How do you act around girls you like?
In order to answer this question, you first have to think about how not to behave with women. The things most men do and say when they are surrounded by a girl they are attracted to don’t make any sense.
You don’t want to be this kind of guy.
And you don’t have to because I’ll show you how to act around a girl you like WITHOUT embarrassing yourself and WITHOUT leaving with empty hands. No, your hands will be full. Your right hand embraces her perfectly shaped butt while your left hand caresses her back.
How does that sound?
If the answer is “good” you have to read this article till the end because you’re about to learn:
You don’t have to be the next Harrison Ford or Jake Gyllenhaal to get the girls you want. Nope, you don’t need an Academy Award. What you really need is to stop seeing the world in black and white and start seeing our colorful world.
How to Act Around Girls You Like in a Colorful World
The world is not black and white.
Okay, you can date black or white women, but that’s not what I mean. I’m not talking about race. I’m talking about your goals. The way you act around women depends on the situation and on your desired outcome.
The way you act depends on what you want to achieve.
That’s why I decided to give you different mindsets, different acts so to speak, that you can use in various situations. And no, I won’t waste your time with generic advice.
Click on a wikihow article if you want to fill your mind with shitty dating advice that even your grandmother believes. Not in my house. I provide you with mindsets that work AND that can be put in practice. Or how Jordan Peterson would say: “Get your ACT together!”
Let’s get your act together…
1. Act as If You Knew Her for Years
How long do you know her?
Maybe you just met her. Maybe she’s in your class or in your office for years. It doesn’t matter because no matter how long you know her, you act as if you knew her for years. Unfortunately, most guys do the opposite.
Okay, she is a stranger…but not in your mind. Remember that seduction success starts with the right mindset and calling her a stranger is the WRONG mindset. No, you want to give her and yourself the feeling that you know each other for years.
She’ll trust you more and she’ll feel more comfortable with you.
How do you do it?
Give her the feeling that you know each other for years and she’ll do things she wouldn’t do with strangers.
2. Act Like She’s Already Your Girlfriend
Do you want to have a smoking hot girlfriend?
Then you should read chapter 5 of my book Rise of the Phoenix (it’s all about getting and keeping a girlfriend). But you should also realize something: Acting as if she’s already your girlfriend is the best way to achieve this goal.
This is “fake it till you make it” in a whole new light.
Instead of faking it for yourself, you’re faking it for her. That’s incredibly powerful because the more you treat her like your girlfriend, the more she wants it to happen. She can’t get enough of your act. Eventually, she wants the real thing.
Maybe it’s a shitty example, but this popped into my mind:
When I was a child, I loved to play Need for Speed. In every game I played, I drove a black Chevrolet Corvette. After playing this game for way too many hours, I was obsessed with the idea of owning one. I still turn my head whenever I see one.
Simulate the boyfriend role and she’ll be obsessed with the idea of being your girlfriend.
But be careful:
You’re playing with fire.
Don’t act like this around girls you want to pump and dump. You don’t want to hook her on a drug she’ll never get.
3. Act Confident around a Girl You Like
“Don’t be so arrogant!”
Sorry, but I have to call bullshit. Do you want the truth? Whenever a girl tells you that you are too arrogant or too confident, it’s a test. It’s a freaking test!
Do you know what she wants to hear?
“I like myself. I am who I am.”
And do you know what most guys say?
“I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it. I’m not arrogant.”
That’s the moment you lost her. She wants a confident man. She want’s someone who believes in himself and who goes after what he wants. Believe me. Whenever a girl tells you that you are too arrogant, you should lean back and smile because you know how to act around girls.
It’s a compliment disguised as an insult.
Heck, according to science, you can even be confident AND moody at the same time. Or be like Hank Moody. That’s even better.
P.S. That doesn’t mean that Hank Moody wants you to be an arrogant asshole. Confidence and courageousness are enough.
4. Act Like a Compassionate Saint
You’re an angel.
Okay, you’re probably not. If you were an angel, you wouldn’t be reading an article from a guy who writes about seducing women all over the world. But just because you’re not an angel doesn’t mean that you can’t be compassionate.
This act is extremely efficient if…
Here’s what you do:
You talk about deep topics. I mean some really deep shit! Tell her about the relationship with your grandfather before he died. Tell her about your childhood. Share your fears and insecurities (more on that later).
Then let her do the same.
Reveal your compassionate side. Show that you understand her feelings, struggles, and her pain. Relate her stories and experiences to your own life. She’ll feel more connected with you than with anyone on earth.
5. Act Like a Dangerous Devil
What if you don’t want her to think of you as her boyfriend?
Maybe you don’t want a relationship. God, no! You want to have your freedom. The last thing you want is someone who tells you to sit down when you pee. You’re not looking for a girlfriend. You just want to have fun.
In this case, the compassionate saint act is a bad idea.
