe me, when more than half of the guests at a party have a vagina, it’s not that hard to get inside of one.
She took me to yoga classes. This not only calmed my mind and relaxed my body, it also got me into contact with a lot of hot women, who again introduced me to their friends. Once you have learned how to make female friends you are trapped in one of the most amazing cycles and once you are trapped in it you pray to god that it will never end.
Learning how to make female friends will get you to places that you wouldn’t go to without an admission card with a female smell. Once you get to know a woman with whom you only want to spend time outside the bedroom, you should prepare yourself to shake a lot of soft and sensitive hands.
You Will Get More Eyes on You
Have you ever been to the club with a group of your male friends? I am pretty sure you have and I am also pretty sure that there weren’t a lot of women who stared at you like hungry wolves.
Have you ever been to a club with a group of girls? I have and I can tell you that the difference is incredible. I was in a club with a beautiful Ukrainian girl, who is one of my best friends, and one of her friends, who is also pretty hot.
In case you have never been to a club with two or even more women, you will be shocked how easy it is to take women home without any effort. The moment I walked in the club all the girls stared at me.
“Who is this guy and how can he have two women with him?
“He came in with two beautiful women. There must be something about him…”
These are the words that you can read in the thought bubbles that float over the heads of all the girls who will look at you with open mouths, big eyes and wet vaginas.
Once a lot of women noticed you, you can simply pick out the ones who you want to approach.
Other Women Assume that You are Special
A guy who walks around with his buddies is not special. If you, however, walk around with one, two or even three of your female friends, the women around you instinctively assume that you are special. A man who walks around with a couple of women is nothing that they see every day.
It shows that you must have certain qualities that makes those girls want to hang out with you.
You are clearly confident in the presence of women. Therefore, you are probably also confident in other situations. While you are walking in with your hot female friend the women around you already imagine how you confidently seduce them from the first kiss to the first orgasm.
Women Want What Other Women Have
How do women know that she is not more than a friend to you?
They won’t know it until you tell them. What if she thinks that she is my girlfriend? Then my friend, your chances of getting lucky are even higher. A lot of women will hate me for what I am about to say but you deserve to hear the truth.
One fact about female sexuality that not many women admit is that they are always more attracted to the guys who have girlfriends.
Whenever a woman tells one of her friends how happy she is that she found such an attractive and interesting guy she really wants to say this:
“I would also like to feel his dick inside of me. Be careful or he is mine.”
The only reason why women use a fake smile and an even faker “I am so happy for you two” is because they don’t want to risk the friendship.
Women want what other women have.
I even know a guy who puts a ring on his finger to pick up girls and guess what…it works!
Women want a guy who has already been tested by other women and who has earned the Fuckable Certificate. In case a hot girl sees you with a woman who is even hotter than her, you automatically get this certificate with distinction.
She Introduces You to Her Friends
The fact that your female buddies will take you to places with a lot of women is already awesome, but what’s even better is that they will introduce you to all their female friends. If you assume that she has about 20 friends and 50% of them are single, you have the chance to meet 10 potential sex partners within two minutes of introducing yourself. That’s definitely not bad when you consider that all you have to do is to pronounce your name correct.
The cool thing about it is that you don’t even have to make an effort to pick up those girls. You know them from your friend and expanding your social circle by staying in contact with them seems like the most natural thing to do. Meeting them another day for a coffee is also totally cool.
Landing in bed with them just happens.
By sticking to the “don’t kiss and tell rule” you make sure that your hot buddy doesn’t get angry that you bang all her friends and you also make sure that her friends will continue to jump in bed with you.
Which woman doesn’t want easy access to a skilled sexual partner without worrying about her reputation?
She Can Promote You
Sometimes you don’t even have to keep it a secret. My best female friend knows that I treat all girls with respect and I do everything to give them a good time. She knows that there is a high chance that her friends won’t regret it if they have sex with me.
