Dating doesn’t have to be complicated.
In the same way as I believe that simplicity and a minimalistic lifestyle lead to a more fulfilled life, I believe that a few simple rules for dating can have a bigger impact on your life than any complicated pseudo-scientific theories.
Studying female psychology and analyzing every single behavioral pattern of the women you interact with is one way to master the art of seduction, but it is not the only one.
Today we are going to focus on the simple things that can make all the difference.
In the following lines I want to share a few simple behavioral rules with you that have the power to change your dating life forever. You can either continue to search for a non-existent complex equation that will finally solve all your problems that you have with the ladies, or you can integrate the following behaviors into your life.
We are now going to have a look at the 10 things you should do if you want to become successful with women without melting your brain.
Let’s keep it simple. Let’s get laid.
1. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Authentic
There is one thing that nearly every woman is tired of and this thing is called “the liar”.
The liar is a man, respectively a boy who wants to be a man, who tries to manipulate girls, who tries to impress them with made-up stories and who tries to lie his way into their panties.
The average woman has been on way too many dates with this guy. She has dressed up way too many times for a man who doesn’t deserve her shining beauty. The last thing she wants is to get approached by another guy who is so unauthentic that it is impossible for her to trust and respect him.
What she dreams of is a guy who is authentic. She wants a guy who shows how strong he is, without hiding the fact that he has his vulnerable side. She craves for a guy who is man enough to show the world who he really is, without hiding the things that all the others hide from her.
She wants to get to know your authentic self and not a perfect mask that you put on until it crumbles.
She wants you.
Discover, awaken and reveal your authentic self and give her the man that she craves for.
As soon as you do this, you attract amazing women who want to be seduced by an authentic man and you sift out all the sick girls who want to be deluded.
As a result the relationship with your future girlfriend will be better than all your past relationships during which you wore your mask.
2. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Honest
Isn’t honesty the same as authenticity?
Authenticity is the way you behave, but honesty is the way you express yourself with words.
You can be authentic in the way that you don’t hide your insecurities, but that doesn’t mean that you tell the truth. An authentic man who doesn’t hide anything is not automatically an honest man who doesn’t lie.
The really successful seducers are the ones who have understood the interaction between authenticity and honesty.
You only need one of them to become good, but you need both of them to become great.
Behave the way you truly want to behave and the women will be drawn towards you.
Say the things that you truly want to say and the women who are already drawn towards you want to stay with you.
3. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Confident
Women are attracted to confident men who go for what they want and who don’t care what other people think of them.
If you are a self-confident man you will attract women into your life.
There is no way around that.
Of course you need this skill to approach women, you need it to seduce then and you need it to get them from the café straight into your bed, but confidence guarantees you long-term seduction success, because it enables you to take action in the first place. It is the match that you need to enlighten your flame. If you don’t have it, your flame will burn out as soon as the first girl rejects you.
Now you might ask yourself the following two questions:
How do I become confident?
How long does it take to become confident?
Here are my answers:
Read this article if you want to know how to become confident.
It won’t happen overnight, even though some scammy marketers try to convince you from the opposite. In the end it doesn’t really matter if it takes you two weeks or two months. Once you wake up next to a naked woman who is so beautiful that you have tears in your eyes, you know that it was worth it.
4. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Funny
Almost every dating survey says that women prefer a man who has a good sense of humor. Every woman wants to have a good time with the guy she is with. If you have the ability to make her laugh you have a big advantage over the guys who are not able to lift the corners of their mouth without breaking their jaw.
Even though women prefer a guy with humor over a guy who is dead serious, they don’t want to date a guy who believes that the only way to get her in bed is to entertain her around the clock.
There is a fine line between being funny and acting like a dancing monkey.
Spinning a girl around and trying hard to make her laugh during the first interaction is an essential part of many pick-up videos on YouTube, but just because it is on YouTube doesn’t mean that it is a good idea to do that.
While you interpret the laughing and giggling in those videos as an obvious sign of attraction, she just asks herself why the hell this weirdo came up to her. She might remember this experience as a funny one, but she won’t remember him as an interesting and attractive guy.
What if you are not funny?
In case you are convinced that you are not a very funny guy, you shouldn’t force it.
Before you jump through hoops you should rather stay authentic. Maybe mysterious suits you better than funny.
However, I honestly believe that every human being has the inherent potential to be funny. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have the ability to laugh.
Connect with your inner child and you will see the positive impact that this can have on your dating life.
5. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Exciting
Let’s face it. Most people are boring as fuck.
I have met quite a few girls who seemed like exciting and adventurous girls, until I went on the first date with them. You wouldn’t believe how many beautiful women spend all their leisure time watching TV and sharing uninspired selfies on Instagram.
In the same way as there are millions of beautiful women who are so boring that you wouldn’t survive a ten day relationship with them without jumping out of the window, there are millions of men who don’t do shit in their lives.
In case you waste your life in front of the television and you still ask yourself why you can’t get the women you truly want, you are too naïve to deserve sex.
Do you really think an adventurous girl who is game for anything fantasizes about meeting the couch potato of her dreams and spending the rest of her short life staring at pictures in a screen?
Stop dreaming and wake up to the fact that exciting and interesting women want to date exciting and interesting men.
If you want a girl who loves to travel and you haven’t even left the tiny village you were born in, you can’t expect to attract the girl you want.
If you want a girl who is adventurous and you have never stepped out of your comfort zone, you can’t expect to attract the girl you want.
Become an exciting man and you will magically attract exciting girls.
6. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Present
We live in a world that bombards us with advertising, tweets, videos, audios, messages and a bunch of other crap that nobody needs.
It can be quite difficult to ignore the flood of unnecessary bullshit that hits you every single day and to focus on the here and now. Nevertheless, the here and now is the only time in which you can seduce a woman.
