How to Seduce Women: Guide for Beginners

So…you want to know how to seduce women.

Let me start this article with some personal questions:

Nope, this isn’t a crazy Stasi interview. I’m German, but not THAT German. I just want to know how experienced you are because of one simple reason: Most guys who are looking for advice on how to seduce women are beginners. And that’s okay.

Are you a greenhorn?

Then this is the perfect step-by-step guide for you. Oh, by greenhorn I mean everyone who has approached less than 20 women, collected less than 10 phone numbers and has slept with less than 3 girls. If that’s you, listen up. I’m about to reveal everything.

What if you are not a bloody beginner?

You’ll still learn a shit ton today because…

Let’s seduce some beautiful ladies…

How to Seduce Women as a Beginner 

When I started out I was clueless.

Seriously, I had no idea what to do. That’s why I sought the help of mentors. Eventually, I took a bootcamp with Sasha Daygame and it completely changed my life. Yeah, I know. That sounds like a freaking cliché but it’s the truth.

A one-on-one coaching with me might help you.

But maybe you can do it without. I don’t know. All I know is that you need to start somewhere. The biggest mistake most guys make is that they don’t do anything. Don’t get me wrong. I appreciate that you read my articles and listen to my daily podcast.

But you have to go out and take action.

Are you ready to do that?

Then promise yourself to become the man women want…

1. Understand What Women Really Want

What do women really want?

Okay, besides ice cream, cocktails, and chick flicks. Women love sugar and shitty movies. But they also like men…real men. They don’t want to waste their time with boys and no, I’m not talking about your age or your looks.

I have a baby face but the character of a man.

Heck, I understand why Fifty Shades of Grey has become such a huge success. I mean, think about it. This has become the bestselling book of all time in the day and age of social justice insanity and hashtag paranoia.

Women want to date real men.

Unfortunately, this species is already extinct. That’s why the run in the cinema to watch terrible actors and a terrible script. They need input for their nightly masturbation sessions. What they really want is a man who gets it.

Be the dominant man she wants to submit to.

2. Boost Your Confidence to Seduce Women

Do you have the confidence to seduce women?

You need it. You need it every step along the way. Imagine you approach a girl. You can only do that if you have the confidence to walk up to her. Now think about the number close. You need the confidence to ask her for her number.

Now think about the first sex.

If you are too insecure to escalate, you won’t seduce her. It’s that simple. That’s why I want you to work on your confidence BEFORE you go out, get overwhelmed, and quit. Start with baby steps and work your way up.

Do one thing that scares you every day.

That’s how you boost your confidence to a level that will eventually allow you to seduce women.

3. Find Out Where it’s Easy to Seduce YOUR Girls  

You’re here because you want to seduce women.

Other guys want that too. They have the same goal. They want to attract and sleep with stunning girls. And they fail miserable. They fail because they approach any random girl and hope for the best. Then they pray to the Game Gods.

That’s stupid and ineffective.

Unfortunately, countless pickup artists, dating coaches, and YouTubers advertise this insanity. Yes, finding women who want to be seduced by you is a numbers game…but only to a certain extent. You can manipulate the numbers in your favor.

Here’s the secret:

Find out where you have the most success.

From this point on it’s just about rinse and repeat. Approach a few girls and find out where you have the most success. I’m an introvert and I have the most success in libraries and book stores. For you it might be bars and clubs. I can’t tell you. Test it.

Seducing women can be so easy. You just need to find the girls who are already attracted to you.

4. Be Sexual instead of Nice

Here’s how NOT to seduce girls:

Women are attracted to sexual men. They can see, feel, and smell if you are confident in your sexuality. Sorry, but if you walk around with hanging shoulders and the typical “Angela Merkel” look on your face, she won’t feel anything besides pity.

You have to show that you can be sexual.

The first handshake is a good start. Do you hold eye contact while you shake her hand? Oh, and think about your posture. How do you look at her when you give her a compliment? A sexually confident man checks her out and smiles.

Be sexual because most men aren’t.

5. Choose Personal Openers Over Pickup Lines  

Let’s talk about pickup lines for a second.

As a fresh seducer, you’re like the Fresh Prince of Bel Air (I loved this how and yes, I’m that old). You get thrown in a new situation and you’re tempted to talk bullshit. Everyone and their grandmother tells you to use scripted pickup lines.

God, that’s so boring. Please don’t torture her with those pickup lines, especially the cheesy ones. No woman wants to hear that she’s Subway because she gave you a footlong. She wants to hear why YOU are attracted to her.

Real seducers give personal compliments.

Look at her and give her a compliment that describes her and her personality.

6. Seduce Women with Emotions instead of Logic  

Logic doesn’t work.

I hate to say it, but it’s true. Don’t be the next guy who tries to win a woman’s heart (and pussy) with logic. It’s a one-way street and once you’re in, there’s no way out. You can’t convince a girl with logic to be attracted to you.