Therefore, she also knows that she does them a favor when she fulfills her role as a matchmaker. An exciting seduction, passionate moments and liberating orgasms are all things that she doesn’t want to withhold from her friends.
That’s one reason why I appreciate our friendship so much 😉
When she knows that I am interested in a certain girl she does all the marketing for me.
She promotes me as hard as she can by listing all my good qualities. She makes sure that the women she talks to know that I have the Fuckable Certificate. When she is finished talking to them, I just have to seal the deal.
How Your Female Friend Has to Be
Learning how to make female friends is great and you can have an awesome sex life when you have such a girl as a good buddy and matchmaker. However, it doesn’t work with every type of girl.
All the things I have talked about can and will only work, if you learn how to become friends with the right type of girl.
She Must Be Hot
I know it’s superficial, but she has to be hot.
Unless the girl you are walking around with is hot, everything I have talked about up to now won’t work.
That doesn’t mean that you should end the friendship with your ugly female friends. Girls who you are absolutely not attracted to can make the best friends, because you don’t constantly think about banging them. However, that doesn’t change the fact that they won’t be useful for your dating life.
No woman thinks that you are special when you walk around with an ugly duckling. No woman gives you the Fuckable Certificate when you don’t show her that you can at least get girls that are on her level. You probably won’t even get the chance to meet other hot women, because a girl usually has friends who are on the same beauty level.
I know it sounds brutal but it is the truth. Learning how to make female friends is not enough. You also have to learn to distinguish between the friends who have the potential to improve your dating life and the ones who won’t be able to fulfill this job.
She Must Have An Outgoing Personality
You won’t get to know other women if she doesn’t have any friends she can introduce you to. You won’t get all the girls staring at you when she never takes you anywhere.
One essential requirement is that she is an outgoing person.
Learning how to make female friends just to end up with a couch potato doesn’t make any sense. She has to have an active social circle and she also has to be willing to take you to places that allow you to either seduce her friends or girls who want to find out why you are here with such a hot girl.
She also has to be willing to do something else.
She Must Be Willing to Help You
She has to be willing to help you. I know it sounds like one of those “duh” things but I want to make sure that you make sure that she really has good intentions. Not that you end up with a girl who says “of course I help you” and then sabotages you along the way.
Some women might like you as a friend, but they still don’t want you to succeed with women.
Maybe she is a frustrated single and doesn’t want other women to be happy. Maybe the thought of getting you laid violates against her moral standards. Who knows? It’s your job to find out.
But maybe there is another reason why she doesn’t want to be your matchmaker.
She Shouldn’t Be Secretly in Love With You
Just because you learn how to make female friends doesn’t mean that you suddenly unlearn how to seduce women. In case you are already advanced in the art of seduction you will display a lot of attractive qualities when you talk with women, without even consciously realizing it.
That’s absolutely great. You just have to remember that the behavior of a real seducer can ultimately motivate your good friend, who is supposed to be your matchmaker, to fall in love with you.
Make sure that she doesn’t have any romantic feelings for you.
Otherwise you don’t have to wonder why she is sabotaging you.
How to Make Female Friends: The Traditional Way
Now that you know why making female friends is so beneficial and what you have to consider when you are looking for suitable girls, it is time to go out and to meet a few potential matchmakers.
How do you do that?
Well, you can either choose the traditional path or the unconventional path.
Let’s first have a look at the traditional way of becoming friends with women, before I am going to share an unconventional way with you that got me awesome results and amazing female friends.
Go to the Right Places
Stop being a lazy bitch, turn off your computer and stop wasting all your time watching internet porn. It is time to meet some women who will provide you with more tits and asses that you can possibly kiss and slap. It is time to leave the comfort zone of your apartment and to explore new places. Places you have never been before and that are packed with female creatures who are ideal matchmakers.
Have you ever done yoga?
Today is the best day to try it out.
Have you ever visited an art gallery?
Do something for your creativity, your inspiration and for your sexual fulfillment and meet some women in the art gallery.
