Don’t you also want to know how to convince a girl to sleep with you?
Let me take you back to 2013 when I still had no clue how to achieve this goal. I was a college student and surrounded by beautiful women. Everywhere I went, I saw boobs, butts, and bright smiles.
But I only had eyes for one girl.
She wasn’t in my course, but she was in my mind 24/7. I promised her to not reveal her name, but I think it doesn’t hurt to tell you that she’s a beautiful half-English, half-Argentinian girl with a body to die for.
I tried everything to convince her to get in bed with me.
I never got her in my dorm room and I never slept with her. I failed. But this failure led me on a path that I continue to walk on today. Eventually, I found out what I did wrong. Heck, I did everything wrong.
Here’s what I should have done:
“Your stopwatch?” I hear you asking.
It will all make sense…
How I Convinced Many Girls to Sleep with Me
When I was young, I had no idea how to convince a woman to sleep with me.
Think about how I tried to make sweet love to my half-English, half-Argentinian beauty. I listed my positive qualities, I used logic, and I used the desperate “I can treat you better” attempt. To my surprise, none of it worked.
To be honest, it wasn’t surprising at all.
Here’s the truth:
You have to convince her on an emotional level.
This is your only chance to succeed. Read this sentence over and over again until you internalize it. Don’t get me wrong. It’s important to treat women with respect. And it’s definitely important for her…if she wants a boyfriend.
But for now, you want to sleep with her.
And her vagina does NOT care about male logic and reasoning. It’s all about emotions. It’s about doing the right things, sharing the right stories, and triggering the right emotions.
Let me show you how to do it…
1. Your First Eye Contact Must be Convincing
Let her know that you want her.
Now is always the best time. It starts from the moment you walk up to her. Heck, ignore what I just said. It starts way earlier. Your first eye contact is the perfect moment to start convincing her that you want to sleep with her.
Don’t be shy. This is a problem most of my coaching clients have (before I change their life). They approach women as if they want to make friends. They put themselves in the friend zone by acting like non-sexual creatures.
They smile like children, not like dangerous wolves.
Here’s what you should do instead:
The clock is ticking. Learning how to convince a girl to sleep with you is about seizing the moment. Every second counts.
2. Touch Her from the Beginning
Tick tock, tick tock…
Did you already touch her?
I hope you did because she doesn’t convince herself to sleep with you. In fact, she does. But that’s something I’ll share under point #5. For now, you have to do the dirty work. But hey, I bet you can’t wait to do THIS work…
In other words:
Touch her whenever you have the chance. If you want to learn how to convince a girl to sleep with you, you have to use the power of physical contact.
What if you don’t touch her?
Sorry, but she won’t drop her panties to the floor.
You might think that an innocent handshake doesn’t mean a lot. But it does. It’s the first step. A handshake can easily lead to another touch. And another touch can lead to her unzipping her jeans.
Don’t underestimate the power of a soft touch.
3. Convince Her that You’re a Good F@#k
Uhh...that sounds naughty.
It does. And that’s exactly how it should be. Unless you make her think naughty thoughts, she won’t sleep with you, no matter how much you try to convince her. It won’t happen. Women don’t spread their legs for men that don’t make their private parts tingle.
Here’s how to leave her dry:
99% of men do these things every single time because they are too afraid to speak their truth. They are afraid that being dangerous is offensive. Great job, feminism. Great job. Heck, they actually believe than manspreading is a serious issue.
No woman wants to sleep with a man who acts like a woman. She wants to have sex with a guy who stands confident, speaks his truth, and doesn’t give a flying fuck if what he says is politically correct or not.
Here’s your homework for today:
A confident and straightforward man is confident and straightforward in bed. That’s all she needs to know.
4. Give Her the Drama She Needs
Do you want to know how to convince a girl to sleep with you in a dramatic way?
It’s drama time!
I know what you’re thinking. You don’t want drama. And that’s okay. I don’t want drama either. I hate it. But women love it. According to this study published in the Journal of Psychological Science, women are attracted to men who feel uncertain about them.
Here’s what this means:
Show her that you want her, but don’t reveal how much.
What’s the best way to create this uncertainty?
Create the right kind of drama.
Yes, there’s a wrong kind of drama and a right kind of drama. Shouting, physical violence, and a broken heart is the result of the wrong kind of drama.
Here’s how to do it right (and get laid):
Women love this shit because it allows them to convince themselves to sleep with you…
5. Allow Her to Convince Herself to Sleep with You
Yep, women can convince themselves to sleep with a guy.
In fact, “can” is the wrong word. They do it every time. Somehow it’s funny. I call myself a seducer of women. But I’m not. All I do is to give women the chance to seduce themselves. I shoot the ball. She removes the goalkeeper.
The seduction doesn’t happen unless she wants it to happen.
Your job is to allow her to make it happen. And you fulfill this mission by being the opposite of the guys she usually hangs out with. Oh God, she has been on so many boring dates with creepy guys who bombarded her with texts and attention. They begged her to sleep with her.
You don’t beg. You convince her by…
You are the man she wants. She’ll convince herself to sleep with you.