Only emotions have this power.

Connection and trust are two important pillars of every seduction bridge. You have to connect with her emotionally. And you have to share stories, opinions, and experiences that make her trust you. As long as she doesn’t trust you, she won’t sleep with you.

That’s why you have to…

Keep the logic for the conversations with your best buddy.

7. Trade Questions for Statements  

I let you decide what is better:

God, I hope you didn’t choose option one or two. Unfortunately, most guys choose option two. The first option is needy as hell. Don’t ever use the word “please” and “phone number” in the same sentence.

It’s the ultimate sign of desperation.

“What’s bad about the second option?” I hear you asking. 

Of course, you should ask her personal questions to get to know her. But whenever it’s time to close the deal, questions are weak. Men don’t move to the next step with questions. They climb the ladder to her panties with statements.

Statements are stronger than questions and hot girls want strong men.  

8. Be Her Leader and Not Her Follower  

Seducers don’t follow women. Period.

Yeah, I know. Writing the word “period” at the end of a sentence is shitty style. But I have to emphasize it because so many guys fall into this trap. They meet a girl and boom, they do everything for her. They do it because hey, it’s free sex.

They follow her without even realizing the issue.

Women enjoy men who follow them. They really do. Little Laura loves to have a guy who does everything for her. But guess what? This guy doesn’t get near her vagina. She has another guy for that and she meets him every night.

This guy is a leader and…

Be a leader. Never be a follower.

9. Seduce Her with the Right Environment

Let’s talk about your bedroom…

You want to know how to seduce girls. Then why on earth does your bedroom smell like three dead chickens and a rotten salmon? It’s easy to seduce women in the right environment. And you can create this environment.

Women want to be seduced at a place that…

That’s why it’s important to choose the right dating venue. Don’t take her to the dirty and smelly bar at the street corner. It doesn’t matter if the drinks are cheap. Take her to the place that makes her feel good.

Good feelings lead to good sex.

Listen to Jordan Peterson: Clean your goddamn room.

10. Touch Her Before You Seducer Her  

How to seduce a girl

Women want to sleep with men in clean beds.

That’s why you should clean your room. But there’s one piece of advice Jordan Peterson didn’t give you. But don’t worry. I’ll torture you with it instead. So…I hope you’re ready for the ultimate trick to seduce even the most beautiful woman.

Touch her!

I know. It’s not the fancy technique you expected. But it works. And that’s all that counts. You have to touch her and you have to do it step by step. It starts with the handshake, continues with a soft touch on her arm, and ends with the good old undressing game.

Hint: It’s never too early to touch a woman.

But it can be too late, especially when you consider the first kiss the first touch.

11. Take Her Hand and Lead Her

Where should you take her?

Straight to your (hopefully) clean apartment. Once you are there, you take her hand and lead her to the couch. I mean, you asked me how to seduce women. That’s how you do it. You take her to your place to close the deal.

“But what if she doesn’t want that?” I hear you asking.

Think about it. If a woman likes you, she wants to go home with you. The only problem is that so many guys make it so difficult for girls to say “yes”. They force these poor sex-starved ladies to say “no”. That’s not nice.

Here’s what most guys do:

Don’t ask her, don’t beg her, and don’t say “you don’t have to if you don’t want” while she’s making up her mind. Just take her hand and say “come on, let’s go to my place.” If you follow this simple rule, women will go home with you…and sleep with you.

Take the initiative and she’ll take you in her mouth…sorry, that was vulgar.

12. Escalate like a Global Seducer

She’s at your place.

What do you do now?

Running around like a chicken after an adrenaline injection is an option. But you want to know how to seduce women. That’s why you need another plan and the plan is called comfort. You have to make her feel comfortable.

Now she’s comfortable. It’s time for the second ingredient. And this ingredient is called sexual escalation. All the touching, hugging, and kissing are a part of it. But you need to do more. Yep, you guessed it. You have to lead her….again.

Lead her to the bedroom, undress her, and lay her down on your fresh and clean bedsheets.

And read my book after two rounds of wet and sweaty fun.

Summed Up Wisdom 

Do you want to know how to seduce women? Then you have to understand what women really want. And no, they don’t want an obedient nice guy. They want a sexually confident man who isn’t afraid to open his mouth. Yes, I said “confident”.

That’s why you have to work on your confidence. Take baby steps. That’s okay. Just start somewhere. And once you’re ready, you can go out and approach girls. But don’t torture them with cheesy pickup lines. Make the opener all about the girl you approach. She’s an individual.

And she wants a man who leads her. It’s your job to lead her on the first date and to your apartment. However, logic won’t get her there. You have to connect with her on an emotional level. And don’t forget to touch her. Now she’s ready for the final step.