Only the awareness and the ability to focus on the present moment will allow you to become a successful seducer (and to find my amazing articles in the bunch of crappy blog posts that are published every day).
I know that there is a lot going on in your life. I know that you have millions of thoughts while you are on a date with a beautiful woman and that none of those thoughts have anything to do with her. If your next date lasts for about two hours your brain has to wrestle with approximately 6000 thoughts in this time.
Unfortunately, a date that has the potential to end with passionate sex is not the right place to think about the bills you have to pay, the important exam you have to pass next week and the birthday of your grandmother.
Good seducers are able to control a few of those thoughts and to focus on fractions of the present.
Truly great seducers don’t try to control them.
They let go and they allow their thoughts to wander in the back of their mind without giving them any attention. This allows you to immerse in the present moment.
Once you are able to fully experience the present moment, you will suddenly pick up all the signs and hints from women that you ignored before.
7. Simple Rule of Dating: Be Sexual
Why do you go on dates?
Come on, be honest. We both know that you don’t want to date a girl because you hope that she will introduce you to her two horses Flipper and Skipper.
The truth is that you want to end up in bed with her. You are not interested in a pen friendship and you are also not interested in wasting hours and hours without ever tasting both of her delicious lips.
You are a human being and every human being is a sexual being.
Men love sex and women love it even more. You have a penis and the next girl you are going to approach (hopefully) has a vagina.
The only biological reason why you should go on a date with her is to connect with her, to bang her and to make as many children as your balls can produce.
We are biologically programmed to reproduce with attractive members of the opposite sex. The reason why your heart starts to race when you see a beautiful girl has nothing to do with her pleasant personality, but with the fact that you want to be inside her.
That’s totally normal and if you want to become a successful seducer you have to accept the fact that you and the women you are with are sexual beings. In fact, you not only have to accept it, you have to embrace it.
Because women love men who are sexually confident!
The worst thing that you can do is to hide your sexuality.
Show her that you are a man who is willing and able to satisfy her in the bedroom.
Only then will she see you as her lover and not as her friend.
8. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Prepared
Always remember that there is nothing that can’t happen.
She might want to come to your place or she might want you to come to her place. She might want to have sex with you on the first date or she might want to have sex with you on the third date. She might have a condom or she might tell you she takes the pill. She might be sane enough to remember that she took it or she might be too horny to remember that she didn’t took it.
Besides basic dating preparation, such as a shower, a good perfume and a nice shirt, advanced preparation is necessary to win the dating game and to not end up in a situation that you don’t want to be in.
There are a few things that you should be prepared for.
You should be prepared to have sex at any place and any time. Always carry a few condoms with you. Always!
You should make sure that the logistics are in your favor. If you take her to a café that is 30 kilometers away from your apartment you are an idiot.
You should make sure that your apartment doesn’t look like a crack house. If she is a hot girl her room probably looks like a war zone, but if your room looks the same, she won’t sleep with you. Welcome to female logic.
9. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Willing to Fail
With the previous 8 rules I gave you everything you need to succeed and now I am going to tell you that you should be ready to fail.
I am such a good friend.
And as the good friend that I am I want to share some wisdom with you that will not only make your life easier, but also increase your success with the ladies.
You can’t win unless you are willing to fail!
You will have to overcome a lot of obstacles on your journey towards becoming a Global Seducer, but every mistake you make and every situation that you interpret as a failure brings you one step closer to success.
As soon as you accept that there is a chance that you fail a few times along the way, you break away from unrealistic expectations and self-imposed pressure. This allows you to walk on the path of success without getting a brain tumor.
In fact, there are only two ways to fail:
- Not trying
- Giving up
10. Simple Rule for Dating: Be Persistent
Persistence is the key ability for success in every aspect of your life.
You need persistence if you want to build a business and you also need it if you want to build a meaningful relationship with a woman who doesn’t have you on her radar yet.
No matter if this is the first article that you read on my site or if you have read over 100 of my articles…
Keep on going!
No matter if you approached one woman or if you have already approached 100 women…
Keep on going!
Sometimes a date won’t go as expected, sometimes you find out that she is not the right person for you and sometimes you even find out that she is not really a girl (be careful when you are in Thailand).
Don’t quit when this happens.
Be persistent. Keep approaching, seducing and read my book not once but twice.
Success will come…
Summed Up Wisdom
Be willing to fail!
Be a Global Seducer!
Sebastian Harris says
thank you so much for your feedback and for sharing your experience!
good article. makes a lot of since–especially the rules about being exciting, funny and sexual. a few girls i met in the past, i think hiding my sexuality hurt my chances with them. it was our first time meeting, and i’m not too experienced with dating, so i wasn’t sure how forward i should be. i didn’t initiate any physical contact with them, and they all stopped communicating with me after our first date. now i don’t know for sure that’s the reason why they stopped talking to me, but its a good possibility. thanks for the article
The key to be funny is to understand that communication isn’t just about sharing informations on the real world, it’s also about creating new realities and escaping from rationnality and predictiblity.
Why is it important ? Again the explanation is in evolutionary psychology (at least that’s what i think).
By being funny, you display immagination, inteligence and a positive mindset (which implies emotional stability and good genes).
” We are biologically programmed to reproduce with attractive members of the opposite sex. The reason why your heart starts to race when you see a beautiful girl has nothing to do with her pleasant personality, but with the fact that you want to be inside her.” i agree with the end, but her personnality is an important factor to have the desire to fuck her. Femal energy isn’t only created by the look, it’s also how she communicate with you, see th world and deal with life.
” Show her that you are a man who is willing and able to satisfy her in the bedroom. ” easy to say