6. Kiss Her on the First Date
“It’s never too late…”
It’s never too early but it can definitely be too late. You don’t convince a woman to sleep with you by being a good friend. I mean, you can be her friend. But I doubt that this is what you want. No, you want more. You want to be her lover.
That’s why you have to act like her lover.
You approached her for a reason. And she knows the reason. She’s not stupid. That’s why she dresses up for you. She wants to kiss you after the first date. You want to do the same.
Then why don’t you do it?
Here’s what she’ll think if you don’t kiss her:
Or wait. Maybe I should better say “here’s what she’ll think if you don’t ATTEMPT to kiss her”. That’s what she wants. She wants you to make a move. She might pull back to play hard to get. But she wants to feel your sexual energy.
7. Convince Her to Get Back to Your Place
It’s impossible to convince a girl to sleep with you without getting her back to your place.
Okay, it’s almost impossible. Maybe she has her own place. Heck, sometimes the hallway or the restroom is good enough. But not every girl is that kinky. Most women prefer privacy and the comfort of a real bed…at least the first time.
Recently, a friend told me about his amazing third date:
- 1His first date was in a café.
- 2His second date was in the same café.
- 3His third date was in…you know the answer.
“Why didn’t you ask her to come over?” I screamed at him.
“That’s too soon.” He answered.
Oh man. I feel sorry for this poor girl. She’s waiting, and waiting, and waiting. Well, I guess she already put him in the friend zone and banged another guy between the second and third date.
Damn, now I feel also sorry for my friend.
8. Use a Stopwatch to Convince Her to Sleep with You
I hope you learned your lesson.
Take her back to your place or go back to square one. Yep, life is hard. Suck it up and move on…but not without your stopwatch. I know. You’re here because you want to learn how to convince a girl to sleep with you.
“What the fuck does that have to do with a stopwatch?” I hear you asking.
She wants to sleep with you. But she doesn’t want you to think she’s easy. You have to give her the feeling that nothing naughty, kinky, and steamy can happen at your apartment. She knows that it will happen…but she wants you to take responsibility for it.
Here’s what you do:
Tell her that she can only stay five minutes. She’ll smile and follow you…knowing too well that she’ll stay the whole night.
9. Make Her Feel Safe on the Way
You can’t convince a girl to sleep with you unless you make her feel safe.
There’s no way around it. Unless she’s reckless, drunk, or otherwise intoxicated, she won’t sleep with a guy she doesn’t trust and feel safe with. And believe me, you don’t want these girls.
You want a girl with a healthy internal alarm bell.
This bell rings whenever she feels not safe and not protected. Imagine you walk up to a girl with a creepy smile and a box of chocolate. Then you ask her to follow you. Ring, ring…the alarm bell goes off.
Here are some tips on putting her alarm bell on silent mode:
Now that she feels safe, it’s time to open the door with a bang…
10. Open the Door with a Bang
You already kissed her, right?
I hope you did because otherwise this move won’t work. Okay, it might work anyway. But a kiss at the end of the date is the best indicator for success. You can’t open the door with a bang unless you gave her a foretaste.
But what does it mean to open the door with a bang?
You do all these things and you do them right after the door handle made “clack”. In other words, you release the tension and fulfill her fantasy. Women fantasize about men who take them. Every erotic Hollywood movie contains a scene like that.
Don’t tell me that this only happens in movies. I experienced it often enough. Once she broke the door handle. But that’s another story.
11. Convince her with the Feel It Move
Most men who want to know how to convince a woman to sleep with them make one crucial mistake.
What do you do?
You pull back because you don’t want to rush things. Don’t laugh. You wouldn’t be the first guy who makes this mistake. Yes, she’s making out with you like a starving cat…but what about the next step? Will she do it? Will it happen?
You panic. You become your worst enemy.
Here’s what you need to do:
Show her that you can’t wait to sleep with her. Take her hand and place it on the growing tree in your pants. No, that’s not rude or inappropriate. That’s exactly what she wants. She can’t wait to sleep with you.
Don’t let her wait any longer.
She wants you to use these seduction techniques to get her naked.
Summed Up Wisdom
It’s possible to learn how to convince a girl to sleep with you. But it’s only possible if you stop hiding your intent. God gave you your eyes for a reason. Okay, he gave them to you to not run into a hole in the ground. But I’m sure he also had your chance to get laid in mind.
Unfortunately, eye contact and touching is not enough. You have to convince the girls you’re dating that you are a man who’s good in bed. And yes, you can do that without taking your pants off. But in the end it comes down to allowing her to convince herself.
If you lead her and allow her to come back to your place WITHOUT feeling bad or guilty about it, you’ve already won. And if you open the door with a bang and make her feel it, she won’t be able to resist you.
Sebastian Harris says
I’m glad I could convince you to get back into the game!
good article, Sebastian. i really like your articles/website. i use to comment on these articles a while back, but then i just stopped trying to pick up girls all together, so i stopped commenting. i’m back now! i don’t have trouble talking to girls– i just don’t get very far with them—so it usually doesn’t reach the point in which i get physical with the girl.
i got a girl on tinder who i’ve been talking to practically all day and i got a feeling she’s gonna give me her number and we’re gonna meet up. wish me luck. 🙂