If it works, she wants to be your girlfriend. If it doesn’t work, she doesn’t want you at all. You lose no matter what you do. You lose because you don’t want her as your girlfriend.
But what if you don’t want her as your girlfriend?
Here’s how to act around a girl you like (but not as a girlfriend):
You are a man and she is a woman. Act accordingly. Let her feel that you want her. Your eyes, your touch and your smile communicate only one thing: “I want you!”
Be the dangerous devil.
6. Act Happy and Fulfilled With and Without Her
No, I don’t want you.
But I want you to be happy and fulfilled. Why do you think I spend several hours every day writing articles and recording podcasts for you? I want you to have a happy and fulfilled life with the girls of your naughty dreams.
Is that really all?
Well, no. I also want you to become so confident and so cool with yourself that you are fulfilled, no matter if you’re alone or surrounded by ten naked ladies. I want you to have the choice to do whatever you want and to feel good about yourself.
By the way: This is how to act around girls and get them!
Act happy and fulfilled when you’re with her and when she’s about to leave. Don’t start crying when she walks out the door. Give her the feeling that you’re okay, no matter where she is. This is the ultimate non-needy behavior.
Women chase fulfilled men because they want to have a piece of the happy cake.
7. Act Like Someone Who Cares
Do you care about her dreams, needs, and feelings?
I hope you do. If you don’t give a shit about anyone’s feelings, you might have an anti-social personality disorder (please don’t kill me). But hey, sometimes all you want is to get laid. That’s totally fine.
As long as you act like you care, you’ll be alight.
In fact, you’ll be more than just alright. Show her that you are one of the few men who care and she’ll take care of you in any imaginable way. Seriously, care and you will be taken care of. That’s how it’s written in…somewhere.
Here’s how you do it:
Admire her for what?
God, I have no idea. Maybe she wants to become a doctor and rescue the world. Admire her enthusiasm. Maybe she has the goal to become a singer. Admire her for following her passion. Care and you will be taken care of. Always remember that.
8. Act Emotionally Strong But Vulnerable
Nope, this is not a contradiction.
I know. It sounds like one. But have some patience. I’ll show you why being emotionally strong and vulnerable at the same time are a deadly combination. It’s so deadly that she might cry while getting wet
I guess you already know how to act emotionally strong. I don’t have to tell you to be tough, to be there for her when she’s down, and to be her rock. You’ve heard this before from the “man up” preachers.
What about the other side of the coin?
She doesn’t want to date a robot. Even though 95% of dating coaches would disagree with me on this, I say it anyway. Vulnerability is sexy. It’s so sexy that it can convince her to sleep with you within seconds.
Don’t believe me? Try this:
If you open up, she’ll open her legs.
9. Act Like a Free Hawk around a Girl You Like
A free hawk, not a free spirit…
Yep, there’s a different. A free spirit tells her stories about his swinger club friends (that can be a bit too much for some girls). A free hawk, on the other hand, is not impressed by her tests and attempts to civilize him.
A hawk is a man with a spirit. He is free because he chose to do what he wants to do and to think the thoughts he wants to think. And he’s not ashamed of sharing this freedom with a girl. Some girls embrace this freedom. Others don’t. That’s okay too.
Here’s what matters:
This is how to act around a girl you like because the right girl will admire and adore a hawk.
10. Act Fearless and Shameless
Let me share a quick story that shows why this mindset is so important:
I was at a party. Okay, it was more like a sausage fest. One of my friends celebrated his birthday. We were drinking, laughing, and enjoyed being inappropriate. A couple of hours later, a friend arrived with a female friend. The atmosphere shifted immediately. Suddenly, all the guys behaved like 12-year-old boys who want to please mommy.
I have news for you:
This is the reason why women lose interest in men.
Women don’t want men who act like confident hotshots when they are alone and like domesticated hamsters when they are with them. They want fearless men. And yes, they also want shameless men…at least to a certain extent.
Why is sexual confidence so important?
Let me explain…
11. Act with Intent around a Girl You Like
What do you want her to think of you?
Choose one of the following three options:
Let me guess:
You want her to think number three. You can already imagine what the mhhh stands for. The shocking truth is that men are good at making women think number one or two. Yep, it’s because they don’t know how to act around girls they like. But you do.
You are aware of the power of sexual confidence.
Act with intent and women will give you what you want.
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to act around a girl you like. Then stop being so damn polite and start being shameless and fearless. But don’t be an emotional robot. There’s a fine line between fearlessness and stupidity. And not showing your vulnerable side would be stupid.
Remember that getting a girlfriend is a different goal than getting laid. Act accordingly. You can either be a compassionate saint or a dangerous devil. One gets put in the boyfriend box. The other one makes it on the list of potential lovers.
Oh, before I forget it. It’s important to be fulfilled with and without her. Women want a man who has the choice to say “bye bye”. Act like she’s already your girlfriend or lover. She’ll want to turn the fantasy into reality with the man who knows how to act around girls.