And here are a few more ideas by my colleague David:
Approaching women on the street with “excuse me, I know it sounds a little bit direct but I am looking for a friend” can actually work, especially when you say that you are new in town and know nobody.
However, meeting women in their natural biosphere is a lot easier when it comes to establishing friendships.
Make Use of Your Social Circle
It is impossible that there is not at least one woman in your social circle. Even if you have not one female friend you still might have a sister, a cousin or one of your friends has a brother who has a girlfriend.
Make use of your social circle, even if you have to dig a little bit deeper.
Increase the contact you have with the female members of your social circle and within a short period of time you will add new female members to your social circle.
The first woman who introduced me to some of her friends was a girl who I only got to know through one of my buddies.
Today she is my best female friend and I can’t even tell you how many times she helped me to get laid.
How to Make Female Friends: The Unconventional Way
Now that you know what you have to do if you want to follow the conventional path, it is time that you learn how to make female friends the unconventional way. It’s pretty easy.
All you have to do is to not go out with the intention to make friends.
Do what you would usually do when you go out with the intention to seduce a few sexy ladies. Approach the girls you are attracted to in a direct way, attract her the way you learned it and go for the number or the instant date.
What if she gives you her number and/or goes on an instant date with you? Congratulations, you successfully seduced her and if you don’t fuck it up you will end up having sex with her.
What if she tells you that she has a boyfriend or that she is not interested? Regard it as the perfect chance to make her your female friend.
Transform the Rejection into a Friend Request
Let’s say she told you that she doesn’t want to give you her number because she has a boyfriend. In this situation you can decide between the following answers:
“Okay, I understand that. It was nice to meet you anyway.”
If you react this way, you will never see her again and you won’t meet any of her hot friends. Alternatively you could say:
“I understand that you have a boyfriend and that you don’t want to cheat on him. However, I am new in town and I don’t really have much time to meet new people. It would be cool if we could stay in contact and hang out as friends.”
If you transform your rejection into a friend request whenever a woman rejects you, you not only completely lose your fear of rejection, but you also establish a social circle that is full of hot girls who have the potential to get you in contact with hundreds of hot and horny women.
Here’s how to attract & seduce them.
Summed Up Wisdom
Learning how to make female friends has so many benefits. You will learn a lot about women and sex, you might even end up in bed with her and she can help you to get laid. She will take you to the right places and with her on your side you will definitely leave the right impression that makes you irresistible for women. In addition to that, you can bang all her friends who she will introduce you to.
You can either learn how to make female friends by following the traditional way of using your social circle and meeting women at places they usually go to, or you can decide to follow the unconditional path. Go out with the intention to seduce women and in case one girl rejects you because she has a boyfriend, you simply transform the rejection into a friend request.
Sebastian Harris says
Fuck! So many missed opportunities… how can we be so stupid?! Thanks Seb, I’m reading a load of your blog posts since they’re full of info and your writing is fucking hilarious, I don’t know how you do it! (Yes, I got that from female mind control haha)
Sebastian Harris says
thanks a lot. Don’t believe the Hollywood cliche of the dumb blond bitch who loves to make fun of “the losers”. Most women absolutely LOVE when a stranger gives them a compliment. Even if you get rejected, you will see that they smile. From the thousands of approaches I made, I had maybe 10 girls who didn’t smile (their problem). I am really happy that you are on the right path!
Wow, another huge eye-opening revelation. I think it’s going to be FAR more difficult for me to make female friends instead of harem members. Maybe my problem isn’t with approaching women. I think it has more to do with the fact that I never thought women could actually be interested in worthwhile things. If your articles have achieved anything for me it’s changing my belief system about women. Never in my wildest dreams did I expect that women would like been called attractive by a stranger. Let alone telling them, without offence, that they have an amazing ass. I’m getting closer and closer to the cause of my problem here. I WILL find it and stamp it out! Thanks so much for this content bro.